MikeyIdea

7 hours ago, AlexRich said:

 

The mother is responsible for the child, not the guy above. As they live in his apartment rent free and he pays for everything he's demonstrated that he is a decent person ... if the gf and child end up homeless it is due to the gf, not the guy above. They are no longer his responsibility.

 

Of course, I was just talking normal decency as we were taught by our parents

8 hours ago, A1Str8 said:

Warn her that if she doesn't you will have her removed by the police. Remind her that as the owner you have all the rights to do so. Then do it if necessary.

Hmmmm, the police has no jurisdiction to act of course, this is civil and not criminal law.

As owner he has the right to petition a court to remove her

This wont go that far. The girl friend will do the honourable thing and sadly accept her mistake and take her son and leave

1 hour ago, DrDweeb said:

I am heartbroken.

 

We have been together for 8+ years and it seems the last three she has been living a duplicitous life (sporadically), while I was planning and working on paying for our lives. Her son only knows me as his dad - it is going to be horrible - I care for him a great deal.

 

She has thrown the dice, not me.

I have felt it. My then wife and the love of my life had an affair. 1998. Doesn't matter of course but she went to university when I met her so not a bar girl. I went to the guy's apartment, knocked first and I started to kick the door in when I got no answer. My wife finally opened, it was apparent.

I forgave her because I loved her and I was surprised to find that what had happened actually didn't matter at the end of the day.  The marriage failed one day anyway but it wasn't because she had been unfaithful. It was because of what made her accept to be unfaithful in the first place. I cried every evening for 6 months. I finally got over it, we both have kids with new partners now, we still talk sometimes

Some things changed but others didn't. She is still the love of my life 18 years later, always will be

Perhaps you can look a bit at what made her accept to be unfaithful in the first place and see if it helps

Dweeb, it sounds like you really love her very much  by the way

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Hi Paul, I missed that you made two posts

I am sure that you have the right intentions but you are not correctly informed. 

- Immigration does indeed have the right to act, of course they do

- Your comments - custodial parent as recognized by UK..., sanctioned by UK Authority..., child is also a 100% percent British subject who.. British subject... British subject... British subject... All that only matters in Britain

- Most embassy websites have information warning about that their ability to help is non-existing if a dual-citizen child enters his second home country

Thailand has implemented stronger controls and I must say that I personally think it is great. I stand by my assessment that the OP should be safe bringing his Thai/British child to Thailand on his British passport but that assessment goes down the drain the second immigration finds out that he also is a Thai citizen

"Turn it around" and it is easier to see if it still makes sense

A British mother has a child with me and we have shared custody but I live in Thailand with the child. We go on holiday to the UK. Has the British mother no right to stop her British child from leaving the UK again? That is not so. She certainly does

Thailand is the same

31 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

^^

Thanks for that, very interesting. So if travelling with kids over 12, the parent doesn't need any of that crap like letters from other parent/amphurs etc, that I've heard been said. The kids can go through themselves, before the parent.

Most Western countries have 16 or 18 as the age to travel without parental consent, most Asian countries have 18

If a child fulfills the above age requirements then they can go through themselves without letters of consent, yes, otherwise the same consent rules apply regardless of if guardian is travelling with them or not

51 minutes ago, Paul Catton said:

Children traveling without parents can travel to and out of the country and transit in Thailand, which of course has no bearing when accompanied by their guardian.

Unless there is an active border alert (formerly known as a CAPPS listing) a child is a liberty to travel at any age with a legal guardian.

2 things are actually not correct.

Many countries including Thailand require consent from all legal guardians to be allowed to travel abroad. Britain is the same too actually: https://www.gov.uk/permission-take-child-abroad. Quote Taking a child abroad without permission is child abduction end quote. Not one but all

I think that you also are saying that if I and a British mother have a child and we have shared custody but I live in Thailand with the child, then the mother has no right to stop the child from leaving the UK again if we go on holiday there. That is not so. She certainly does. And the same thing works the opposite way with a Thai child

51 minutes ago, Paul Catton said:

Criteria for unaccompanied minors are as follows: 

The guardian is required to inform the airline at least 24 hours prior to the flight departure as each airline limits the number of unaccompanied minor to travel on board in each flight as follows: Royal First Class/Royal Silk Class: the airline accepts only one 8-11 year old child. In Economy Class, the airline accepts six 5-7 year old children and thirty 8-11 year old children.

The guardian is required to provide the child's details, including name and surname, age, gender, date, flight number, departing airport and arriving airport. The name, address, contact number of the child's guardian who brings the child to the departing airport as well as the name and contact number of the guardian who picks up the child at the arriving airport must also be provided. All details must be completed on the 'Handling Advice for Unaccompanied Minor' form (FORM THAI 1122) as evidence.

The guardian who picks up the child at the arriving airport must correspond with the name specified at the Selling Office.

The ticket type must be "Confirmed" and must not be "ID" ticket. However, rewarded tickets from ROP (Royal Orchid Plus) are eligible.

