Are foreigners taken for granted in Thailand?

[bob smith]

i've been watching youtube recently and one fella i'm subscribed to seems to be taken for granted by his thai family/in laws.

 

he does everything for them, never even gets a thank you in return.

 

I stopped doing things for my in-laws years ago, precisely because of this lack of respect.

they haven't had a penny from me for years and never will again.

 

where does this all stem from?

are foreigners just expected to do things for/pay for thais because they are farang and might have more money?

and why the lack of appreciation when a farang does do something for the in laws?

i've seen how thais act towards each other when doing favors, they wai all over the shop, thanking each other profusely.. 

is it just expected so need to say thanks?

would the thai lose face by saying thank you to a farang that does something nice for them?

are we all just taken for granted here?

 

and also for those that bend over backwards for your wifes family and get nothing in return - why do you keep doing it? is it out of pity or is it something else?

 

bob.

[Ralf001]

Are you new to Thailand ?

 

[bob smith]

2 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

Are you new to Thailand ?

 

No.  

 

are you?

 

(how's the commute).. ?

 

bob.

[stoner]

40 minutes ago, bob smith said:

would the thai lose face by saying thank you to a farang that does something nice for them?

 

why would a thai thank a peasant ?

[bob smith]

Just now, stoner said:

 

why would a thai thank a peasant ?

they thank each other but don't seem to thank foreigners very much..

 

and i'm no farmer.

 

bob.

[Olmate]

42 minutes ago, bob smith said:

i've been watching youtube recently and one fella i'm subscribed to seems to be taken for granted by his thai family/in laws.

 

he does everything for them, never even gets a thank you in return.

 

I stopped doing things for my in-laws years ago, precisely because of this lack of respect.

they haven't had a penny from me for years and never will again.

 

where does this all stem from?

are foreigners just expected to do things for/pay for thais because they are farang and might have more money?

and why the lack of appreciation when a farang does do something for the in laws?

i've seen how thais act towards each other when doing favors, they wai all over the shop, thanking each other profusely.. 

is it just expected so need to say thanks?

would the thai lose face by saying thank you to a farang that does something nice for them?

are we all just taken for granted here?

 

and also for those that bend over backwards for your wifes family and get nothing in return - why do you keep doing it? is it out of pity or is it something else?

 

bob.

Bendover, bobdown, downboy, there there!... thats ok  got it? 

[stoner]

3 minutes ago, bob smith said:

they thank each other but don't seem to thank foreigners very much..

 

and i'm no farmer.

 

bob.

 

why would they thank you bob ? 

[bob smith]

1 minute ago, stoner said:

 

why would they thank you bob ? 

read my op.

 

this isn't strictly about me.

 

bob.

[stoner]

7 minutes ago, bob smith said:

read my op.

 

this isn't strictly about me.

 

bob.

 

birds of a flock. 

[ezzra]

Just behave properly, respect the people, the law and the culture of the country you're a gust in and don't get hung

up on the small things in life while living in a foreign country as it has it's benefits and drawbacks and Thailand has a fairshare

of it, but all in all, it's not a bad country to settle in if you follow the above... that's what i have learned in nearly 40

years in living and doing business in this country...

[2baht]

Come on, Bob, you should know better than that! Thai's are Thai, Farang are Farang! That's it! Never same same, never!!! 

[CharlieH]

"People do because they wanna do" ! They don't do it for gratitude.The fact that you're able to help others should be enough (for most). 

[bob smith]

8 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

"People do because they wanna do" ! They don't do it for gratitude.The fact that you're able to help others should be enough (for most). 

...isn't that naivety precisely what many thai's see as a weakness in foreigners, and why so many farangs end up getting scammed into buying their girlfriends a house in their name, only to find themselves being kicked out of said house 6 months later..

 

bob. 

[Celsius]

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

i've been watching youtube recently and one fella i'm subscribed to seems to be taken for granted by his thai family/in laws.

 

What channel? I am in the mood for some schadenfreude.

 

[SAFETY FIRST]

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

i've been watching youtube recently and one fella i'm subscribed to seems to be taken for granted by his thai family/in laws.

 

he does everything for them, never even gets a thank you in return

You've got to stop watching these YouTuber's, these guys are toxic, they've got you brainwashed. 

 

He's doing it for the clicks, it's his income and it's his job to bamboozle you with bs, sorry BS, get a hobby mate, avoid YouTube. 

 

[bob smith]

3 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

get a hobby mate, avoid YouTube. 

