Farang/thai Partners Influence On Each Other?

[cm-happy]

How has your Thai partner influenced you and how have you influenced your Thai partner?

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

1. the joy of reading--yes, books, papers etc

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

3. temperance-most times successfully, other times not

4. safe sensable driving

5. civic responsibility

6. caring for others, charity, sharing with others less fortunate than yourself

Comments? anyone else care to share the mutual influence between yourself and your Thai partner. Please don't get too personal and keep it within TV guidelines. Thanks

Edited December 19, 2007 by cm-happy

[xyborg]

For her better driving instead of the round the car park Thai joy ride test, some common sense, looking before stepping into the road, there aint no ghosts.

For me to be more patient, this is Thailand, some Thai language usually with roars of laughter, to calm down a bit, cheesiness.

[yorkman]

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

All of the above, excuse the edit but it saves repetition, have been an influence on me.

As for what I have taught her, not quite the importance of education (she is a teacher), but keeping up with events outside Thailand, that there is a wider world out there and that sometimes, just sometimes, it is better to do things the farang way

[Furbie]

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

All of the above, excuse the edit but it saves repetition, have been an influence on me.

As for what I have taught her, not quite the importance of education (she is a teacher), but keeping up with events outside Thailand, that there is a wider world out there and that sometimes, just sometimes, it is better to do things the farang way

Not sure what my current GF has taught me, as I have been in LOS long enough to bend as far as I'm going to bend toward Thai ways.

However, I have taught her:

1) Real pizza does not get ketchup

2) Good buffalo wings do not get ketchup

3) Real pasta sauce does not get ketchup

4) Eggs do get ketchup

5) The sales guy is not to be trusted, he/she does not know what he/she is talking about

6) Double pricing does exist (this took a while)

7) Thai weddings are actually boring

8) A 40" inch TV is not a waste of money

9) Indian food is good

Edited December 19, 2007 by Furbie

[Flash500]

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9) Indian food is good

Why do Thais generally not like Indian food anyway??

[Theyreallrubbish]

Something I've tried to teach many times and failed again and again is that not everyone who flatters you and pays you a lot of attention is really your friend, so don't lend them any more FXXKING money!.

I taught one GF to love lamb. When I first bought it and she cooked it for me she thought it smelled disgusting and looked at me with horror as I put in my mouth. But I forced her to eat a piece. Big mistake. She fell in love with lamb and wanted it for every meal and it costs a fortune in Thailand. That little bit of education probably cost me nearly 1000 Baht a day!

[cm-happy]

Something I've tried to teach many times and failed again and again is that not everyone who flatters you and pays you a lot of attention is really your friend, so don't lend them any more FXXKING money!.

I taught one GF to love lamb. When I first bought it and she cooked it for me she thought it smelled disgusting and looked at me with horror as I put in my mouth. But I forced her to eat a piece. Big mistake. She fell in love with lamb and wanted it for every meal and it costs a fortune in Thailand. That little bit of education probably cost me nearly 1000 Baht a day!

Did you give her mint jelly to go with the lamb? YUM!!!!

[Theyreallrubbish]

Something I've tried to teach many times and failed again and again is that not everyone who flatters you and pays you a lot of attention is really your friend, so don't lend them any more FXXKING money!.

I taught one GF to love lamb. When I first bought it and she cooked it for me she thought it smelled disgusting and looked at me with horror as I put in my mouth. But I forced her to eat a piece. Big mistake. She fell in love with lamb and wanted it for every meal and it costs a fortune in Thailand. That little bit of education probably cost me nearly 1000 Baht a day!

Did you give her mint jelly to go with the lamb? YUM!!!!

She found out that one on her own after buying a western recipe book to find out more ways to cook lamb. She made her own mint sauce from mint she grew herself.

I love lamb, but it got boring everyday she wanted lamb. Not to mention the expense!

[ClaytonSeymour]

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9) Indian food is good

Why do Thais generally not like Indian food anyway??

They don't like the smell. That's why my Wife didn't like it anyway, she has eaten since she's been in the UK, but nothing to do with me - apart from the occasional Tandoori chicken & some of the starters, I don't eat the stuff.

[ClaytonSeymour]

How has your Thai partner influenced you and how have you influenced your Thai partner?

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

1. the joy of reading--yes, books, papers etc

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

3. temperance-most times successfully, other times not

4. safe sensable driving

5. civic responsibility

6. caring for others, charity, sharing with others less fortunate than yourself

Selfishness

Freedom of speech

Comments? anyone else care to share the mutual influence between yourself and your Thai partner. Please don't get too personal and keep it within TV guidelines. Thanks

[ClaytonSeymour]

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

All of the above, excuse the edit but it saves repetition, have been an influence on me.

As for what I have taught her, not quite the importance of education (she is a teacher), but keeping up with events outside Thailand, that there is a wider world out there and that sometimes, just sometimes, it is better to do things the farang way

Not sure what my current GF has taught me, as I have been in LOS long enough to bend as far as I'm going to bend toward Thai ways.

