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Because the millions of locals aren't newsworthy?...............https://www.pacificprime.co.th/blog/state-of-mental-health-in-thailand/

Manufacturers know full well how addictive sugar and salt is, so they put as much as they can get away with without the food tasting cloying or too salty. People get addicted and then it's hard for them to stay away from the sugar. Sugars in the body need to be burned before stored body fat can be burned. That's why the keto works so well, at least as far as losing weight fast is. It's not a healthy diet long term as some think it is. Here, it's the extreme amount of rice they eat, along with the slowing down of metabolism as they age, the less work they do on the farm, the more sugar laden drinks they consume, along with the snacks. Kids here are given snacks like they are meals. The same happens in the US, where obesity has exploded this last century. here it will continue to rise, as it has been, and Thailand will be closing the gap on western countries where obesity and overweight people abound. I have to tell my ex wife and her family to stop giving my daughter so much crap, because she doesn't get but a smidgen here, and they know nothing of nutrition. Snacks are to appease the children if they complain about what you feed them, and it becomes a habit they win at. Parents give in too much. People can have a propensity to be overweight by genetics, but it's environment in those homes that ruins their chances of being a lean adult. They eat what their parents who are fat give them, setting them up for a lifetime of bad choices in food. My parents parents were from Poland and Ireland, and my parents cooked that food, which is rather heavy on calories. But we also ate healthy lean food. My dad gained weight over the years but mom didn't, preferring fish over meat a lot of the time. I started weight training at 17, just as I was starting to gain fat. Then studying nutrition along with the weights taught me what to eat, and I stayed very lean for the next 45 years, until I moved here and didn't have a gym handy until recently. Eating more rice here hasn't helped, so I've had to cut down to stay lean. I know many that I've met in gyms that are lean who have fat parents. Just takes will power and a desire to sty lean. Diet is most of what you look like. I can turn to a keto (kinda) diet and get ripped in a matter of weeks because I keep my body fat manageable. I love pasta, potatoes, rice, sweet potatoes and bread but don't eat too much because the waist starts to thicken. Salads help to fill you up so you eat less starches for dinner.

When a woman feels loved, she will do whatever she can to make her man happy. If she's not a person who was fatter earlier in life, and only gained recently, she does not like how she is so that's when that positive feedback will work. Women know their bodies, as well as men, but they usually think they aren't as good as they really are. Many men think they are better than they actually are. Negative never works, and can make matters a whole lot worse.

He's actually right about positive feedback. You tell a woman she's beautiful, looks great, sexy etc, and she'll do her best to stay that way. You tell her she's getting fat and she'll hate your words, never forget them, withdraw from you and maybe self sabotage herself by eating more.

What do women deserve?

How you live your life, putting in diet, exercise, amount of time in the sun, and stress can mean a lot more than genetics. I've seen many women and men who grew up looking a little like their parents, but in much better shape at the age I saw their parents at earlier.

Take a look at this also.............https://www.calculator.net/bmi-calculator.html?cage=30&csex=f&cheightfeet=5&cheightinch=10&cpound=160&cheightmeter=154&ckg=39&printit=0&ctype=metric&x=Calculate

No need to have a go. You aren't in the gym business, training and working out, like I was from age 17 to now, so you don't understand what chubby means.

Again you must not understand what BMI means. A woman can be fat, meaning carrying more fat than she needs to, at 40 kilos, and lean at 60. Everything factors in like I noted. Some like bony girls with teenager bodies, meaning young teens. I prefer a woman having a woman's shape. 125-135 lbs isn't near chubby, unless they are under 5'. 5'1" and 85 lbs is teenage girl size, and small boobs. This is but one height-weight scale. There are many, with of course body fat percentage being important also...........https://www.rush.edu/how-much-should-i-weigh

