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Have you read what other informed people have been saying? It doesn't matter how long I've lived here, but it's 6 years so you know. What matters is that the so called bouncers over reacted to a situation that could have been stopped with knowing how to subdue rowdy people. It happens daily in every other country, and a real bouncer knows what to do to de escalate the problem. they don't go about kicking people on the ground because they would be fired, and the bar might be sued. of course that doesn't happen here, as enforcement of rules is non existant and a lot of officials are corrupt. Queensberry rules don't apply to fighting outside of a tournament. This wasn't a tournament. This is a bar where people were hired to stop trouble. They hired the wrong people. Anyone who kicks someone on the ground is a coward, period. The man went down on the first hit. That's when he should have been picked up and escorted away. Sticking up for locals who act this way is a form of brown nosing. Just because you live here doesn't mean you have to tolerate bad behavior by anyone. As you can see by the many who also disagree here. I worry when others think this behavior is somehow right, that this is the kind of thinking that promotes violence on the streets.

I never make opinions. They don't carry weight. People can acquire guns anywhere on earth. There are thousands of illegal guns everywhere. There isn't a problem with farangs shooting Thais here. There is a problem with Thais shooting Thais. Gun violence here is extremely high. Besides that point, I said basically if a person wants to seek revenge because he was kicked while down, there are ways they can do it.

Yes, and I answered his question earlier.

I don't know what you're asking of me. I didn't make any derogatory statements about being bald. Nothing wrong with it. Some even choose it in lieu of having a full head of hair. Their choice. Most of us lose hair when we age anyway.I just asked him to not lump me in with what many think all farangs here are, meaning they think being bald is bad. I didn't mean it that way, although you might assume I did. Nothing wrong with being fat, old or lazy either. It's just how some look at us.

If a person can enjoy a glass of wine or beer a day, it's not an addiction, and can actually be beneficial to health. Over one drink it can start to be a problem. Weekend drinking, a few glasses, isn't an addiction in any way. People have been drinkers and lived to 100, as long as they drink moderately, eat healthy, exercise and get enough sleep.

Like Keanu Reeves said in Parenthood. You need a license to buy a dog, drive a car, even to catch a fish, but they'll let any butt reamin a**hole to be a father.

Disagree with what? These are facts from studies. Animals follow instinct to survive. We can be food to them if we allow ourselves to enter their environment. They aren't evil, but acting on the instincts created for them. There are predators and prey. Animals use a social hierarchy also, and that includes attacking other animals of their kind. They don't have a conscience like humans. They attack to eat or protect young, or their area from other predators.

Everyone has the right to post Jim. Just ignore their ignorance and hate. Some hate Brits and are the quickest to point out that all Brits act a certain way. Some are afraid of living here and feel the need to stick up for locals even if they are acting wrong, especially against other farangs. Some hate their own kind because it reminds them of a bad life back in their home country. Some are sadists, and like to see anyone get hurt. Anyone who sticks up for anyone else kicking a person when they are on the ground, unless they were protecting their own family and feared violence against them, is disturbed.

