Thai girlfriend working in a bar

[jjstephen]

I met my Thai fiancé on a dating site around 19 months ago. We started chatting all day every day and things got pretty serious. We are now engaged and will get married after we meet in person for the first time, I am planning to visit Bangkok in November and tie the knot.

 

 

My fiancé is a nurse and works at a major hospital in Bangkok (which I will not name for obvious reasons). Around 6 months into our relationship she started working part time at a bar in Pattaya.

On the weekends she will go down to Pattaya to work in the bar and then return back to the hospital on Monday morning. She is doing this, working 7 days a week, to help pay off her student loans.

As I have never visited Thailand before, I started to read about Thai culture online to prepare myself. I found many posts online (for example this) which say that bar girls are 'working' and not really relationship material. But I feel like my fiancé is different as even one of the senior doctors at her hospital is involved in running the bar that she works at.

 

I confronted my fiancé and she assured me that she only earns money from tips and drinks in the bar. Two weeks ago a Canadian guy asked to take her out of the bar. She refused him and said that she felt scared and embarrassed by it.

 

Basically my question is this: Is it true that all bar girls are 'working' and going to customer's hotel rooms (even women that work there part time)? Or is she is really telling the truth here and should be trusted? Is the information posted online true or is it false? She has never asked me for money before but she did say that in November I will need to pay the hospital for her to have time off work as she already used her annual leave when her brother was sick.

 

I am also looking for advice about where to stay in Pattaya? Where is a reasonably priced hotel and what is the best place on the island to stay?

 

Thanks in advance.

[rocketboy2]

Ok Mr.

 

[bigt3116]

22 minutes ago, jjstephen said:

We are now engaged and will get married after we meet in person for the first time

Really?

 

22 minutes ago, jjstephen said:

But I feel like my fiancé is different as even one of the senior doctors at her hospital is involved in running the bar that she works at.

 

One of the doctors is her pimp!

 

 

Run Forrest , run!

 

 

[2baht]

Listen to Batman!

 

[Upnotover]

39 minutes ago, jjstephen said:

I am also looking for advice about where to stay in Pattaya? Where is a reasonably priced hotel and what is the best place on the island to stay?

Try harder.

[champers]

Pattaya is an island?

[msbkk]

53 minutes ago, jjstephen said:

I met my Thai fiancé on a dating site around 19 months ago. We started chatting all day every day and things got pretty serious. We are now engaged and will get married after we meet in person for the first time, I am planning to visit Bangkok in November and tie the knot.

 

 

My fiancé is a nurse and works at a major hospital in Bangkok (which I will not name for obvious reasons). Around 6 months into our relationship she started working part time at a bar in Pattaya.

On the weekends she will go down to Pattaya to work in the bar and then return back to the hospital on Monday morning. She is doing this, working 7 days a week, to help pay off her student loans.

As I have never visited Thailand before, I started to read about Thai culture online to prepare myself. I found many posts online (for example this) which say that bar girls are 'working' and not really relationship material. But I feel like my fiancé is different as even one of the senior doctors at her hospital is involved in running the bar that she works at.

 

I confronted my fiancé and she assured me that she only earns money from tips and drinks in the bar. Two weeks ago a Canadian guy asked to take her out of the bar. She refused him and said that she felt scared and embarrassed by it.

 

Basically my question is this: Is it true that all bar girls are 'working' and going to customer's hotel rooms (even women that work there part time)? Or is she is really telling the truth here and should be trusted? Is the information posted online true or is it false? She has never asked me for money before but she did say that in November I will need to pay the hospital for her to have time off work as she already used her annual leave when her brother was sick.

 

I am also looking for advice about where to stay in Pattaya? Where is a reasonably priced hotel and what is the best place on the island to stay?

 

Thanks in advance.

How can you be "engaged" with a woman who you never met in person? How can you want to marry her without even meeting her at all? My experience with dating sites are that 90% of photos are digitally enhanced (even using filter for video calls) that the real person looks completely different in real life. And unfortunately most of them are not really telling the truth.

[Upnotover]

1 minute ago, msbkk said:

How can you be "engaged" with a woman who you never met in person? How can you want to marry her without even meeting her at all? My experience with dating sites are that 90% of photos are digitally enhanced (even using filter for video calls) that the real person looks completely different in real life. And unfortunately most of them are not really telling the truth.

