Nurses (romantic Involvement With)

[Maigo6]

My friend was having a passionate relationship with a nurse for 2 years.

Last week he went for a test and was diagnosed positive for FIRST AIDS.

And what was her Test Results ?

I hope that yet another Farang hasn't given HIV to an unsuspecting Thai.

[thesunset75]

many of her friends and 80% of them still single hehehe anyone interest plz contact me oops !!!

Yep, many Nurses just don't have time for boyfriends.

And they have time for girlfriends ? hehehe

Only if the Farang is lucky !

Best wish for all the farangs then they are lucky and have a nurse's girlfriends

[thesunset75]

many of her friends and 80% of them still single hehehe anyone interest plz contact me oops !!!

Yep, many Nurses just don't have time for boyfriends.

And they have time for girlfriends ? hehehe

Okay pm sent with my number. No block call please.

kidding, I cant play a cupid

[thesunset75]

My friend was having a passionate relationship with a nurse for 2 years.

Last week he went for a test and was diagnosed positive for FIRST AIDS.

They have to take a test before study - work as a nurse

[jfchandler]

I'm assuming the poster below was JOKING.... as in.... FIRST AID (not AIDS)....as in minor medical treatment...because he'd had a nurse as his GF.....

My friend was having a passionate relationship with a nurse for 2 years.

Last week he went for a test and was diagnosed positive for FIRST AIDS.

[Maigo6]

Best wish for all the farangs then they are lucky and have a nurse's girlfriends

Yea....

Many men would go crazy at the idea that their Girlfriend had a Boyfriend on the side, yet would have an instant hard on if they discovered she had a female lover.

[thesunset75]

Best wish for all the farangs then they are lucky and have a nurse's girlfriends

Yea....

Many men would go crazy at the idea that their Girlfriend had a Boyfriend on the side, yet would have an instant hard on if they discovered she had a female lover.

then it would be a big jackpot he will have 2 gfs if they could make a deal

[sgtpeppers]

My friend was having a passionate relationship with a nurse for 2 years.

Last week he went for a test and was diagnosed positive for FIRST AIDS.

oh my god. have you no shame ?

[a2396]

I am curious as to what the fact that she is a nurse has to do with anything...

She raised the issue about nurses expected to be "good girls", quite early in the relationship. Her view and apparently that of many of her associates is that many (if not most) Thai women are involved with a foreigner for money. Therefore, she would be viewed as a gold digger. In addition, if a Thai woman is involved in a relationship with a foreign man, it should be obvious that it will be leading to a marriage forthwith, ie not casual dating. Our's was not headed down that path. I have seen this attitude before with other Thai's vis-avis dating Farangs. It is interesting that her roomate, who has a Thai boyfriend, sleeps with him at his house on weekends, with full knowledge of his parents, who also live in the house - no problem. So much for the double standard.

[Maigo6]

It is interesting that her roomate, who has a Thai boyfriend, sleeps with him at his house on weekends, with full knowledge of his parents, who also live in the house - no problem. So much for the double standard.

Yeah, but is he old enough to be her grandfather ?

Edited September 8, 2008 by Maigo6

[a2396]

I have a Western friend who is married to a trauma nurse. No issues. Sounds to me as if she is throwing up road blocks.

I have, however, dated women who have kept their relationship with me out of their work lives and family lives. Most women are concerned about being seen casually dating Western men – not so much dating Western men. Once the relationship is serious, low and behold, instant boyfriend, almost like the previous dating months did not exists. I was with my current GF for sometime before she told her family she was dating a Westerner.

You are quite correct and I pointed this out in an earlier post. I told her many times to keep quiet about our relationship, especially to her parents. Well, she did not and the requests for money for the family started coming in, with various desires for "upgrades & add-on's". After I refused such ideas, her visits to see me and interest in me declined, to where she only visited me once in the past 3 months.

[Nampeung]

In my experience of Thai nurses (as a patient) they are usually very bad tempered and unhelpful - maybe they don't get paid enough I don't know but it sure doesn't make for a pleasant experience when you are ill

[a2396]

It is interesting that her roomate, who has a Thai boyfriend, sleeps with him at his house on weekends, with full knowledge of his parents, who also live in the house - no problem. So much for the double standard.

Yeah, but is he old enough to be her grandfather ?

I see your still the "potshot" champ of Thai visa. I doubt if any Farangs of any age would be allowed such leeway to sleep with a Thai girl in here parents house. And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

[Maigo6]

It is interesting that her roomate, who has a Thai boyfriend, sleeps with him at his house on weekends, with full knowledge of his parents, who also live in the house - no problem. So much for the double standard.