Bullies are usually bullied at home. Neglected emotionally by non caring or absent parents, or abused by them. That anger goes outward, many times starting with helpless animals, where they're repeating what happened to them, then onto siblings, then peers, especially the ones they perceive to be weaker than them. People hurt others because they aren't happy themselves. Low self esteem, narcissism ,learned from being hurt and or neglected by parents or caretakers, and sometimes depression turned outward. No one is born to hurt others. They are trained. A child sees people being hit, or are hit themselves, they think it's normal behavior. Whenever I saw any of my children hitting another, I stopped it an explained why. I rarely ever hit any of my 6 kids, except a slap on the butt if they were doing something hurtful. My children do not hit others, including their own children, with the same exception. I see my girlfriends nephew being hit by his mom since he was a year old. Yelled at all the time, expecting the boy to understand like a 10 year old would. This happens almost every time I visit my girlfriend, who lives next door to them. That little boy is always trying to hit others for almost anything or nothing, just because he's mad at something. He picks up cats by the tail and throws them aside, sits on them and smacks them,even the kittens that live around. I try myself to calm him down, but he doesn't understand English. He does understand my tone though, and he knows I'm trying to get him to stop. That boy will grow up thinking it's okay to hit, and that may follow with his girlfriends and wife. This is being learned at home and is but one example of millions daily. Humans either like or dislike other humans, because of the reasons explained .People are still little kids grown up, trying to act like adults but carrying what they've learned since childhood all their lives. 0-5 is the most important time of a child's life. Here they learn trust, kept promises, security, protection, fear,love, care, respect for animals and others and their property, among other things. Their brain develops at that time more, and faster, than any other time in their lives. No one knows how others feel about others just by seeing them in public. People have fears, phobias, prejudices and anxieties. This, along with the possibility of catching a disease, has people (some) not wanting to sit next to others. Then you have people who will sit next to a stranger and not think anything wrong, and start a conversation. Some are hiding something and don't want to get close to others. Some hate everyone and even they don't know why. That's learned behavior. Humans are meant to be with other humans. No one is happy alone. If they say they are, its fear from being close because someone hurt them they trusted before. People can be evil, and that's mostly because they were taught to be, not because they were born that way., with the exceptions of psychopaths, who are sometimes genetically predisposed to hurt others. Some of them are that way because of the environmental conditions in which they were raised.

Actually, if you're a tough person, you don't need to resort to kicking someone in the back, after stomping on them. A tough person would think nothing of a little slap and just escort the person out, especially if they are supposed to be a bouncer, which is what a real bouncer does. If it was a punch and not a slap, then you punch back, hard enough to wake the person up. Like has been mentioned many times on this forum, locals need to resort to ganging up 4 or 5 against 1, all the same size, and hit with sticks and kicking. Not referring to Muay Thai fighters, who can handle themselves, and don't need to pick fights, The average local here does what we see daily, and I've not only noticed this for 6 years, but heard it many years before I ever moved here, both by foreigners and Thais back in the US. I've known a few Brits, and they weren't weak men. Just average in build. Hard to judge a whole nation from a few retirees. Each case is individual. A small man that's fast can beat a large man who's slow. A large man that puts his weight behind his punches can deck a small man very easily. Being tough isn't having to kick. Kicking, unless you're in a stand up fight, isn't something a tough person does, but a coward. And kicking isn't stomping on someone's back. There are specific kicks you learn training. Not kicking wildly as I see on TV almost everyday. That's for those that can't hurt with their fists.

Psychopaths are genetically started and environmental also. Can't be diagnosed until about age 18 or so. Sociopaths are mainly made, from abuse, neglect or extreme spoiling, when with parents from birth. Like narcissism, which is a learned behavior.

They do all the time. Rice should not be left out more than 2 hours. Refrigerated it will last a few days, or frozen if need be. Raw chicken sold here at stores will get bacteria very quickly, especially Salmonella. It should be stored at 40 degrees, like it is in the US, and wrapped in plastic. Cooking here, using hot oil and boiling, does reduce or eliminate a lot of bacteria, but the chicken should be cut into small pieces. I've gotten the runs here way more than back home in America, and I'm sure leaving food out, as I've seen in many homes, is the culprit. Koi Pla, raw fish with spices, kills many in Thailand every year, up to 20,000 it's said. I know personally of two farangs wives who died from liver disease from eating it. People don't usually discuss their bathroom habits with anyone besides their doctor and maybe a close relative, so no one has any idea how many suffer from food borne illnesses.

People learn almost everything about life in the first 5 years. Then they learn from their peers, who also learned the same way. Bad absent and evil parenting doesn't help a child grow into a normal adult.