All in the eyes of the beholder. Weight isn't the only factor, as has been noted. Height, weight, body fat percentage, boob size, more muscle, all factor in. Of course the face matters, but to each their own. Some like a white skinned Thai with a tiny, almost teenage structure. Some like a tall, full figured woman. Some like a big butt, others an athletic shape. None of this matters except to the one that look at her and is attracted, both to what she looks (looked) like, and to how she treated him over the years. There is no perfection. I see a lot of women on TV here that all look much the same, on the Gossip channel. Same goes for the men. All skinny, haven't worked out a day in their lives, short black hair and mostly white. But they're superstars because clueless, mostly teenage girls have put them on a pedestal. Happens worldwide, and is why so many that are untalented become rich. The Kardashians come to mind in the US. Hero worship makes people undeserving millionaires, and they care nothing to little about their fans. I have been with women from 4'11' and 90 lbs (40kg), to 5'9" and 155lbs(70kg), and they all looked good. I prefer 5'5" and around 125-135 lbs (56-61kg), but again, the woman's heart and how she treats me is more important. Of course attraction comes first, as that's not a choice, and then you go from there. A woman that's 5'5" and 40 kilos is skinny, and might be anorexic and unhealthy, but some like tiny girls .My gf now is 5'6" and 62 kilos and she's still the same in my eyes, because of the way she's treated me these 3+ years. When I met hr she was 53 kilos, and slimmer, but not a problem for me, as she knows herself and says her clothes are a little tight now, so she knows what to do.

Surely happens both ways, as a woman without a good male role model in her life, the best being her father, loses her respect for what a man is and does what a lot of her friends do, and uses them for money, takes what she can get from them because that's all she's learned how to do, and usually ends up alone, or with a man she's taken for granted, doesn't respect what he does for her because her father didn't respect her mother, or her father was totally absent and she doesn't know what to expect from a man. A woman can't use a man for sex, so she does what she can do. Look at him as an ATM that is an endless supply of cash, and love doesn't enter her mind because she's never known what love means.

Exactly. When a man isn't taught, by actions and or words from his father, the main male role model in his life, what a woman means, and her worth, he goes by what he sees his friends and a lot of the world doing with women, meaning victimization. When he grows up seeing them get along, fighting fair, no abuse and or neglect, he thinks this is the way she should be treated, and will follow this in his behavior as an adult. Anyone who disagrees is one of those that have seen violence towards his mother growing up, and thinks this is how I should act. Actually posting such negativity towards women is despicable, and shows narcissism in it's worse way. And they laugh about it, not understanding or caring how bad they look to all decent men.

He's actually right as far as human trafficking is concerned. Thailand is a huge hub for it, and sadly, a lot of officials are involved because it's big money. Many girls that are prostitutes are forced into it by traffickers. Bangkok is a big hub for trafficking and has been for decades. many girls are from Myanmar , Laos and Cambodia. From 2018, meaning more now....................https://theexodusroad.com/human-trafficking-in-thailand/

Will she leave you when you get fatter?

Hauptmannuk hit it on the nose to my thinking. Many women stay slim hoping to find a man, then go back to their normal eating ways after he's hooked. It isn't intentional and could be depression. Many people either eat a lot or eat very little if they have depression. People who would just divorce a woman they're supposed to love in sickness and health, till death aren't looking at that woman as their wife but as a sex object and or cook, basically a live in slave. Many men think they look great when in actuality they're fat or out of shape. Women usually have a harder look at their own bodies, thinking they are fat when they're just fine. Asking yourself if you wife is still getting the attention she needs from you is the first thing. Not to say this is in fact the reason she doesn't eat with you and eats more fattening food now, but it's always a possibility. If you're still loving her the way you did at the start, then I would think underlying issues like depression or worries over something. talking about it in a non judgemental way, asking her how she feels about her weight gain and telling her she's still beautiful can go a long way. I'm sure if she was lean for a long time and is now heavier it's really bothering her, but eating is a way of coping that always backfires. Try doing something healthy together, such as daily evening walks. Sharing , meaning real communication, lets her open up and know she's being heard and not judged. Anyone can lose and gain weight. It happens easier as you age, and no one's immune unless you starve yourself. Eating is fun, although eating junk isn't good long term. My own girlfriend gained a few kilos and she talks to me abut everything so that's one of the topics. My clothes are too tight. All I suggest, as she knows I know diet and exercise, is maybe cutting back on the rice, and explained why, meaning sugars burn first in the body before stored body fat. I always tell her she still looks great to me, so leave it in her hands. They know their bodies. Many people don't know about dieting healthy, and if you look at what stores sell, they're pushing sugar like cocaine, knowing people get addicted and buy more. It's a life change always eating healthy, or at least an occasional splurge when you get to your best weight. Asking her how she's feeling is the best start.

