No - you specificially said: "I want talking about bar girls" - which is rather misleading when intending the opposite. Given your later comment, I think you meant to write... "I don't want to discuss bar girls and the like"... Or "I'm not discussing bar girls and the like".... (its ok if English is not a primary language - but dont get upset if your intended sentiment is not understood because of a mistake). Moving on - the core flaw in the argument remains. The suggest gulf between "Judeo-Christian values" and Thai Buddhist values on sex is often vastly overstated - in this case with the implication that Thai's have a more relaxed approach than westerners borne of more Judeo-Christian values - Spend enough time navigating wider Thai society and you will find far more overlap than difference, and perhaps even the opposite of your suggestion. If anything, the more interesting distinction is the social stigma attached to reputation - rather than religion or culture. Thailand carries a unique social dynamic whereby a "good girl" is often expected to demonstrate that she is, in fact, a good girl. In a society where transactional relationships and the sex trade has a strong reputation, even when swept under the carpet, many women are acutely aware of the need to distinguish themselves from that world. Reputation matters, family opinion matters, and appearances matter - the sex trade simply cannot be ignored even if you are referring specifically to the attitudes of those well outside of the industry The irony is that this can actually produce more conservative dating behaviour than many Westerners expect. As youngster, in the UK casual sex was arguably far more common than it is amongst many ordinary Thai women of the same age today - particularly when younger. Not because of Christianity, Buddhism, or any great moral divide, but because the social incentives are different. In that sense, the visibility of the sex industry acts as a double-edged sword. It does not necessarily make wider Thai society more sexually liberal. If anything, it can encourage many women to be more selective, more cautious, and more conscious of how they are perceived. So when looking for any reason where there may be different or more relaxed or disciplined attitude towards sex, we first need ensure we are not misunderstanding the very society they are trying to describe and ignore some of key facet that influences it.
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