However, I have taught her:

1) Real pizza does not get ketchup

2) Good buffalo wings do not get ketchup

3) Real pasta sauce does not get ketchup

4) Eggs do get ketchup

5) The sales guy is not to be trusted, he/she does not know what he/she is talking about

6) Double pricing does exist (this took a while)

7) Thai weddings are actually boring

8) A 40" inch TV is not a waste of money I've taught mine the exact opposite!

9) Indian food is good

[Macx]

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

1. the joy of reading--yes, books, papers etc

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

How did you achieve that? Thanks!

[chicowoodduck]

Something I've tried to teach many times and failed again and again is that not everyone who flatters you and pays you a lot of attention is really your friend, so don't lend them any more FXXKING money!.

I taught one GF to love lamb. When I first bought it and she cooked it for me she thought it smelled disgusting and looked at me with horror as I put in my mouth. But I forced her to eat a piece. Big mistake. She fell in love with lamb and wanted it for every meal and it costs a fortune in Thailand. That little bit of education probably cost me nearly 1000 Baht a day!

Did you give her mint jelly to go with the lamb? YUM!!!!

I think you are on to something......mint on lamb is like whip cream on pie......m-m-m-m-m-m-good! I'm putting my GF into training right now!

[Theyreallrubbish]

Something I've tried to teach many times and failed again and again is that not everyone who flatters you and pays you a lot of attention is really your friend, so don't lend them any more FXXKING money!.

I taught one GF to love lamb. When I first bought it and she cooked it for me she thought it smelled disgusting and looked at me with horror as I put in my mouth. But I forced her to eat a piece. Big mistake. She fell in love with lamb and wanted it for every meal and it costs a fortune in Thailand. That little bit of education probably cost me nearly 1000 Baht a day!

Did you give her mint jelly to go with the lamb? YUM!!!!

I think you are on to something......mint on lamb is like whip cream on pie......m-m-m-m-m-m-good! I'm putting my GF into training right now!

I was lucky that my GF decided she preferred the vinegary style of mint sauce that I prefer rather than the sweet mint jelly

[PaulUSA302]

I think I have taught some Thai the true meaning of the saying "The check is in the mail."

I also found a way to not make it always "Up to you" (Me). When I ask my friends where would they like to eat and they tell me it is up to me, I suggest we go to the 7-11 and buy some food to eat in the room. They never go for that... That is also when they take more control on where we will go and eat.

[Spee]

Comments? anyone else care to share the mutual influence between yourself and your Thai partner.

For me & Mat the key word is "partner," as in partnership, as in working together for what we both want to do and achieve. I've borrowed the analogy from Robin Williams' character in "Good Will Hunting," in that I'm not perfect, she's not perfect, but if we work hard, trust and respect each other and stay together, then everything will be good in the end. She opened up her family and her world to me and I am opening up my world and my family to her. She has influenced me in ways I would have never expected, and I think I've influenced her in ways she would have never expected. But in the end, isn't that part of the fun, the work and the adventure that goes into any good long term relationship?

[macleod101]

what i have learnt from my thai partner?

how to argue

how to wash-up

how to listen to what she says subconciously.

i've tought her

how to speak english

how to swear

[cm-happy]

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

1. the joy of reading--yes, books, papers etc

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

How did you achieve that? Thanks!

Easy, He sees me reading all the time.

Especially in the evening for a few hours with a book prior to turning off the light and going to sleep.

Parking myself in a chair for a read right after the papers are delivered. These are my nasty habits that He's picked up on and discovered he enjoys also.

discuss news events! Likes to keep up with things. It's a "FACE" thing so He's not embarrassed by not knowing what happening if some one should ask to try to discuss.

Wants to set an example for the kids and people in His home village.

He's the first in his village to finish Matayom 6 and go to Uni. Some thing He's very proud of and gains Him a lot of respect and face there, especially when village elders seek out his advice and opinions on the phone, since we don't live in His village or when we go for a visit.

It's interesting though cause often He has a totally different version of events and perspective, based upon his reading Thai papers, rather then the two most popular English language dailies which I reply upon. He gets much more local news than I, since the BP and Nation are so Bangkok centric and tend to ignore provincial news. Often He tells me whats happening locally.

Pep talks with HIM! about His future that he can do ANY THING he wants with His life. But only with a good education. The paper classifies help, usually requiring a degree for the jobs He might be interested in.

[Furbie]

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9) Indian food is good

Why do Thais generally not like Indian food anyway??

Reasons given to me by Thais:

1) The smell

2) General concerns about the hygene habits of Indians

3) The food is dirty

I had one girl agree to try, and then just sat at the table not eating a single bite. When I asked why, she said the waiter was dirt, and she could only imagine what the cook must be like. That was our last date.

[Furbie]

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

All of the above, excuse the edit but it saves repetition, have been an influence on me.