Yeah, but is he old enough to be her grandfather ?

I see your still the "potshot" champ of Thai visa. I doubt if any Farangs of any age would be allowed such leeway to sleep with a Thai girl in here parents house. And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

Sorry a2396, I must have touched a nerve, don't take it personal, I don't even know you.

You're asking advice from total strangers on an anonymous internet forum on your relationship issues in Thailand, what do you want to hear, only things that you agree with, or other peoples opinions?

I asked you the age difference, you refused to give that information, so what do you want ?

You just wanna hear what you wanna hear..........

Jeeez, get real!

[Maigo6]

And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

I'm 21 and an Eskimo, I'm 99 and a Roman, I'm 55 and come from the Amazonian rainforest , would any of these scenarios make any difference to your relationship problems ?

An intelligent discussion entails a little more than reading what you agree with and what benefits you.

I did try, but you still refuse to give data on age difference , and that can have a dramatic difference in a relationship.

You ask for advice and refuse to give details, and you expect intelligent feedback ?

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Edited September 8, 2008 by Maigo6

[a2396]

And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

I'm 21 and an Eskimo, I'm 99 and a Roman, I'm 55 and come from the Amazonian rainforest , would any of these scenarios make any difference to your relationship problems ?

An intelligent discussion entails a little more than reading what you agree with and what benefits you.

I did try, but you still refuse to give data on age difference , and that can have a dramatic difference in a relationship.

You ask for advice and refuse to give details, and you expect intelligent feedback ?

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She was obviously well aware of the age situation, whatever it is, from the beginning. It was not a deterrent in the relationship continuing for over one year. The deterrent was largely my unwillingness to cough up sums of money whenever requested. I am interested in other members real-life experiences in similar situations. I have not seen you provided anything like that. In contrast, most of your comments to this post and numerous others that I have read in this forum, are nothing more than scarcastic, antagonistic "Farang Baiting". I don't see what purpose this serves to you or anyone else.

[Dakhar]

And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

I'm 21 and an Eskimo, I'm 99 and a Roman, I'm 55 and come from the Amazonian rainforest , would any of these scenarios make any difference to your relationship problems ?

An intelligent discussion entails a little more than reading what you agree with and what benefits you.

I did try, but you still refuse to give data on age difference , and that can have a dramatic difference in a relationship.

You ask for advice and refuse to give details, and you expect intelligent feedback ?

:

She was obviously well aware of the age situation, whatever it is, from the beginning. It was not a deterrent in the relationship continuing for over one year. The deterrent was largely my unwillingness to cough up sums of money whenever requested. I am interested in other members real-life experiences in similar situations. I have not seen you provided anything like that. In contrast, most of your comments to this post and numerous others that I have read in this forum, are nothing more than scarcastic, antagonistic "Farang Baiting". I don't see what purpose this serves to you or anyone else.

Age was obviosly a determent.

1) If you were near her own age, she would not have been percieved as a gold digger

2) Because you are no where near her age, the only thing (in her mind) the public would think about her when they saw her with you was... "She is another sleezey gold digger.... leading on some old codger for his dough."

So that is why she tried to keep the relationship on "the low" and the truth of the matter is, she was a gold digger, you already stated that.

So in a way, you and her, are both running away from the truth. the truth is:

You are old enough to be her father, and she is a gold digger....

Amen.

I married an educated Thai girl, never did she worry about public scrutiny... it is probably because:

1) I am 5 years her senior, not 50 years her senior

2) We met in the US while she was working on her MeD

But don't get me wrong though. I envy the old codgers with 20 year girl friends.... Heck, when I am an old coot and need my wife to help me find my false teeth, I would love for her to look like a beauty queen too. (no matter what the cost)

[kyb789]

There's not some taboo against farang dating Thai nurses. Some Thais merely don't like seeing a Thai girl with a foreigner. It's like when some white people don't like to see a black guy dating a white women. It's just racism and ignorance. If you like the girl, go for her. If she rebuffs you, then you lose. If she likes you, then go for it. All other issues should not concern you. If you were trying to date the girl and that was her excuse for not dating you, then from your perspective, it's her loss. Just move on as she's just coming up with excuses that might sound plausible and she has her own reservations either about you or about dating a "farang."

