Don't chase happiness

[scubascuba3]

10 hours ago, TheTightArseTraveller said:

The OP was about 'happiness'.  You dont need money for that.  You need health and family. Again, all IN MY HUMBLE OPINION

Yes you do need money, when you run out or haven't got enough happiness deteriorates for sure. Plenty of deadbeats pretend they have money by blowing too much and ending up going home

[Prubangboy]

On 7/21/2025 at 9:16 PM, hotsun said:

There will be sex bots for everyone and the world will be a better place for everyone except women

Yeah,  but who wants to get in there with a bottle brush afterwards?

[Harrisfan]

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11118797/

 

Interesting

[Hummin]

16 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Well, these adrenaline or dopamine peaks you can get with extreme sports, sex, drugs or other stimuli are always going to be limited. You only have so much adreanline, dopamine, your stomach is only so big. Indeed our system can only take so much, some musicians have tried to over indulge in drugs, and paid the ultimate price.

 

Since we are not designed for permanent peaks of happiness, indeed, if we seek them out we may die, these ultra hedonist pursuits of pleasure are bound to never be fully satisfied. Particularly since you need ever increasing larger doses of stimuli to get the same effect.

 

So how come you feel so happiy with yourself now? Because you lsot a lot and had to restart and you feel you've overcome that obstacle?

 

When I could wake up in the morning with no pain, and could walk normal after L4 and L5 degenerated back after a long life with tear and wear, and realized I did not need to chase anything anymore. I didn’t need that extreme lifestyle to feel a moment of bliss, I could create my own moments of peace within without doing any extreme. 

 

And of course the decision I made myself and thought myself every morning, every day, and every night before sleep that I had a good life and I was happy. slowly that actually worked, and long story short, I met my wife, and we have taken time to get to know and learn each other, and together cultivate a healthy relationship. 

 

Just basic stuff you hear life coaches and gurus talk about all the time everywhere on internt. I have used my brain and convinced myself Im happy, because I have everything I need, and as said, I do not need to chase anything anymore. It helps that my wife is a good person, and also very much on pair with me in philosophy of live and we manage to pull in one direction and not all over the place. 

 

Discipline and have something valuable to wake up to helps, and also have some chores you need to do. 

 

The statement "Life and relationships is like a garden, you need to cultivate it with love, nutrition, and care" is a common analogy used to highlight the importance of tending to relationships. Just as a garden requires attention, nurturing, and proper care to thrive, relationships need consistent effort, understanding, and affection to flourish and grow

 

I think most forget to be thankful for what they have, and also forget to say it to themselves and their close ones. At once you say something it becomes manifested, and by time who know what kind of positive effect it will have on your happy chemicals in your brain? You cultivate negativity, you become negative, you cultivate positivity you become positive, and for those of you who know, the difference is like day and night. 

 

off course it helps to be able to travel to Thailand or live in Thailand parts of the year when it is at the darkest and most wet cold climate back home. Still I enjoy those days because I have lived in Thailand for so long that it is actually nice with a weather change once and awhile. Again you turn something negative in to something positive. 

 

It is like everything I read back in the time from big thinkers, who told the truth, simple truths, and now discover it is real when it comes to happiness. But I would say, there are a few elements that needs to be covered, and that’s the financial situation which means you can afford to have at least minimum safety when it comes to if something happens you can actually deal with it without going bankrupt. 

 

 

[Cameroni]

8 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

When I could wake up in the morning with no pain, and could walk normal after L4 and L5 degenerated back after a long life with tear and wear, and realized I did not need to chase anything anymore. I didn’t need that extreme lifestyle to feel a moment of bliss, I could create my own moments of peace within without doing any extreme. 

 

And of course the decision I made myself and thought myself every morning, every day, and every night before sleep that I had a good life and I was happy. slowly that actually worked, and long story short, I met my wife, and we have taken time to get to know and learn each other, and together cultivate a healthy relationship. 

 

Just basic stuff you hear life coaches and gurus talk about all the time everywhere on internt. I have used my brain and convinced myself Im happy, because I have everything I need, and as said, I do not need to chase anything anymore. It helps that my wife is a good person, and also very much on pair with me in philosophy of live and we manage to pull in one direction and not all over the place. 

 

Discipline and have something valuable to wake up to helps, and also have some chores you need to do. 