Not knowing anything besides he may have had depression you can't assume what was going on in that house. Depressed people sometimes take anger from depression out on others, but usually it's turned inwards. There might have been abuse going on, which put him over the edge. Children aren't born evil. It's learned from birth on, from abuse, neglect or spoiling. Some are around other bad children, who don\t respect life, and think they have to do something violent to fit in with the other lunatic friends.

When a person has an addiction, it involves everyone around them, most importantly, their family. It affects every day of their life, and brings down those who love them. Posting it here is a way of release in a positive way.. Although pride isn't usually a good thing, it's a way of saying to the world, I did it, so can you, which does reach others, just like an AA meeting. There are alcoholics on this forum , statistically speaking, and some of them might be hurting also. Why belittle their pain, their knowing others are just like them, or their want to get rid of it?

Speaking English doesn't matter. You grab them, with help if need be, and bring them outside and release them. In this case, bring them away from the bar front. No posses needed if you want revenge. People get shot everyday from revenge, here, there and everywhere. Acquiring a gun is possible anywhere if you have money. Staking out the bar, then following the bouncer home, then he strikes. Not saying he should do this, as he was at fault also. Just what people do. He deserved to be hit back. That's all. He was hit, he hit the ground, then was stomped and kicked. That's taking it too far. That first punch had him hit the floor. That would have stopped most people from trying more. There is no excuse for kicking someone when they are down, unless they hurt your family in some way. Besides that, it's always a cowardly act.

Yes it was, besides of course bullets and death from drinking too much anyway.

They feel good about themselves, which is the most important thing in love. Self love first. A person who's become addicted has a hard time getting rid of that addiction, as any cigarette smoker can attest. I think it's great that they want to better themselves. Drinking isn't a problem until it becomes an addiction, and the damage it can cause. Some have to stay away from it and it's very hard. Give them credit because you don't understand it if you're not going through it. Just like having depression. If you don't want to add constructive comments, you don't have to reply. Easy.

Because smiles sell, as per politicians, salesmen, and those wanting to get something from others. They also hide how a person is really feeling, because of the former.

Always give without any expectation of a return. If they don't do it on their own, then you know what selfish is. Then you find one not selfish. That's where the most important thing in a relationship besides mutual trust comes out. Communication. Asking for what you want, asking them what they want. Talking about everything to become closer. The most important thing a woman wants, besides being able to trust their partner, is to be heard. Men have a hard time actually listening, without being distracted or not caring enough to understand what she is saying.

It's very easy to find people these days, unless they live in a tropical rain forest. Being on the grid you leave trails. People talk. Of course he can make the first move.

If you continue to date and romance your partner, they usually want to make love, IF they are normal thinking and not just in it for the cash. Pleasing goes both ways. I always think of my partner before me. It means more to me that they are satisfied. Damaged goods are very hard to keep happy. Holding grudges from childhood hurts future relationships. Some never let things go so it's best to move on because they might never be happy, and that's mostly their job anyway.

People don't change much after around 30. What you had before was what they are. If a woman is neglected and not listened to, they get pissed, and turn off the "rumpty", or at the least do it begrudgingly. A lot will give you sex until they have you hooked because they see money. It's pretty easy to tell a person between 6 months to a year. they can't hide themselves forever. After a couple of years you saw things but might have let them slide, though red flags are always there. It's not about being stupid but desire for them.

A word or two of advice. Those are still your kids, and they can see you whenever they want if they have cell phones. They can visit you when they are old enough to travel alone, if that's not already the case, and kids, no matter what happened between you and your ex, usually want a relationship with the other side, even if they have been brainwashed for years. When they reach adult age, they know relationships go sour, and people lie. I'm also sure they would like to know their half brother and step mother also. One of mine is estranged from me because of her mom, and she doesn't talk much with her siblings because of this. Eventually they remember the truth, and will want a relationship. Some are bitter for many years because of lies told, but when they have kids of their own, they understand how hard parenting is and what we went through. Nothing wrong with having more family, especially your kids.

Yes, somewhere along the line of 1500 baht