The guardian who brings the child cannot leave the airport immediately. They must remain at the airport until the child's aircraft departs.

Infants or children under 5 years old cannot be UM (unaccompanied minors) unless accompanied by a person aged 12 years old or more.

You are quoting airline rules, they have nothing to do with the rules for a Thai child leaving Thailand

If you are registered there, then you are allowed to reside there. An owner can of course force a change to this

These are just words, it's more difficult to force flesh and blood out

Who owns the condo and who has the right to reside in it are 2 different things actually. Who is allowed to reside in the condo depends on "Tabien Raat" = the house register. The extension of it is basically the blue and the yellow book

If you put your girl friend as chao baan (master of the housel hold) in the blue book, then she has the right to decide who lives in the condo but you as owner of the condo can force a change to that

I think we should talk practical matters instead. Of course you will win at the end of the day (= quite some time) but if you throw her and her child out without anywhere to go, especially since there is a child involved, then you are too low and I don't want to advise any further. I don't care about her, if she's a bitch, then legally do what she deserves and don't hold back but don't punish the child for it

What are your intentions toward the child?

Mikey 

17 hours ago, Johnniey said:

Having the same surname DOES matter and if they are the same, there shouldn't be a problem. If there is, your kid could through by themselves.

Eeehhh, the legal age for a child to travel and what documentation is required depends on the country the child is entering or leaving, not the country of residence, the same for a child travelling alone

A couple of comments here

1) If you push on things that Thai workers have never used before, then don't think that you will get a stronger end result

2) If you push on things that Thai workers have never used before, then don't blame them if they don't put it together well

3) Don't think that you will get a stronger total solution by increasing beams to ridiculously heavy 175*175. That choice would make more than the loft collapse. Definitely a weaker total solution than the Thai expert recommended 

4) Your Thai expert probably knows that bearing plates are likely to to just dissolve the crappy block walls here. Thank you eyecatcher, excellently worded

If you want strong, then go down to the local metal shop and check what they have. They have 7*4 but you want bigger so let the owner point out next size and the next size. Measure them and go and talk to your Thai expert. Ask him and look at his face at the same time. If it looks like "waste of money" then it is still OK

If he starts to look worried, then he has a valid reason that you don't know of

I can't help it, I actually trust the guys who did the work for me. They're chronically blind when it comes to nice finish but they clearly know how to build strong enough well

Mikey

PS

Approx. 100 by 50 sounds great to me. 

DS

58 minutes ago, Grubster said:

In my book beeping your horn and Blowing your horn is two entirely different things. I Blew my horn at a guy cutting me off on the expressway near the Airport and he stopped right in front of me nearly causing a pile up behind me, he jumped out and ran back to my truck to see a 250 lb 6'3' man behind the wheel and ran back to his car and left. I'm sure had I been a woman I would have been slapped around a bit. So you are telling me that you haven't seen outrage at people blowing there horns, you either don't drive much or you live in the boonies.

You must use the Thai book living in Thailand, not your book

So, what you say is that you blew a long horn in Thailand and that is offensive and rude. You confirm that I am correct?

Since you question it. I have done some 400,000 km in Thailand the last 25 years, that's why I know a long horn is rude. What have you done?

I want Love me Love my Shack on Lung Dum Beach back

Won't happen - Thoroughly Destroyed Since Long

20 minutes ago, Grubster said:

 The reason they don't blow the horn here is that Thais do not take it well, they may attack you for blowing your horn. I find that a nice thing as in many countries all you can hear is horns. Flip them the bird at your own risk.

Nope, a short honk is not offensive,  a long one is rude

Thai's attacking you? Rubbish. Please tell me where you live to have Thai's attacking you for blowing your horn?

The correct answer is not possible. Bad journalism

The road rage is more visible with mobile phones taking video and recently also dash cams, the traffic in the rest of Thailand is worse today than it was 25 years ago but Bangkok is actually better with the fly overs

Useless survey

Hi,

The office gave me an iPhone 6S that I don't want, I have a Samsung Grand 2 with 2 SIMs which better suits what I need. I let my daughter use it and she wants to transfer approx. 15 GB if pictures and videos from her old Samsung to the iPhone. I have the 15 GB in a directory on a laptop

I haven't managed to find a way to transfer the files to her iPhone with the following constraints

1) Must not cost money

2) I have an apple ID but there is and will not be a Visa card connected to it. Option for Visa selected is None and will stay that way

How to do? Or is it not possible?

