Farangs in Rural Areas - where do you meet?

[JLCrab]

5 minutes ago, InMyShadow said:

Let me give you a scientific fact. You are hard wired in your DNA to always always return to back to your own people

You may think you are thai for now but you ABSOLUTELY will return to your own people eventually or die an early death through stress and isolation and depression.. It's just science, nothing personal

<snip>

That's funny -- I moved to Thailand to get away from a life of stress and isolation and depression and maybe even a possible early death. 

[473geo]

26 minutes ago, InMyShadow said:

Let me give you a scientific fact. You are hard wired in your DNA to always always return to back to your own people

You may think you are thai for now but you ABSOLUTELY will return to your own people eventually or die an early death through stress and isolation and depression.. It's just science, nothing personal

Don't try to explain the above to your new "thai friends" they are already laughing at the pathetic farang trying to be a farmer and no schooling doesn't help much either they just won't get it

I can only assume you feel superior to the uneducated locals.. Your attempt at conversation would be interesting to see

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People who seek criticise the lifestyle of others without having experienced that lifestyle do so out of ignorance....nothing personal just a fact

 

Your attempts to garner response to your posts are at best cumbersome.....but keep rattling away

I've done the whole bar thing and enjoyed it in my younger days, I just found something better......not believe me....get out of the bar off your computer and try harder

Edited June 24, 2018 by 473geo

[NanLaew]

1 hour ago, billd766 said:

Smiles up here are genuine. I can go out to the village and not lock the door (sometimes I have left it open), buy stuff and leave it in the unlocked pickup truck and I know that it will be safe and still there when I get back. I haven't shut the front gate in years simply because I have no need to.

Did the same in New Zealand... and they (kinda) speak English, have PAKn'SAVE and no need to feign a faux affinity for Isaan wichety grubs, grass and fermented fish.

[NanLaew]

1 hour ago, observer90210 said:

Try the soapy-happy-end parlours....plenty of nice bellied farangs to meet in there !!

I was having a rub n' tug last year and some stupid bugger on the other side of the thin partition tried to try and strike up a conversation with a "Where you from then?" in a distinct 'norf Lundin' accent. Probably a nice enough bloke, possibly a Spurs fan but not quite versed in massage shop etiquette.

 

Couldn't tell if he was fat either.

[473geo]

32 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

Did the same in New Zealand... and they (kinda) speak English, have PAKn'SAVE and no need to feign a faux affinity for Isaan wichety grubs, grass and fermented fish.

Yeah but they are just as slow to get their hands into the deep pockets!!

[Damrongsak]

PaDavid,

 

If you ride a bike, there's a Loei Gentlemen's Motorcycle Club.  They do a lot of sightseeing rides all over and get together with folks from other provinces as well as Thai groups.  Looks like they have a lot of fun.

 

Check out Loei Gentlemen's Motorcycle Club and also Saloon Loei on Facebook.

[InMyShadow]

10 hours ago, 473geo said:

People who seek criticise the lifestyle of others without having experienced that lifestyle do so out of ignorance....nothing personal just a fact

 

Your attempts to garner response to your posts are at best cumbersome.....but keep rattling away

I've done the whole bar thing and enjoyed it in my younger days, I just found something better......not believe me....get out of the bar off your computer and try harder

And drinking lao khao with a bunch of inbred hillbilies is the way to go!? ever wondered why your new extended family all have huge bolt on wing nut ears?

 

I bet when you saw this scene you never thought you would be living it https://youtu.be/gsC4kf6x_Q0

 

 

 

 

[Mooner]

On 6/18/2018 at 5:22 PM, joebrown said:

I once asked a group of school children what they thought about seeing farangs regularly sitting drinking beer together at an open fronted bar in my local village. They said it gave a bad impression and created a farang stereotype in their minds.

I rarely drank at that bar before they told me, and consequently I stopped going there.

Nowadays I travel 50km once a week to play golf with about 20 farangs at the military course in Phetchabun. (No, I never drink more than 1 beer before driving home) .

? so in the local village when they see Thais drinking Lao Khao on the corner they think what?

[cyberfarang]

8 hours ago, InMyShadow said:

I'm shocked to see the number of anti social outcasts on this thread. Quite a few in denial as well
No good blaming other farangs for your isolation. You don't fit in and you need to look inwards for the answer.
Sad to see people escaping near a jungle to get away from fellow man.

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The world is made up of two types of people. Extroverts and Introverts and from a scale of 1 to 10 in-between.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, many people are quite content with living solitary lifestyles or just being with family or satisfied with just a few persons within their cliques.

Then there are the extroverts who enjoy a wider social circle and enjoy being socially active.