The rest of the gang pointed out it's best not to just kill any snake you see, as they eat rats and mice, vermin which are dangerous to have around. I live in the country, and see snakes about once every two weeks, and a lot of them aren't venomous, but since I know American snakes better as far as identification, I leave them alone and hope they go away. The two dogs that consider my house their own help to keep them away. I mostly worry about my daughter in the yard but educate her about how to walk and what to do if she sees a snake. Some snakebites require immediate attention for treatment. Up to 2500 die a year here from snakebite so it's not to be taken casually. Another reason I want to move. I lived in Texas 32 years and only saw a few rattlesnakes in the wild, and they aren't near as dangerous as many here. As far as the geckos, they are really beneficial to have around...............Together with the smaller house lizards, mosquitoes are favorite meals of the geckos. They just extend their tongue quickly and retract the mosquitoes stuck on it. Lay that spray pesticide aside and enjoy the benefits of geckos—a natural pest exterminator.

A lot of it is attitude from the Buddhist culture................Buddhism is not Thailand's official religion, but 93% of the Thai population is Buddhist. Thailand's 2017 constitution mandates that the Thai government assists the Theravada school of Buddhism and guards Buddhism against all forms of desecration.[6] Within Thai Buddhism, women are inherently inferior to men. Women's major role in Thai Buddhism is to provide support for monks (who are always men) and temple activities—this, along with providing offering, is one of the only ways for a woman to earn religious merit. Women's "lower karma" subjects them to a life of suffering from which they should endure with bravery so that they can eventually be reborn as a man in their next lifetime. Women in Thailand who've experienced domestic violence are often given advice from Buddhist monks to be patient and compassionate with their perpetrators as the victims' suffering is a product of bad karma from a past life. .........................Being inferior lets the men think they can do whatever they want. And making merit so they can come back as a man is another fallacy that keeps them in that inferior state, at least to the men. I'm teaching my daughter here, until I will move back home with her, the same things I taught my other 4 girls, that they are equal to men in every way, and never let any man abuse you and get away with it.

It's not only for a better education and better jobs (on average) but I don't want her looked at like many do here, a half farang. I don't like how women here are treated by the men,(not all,most). She is second to no man, and it's hard enough being that in western countries. Here it's how it is. I will never let he drive a scooter here, as most do, under age 15, no license, no helmet. There is no arguing these points. I knew how it was 20 years plus before I came here. Now I see it's worse than I ever thought.

Because it doesn't interest me? I'm moving back home with my daughter as soon as I can. What she learns here isn't going to help her in her life anyway, as the schools are failures with few exceptions, and she has a thousand fold better chance at a rewarding life back in the US than being a victim here, and an underpaid one at that.

No, actually I can read a book in a very short time, and comprehend everything I read, because all my life I've been a reader, daily, on a multitude of subjects interesting to me. I can separate paragraphs but don't bother to, as I feel any adult can comprehend a few hundred words. If they can' they don\t have to read it. I read a lot of what people post here, and some type just like I do, and I can understand what they're saying. Again, if you don't want to read, you don't have to. if you do, read a few sentences at a time so you can get the gist of what I'm saying.