 

The statement "Life and relationships is like a garden, you need to cultivate it with love, nutrition, and care" is a common analogy used to highlight the importance of tending to relationships. Just as a garden requires attention, nurturing, and proper care to thrive, relationships need consistent effort, understanding, and affection to flourish and grow

 

I think most forget to be thankful for what they have, and also forget to say it to themselves and their close ones. At once you say something it becomes manifested, and by time who know what kind of positive effect it will have on your happy chemicals in your brain? You cultivate negativity, you become negative, you cultivate positivity you become positive, and for those of you who know, the difference is like day and night. 

 

off course it helps to be able to travel to Thailand or live in Thailand parts of the year when it is at the darkest and most wet cold climate back home. Still I enjoy those days because I have lived in Thailand for so long that it is actually nice with a weather change once and awhile. Again you turn something negative in to something positive. 

 

It is like everything I read back in the time from big thinkers, who told the truth, simple truths, and now discover it is real when it comes to happiness. But I would say, there are a few elements that needs to be covered, and that’s the financial situation which means you can afford to have at least minimum safety when it comes to if something happens you can actually deal with it without going bankrupt. 

 

 

 

So if your wife cheated and left you, your happiness would be gone?

 

The garden analogy is good, and of course it's true, you need the financials to be sorted before you can even think about happiness. Without good financials the basics would not be in place.

 

 

[Hummin]

Just now, Cameroni said:

 

So if your wife cheated and left you, your happiness would be gone?

 

 

 

 

Na, Im to old for that to think my life is over if she does, and if she cheats on me there must be a valid reason for her doing so. So it wouldn’t brake me. I would be sad, depressed and it would need time to heal, but we all know it will finely be ok again. A new reset. 

 

When that is said, that’s nothing Im worried about, what we have together feels real, and why worry about something that haven’t happened yet? The sky can fall down tomorrow for what we know, and time is to precious to waste on things you can not control. 

 

You can not make a perfect life, but you can do your best, again just plain obvious things we have heard from before, 

 

When all this is said, life is precious we should live in the moment, it doesnt mean you can allow yourself to make stupid decisions or do stupid things. Everything has consequences for good and bad, 

[Cameroni]

23 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

Na, Im to old for that to think my life is over if she does, and if she cheats on me there must be a valid reason for her doing so. So it wouldn’t brake me. I would be sad, depressed and it would need time to heal, but we all know it will finely be ok again. A new reset. 

 

When that is said, that’s nothing Im worried about, what we have together feels real, and why worry about something that haven’t happened yet? The sky can fall down tomorrow for what we know, and time is to precious to waste on things you can not control. 

 

You can not make a perfect life, but you can do your best, again just plain obvious things we have heard from before, 

 

When all this is said, life is precious we should live in the moment, it doesnt mean you can allow yourself to make stupid decisions or do stupid things. Everything has consequences for good and bad, 

 

i'm sure it won't happen if you tend the garden carefully every day.

 

It was just one of the things you mentioned prominently in why you felt so happy now. Clearly a good partner is crucial. Yet if it depended on that other person it would be a fragile happiness.

 

Everything does have consequences. Scary but true.

[Hummin]

12 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

i'm sure it won't happen if you tend the garden carefully every day.

 

It was just one of the things you mentioned prominently in why you felt so happy now. Clearly a good partner is crucial. Yet if it depended on that other person it would be a fragile happiness.

 

Everything does have consequences. Scary but true.

 

It might be I was thought a valuable lesson and have a bit more humble approach to life now than before, and value life more because Im still here. Many of my friends and people I met is not, so I would say, every day is a bonus for me now, and for rest of my life. 

 

When you live in a bubble to long, it becomes the reality, and at once you stepp outside of that bubble you realize how stupid it was, and how ignorant we where to life itself. 

[Cameroni]

5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

It might be I was thought a valuable lesson and have a bit more humble approach to life now than before, and value life more because Im still here. Many of my friends and people I met is not, so I would say, every day is a bonus for me now, and for rest of my life. 

 

When you live in a bubble to long, it becomes the reality, and at once you stepp outside of that bubble you realize how stupid it was, and how ignorant we where to life itself. 

 

Humility is much underrated and invaluable. Particularly in person. It has to be genuine of course. I think that's why people loved Ozzy Osbourne so much, he was very genuine and honest. Maybe not humble, though.

 

Reinventing yourself now and then is always good. To be stuck in a rut or a bubble is not very conducive to growth. Or we grow or we die. And if we discover how ignorant we are about life, that is helpful too.

 

 

[Harrisfan]

12 minutes ago, Hummin said:

 

It might be I was thought a valuable lesson and have a bit more humble approach to life now than before, and value life more because Im still here. Many of my friends and people I met is not, so I would say, every day is a bonus for me now, and for rest of my life. 