It's easy when none of the characters in a story are real.

[JimHuaHin]

I had a slightly similar experience several years ago.

 

The woman's dating site profile had a few pictures of her in a nurse's uniform, and she said that she worked in a local government hospital.  We chatted away for a few weeks, but never met (due to her "busy" work schedule, doing double shifts to get more money).

 

At this time, a couple who were friends of mine from work in Australia were visiting Thailand, seeking out retirement options, and one night they wanted to go out to a bar for a drink.  In the bar opposite, there was a woman who looked like the "nurse".

 

To cut a long sorry short, the "nurse" was never a nurse, she "borrowed" the nurse uniform from her "sister", and she worked full-time in the bar.

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, jjstephen said:

Basically my question is this: Is it true that all bar girls are 'working' and going to customer's hotel rooms (even women that work there part time)? Or is she is really telling the truth here and should be trusted? Is the information posted online true or is it false? She has never asked me for money before but she did say that in November I will need to pay the hospital for her to have time off work as she already used her annual leave when her brother was sick.

No, some girls in the 'gentlemen's clubs' use rooms over the club, 4-8x a day.

[Celsius]

Chatting long distance, hoping to find one love him true.

 

19 months, you never seen her even once, she could tell you she is on Elon's team travelling to Mars.

 

You never met her; you have no idea what she does. 

 

Works as a senior doctor in a hospital and travels to Pattaya to work in a bar?

 

My guess. 

 

TROLL

 

 

[ArnieP]

3 hours ago, champers said:

Pattaya is an island?

The OP is just another one of the many trolls who have joined the forums recently and who are posting long-winded opening posts.

 

 

[SAFETY FIRST]

4 hours ago, jjstephen said:

met my Thai fiancé on a dating site

 

 

4 hours ago, jjstephen said:

I have never visited Thailand before

 

Good luck mate. 

 

 

This posting is in ladies forum, Mods should change to Pub forum. 

 

Funny reading. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

 

Edited June 21 by SAFETY FIRST

[SAFETY FIRST]

3 hours ago, JimHuaHin said:

the "nurse" was never a nurse, she "borrowed" the nurse uniform

Same here. 😂

 

[pomchop]

4 hours ago, jjstephen said:

I met my Thai fiancé on a dating site around 19 months ago. We started chatting all day every day and things got pretty serious. We are now engaged and will get married after we meet in person for the first time, I am planning to visit Bangkok in November and tie the knot.

 

 

My fiancé is a nurse and works at a major hospital in Bangkok (which I will not name for obvious reasons). Around 6 months into our relationship she started working part time at a bar in Pattaya.

On the weekends she will go down to Pattaya to work in the bar and then return back to the hospital on Monday morning. She is doing this, working 7 days a week, to help pay off her student loans.

As I have never visited Thailand before, I started to read about Thai culture online to prepare myself. I found many posts online (for example this) which say that bar girls are 'working' and not really relationship material. But I feel like my fiancé is different as even one of the senior doctors at her hospital is involved in running the bar that she works at.

 

I confronted my fiancé and she assured me that she only earns money from tips and drinks in the bar. Two weeks ago a Canadian guy asked to take her out of the bar. She refused him and said that she felt scared and embarrassed by it.

 

Basically my question is this: Is it true that all bar girls are 'working' and going to customer's hotel rooms (even women that work there part time)? Or is she is really telling the truth here and should be trusted? Is the information posted online true or is it false? She has never asked me for money before but she did say that in November I will need to pay the hospital for her to have time off work as she already used her annual leave when her brother was sick.

 

I am also looking for advice about where to stay in Pattaya? Where is a reasonably priced hotel and what is the best place on the island to stay?

 

Thanks in advance.

Sorry but the best advice you are likely to get and no doubt ignore is do not marry a girl you have never even met, do not believe everything someone you have never met tells you and forget about coming to a place like pattaya that you quite obviously know little to nothing about if you think it is an island...don't mean this in a bad way but wow you are a train wreck waiting to happen.

[champers]

25 minutes ago, ArnieP said:

The OP is just another one of the many trolls who have joined the forums recently and who are posting long-winded opening posts.

 

 

You don't say.