Obviously most people prefer the company of others they can converse with in their own languages and can relate to more.

 

The problem with Thailand if you`re an extrovert is that over the years these people will feel isolated. Mainly because the majority of westerners, just as you begin to get to know them will move on, Farang social clubs are few and far between and the only chances they get to converse with others in their own languages is via the social media and online.  So for those who enjoyed a good social life with family and friends back in their own countries, may end up living a lonely and miserable existence in Thailand.

 

It`s also a fact that many westerners here can be weird, maybe people you can`t trust or simply just not compatible and have little in common. Back in our own countries we can pick and choose our friends, but in Thailand we may mix with people that probably we would not associate with back home, because the choices and numbers are not here.

 

At the end of the day it`s really up to those that do want to improve their social and circles of friends/acquaintances to put themselves out a bit or join together and create a social club or their own, but in Thailand even that`s not an easy task, I know of many that have tried and failed.

Edited June 24, 2018 by cyberfarang

[The Deerhunter]

On 6/18/2018 at 1:36 PM, dotpoom said:

Your tale kinda reminds me of the Farangs sitting at the tables in Big C, Pattaya Klang.

   I live in "the sticks" myself and the reason I'm here is to mainly get away from the "socialising" scene.

   Not because I'm anti-social....but because the longer I live amoung my fellow man the less tolerance I seem to have for the degree of self-centerdness I have come to observe amoung them.

And possibly they of you, perchance?

[totally thaied up]

I have only two friends in Thailand. When I hung around 'friends' or 'so-called friends' in the early years of my stay, I just got their troubles heaped on my lap. After a year or so of that, I just went my own way. My wife is my best friend. The only people whom have sought harm to me have been my own kind I hate to say.

 

These days I have a lunch every so often with one of my two friends from this forum. One friend is much like me; he was at one stage a very famous individual and about five years ago came to Thailand to get away from it all, including people.  I suppose in general, I like my own company and hanging around bars with drunks telling the same story, day after day wears thin after a while. I hate football or in fact, most sports and was always more into the arts, so for most, I am not interesting to them. More likely, to them, I am boring as hell but I do understand that.

 

I really do think that many, here are very happy to be left alone and others come here specially to be adjacent for the fact they can find company 24/7 more so in Thailand then many other countries (both women and men).

 

Anyone can find companionship in our bars in our town (and I literally mean anyone)

 

In my hometown in Australia, I have seen guys not move off the same bar stool for twenty years and be happy.  It is the same here, no different. Most likely, my life is hell if looked at in the opposite direction from others, but we are all extremely different and that is what makes the human race truly special.

 

As I say, each to his own.

 

[Maradona 10]

5 hours ago, 473geo said:

Actually get it right in the village, and god will be waiting quite a while longer for the Isaan expat. Meanwhile accepting other less fortunates feigning enjoyment spending their pensions on durex, beer, and fags, moaning about how Thailand doesn't treat them right, and beware the 'evils of Thai women' ? Hell it gets boring listening to the oft repeated comments on here never mind spending real time in their company listening to their tales of woe!!

 

 

But it is not always like that..you are trying to convince yourself that i is to try to justify your billy no mates isolation. Tragic.

[473geo]

54 minutes ago, InMyShadow said:

And drinking lao khao with a bunch of inbred hillbilies is the way to go!? ever wondered why your new extended family all have huge bolt on wing nut ears?

 

I bet when you saw this scene you never thought you would be living it https://youtu.be/gsC4kf6x_Q0

 

 

 

 

Hard luck another big fail

 

I don't do things by halves, when I left the bar scene I stopped drinking ? and guess what, pretty soon my relatives had also cut back to the point where laying into the lao khao is frowned upon especially by the younger generation.

Times change, attitudes change, peoples priorities change, you need to keep up ?

You are sounding rather out of touch......old hat.....cliched.....

[473geo]

1 minute ago, Maradona 10 said:

But it is not always like that..you are trying to convince yourself that i is to try to justify your billy no mates isolation. Tragic.

Billy no mates? I have a wife and two children they take up all my time when I am in Thailand and I enjoy every moment.

 

[cyberfarang]

There are many expats I`ve met here over the years, that are like garbage trucks, once they get filled up they try to unload all their crap onto you. They are not happy unless they`re miserable and prefer always to talk about themselves and their troubles. At first you feel pity for them but after a while they emotionally wear you down and eventually have to cut them off.

 

But, I don`t believe people should push others away, because I don`t care who or what you are, everyone needs mates, situations can change and then suddenly you`ll find yourself alone and friendless. Always beneficial to leave doors open rather than lock yourself into a limited world or in isolation.