 

When you live in a bubble to long, it becomes the reality, and at once you stepp outside of that bubble you realize how stupid it was, and how ignorant we where to life itself. 

We all live in isolated bubbles judging the world by a few people or news. The average person isn't impressive.

[sidjameson]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

 

When I could wake up in the morning with no pain, and could walk normal after L4 and L5 degenerated back after a long life with tear and wear, and realized I did not need to chase anything anymore. I didn’t need that extreme lifestyle to feel a moment of bliss, I could create my own moments of peace within without doing any extreme. 

 

And of course the decision I made myself and thought myself every morning, every day, and every night before sleep that I had a good life and I was happy. slowly that actually worked, and long story short, I met my wife, and we have taken time to get to know and learn each other, and together cultivate a healthy relationship. 

 

Just basic stuff you hear life coaches and gurus talk about all the time everywhere on internt. I have used my brain and convinced myself Im happy, because I have everything I need, and as said, I do not need to chase anything anymore. It helps that my wife is a good person, and also very much on pair with me in philosophy of live and we manage to pull in one direction and not all over the place. 

 

Discipline and have something valuable to wake up to helps, and also have some chores you need to do. 

 

The statement "Life and relationships is like a garden, you need to cultivate it with love, nutrition, and care" is a common analogy used to highlight the importance of tending to relationships. Just as a garden requires attention, nurturing, and proper care to thrive, relationships need consistent effort, understanding, and affection to flourish and grow

 

I think most forget to be thankful for what they have, and also forget to say it to themselves and their close ones. At once you say something it becomes manifested, and by time who know what kind of positive effect it will have on your happy chemicals in your brain? You cultivate negativity, you become negative, you cultivate positivity you become positive, and for those of you who know, the difference is like day and night. 

 

off course it helps to be able to travel to Thailand or live in Thailand parts of the year when it is at the darkest and most wet cold climate back home. Still I enjoy those days because I have lived in Thailand for so long that it is actually nice with a weather change once and awhile. Again you turn something negative in to something positive. 

 

It is like everything I read back in the time from big thinkers, who told the truth, simple truths, and now discover it is real when it comes to happiness. But I would say, there are a few elements that needs to be covered, and that’s the financial situation which means you can afford to have at least minimum safety when it comes to if something happens you can actually deal with it without going bankrupt. 

 

 

Thank you for that. Reminded me just when I needed reminding (after an hour doom scrolling) that happiness is a few good strategies and a choice one makes to be happy and grateful.

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, Harrisfan said:

We all live in isolated bubbles judging the world by a few people or news. The average person isn't impressive.

I posted this as an reply to you in wrong thread 

 

Anyway I can repost it here

 

This bubble where they think they can buy a girl out of a bar and think they have right to do whatever they wants, never stops to amaze me. That bubble 💭 ain't healthy

 

[Harrisfan]

 

[short-Timer]

15 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

 

Your last four topics you posted today were all shut down today for being inappropriate, yet you claim you post great topics. Two were closed simply for plagiarism. Really sad showing there, Susan. Can't fix hopeless. Whose topics will you try and steal tomorrow?

[fittobethaied]

On 7/21/2025 at 8:12 PM, Harrisfan said:

They say if you chase happiness it runs away like a dog. Let it come to you but how?

 

Some people have told me they can be happy anywhere. Others can't they need specific surroundings. 

 

Where in the mind is happiness generated?

Happiness is extremely elusive and is dictated by external circumstances which can't always be controlled. What you should be looking for is JOY, and that is something that rises up on the inside of you if you are in right relationship with Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit resides in you. JOY remains constant, it never goes away, and it is not dependent on external circumstances. HE will be your rock in times of trouble, and HE is the light at the end of your tunnel, so stop chasing happiness and start seeking Jesus! HE's the only one that can give you the desires of your heart!  

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, fittobethaied said:

Happiness is extremely elusion and is dictated by external circumstances which can't always be controlled. What you should be looking for is JOY, and that is something that rises up on the inside of you if you are in right relationship with Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit resides in you. JOY remains constant, it never goes away, and it is not dependent on external circumstances. HE will be your rock in times of trouble, and HE is the light at the end of your tunnel, so stop chasing happiness and start seeking Jesus! HE's the only one that can give you the desires of your heart!  

Joy sounds the same as happiness.

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, fittobethaied said:

Happiness is extremely elusive and is dictated by external circumstances which can't always be controlled. What you should be looking for is JOY, and that is something that rises up on the inside of you if you are in right relationship with Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit resides in you. JOY remains constant, it never goes away, and it is not dependent on external circumstances. HE will be your rock in times of trouble, and HE is the light at the end of your tunnel, so stop chasing happiness and start seeking Jesus! HE's the only one that can give you the desires of your heart!  