I like to stay as informed from as many different sources as I possibly can.

 

is it not the same for you?

 

bob.

[johnnybgood]

Are foreigners taken for granted in Thailand?

Not really, unfortunately we're taken as fools in a country where kindness and good manners are a sign of weakness.

[novacova]

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

why do you keep doing it?

I don’t do it.

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

is it out of pity or is it something else?

I pity no one. And treat folks no differently here than anywhere else.

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

he does everything for them, never even gets a thank you in return.

There’s a sucker born every minute.

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

where does this all stem from?

are foreigners just expected to do things for/pay for thais because they are farang and might have more money?

Farangs developed an image for some Thai folks of being stupid people easily exploited that come here and become a conduit to for Thai folks to access farangs bank accounts.

[worgeordie]

Bob ,and his latest Thai bashing ,he really hates Thai's ,first thing in the

morning ,his first thought ,should I post about dissing Thai's or get my

first drink of the day ,......

 

regards Worgeordie

[MalcolmB]

I think Bobs problem is he thinks Thais sit around all day thinking and talking about foreigners.

They don’t. At all. Doesn’t really interest them.

Especially not the way Bob obsesses about Thais.

 

Amazingly most don’t even know which countries the different farangs they might know even come from. or where that country might be on a map.

They have better thing to think about than Bob.

[MalcolmB]

Just now, worgeordie said:

Bob ,and his latest Thai bashing ,he really hates Thai's ,first thing in the

morning ,his first thought ,should I post about dissing Thai's or get my

first drink of the day ,......

 

regards Worgeordie

A sad obsession.

Despite his claims he is really just lonely. He never really made it here and suffers a lot of bitterness.

[brianthainess]

56 minutes ago, Olmate said:

Bendover, bobdown, downboy, there there!... thats ok  got it? 

Woof woof.......

[brianthainess]

46 minutes ago, stoner said:

 

birds of a flock. 

Feather together ?

[soalbundy]

My experience is just the opposite but I find the thanks embarrassing especially within the family. To have my son and step children with their children on their knees giving me a wai on fathers day for instance where my wife thanks me for the support I give them makes me so uncomfortable that I have forbidden it. I have helped my ML once with 50k, (her husband was responsible for her trouble) but she is a a proud down to earth woman, she didn't offer any exaggerated thanks but I found out later by accident that she had informed the whole village and the pu yai and my status in the village had a meteoric rise, my wife told me that after I had offered physical help at some social event and someone mentioned that I probably won't show up the pu yai retorted, 'don't doubt him,he is honorable, what he says he will do'. I for one, feel appreciated and liked.

[2baht]

43 minutes ago, bob smith said:

I like to stay as informed from as many different sources as I possibly can.

 

is it not the same for you?

 

bob.

No, You Tube doesn't tell me how to run my life! I can actually make decisions for myself! Yes, true, I make my own decisions, bit hard to believe here but there seems to be a lot of lost characters who need that wise Guru to guide them! 

[FolkGuitar]

No, not taken for granted. Simply as 'disposible.' Or perhaps 'interchangeable.'
Thais want foreigners for the tourist trade. Give us the money then go home. There is no need to thank you as you are expected to 'give.'   While we do hear the occasional thanks from food servers when we leave a tip, we don't hear it so much when we go out of our way to help. I can't count the times I've been asked by Thai friends for a favor, performed the favor, then never heard another word.

I don't know if they treat each other this way.

[stoner]

30 minutes ago, brianthainess said:

Feather together ?

 

i was gonna say get hammered drunk but yours works too. 

[bob smith]

5 minutes ago, FolkGuitar said:

I don't know if they treat each other this way.

They certainly do not!

 

No thai would ever put up with that kind of behavior.

 

bob.

[CharlieH]

1 hour ago, bob smith said:

...isn't that naivety precisely what many thai's see as a weakness in foreigners, and why so many farangs end up getting scammed into buying their girlfriends a house in their name, only to find themselves being kicked out of said house 6 months later..

 

bob. 

It isnt nievety,I suggest it's your negative perception of Thais and insistance on tarring them all with the same brush based on your interaction and negative views of a few.

[Fat is a type of crazy]

They'll treat you based on how you act. The passive - or the aloof - or showoffs - or those trying too hard to be nice or fit in - will be seen as such and some will take advantage of that. Others wont. Not sure thais do it more - maybe people with less money or with tough lives do it more.