[473geo]

19 minutes ago, cyberfarang said:

There are many expats I`ve met here over the years, that are like garbage trucks, once they get filled up they try to unload all their crap onto you. They are not happy unless they`re miserable and prefer always to talk about themselves and their troubles. At first you feel pity for them but after a while they emotionally wear you down and eventually have to cut them off.

 

But, I don`t believe people should push others away, because I don`t care who or what you are, everyone needs mates, situations can change and then suddenly you`ll find yourself alone and friendless. Always beneficial to leave doors open rather than lock yourself into a limited world or in isolation.

I've always found the people who are there for you without question are family, I have plenty of siblings in the UK and relatives inThailand.....I am never alone....possibly fortunate, but just the way it is 

[cyberfarang]

1 hour ago, 473geo said:

I've always found the people who are there for you without question are family, I have plenty of siblings in the UK and relatives inThailand.....I am never alone....possibly fortunate, but just the way it is 

That`s a good thing 473geo, and I`m truly glad you do, but some of us are not so blessed as to have close loving families. Unfortunate for me I`m one of those. In the past I`ve found that friends can be better than family, because the old saying is true; you can choose your friends but you can`t choose your family.

 

Here`s the thing; unlike close family, relationships with friends are not unconditional, friendships have to be worked at and with compromise. In the past I`ve known people that have been lifelong friends, then had one stupid disagreement and then fallen out never to speak with each other again, and that I find sad.

 

Everyone`s situations are different and I never criticise people for how they prefer to live their lives and who with. We make our own beds and we must lie in them, and remembering situations can change, either for better or for worse.

[totally thaied up]

57 minutes ago, cyberfarang said:

In the past I`ve known people that have been lifelong friends, then had one stupid disagreement and then fallen out never to speak with each other again, and that I find sad.

 

I am one of these guys I suppose. 

 

You get dumped on once, they can dump on you again. Small things okay like missed dinner dates or things like that are easy to forgive. Bigger issues are a no-no. I always state if someone asks me for money, my car or something of immense value to me (or something that was bloody well worked hard for), it is off limits.

 

Social gatherings for most are fine. I see most of my Thai neighbors are always entertaining like most of us farangs do. My social gatherings are limited due to illness but a few years ago this occurred; we got asked to go for a dinner. My wife and I drove about two hours (she drove) to an out-of-the-way place, waited another two hours for a no-show and afterward found these so-called friends were eating at another restaurant only 400 meters away with another couple that had better social standing.  Lord, I know I am low-so but that hit me pretty hard for a while, and I just think these days it is much easier keeping to yourself. 

 

Dumping people like that is really easy to do yet it still hurts. If I was capable of riding a bike for long periods of time or something like that maybe I would like to ride in a club or something. During my working years, I had a massive social circle but as many say as times change as we change.  Most of us would not think about how our lives would end; I mean my dreams of a flat-screen TV on a wall came to reality; a phone that I can see my family with came to be actual and a computer system and Internet that would bring the wonders of the world came to me came is now not unimaginary at all.

 

I think I can die easily now and happy with my friendships I have. My life is pretty full.

[cyberfarang]

34 minutes ago, totally thaied up said:

 

I am one of these guys I suppose. 

 

You get dumped on once, they can dump on you again. Small things okay like missed dinner dates or things like that are easy to forgive. Bigger issues are a no-no. I always state if someone asks me for money, my car or something of immense value to me (or something that was bloody well worked hard for), it is off limits.

 

Social gatherings for most are fine. I see most of my Thai neighbors are always entertaining like most of us farangs do. My social gatherings are limited due to illness but a few years ago this occurred; we got asked to go for a dinner. My wife and I drove about two hours (she drove) to an out-of-the-way place, waited another two hours for a no-show and afterward found these so-called friends were eating at another restaurant only 400 meters away with another couple that had better social standing.  Lord, I know I am low-so but that hit me pretty hard for a while, and I just think these days it is much easier keeping to yourself. 

 

Dumping people like that is really easy to do yet it still hurts. If I was capable of riding a bike for long periods of time or something like that maybe I would like to ride in a club or something. During my working years, I had a massive social circle but as many say as times change as we change.  Most of us would not think about how our lives would end; I mean my dreams of a flat-screen TV on a wall came to reality; a phone that I can see my family with came to be actual and a computer system and Internet that would bring the wonders of the world came to me came is now not unimaginary at all.

 

I think I can die easily now and happy with my friendships I have. My life is pretty full.

I`ve had similar done to me in the past and people have said, ah well, you`re better off without people like that, but talk is easy and at the time is really does hurt and you think, why? Why? Why?  So these days I still have friends but I made a pact with myself to not get too up close and personally involved with them. I just treat them as people I know and at times socialise with.

