Teen uses Facebook to locate father she’s not seen for 15 years

By The Nation

 

 

A 16-year-old girl in Udon Thani has used Facebook to locate the father who left her and her mother when she was just one year old.

 

Benjarong Krasaesin told The Nation on Tuesday that she had never met her father during the 15 years since her parents’ separation.

 

Since then, Benjarong’s mother had left her in the care of her grandmother, Pensri Wisetwoharn, 61, as she had a new family of her own and had moved abroad.

 

When she was young, she did not miss her father because she received good care from her grandma, whom she called “mom”, she said.

 

Later, however, she did miss him because she saw her friends with both parents, so she asked her grandmother about him and eventually learned his full name.

 

She decided to start searching on Facebook for her father two months ago, using his name, Thawee Krasin, as key words.

 

After locating a Facebook user with Thawee Krasin as an account name, she sent a greeting message and showed him a photo taken with her dad when she was just one year old, and he replied: “Are you Por, my daughter?”

 

“I was startled and very happy. He immediately knew it was me, after 15 years,” Benjarong said.

 

Her father told her that he was working in Bangkok and would be free to travel to Udon Thani in two months’ time during Buddhist Lent, when he could get time off for a holiday.

 

Her grandmother said that although the father had never visited the girl since she started taking care of her 15 years ago, she was happy that her granddaughter had been able to locate him after all this time.

 

Source: http://www.nationmultimedia.com/detail/breakingnews/30346048

 

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Poor young woman, mother abandons her for a new life with new husband and kids.  Hope the father can be honorable and give her the love she deserves. 

My wife's daughter, who was 6 when she came to live with us as a family, had a similar urge to find her dad when she was 16. By the time she was 24 she understood the man had never come looking for her, sent her birthday greetings nor paid a baht towards her education and upkeep. She no longer cared to meet him at all. I hope Benjarongs grandmother is standing by, her help may be needed at a later date. 

Absolutely heartbreaking. First the father leaves and then the mother. I've said it before and I'll say it again: there are some seriously disgusting, heartless people out there. Kudos to the girl's grandmother, and hopefully the father will try to make up for what he put his own daughter through.

Exploitation alert!

 

I am sure that daddy ain't just looking for a reunion and a hug.  Would be nice if the kid's dream come true, but...

I was adopted at 6 weeks, by not a rich family, but a good one. THEY are my parents. Eventually, curiosity did get the better of me and I did meet by biological father and mother and I can say from experience that meeting them is like happy tears for 30 seconds and then "who the hell are you". It's like walking down the street and being told a complete stranger is your mom. One meeting was enough to end my curiosity. Never saw then again - just made me appreciate my adopted parents more even though they had died.

 

Now I have an adopted Thai daughter that my wife and I were given on the day she was born - the father said it was not his, that the girl had slept with loads of other guys and if it had been his he wanted it aborted. Not sure how I will tell her that, but hopefully her life will be that she feels she never has to meet the piece of trash.

12 hours ago, KhaoTan said:

Poor young woman, mother abandons her for a new life with new husband and kids.  Hope the father can be honorable and give her the love she deserves. 

If he couldn't give her any love during the past 15 years, I don't think he can give her any/much now... 

43 minutes ago, djayz said:

If he couldn't give her any love during the past 15 years, I don't think he can give her any/much now... 

Or mom could have prevented him from seeing her.

Fairly common, mom always tells the kids "dad doesn't want you".

 

Sadly, you can't believe, mom, dad or grandma ............ only yourself.

Edited May 23, 20188 yr by MaeJoMTB

Now there's just the little matter of 15 years of Child Maintenance.  If more mothers sued errant fathers perhaps Thai men wouldn't be so keen to abandon ship as soon as the baby bump starts to show.

32 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

Or mom could have prevented him from seeing her.

Fairly common, mom always tells the kids "dad doesn't want you".

 

Sadly, you can't believe, mom, dad or grandma ............ only yourself.

Good point. Hadn't thought of that. 

Did the father know that his daughter was alive.  He could have gone to Bangkok to work and then mom tells him, your daughter has died, I gave her up for adoption to a foreign couple, she was kidnapped and the cops can't find her, etc., and mom never told grandma what she told the girls father!

People bashing the father without knowing all the facts of what actually happened.  Only what the bash'ers have in their own heads!  

shaking my head.