Someone put a SAD emoji on this reply which is 100% correct. (Not the SAD emoji, that's silly)
Why did the OP not get a message from his bank EVERY time a withdrawal is made, as I do. And one every morning at 8am to say what my balances are. Or even simply log on to his bank each day to see whether or not, wife or anyone else, has been tapping into his retirement fund.
Maybe she wants you kicked out! If my partner did anything like that, she knows she would be out on her a*se, house in her name or not. Or maybe I would be the one to 4...off and leave her with a house AND NO INCOME for her son's and grandson's school, or anything to eat.