[HauptmannUK]

Please PM me.  I'll need the name of the bar and a picture of your fiance.  I'll check her out. I only ask for reimbursement of her charges for whatever service she offers.

[jjstephen]

17 hours ago, Celsius said:

Chatting long distance, hoping to find one love him true.

 

19 months, you never seen her even once, she could tell you she is on Elon's team travelling to Mars.

 

You never met her; you have no idea what she does. 

 

Works as a senior doctor in a hospital and travels to Pattaya to work in a bar?

 

My guess. 

 

TROLL

 

 

 

I know it sounds a bit ridiculous when I write it like that, but when you find true love the distance is not a barrier. Although we have not met yet, I am literally talking to her constantly, all day every day sending messages. I spend more time talking to her than if we lived together and were both working. I feel that I know her quite well at this stage. In November I will visit her bar and ask the other women if she ever did bar fines or not.

[it is what it is]

i met her on a dating site, never met her, she's a nurse, and she works in a bar in pattaya. i'm going to marry her. either a trol or an idiot. or both.

[save the frogs]

The boy who cried wolf.

 

If all threads are treated as trolling, a real thread will get dismissed.

Just assume it's real and answer the question.

 

 

[robertyongym]

On 6/21/2024 at 7:00 AM, bigt3116 said:

Really?

 

 

One of the doctors is her pimp!

 

 

Run Forrest , run!

 

 

You can take the girl our of the bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl.

[msbkk]

On 6/22/2024 at 2:04 AM, jjstephen said:

 

I know it sounds a bit ridiculous when I write it like that, but when you find true love the distance is not a barrier. Although we have not met yet, I am literally talking to her constantly, all day every day sending messages. I spend more time talking to her than if we lived together and were both working. I feel that I know her quite well at this stage. In November I will visit her bar and ask the other women if she ever did bar fines or not.

Do you really expect the other girls who are her friends to tell you the truth?

[brewsterbudgen]

52 minutes ago, robertyongym said:

You can take the girl our of the bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl.

Gosh, really?  That's very profound.

[roo860]

1 hour ago, robertyongym said:

You can take the girl our of the bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl.

No flies on you Confucious!😁

[Seppius]

On 6/22/2024 at 2:04 AM, jjstephen said:

 

I know it sounds a bit ridiculous when I write it like that, but when you find true love the distance is not a barrier. Although we have not met yet, I am literally talking to her constantly, all day every day sending messages. I spend more time talking to her than if we lived together and were both working. I feel that I know her quite well at this stage. In November I will visit her bar and ask the other women if she ever did bar fines or not.

This is more likely to be her, they are extremely clever, be careful

 

make up a story that you are going to be coming out next week and want to meet her at the airport, get a fake ticket here, then watch the excuses come in she is "busy"

 

https://www.fakeflighttickets.com/

[billd766]

6 hours ago, robertyongym said:

You can take the girl our of the bar but you can't take the bar out of the girl.

BS

[NativeBob]

student loan in Thailand? what a BS!

[msbkk]

1 hour ago, NativeBob said:

student loan in Thailand? what a BS!

The Student Loan Fund (SLF) is facing debt of more than 100 billion baht, up from 90 billion baht in 2022. The increase is due to several factors, including the economic downturn, the rising cost of living, and the difficulty of finding a job after graduation. The SLF is a government programme that provides loans to students who cannot afford to pay for their education. The loans are typically repaid over 15 years.(reported by the Nation news)

Edited June 29 by msbkk

[NativeBob]

to work as a nurse she doesn't need super-duper college. any will do. and by any I mean almost public college which are very-very affordable.

nothing to do with SLF and economic downturn.

 

PS: copying from The Nation won't hurt to leave backlink to the source, is it?
https://www.nationthailand.com/thailand/general/40034834

Edited June 29 by NativeBob

[msbkk]

1 hour ago, NativeBob said:

to work as a nurse she doesn't need super-duper college. any will do. and by any I mean almost public college which are very-very affordable.

nothing to do with SLF and economic downturn.

 

PS: copying from The Nation won't hurt to leave backlink to the source, is it?
https://www.nationthailand.com/thailand/general/40034834

My response was not about what kind of education she needs. It was regarding to your comment "student loan in Thailand  BS". I just wanted to point out that there is in fact a student loan system.