Seems my impression of farang females living in these parts seem to prefer specifically Thai males? Or Asian males in general? Just as how their male counterparts seem to prefer Thai/Asian females?

Hope this isn't too intrusive(?) a question, but... is this just a general trend? Am I generalizing? Why/how does this work? I'd imagine it be easier for them to get together with a partner who shares similar language/culture/background?

Was browsing forums, and I just didn't quite understand how this all worked.

<- Asian, so I probably miss the subtleties of the farang mindset.

Nope, just prefer my husband. I came for a holiday and found my life partner. It didn't have to do with his skin color or his race but the fact that he is kind, decent, honest, hard-working and loving. I wasn't looking for a relationship, or even a fling for that matter.

I think there are plenty of girls who (like alot of the guys) come here looking for a holiday romance with an exotic looking Asian. But those who stay long-term with a partner are generally a different sort of person.

Love is beyond ..........

Love has no boundaris .........

As long as you've got the heart to love and be loved why questioning?

Have to agree word for word with SBK. I wasn't looking for anyone, just stumbled upon my wonderful husband! While I've always been attracted to darker skin, it's never been a particular race such as Asian, African etc..just one of those unexplained attraction things! I have to say that my husband (Thai) is by far the loveliest, most caring, generous partner I've ever been with...lucky I married him!!

Have to agree word for word with SBK. I wasn't looking for anyone, just stumbled upon my wonderful husband! While I've always been attracted to darker skin, it's never been a particular race such as Asian, African etc..just one of those unexplained attraction things! I have to say that my husband (Thai) is by far the loveliest, most caring, generous partner I've ever been with...lucky I married him!!

How long have you been married? are you still on your honeymoon month yet?

If you go to south America, for example you will find the same thing. People travel more and want to meet and mix with other people. Many believe that opposites attract or they are simply looking for something exotic. Or they are convinced that they are not looking at all, but they attract. There are a lot of things that attract some western men to Asian women and some western women to Asian men, not just their beauty. Maybe the physical part or a person's status or wealth (farang women don't seem to be interested in their partners' money, its seems to clear, perhaps the opposite has been true on many occasions) plays some initial role but then there must be something more substantial. Probably similar reasons for the Asian counterparts.

I believe more and more that what the Western man finds in an Asian woman is quite different from what a western woman gets from an Asian man although there are some common points. I think this is because of the bigger differencies between women and men in non western countries. You don't see so many western women prepared for the challenge of starting or keeping a relationship with an Asian man and that's not just because there aren't as many women who live in Asia as there are men. Culturally speaking it can be very challenging for most. Thais are usually a lot more traditional than us 'farang' who have a chance to travel, study and learn so much more. In western society less women are prepared to accept that females must fulfill a traditionally very feminine role.

My personal past experience with Thai men has been the most intense and passionate. Despite of how the majority of fellow female farang women Iheard from describing their (ex or present) Thai male partners (unfaithful, lazy, possessive, opportunitst, sciovinistic, romantic, mysoginist, shy, dishonest, etc..) I still think that each person is so unique and we should have less expectations or prejudice before getting to know each other. When our heart is ready and exactly where it should be we are bound to meet the right person at the right time somewhere unexpected at times.

Although culturally we are very different in many ways. Fortunately true love, tolerance and understanding know no borders. That's why there are several happy mixed couple around like sbk, ruefang and many more.

Have to agree word for word with SBK. I wasn't looking for anyone, just stumbled upon my wonderful husband! While I've always been attracted to darker skin, it's never been a particular race such as Asian, African etc..just one of those unexplained attraction things! I have to say that my husband (Thai) is by far the loveliest, most caring, generous partner I've ever been with...lucky I married him!!

How long have you been married? are you still on your honeymoon month yet?

Just coming up to my second year anniversary Nausiating I know, I try to keep it inside most of the time!!

Have to agree word for word with SBK. I wasn't looking for anyone, just stumbled upon my wonderful husband! While I've always been attracted to darker skin, it's never been a particular race such as Asian, African etc..just one of those unexplained attraction things! I have to say that my husband (Thai) is by far the loveliest, most caring, generous partner I've ever been with...lucky I married him!!

How long have you been married? are you still on your honeymoon month yet?

wow, what an assumption there. RueFang, if I recall, has been married a couple of years? I have been married 18. Does that make me as unrealistic as well?

Love is beyond ..........