 

Also like you during my younger and working years I had a massive social circle of friends, so many in-fact that my phone never stopped ringing and at times couldn`t keep up. Then as we get older, people move on, or they get old, or they die or their situations or attitudes change and our social activities slow down or come to a grinding halt. In-fact some of my old friends from the past after I`ve met them again many years later had changed beyond all recognition,  they seemed totally different people to how they used to be. But on the other hand, we also change, maybe without realising it.

 

 

 

 

[Rimmer]

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[InMyShadow]

15 hours ago, 473geo said:

Billy no mates? I have a wife and two children they take up all my time when I am in Thailand and I enjoy every moment.

 

Dude you are trying waaay to hard to convince us you are happy. Your trying to convince yourself and your not very good at hiding it. 

No offense but that's the cold hard truth 

 

[JLCrab]

Well gee you sure sound like one happy guy.

[473geo]

9 hours ago, InMyShadow said:

Dude you are trying waaay to hard to convince us you are happy. Your trying to convince yourself and your not very good at hiding it. 

No offense but that's the cold hard truth 

 

You wouldn't know my truth if it bit you in the arse, now run along there's a good boy...

[JLCrab]

If he did run along, he'd just come back as someone else.

[Justfine]

On 6/25/2018 at 1:40 AM, cyberfarang said:

That`s a good thing 473geo, and I`m truly glad you do, but some of us are not so blessed as to have close loving families. Unfortunate for me I`m one of those. In the past I`ve found that friends can be better than family, because the old saying is true; you can choose your friends but you can`t choose your family.

 

Here`s the thing; unlike close family, relationships with friends are not unconditional, friendships have to be worked at and with compromise. In the past I`ve known people that have been lifelong friends, then had one stupid disagreement and then fallen out never to speak with each other again, and that I find sad.

 

Everyone`s situations are different and I never criticise people for how they prefer to live their lives and who with. We make our own beds and we must lie in them, and remembering situations can change, either for better or for worse.

Wise words.

[Justfine]

On 6/24/2018 at 10:52 PM, cyberfarang said:

The world is made up of two types of people. Extroverts and Introverts and from a scale of 1 to 10 in-between.

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert, many people are quite content with living solitary lifestyles or just being with family or satisfied with just a few persons within their cliques.

Then there are the extroverts who enjoy a wider social circle and enjoy being socially active.

Obviously most people prefer the company of others they can converse with in their own languages and can relate to more.

 

The problem with Thailand if you`re an extrovert is that over the years these people will feel isolated. Mainly because the majority of westerners, just as you begin to get to know them will move on, Farang social clubs are few and far between and the only chances they get to converse with others in their own languages is via the social media and online.  So for those who enjoyed a good social life with family and friends back in their own countries, may end up living a lonely and miserable existence in Thailand.

 

It`s also a fact that many westerners here can be weird, maybe people you can`t trust or simply just not compatible and have little in common. Back in our own countries we can pick and choose our friends, but in Thailand we may mix with people that probably we would not associate with back home, because the choices and numbers are not here.

 

At the end of the day it`s really up to those that do want to improve their social and circles of friends/acquaintances to put themselves out a bit or join together and create a social club or their own, but in Thailand even that`s not an easy task, I know of many that have tried and failed.

Quality is more important. Having 2 good ones beats 50 duds.

 

 

[JLCrab]

 

On 6/24/2018 at 10:52 PM, cyberfarang said:

The world is made up of two types of people. Extroverts and Introverts and from a scale of 1 to 10 in-between. <snip>

The world is made up of two types of people: Those that think that they have the world figured out and those who realize that, if you think that you have the world figured out, you may soon find out that you don't and 1 to 10 in-between.

Edited June 25, 2018 by JLCrab

[rumak]

On 6/24/2018 at 1:59 PM, InMyShadow said:

I'm shocked to see the number of anti social outcasts on this thread. Quite a few in denial as well
No good blaming other farangs for your isolation. You don't fit in and you need to look inwards for the answer.
Sad to see people escaping near a jungle to get away from fellow man.

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Nice to see that you are not a judgmental type person.   

one saying that comes to mind is :  the more people i meet....the more i love my dog.

or:   the more posts like this i read,  the less i look at TV

Oh, forgot......have a nice day !

 

 

[rumak]

16 hours ago, JLCrab said:

Well gee you sure sound like one happy guy.

i was trying to think of how to reply to IMS......but you seem to have summed it up !   lol

[billd766]

5 hours ago, Justfine said:

Quality is more important. Having 2 good ones beats 50 duds.

 

 

 

Or two good real friends against 1,000 or so on Facebook.