 

Good.

So we dont need women to be happy.

Jc has us covered.

Makes life easier. And less expensive.

 

[mrmicbkktxl]

On 7/21/2025 at 3:53 PM, Harrisfan said:

I think some are only happy complaining. Complaining gives them a chemical fix like problem gamblers.

If not complaining then the <deleted> stays <deleted>ty as it is!!!Only idiots are not complaining if they are not happy with whatever!!!Because of complainers things and products get better unfortunately this is not the case in Thailand

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, mrmicbkktxl said:

If not complaining then the <deleted> stays <deleted>ty as it is!!!Only idiots are not complaining if they are not happy with whatever!!!Because of complainers things and products get better unfortunately this is not the case in Thailand

Thailand has awesome stuff

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

Thailand has awesome stuff

 

What stuff? 

The "stuff" in Thailand keeps you happy?

 

[KhunLA]

36 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

What stuff? 

The "stuff" in Thailand keeps you happy?

 

2 for 1 Pizza Co (NY Style) ... tonight's dinner

2 for 1 Tuesday scoops @ Swensen's

 

Free dog (therapist) dropped off at local Wat 11+ yrs ago

Affordable BEV from CN

Affordable Solar components from CN

 

No RE Taxes on house & greenhouse lot

฿300 yearly tax on other 2 lots

 

On demand accessible healthcare

Almost free healthcare for wife & daughter

 

Inexpensive O&A bungalows, surfside or w/hillside views

 

That's about it, stuff not available back in the mother land 

[Harrisfan]

58 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

What stuff? 

The "stuff" in Thailand keeps you happy?

 

Cheap hotels

Cheap restaurants

Cheap massages

 

This is outside world stuff so not very Buddhist but still

[OneManShow]

Trouble free life is a happy life. 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, KhunLA said:

On demand accessible healthcare

 

You do need to pay, but it's amazing how quick you can get an appointment here. Often the next day.

Back home, the waiting lines were exhausting for a procedure I needed. I kept putting if off. Here, the doctor was available within a few days. 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Free dog (therapist) dropped off at local Wat 11+ yrs ago

 

I need to get a dog.

Will enhance my life a lot.

Met a Thai woman with a pet monkey. Should have asked her about it. 

 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, KhunLA said:

2 for 1 Pizza Co (NY Style) ... tonight's dinner

2 for 1 Tuesday scoops @ Swensen's

 

I'm eating fairly healthy, but still a bit overweight.

Can't do it, man.

No pizza and ice cream for me. Not for a while.

Now may experiment with a supplement that helps digest fats and carbs ie pancreatic support ... to help control that insulin ... 

But God bless you if you can pull it off. 

 

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

 

I need to get a dog.

Will enhance my life a lot.

Met a Thai woman with a pet monkey. Should have asked her about it. 

 

Dogs will do nothing but mask loneliness. Get a girlfriend. 

[Harrisfan]

3 minutes ago, OneManShow said:

Trouble free life is a happy life. 

Doesn't exist though.

[KhunLA]

17 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

I'm eating fairly healthy, but still a bit overweight.

Can't do it, man.

No pizza and ice cream for me. Not for a while.

Now may experiment with a supplement that helps digest fats and carbs ie pancreatic support ... to help control that insulin ... 

But God bless you if you can pull it off. 

 

I cut way back an starchy carbs.  Pizza is only once or twice a month, and actually kind of healthy compared to many foods.  Heavy caloric load though.   Swensen's, 2 scoops, almost every week, but that's about it for my ice cream intake.

 

Other sweet tooth, aside from an occasional turnover/Danish (yesterday), is homemade Cheesecake, once a month, for about a week   Healthiest dessert, but also a caloric load, even with the low sugar content.

 

Intermittent fasting helps a lot, to maintain decent weight.  2000 hrs to near noon, gets them ketones working overtime.   Most everything else eaten is whole foods, homemade from scratch.

 

Drop Glucose from 6.3 (2020) to 5.3 (May 2025), giving the pancreas & liver a break.

 

Cheesecake #s ÷ 12 slices, so not too bad 🙄

 

[ChrisKC]

On 7/21/2025 at 9:16 PM, hotsun said:

There will be sex bots for everyone and the world will be a better place for everyone except women

 

Could be male sex bots for the women too - they then can experience happy endings they have nearly always missed out on!