Love has no boundaris

รักสุดขอบฟ้า

The sky has no borders

love flows across as easily as a free bird

Love flies across oceans; Love marches across lands.

When love transverses, the vast horizon is at once rendered narrow.

The blue vault of heaven shields

And holds the earth within its embrace;

So does the embrace of love: If it holds someone within,

Neither nationality nor language is as important

As the mutual feelings in the two loving hearts.

Love flies farther than the limits of the sky;

Love is a heavenly language

Though we each possess our own heart --

Treasured separately in each soul of our own--

With our love manifested,

We need not worry about anything.

Though we are at both ends of the sky

Many...many oceans apart--we are under the same sky.

Love has flown across the sky to unite us,

Binding our two true hearts as one.

translated from the 'bird' macintyre song with help and thanx to bambi and friends on TV forum

this is the song i put in our wedding album last year as this is what is written on the placard behind us with our names and the date

since i met anon in israel when he was a foreign worker, i definately wasnt searching for an asian, just ended up with one (although there seems to be a pattern in my former early years in the states i had a thai boyfriend also... hmmm)

bina and anon

Nope, just prefer my husband. I came for a holiday and found my life partner. It didn't have to do with his skin color or his race but the fact that he is kind, decent, honest, hard-working and loving. I wasn't looking for a relationship, or even a fling for that matter.

I think there are plenty of girls who (like alot of the guys) come here looking for a holiday romance with an exotic looking Asian. But those who stay long-term with a partner are generally a different sort of person.

Like sbk, I wasn't particularly looking for a relation, I was single so I guess I was open to meeting someone, just happened to be at the right time and the right place for us to meet. Not relevant to his being Thai, I work here so more opportunities to meet a Thai person than not.

He's a good man, he is sincere, hard working, sexy, fun-loving, caring.

We've been married over 2 years now, we met almost 3 years ago.

Hay gals I do hope you all the best of luck and love ; I was joking honestly !

Very interesting reads!

well, whilst i am not anti-thai, i find that the longer i am here the more appealing western men are to me.

of course, the smooth skin and gorgeous lips of a thai man are undeniably appealing and sensual. i find, however, that i am wanting a man who is on the same page as i am and who has an understanding of western cultures.

of course, never say never, and if an asian man approached me who had what i am looking for, i would certainly lean towards him.

there are good and bad in every race, and whilst my experiences with thai man have not been necessarily fabulous (not ALL bad by the way) i have also seen the worst of the western man living here in phuket! having said that, i did see some absolute hotties today along the beach road.....hubba hubba.

Think it's also a numbers game. Even if you prefer a race other than Thai, there are much more Thais here than anything else. Put another way, say you like 90% of Africans, 80% of Caucasians and 5% of Thais on average. You're more likely to end up with a Thai...

I haven't met a single race yet where there isn't at least one person I like.... So follow thru to its conclusion, and if you spend a long time in a country... then statistically...

Edited September 19, 200718 yr by fletchthai68

Well, like I said in another thread, I met and married my thai husband in the states. We have known each other for 31 years and have been married for almost 29 of those years. We only moved to Thailand four years ago. So you just never know when you see a foreign woman married to a thai what the actual situation is. However, in my experience here I have found that women with thai husbands(whether they married here or abroad) tend to marry thai men that have similar (or even better) backgrounds as themselves. Meaning education, employment, & financial.

I also have some female thai friends married to foreigners living in the states.....but they met their spouses overseas too. Most of these women have similar backgrounds to their husbands. They either met in college or work overseas.

My family is pretty mixed up racially.......natural siblings plus adopted ones.......so I wasn't specifically looking for thai/asian.

Beachbunny

Someone told me love is blind... With that in mind you're more likely to bump into a Thai over here!

Someone told me love is blind... With that in mind you're more likely to bump into a Thai over here!

'xactly

I think travel opens our eyes to the world of difference that is out there. One of my best mates back home is ethnic Vietnamese raised in France and Australia. He is gorgeous, well educated and has a good job. He'd love to date white women but says they look right through him

well, whilst i am not anti-thai, i find that the longer i am here the more appealing western men are to me.

of course, the smooth skin and gorgeous lips of a thai man are undeniably appealing and sensual. i find, however, that i am wanting a man who is on the same page as i am and who has an understanding of western cultures.

this is exactly how i feel. i have a thai boyfriend and he's lovely, but i really miss farang guys.