As for what I have taught her, not quite the importance of education (she is a teacher), but keeping up with events outside Thailand, that there is a wider world out there and that sometimes, just sometimes, it is better to do things the farang way

Not sure what my current GF has taught me, as I have been in LOS long enough to bend as far as I'm going to bend toward Thai ways.

However, I have taught her:

1) Real pizza does not get ketchup

2) Good buffalo wings do not get ketchup

3) Real pasta sauce does not get ketchup

4) Eggs do get ketchup

5) The sales guy is not to be trusted, he/she does not know what he/she is talking about

6) Double pricing does exist (this took a while)

7) Thai weddings are actually boring

8) A 40" inch TV is not a waste of money I've taught mine the exact opposite! (You poor misguided fool!!!)

9) Indian food is good

[too true]

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9) Indian food is good

Why do Thais generally not like Indian food anyway??

They don't like the smell. That's why my Wife didn't like it anyway, she has eaten since she's been in the UK, but nothing to do with me - apart from the occasional Tandoori chicken & some of the starters, I don't eat the stuff.

I agree it's because of the smell, but I wonder if it's because Indian food uses a lot of dried herbs, which give a stronger more pungent smell, while Thai food uses fresh herbs, which have a more subtle smell.

[Scott]

Mine hasn't taught me a lot, but the lessons sure have cost a lot!

[nidge]

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9) Indian food is good

Why do Thais generally not like Indian food anyway??

I lived in Bahrain with my wife for a while. I asked her once if she would like to go on holiday to India. She said No and had a look of total disgust on her face. I asked why. she said, "You know how bad they, (Indians), smell here, imagine what they smell like at home!".

[egg]

I already new how to wash the dishes and the clothes ,,, she taught me to do it more often,, l thought 2 days wearing for work clothes was OK ,,, but no ,,,1 at the most ,, as for the kids clothes ,, l blink and they have changed clothes (more bloody washing) also she has taught me how to get the streaks off the tiled floor after washing it (but l like to forget that one),,,,

as for teaching her ,,, l guess l have but nothing life changing ,, but l know she has much to learn ,( like there is a world outside Thailand),,l have taught her to swear and how to use the middle finger of either hand to tell someone to do something ,,,not long after learning the F word on a trip to Aus we were getting a meal from a buffet ,,l gave her a smile ,, and at the top of her voice ,, back comes ,, " and <deleted> you too " , it was a good idea ,,, but not the right place for that ..

cheers

[cm-happy]

well if nothing else I've learned from this thread:

There seems to be a general prejudice toward Indians(Asian) by Thai people. They smell bad, their food is disgusting, they're dirty!

[tutsiwarrior]

well if nothing else I've learned from this thread:

There seems to be a general prejudice toward Indians(Asian) by Thai people. They smell bad, their food is disgusting, they're dirty!

my wife enjoyed the indian street food in Penang; preferred it to the western falang food at the hotel...but I didn't haveta show her that...she also likes my lasagne...

most of the food that she likes to eat makes me wanna ...

Edited December 20, 2007 by tutsiwarrior

[ClaytonSeymour]

well if nothing else I've learned from this thread:

There seems to be a general prejudice toward Indians(Asian) by Thai people. They smell bad, their food is disgusting, they're dirty!

I don't think Thai's are alone in that perception & it's certainly not unfounded; deodorants clearly aren't used by many people from certain areas of the Indian Sub-Continent.

Indian street food is strongly associated with appalling standards of food hygiene; they don't call it Delhi Belly for nothing.

As another posted commented, it's the herbs and spices used in Sub-Continent cooking that generates much of the odour; it's also the reason why I personally don't care for their food & I forbid its consumption, let alone preparation, on my premises.

Edited December 20, 2007 by ClaytonSeymour

[sbk]

How has your Thai partner influenced you and how have you influenced your Thai partner?

My Thai partner has taught me, by example

1. patience

2. accept things as they are, don't rail about things I cannot change and have no control over

3. Thai ways

4. not to be so fookin "up tight" all the time

5. enjoy life, sabai, sabai

6. the value of family and friends

7. not to be judgemental-goes back to acceptance

I've taught my Thai partner, I hope by example

1. the joy of reading--yes, books, papers etc

2. the joy of learning and importance of education, keeping up with current events(local, national and world wide)

3. temperance-most times successfully, other times not

4. safe sensable driving

5. civic responsibility

6. caring for others, charity, sharing with others less fortunate than yourself

Comments? anyone else care to share the mutual influence between yourself and your Thai partner. Please don't get too personal and keep it within TV guidelines. Thanks

Well, cm-happy, I'd have to say ditto on the list I've learned but totally different on what he has learned. My husband already knows the value of an education, loves to read, very responsible and tends to be too generous with his time and money.

I've taught my Thai partner that it's ok to argue, it's ok to confront sometimes (without getting violent), don't loan 50 baht to every cousin who asks as it is not a loan and adds up quickly, sushi is wonderful, and shouting at stupid drivers on the road (not road rage just a nice little rant in the car) does make one feel better

** and yes, he likes Indian food and has never commented on odor**