Thank you. I agree with your comments. My story is rather lengthy & complicated, but the bottom line with her is that 1. She would prefer a suitable Thai husband & any visable involvement with me would no doubt tarnish her chances and 2. She expects involvement with a Farang man will bring her great riches. I have explained this is not the case with me. The relationship is over because of these reasons and has been for about two months. The final air was cleared last night on the phone. Interestingly, she had no reservations about asking me for considerable sums of money or big ticket items, such as a notebook computer, when she knew the realtionship was basically over in her eyes two or three months ago.

Geez man. I can't quite understand where the emotional attatchment is coming from. What is you just said (if you read carefully) is that she left you because she didn't have the keys to your wallet. Run like the wind. Girls like that will ruin you. There are so many quality Thai ladies to be found with a huge heart, and honest intentions. There are SOOO many good Thai girls that would love a good foreigner husband and not want his money.

[Maigo6]

And how old are you and what nationality, since you enjoy slamming any and all Farangs trying to hold in intelligent discussion on this forum.

I'm 21 and an Eskimo, I'm 99 and a Roman, I'm 55 and come from the Amazonian rainforest , would any of these scenarios make any difference to your relationship problems ?

An intelligent discussion entails a little more than reading what you agree with and what benefits you.

I did try, but you still refuse to give data on age difference , and that can have a dramatic difference in a relationship.

You ask for advice and refuse to give details, and you expect intelligent feedback ?

:

She was obviously well aware of the age situation, whatever it is, from the beginning. It was not a deterrent in the relationship continuing for over one year. The deterrent was largely my unwillingness to cough up sums of money whenever requested. I am interested in other members real-life experiences in similar situations. I have not seen you provided anything like that. In contrast, most of your comments to this post and numerous others that I have read in this forum, are nothing more than scarcastic, antagonistic "Farang Baiting". I don't see what purpose this serves to you or anyone else.

It's not Farang baiting, it's just that I don't type what you wanna read. I'm sure if you were Thai you would view my posts differently, you may disagree with my posts but don't take them personally.

You still never answered my very simple question, what is the age difference between you and the nurse ?

You have dodged this question all along, how can you expect any serious responses when you refuse to give details, you ask for people to respond who have had similar experiences, yet how do they know what your experiences are. Are you 5 years older or 50 years older ?

If you think it makes no difference, then you really are in the twilight zone.

Edited September 8, 2008 by Maigo6

[Maigo6]

There are SOOO many good Thai girls that would love a good foreigner husband and not want his money.

I agree there are many good Thai girls, a major problem is finding a good Farang.

Edited September 8, 2008 by Maigo6

[Sabum]

Best wish for all the farangs then they are lucky and have a nurse's girlfriends

Yea....

Many men would go crazy at the idea that their Girlfriend had a Boyfriend on the side, yet would have an instant hard on if they discovered she had a female lover.

then it would be a big jackpot he will have 2 gfs if they could make a deal

uh, ok THAT got my attention, if you know any 2 thai girls willing to share a handsome 30's man you send me a pm! I'll be the best dam_n boyfriend EVAH!

[gunnyd]

I am a nurse married to a Filipina MD who works as a nurse in the US. Wrap your head around that. As for racial comments, at home when we lived in California, I would frequently hear "White on rice" and "He's got Yellow Fever". Asians everywhere seem to look down upon them marrying a white guy.

[deon]

Well my wife sister is a nurse,and she is married to a Thai .she sure does work hard to , when ever we go to the hospital to see her everyone is fine with me .even though i am a farang kak abung lol as some say.

Infact a few of the nurses have farang boy friend , so i dont see why you would have any problems .

[zorro1]

Since the poster is avoiding age issues one can only assume its a large. Wouldn't matter what her profession is even B/Gs would prefer a boyfriend their own age. Really all the advice provided here is meaningless if your 60 and she 22. Or your 22 and she is 60

If you really want a nurse that bad just rent one

Edited September 8, 2008 by zorro1

[stephaniee]

There's not some taboo against farang dating Thai nurses. Some Thais merely don't like seeing a Thai girl with a foreigner. It's like when some white people don't like to see a black guy dating a white women. It's just racism and ignorance. If you like the girl, go for her. If she rebuffs you, then you lose. If she likes you, then go for it. All other issues should not concern you. If you were trying to date the girl and that was her excuse for not dating you, then from your perspective, it's her loss. Just move on as she's just coming up with excuses that might sound plausible and she has her own reservations either about you or about dating a "farang."