The only shame was brought on her by being treated better than she ever has been (her words and others in her family, Living in the house I built because she didn't contribute anything besides trouble. She had 2 other children with Thais that she left with their families both times. One at age 9 and the second at age 10.She got the second one back just before we went to court to try and make her look like a mom. It didn't matter, the women always get the kids here because of the fact the men don't want them and having a farang fight for his kid isn't normal to the court system here, being far behind westerner courts.She subsequently gave the second child to the first child to live with, showing again to everyone how much she doesn't care for her children. Thai's appreciate any effort a foreigner tries to communicate, knowing they can't speak English so we're in the same boat. I can communicate fine by knowing some and using my phone when I need to. Try, again, not to assume you know me or my life. You, being a narcissist, don't care to get to really know these women anyway. Your words speak loudly. Again, since you're not getting this. I'm an empath, meaning I care for others, and always want to help. I can't help people like you because there isn't a cure for it. There's only loneliness in your old age, as no one can tolerate someone that's only concern is to use others and replace when the feeling gets to you. Everyone has failed relationships. that's how you learn. Some people get along quicker than others because they match better in future plane children, finances and the like. You say you go after married women, Do you not understand this isn't normal behavior? A man doesn't do this. A player isn't a man in any sense of the word. It's a little boy that has low self esteem and has to feed his ego by conquests over women who are either unhappy, or clueless to what a players all about. You know you're own mind. Funny thing is, I know you're thinking also. I've studied your type for over 30 years. And you don't understand that you're burying yourself with every reply. And as an edited reply, I get invited to go places all the time, because my girlfriend works for her local tesaban, and I go to weddings, funerals, sport days etc, and they all appreciate the effort. They know I'm good to my girlfriend, and that's all they need to know to accept a foreigner in their circles. I again get along with everyone but the disturbed.

Please don't correct a typo. You make many, as many others also do here, and I know the difference between ignorance and a mistake. Where did I say I expect anyone to speak English? She knows English, from working in hotels and restaurants and around other farangs in those towns. I'm nowhere near arrogant but you certainly are, thinking you know me when you can't understand just how wrong you have been all along. If you would look at all of my posts, you'll see I'm at the opposite end of the spectrum as far as being illiterate. Where does deaf mute come into this? Have you read what I said she did? Does anyone in their right mind does this? Have you seen she wants to come back to me all the time? Why would this be? You definitely understand her, because you're just like her, and everyone here, and anywhere else in your world sees just what you are. It's you that should stop posting, because by the relies you are given, only those that think just like you agree with you, and that's very sad indeed, especially for the women you'll meet. I do fine with all people I meet, with the exception of the ones who are narcissists and those with depression, who are damaged from childhood. I try and help them, and sometimes they understand and thank me, and sometimes they don't understand themselves enough to know how to escape their own minds. Some people can't be helped because of both these types. depression can be helped, narcissism has no cure.

No, because as I also said, mo one has ever said that before. Women here aren't used to men actually having a conversation with them for more than a few minutes. The men talk with the men, the women talk with the women, with much complaining going on. In the US, women talk with men and groups of both get together are can carry on conversations for hours. If you haven't noticed this, again, you aren't interested in doing anything more with a woman than getting off. And you would understand another narcissists thinking.

Learn the art of comprehending. People like gamma use one sentence at a time, which is wrong, and no one says anything because all can comprehend a sentence at a time. If you can't understand a few hundred words, then don't read it. Easy

I speak very little Thai and she speaks very little English, but when I speak slowly and don't use a lot of words that confuse her, she understands. When she is angry because I'm trying to explain things to her to try and help her, she goes into the silent treatment, because, as a narcissist, she only wants to listen when she is in a good mood, and doesn't want to "work" at the relationship. She rarely looked me in the eyes, only said she was sorry twice, after hitting me because she was mad at her mother, and took her anger out on me because she didn't want to hit her mom. She said I talk to much, the only woman, or person in my life that ever said this to me. This is because she didn't want to hear me, and would have been content living her life with someone that didn't talk and just gave her money and built her a house, did most of the work around it, and in return I got all the sex and good food I wanted. I want more, meaning good communication, because everything else gets old and routine, including sex. But instead of trying to get closer to someone, as I do, you prefer to leave them because you're "bored". That's why I keep saying pick on the bit*hes, because it's their job to hurt others, and like two peas in a pod, you'll get along fine, until one or the other gets bored,and no one cares anyway, so one leaves. My ex here worked in a hotel when I met her. My first ex worked as a barmaid. My second wife was a counselor for drug addicts, and she was addicted to painkillers her doctors put on her, and later died from a heart attack because her body couldn't take anymore abuse.