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Sincerity,or a split-level heart ?

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Does anyone have any suggestions about how to assess women I meet ? It seems to me that many women (I won't say exclusively Thai, as I don't want to be accused of Thai bashing) have an outer persona, but an inner heart as well.

I prefer transparency and one sincere heart rather than an outer false sincerity, and being back stabbed later, after I have given all, emotionally and financially.

I have lived in Thailand, so I know about having to avoid women who ask for money and making me feel guilty if I don't give it. I'm talking about on a personality level.

2 hours ago, Hervey Bay said:

It seems to me that many women (I won't say exclusively Thai, as I don't want to be accused of Thai bashing) have an outer persona, but an inner heart as well.

Oh dear, you have been walking through life and are so misinformed. This description you are making fits almost all people, women as well as men.

3 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

Oh dear, you have been walking through life and are so misinformed. This description you are making fits almost all people, women as well as men.

I agree with you on this.

Applies to all human beings on this planet.

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No golden rule but from my experience:

  • Avoid the tourist traps / expat enclaves. Girls will be after $$ not love even if they’re good at acting

  • Avoid a big age gap. No self-respecting 25 year old will want to be with a pensioner (I don’t know if you are a pensioner but illustrating the point)

  • Time is on your side. Any other motivation will come out in time

    Common sense really!

    Don’t let the bad apples put you off. There are lots of lovely Thai girls / ladies and don’t let the cynics on here tell you there aren’t.

Assume they're bad when you first meet them, though act as if you think they're good - that's your "armour"

Hope to be pleasantly surprised but prepare to be correct in your assumption.

And..always remember...... "Cynicism is the romantic's condom" 😉

Tell them that you are financially poor, but have a good heart and that you do not believe in flaunting wealth or consumer goods.

Seee how fast they run....

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8 hours ago, simon43 said:

Tell them that you are financially poor, but have a good heart and that you do not believe in flaunting wealth or consumer goods.

Seee how fast they run....

.... and since adopting this policy in 2012, I have yet to have a new GF or wife.......

Overwhelmingly, the number one determinant of relationship success is whether or not both people are happy and stable in their current non-relationship life.

The way people are is the way they will tend to be.

You don’t have to assess her through some complicatedanalysis, you just have to observe coldly what you see in that person, and also what you see in yourself

My new partner is very independent and self-sufficient.

She talks a lot about the ethical foundation of Buddhism. She has healthy end. balanced family relationships.

So unsurprisingly, that’s how she is with me.

Caveat: I’m 73, she’s 58. If you’re dating beyond a 15 year age difference, you are inviting more instability into your life.

It doesn’t always have to be that way in the extreme sense, but that’s the big trend and if you buck it, you will have more problems.

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IMHO, men and women are naturally greedy and selfish - it takes effort not to be.

Never give anyone more than you value the sex you receive from them.

It's easy really!

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Never give anyone more than you value the sex you receive from them.

It's easy really!

Yeah good point. Value it like a car.

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