fredwiggy

In reality, there are men who leave their kids in every country, but, Thailand leads the world with 35% of children raised by grandparents, which in effect means, the woman is elsewhere working , either because she doesn't want the responsibility of the kids, or she thinks by going to a large city to work, she earns more. This is true, but paying rent balances that out and that will never be a good excuse. Most leave because they aren't being helped by their Thai mates, and think working elsewhere is a responsible thing. Most can get work in the closest larger city, and going to Bangkok does pay more, but as I mentioned, you still have to pay rent, while living home with the family, you don't. I've lived here over 5 years, and researched living in Thailand for many years before that, and was told by Thais in America, here, and saw responses in forums, that most Thai men leave after the "cuteness" of the child wears off, and the money has to be paid. In the court system, Thai men aren't held responsible for child support like they are in the US, or it's not enforced, like it is in the US, and most other countries. Personally, in my village, there are many girls with kids and no fathers around. I've asked about all I've seen, that my ex wife's family has told me about, that all the dads ran off. In my case, I pay support, and have joint custody. I would prefer full custody, for many reasons, but that's not given here readily, like I had in the US for my other 3 children. I will not judge all Thai men, as all I know about them is from the before mentioned stories, and see some that are home with their kids. back in America, I've seen men leave their kids, but they are held responsible by tracking them down for support. My ex girlfriend stopped paying me support after awhile, and was tossed in jail for a month. I didn't file. The child support people did. If these locals were held responsible, the sex wouldn't be unprotected so much, and less children would be raised by grandparents, which isn't a good option. As fare as the OP is concerned, if you have sex, you sometimes create children. These children are your responsibility for the next 18 years. If this woman is decent, and wants you to stay with her, that's your choice but finding a decent woman anywhere, especially here one that isn't overly greedy, a narcissist or a cheater, is the hardest thing you will have to do living here. Of course if she keeps the child, you would insist on a paternity test, and then, if you aren't married to her by then, get visitation and send support. Sex has consequences, and the child doesn't pick their parents. Get a second pregnancy test also.