Thanks Mikey

Additional information

My house is a 40 year old 1 storey twin house in Bangkok and walls are the 10 cm blocks. The walls are certainly not made to take any weight. 2.5 cm diff in 2 metres. If the back of the Ikea PAX wardrobe doesn't bend , then it must be the walls :)

They/he will do all the welding on side for sure. I saw no brackets or pre made stuff. The beam ends going into the walls are literally just that, they go in a bit on one side and they never touched the wall surface on the other side. They never touched the beams. In my case I used the same guys who renovated parts of the house, I really don't know the price but it was cheap. The stairs and guard rail in teak were expensive, cost 20,000 

I have had the whole family up there (200 + kilos) and I felt absolutely nothing. It'll' will easily take another 100 kilos. That's for 2.9 metres with 7 by 4-5 cm

It could be a good idea to "fit the hanging side" from the ceiling. The guys did that with "the middle" when they built the attic floor

I really do think that you can just trust your Thai experts. Just carefully tell them 4 farang 400 kilos or whatever you want with some margin and sit down and relax and close your eyes

Mikey

Me and Idea playing in Sweet Home 3D (free)

3 hours ago, chiangrai said:

That's very close to what I'm doing.

Did you cover the metal with wood,I was thinking of doing that.

 

I'm thinking now that if I go to the metal worker and ask him what  metal do I need

and then say that's not strong enough and ask him what's stronger and go through that process a few times he will come up with something that looks like it's strong enough.Then I would get him to cut it into the lengths I want.

Unless some body comes up with  

Then should I just get it welded on site or are there nice brackets you can buy.

 

chiangrai, I have been here over 25 years, I have stopped trying to improve things to get "my" acceptable standard a long time ago and I think differently nowadays. I start by thinking - Do I think that the Thai metal worker who will do the job knows what he is doing well enough? If yes, then I just keep my sanity and go with it. That's why I am so trouble free in Thailand

All the metal I got came with a dull reddish/colour so they had rust protection, that is a must. He will weld and that will be good enough. I have not covered the metal with wood, just painted it black. 

Just say 300 - 400 kilo 3-4 farang and point up where the bed will be and don't worry after that, he will do a good enough job 

Trust him

I had a loft built in my daughters room.

The room is 3.5 * 2.9 meters and I chose to make the loft 2.9 * 1.55 meters. Basically, it goes from one side to the other 155 cm out so that it fits a 5 foot bed. It wasn't worth it to make it shorter and have to think about how to clear the side "hanging in the air"

Frame is 7 * 5? cm rectangular metal going into the wall a few cm with 1 inch * 3-4 mm bars welded across. I told cha^ng that we would be a couple of 100 kilo farangs up there and he welded a bit more, that's all... 

I wondered about no pillars but it's holding up just fine. Good to do when the room is small. I get in the wardrobe and the sofa under the bed

Note the detail work on the wall  

I figured a soon teenager would fill the wall with posters so I happily didn't care at all

Mikey

10 minutes ago, little mary sunshine said:

There is no logic in illogical Thailand!!!

Many westerners coming to Thailand are very illogical. They come here and complain on that everything in Thailand is bad and illogical but they still stay

Now that is illogical 

I can't understand how I could have been so ignorant and stupid when it comes to the way of the Thai's when I moved here 25 years

There are boarding schools starting from grade 1 onwards.

Prices vary hugely but doesn't have to be expensive actually. Interkids Minburi Campus IBS 3 bilingual school in the outskirts of Bangkok has boarding and total cost including boarding is less than 100,000 baht per year. The sky is the limit, there are international schools that will set you back over a million baht per year including boarding too

A friend of mine checked Interkids 4-5  years ago and it was clearly OK. Big nice campus, mix of Thai, western and Philippine teachers. He also commented that it was the Philippine teachers who were running the campus and not the Thai's, that is good as the Thai's get less influence

Mummy hitting a 12 year old boy? I have problems at home to but there are more psychological, mummy doesn't dare to hit our 12 year old daughter. I think that she would turn her back to mummy if she did and would possibly even hit back sooner or later, not a bad idea either. 

I don't know where in Thailand mummy and your son lives but I think it would be a good idea to bring him there when you get here and let him have a look. If your son is 12, on your side and really wants this, then you can get what your son and you want in Juvenile court if mummy doesn't agree. The judges will listen to your son and will put pressure on mummy to accept, very likely outcome. Mummy will hardly be able to resist them

Good Luck

Mikey

October has passed, no holidays in November, December 5 (fathers day) and 10 (Coronation day) are public holidays. December 10 is on a Saturday so Monday December 12 is a holiday.

Thai and bilingual school have their mid-term exams around the week of the 13 to 16 December. Not that important but can be made a reason. The mid-term break for Thai and bilingual schools are October and March to mid-May. Length varies, some 2 weeks some up to 4 weeks. Most schools break  26 December to 3 January

Are you paying the school fees? I strongly recommend that you pay directly to the school and not to the mother and you wouldn't have had this problem. The principal will accept and appreciate you as you pay and you will get a different status. The principal will write English good enough to communicate and nearly all schools have email. All schools except perhaps some village schools accept bank transfer no problem

Good Luck

Mikey

On 13/11/2016 at 1:44 AM, tropo said:

As I said, I live in Pattaya and DON'T have these problems.

 

OK, my apologies 

Then the question remains though. Where on earth do people who have these problems live? Or what is the reason that some people have this problem and others never do?