Thank you. I agree with your comments. My story is rather lengthy & complicated, but the bottom line with her is that 1. She would prefer a suitable Thai husband & any visable involvement with me would no doubt tarnish her chances and 2. She expects involvement with a Farang man will bring her great riches. I have explained this is not the case with me. The relationship is over because of these reasons and has been for about two months. The final air was cleared last night on the phone. Interestingly, she had no reservations about asking me for considerable sums of money or big ticket items, such as a notebook computer, when she knew the realtionship was basically over in her eyes two or three months ago.

you guys call it romance. they see it as farang atm. not in all cases but most!

[Heng]

Kind of strange to try to generalize from gals from an entire profession, but this is the net and TV... so it's all good.

Have been involved with a few before getting married, and they all had rather different personalities. If there was ANY common thread among nurses was that they tended to be a little more willing to cut loose (more willing to stay out later, more open to drinking, more...) after work than say gals doing pre-med, finance, etc. who were more likely to to attempt to adhere to the traditional 'good girl' norms. As most younger local guys know, these gals are a little more 'gep got.' (their work stress demands some release)

Edited September 8, 2008 by Heng

[a2396]

Just a comment for the "age police" out there - As I have stated previously, she showed no reservations concerning age difference for the past year. The relationship started strong and continued to progress. She inquired several time about my Father, who lives overseas and asked me to send him her picture. Yes, I am young enough to have a living Father. I am sure some of you think he must be at least age 150+ AND, believe it or not, I still have all my teeth & don't need viagra. Things cooled off when I refused numerous requests to upgrade & increase monetary allotments, some at the behest of her parents. If I had been willing to so provide, I am sure the relationship would still be going. My present love is 24 and enjoys the physical part of our relationship quite well. I just brought this topic up, because I never heard this "good girl" excuse used before by anyone. My opinion is that there is some truth to her concern that a Thai lady with foreigner, particularly without benefit of marriage, is viewed with disdain & suspicion by some judgemental Thais. This MIGHT have impacted her nursing career at some point. However, the real bottom line was money.

[G54]

Well, sounds like you have your answer. But yes, it's not something specific to nurses. It's true that some women are afraid of dating farang for fear will tarnish their image. I suppose it could be so among some Thais and I suppose other Thais wouldn't care. Well, just move on then. Not worth wasting any more time over. That's life, aye?

Definitely. For many of the more 'conservative' Thai women.

I am sure I recall being told a long time ago that most Thai women whose relationships with a Farang fail are deemed tarnished women (unless they have done well out of it financially!!!)

As for asking for 'big ticket items' when she already knew the relationship was doomed, that would add credence to the above would it not?

[Sabum]

The good girl excuse was BS, you know thiis but are having a hard time fully accepting. It was all about the money, it was always all about the money. When the price of your hottie rent went up and you were unwilling to pay that was it. If you want to believe she was enjoying the sex thats your perogative, but it had nothing to do with the business transaction you were engaged in. Maybe you are having a hard time because you dont realise its not normal for men to pay their girlfriends or the associated families? Let me assure you it is not. Try to find some Thai men paying girlfriends, they are paying jack and <deleted>, in fact, they are most likely taking their girlfriends money. So my advice to you is find a woman you dont have to pay to keep her around. That will be real and you will have less stress and less surprises. If she lands up being in her 30's or 40's dont be suprised as it will be next to impossible to find a 20's girl that is willing to tolerate bad looks, fat body, balding and awful fashion sense without payment. This is the real deal here, dont hate me for laying it out straight.

[zorro1]

The good girl excuse was BS, you know thiis but are having a hard time fully accepting. It was all about the money, it was always all about the money. When the price of your hottie rent went up and you were unwilling to pay that was it. If you want to believe she was enjoying the sex thats your perogative, but it had nothing to do with the business transaction you were engaged in. Maybe you are having a hard time because you dont realise its not normal for men to pay their girlfriends or the associated families? Let me assure you it is not. Try to find some Thai men paying girlfriends, they are paying jack and <deleted>, in fact, they are most likely taking their girlfriends money. So my advice to you is find a woman you dont have to pay to keep her around. That will be real and you will have less stress and less surprises. If she lands up being in her 30's or 40's dont be suprised as it will be next to impossible to find a 20's girl that is willing to tolerate bad looks, fat body, balding and awful fashion sense without payment. This is the real deal here, dont hate me for laying it out straight.

dam_n you been around the block for sure. Excellent perspective and should be a pop up when registering on TV first time.