Adopting Your Thai Ex-girlfriend

[Svenn]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people- it allows the two to still have a conceptually close relationship (though obviously it'd be a kind of weird parent-child-romance thing) but they wouldn't actually live together (or necessarily in the same country) and it allows the parent to have the freedom to explore other people... without the girl having to worry about her future. I'm thinking of this adoption being a 10 years max type interim-transition deal, not permanent- obviously some women seriously would want to start a family, at which point the parent would probably want to let go of her.

I know this is all really weird sounding, but I'm not being trollish, I'm seriously trying to think of a solution for people in financially-disparate relationships, or maybe even for myself if anything turns sour in the future. Anyone have any thoughts or experiences? thanks.

[GuestHouse]

Did it ever occur to you that she probably did not need saving from herself in the first place?

[mmushr00m]

It's already happening its called "sponsoring". You send money every month and thats it.

She can do whatever she wants with the money and you have that good feeling of helping someone thats poorer then you.

No need to reinvent the wheel.

[farangnahrak]

teach her how to fish . . . meaning give her the western skills so she can earn her own way. giving money will make her less motivated to work, and more dependent on handouts . . .

[patklang]

the mind boggles.do people spend hours thinking about how crap a post they can come up with.

[bruceboy]

Have to admit, that I have never heard of this before.

[kingwillly]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people- it allows the two to still have a conceptually close relationship (though obviously it'd be a kind of weird parent-child-romance thing) but they wouldn't actually live together (or necessarily in the same country) and it allows the parent to have the freedom to explore other people... without the girl having to worry about her future. I'm thinking of this adoption being a 10 years max type interim-transition deal, not permanent- obviously some women seriously would want to start a family, at which point the parent would probably want to let go of her.

I know this is all really weird sounding, but I'm not being trollish, I'm seriously trying to think of a solution for people in financially-disparate relationships, or maybe even for myself if anything turns sour in the future. Anyone have any thoughts or experiences? thanks.

crazy idea.

move on.

dont try and be a knight in shining armour.

[patklang]

what if she is 5 years older than yourself

[Birdman]

better: adopt the whole family

best: adopt the whole village

absolut: adopt whole Issan

[Sarge]

dunno but I'm struggling to understand some of the new topics today. Perhaps not having my usual espresso coffee fix has something to do with it

[Maizefarmer]

Have to admit, that I have never heard of this before.

Yup - have to agree: I've read some weired and wonderful posts on TV, but this one .........

[girlx]

sounds like an utterly ridiculous idea to me. whoever heard of adopting an adult? they should be capable of fending for themselves.

[dave111223]

I guess if you want to be able to say "I f**ked my daughter" then go ahead and get the adoption papers.

Then again you could just move to Alabama or somewhere?

[Changkok]

This has to be the most foolish thing i have heard for a very long time, BUT somehow i do not believe it. :D :D

[bonobo]

I am not writing that this would be the best solution for the OP's query, but I did know a couple who adopted a 34-year-old woman. The woman had had a serious infection in her brain when she was 5 years old and basically never aged mentally since that time. My friends, who were in their late 60's, started taking care of her when her parents (school classmates of the wife) died in a car wreck some 5 or 6 years earlier. Concerned about her care should anything happen to them, they adopted her to give her legal, financial, and medical protection (my friends were retired military, so the woman would get a lifetime of care as a disabled dependant.)

In this case, I think the adult adoption option is rather silly. As one poster already posted, if the OP feels any degree of responsibility to the woman in question, a simple unofficial sponsorship would take care of it. Heck, he can even make her a beneficiary on his will and insurance.

Edited November 22, 2008 by bonobo

[CuriousGeorge77]

teach her how to fish . . . meaning give her the western skills so she can earn her own way. giving money will make her less motivated to work, and more dependent on handouts . . .

You must be an American....

I'd say the same thing. Get her through college. If she goes back to Thailand with a Western education, then she'll be able to set herself up in the middle / upper-middle class. She'd likely make more money than you'd be sending her with a sponsorship.

Of course, if she gets that education, she's be able to get sugar herself, and maybe won't hang around her sugar daddy anymore.

[geriatrickid]

Have to admit, that I have never heard of this before.

Different variation of the Anna Nicole Smith and that 90 year old guy she umm married I guess.

[samuibeachcomber]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people- it allows the two to still have a conceptually close relationship (though obviously it'd be a kind of weird parent-child-romance thing) but they wouldn't actually live together (or necessarily in the same country) and it allows the parent to have the freedom to explore other people... without the girl having to worry about her future. I'm thinking of this adoption being a 10 years max type interim-transition deal, not permanent- obviously some women seriously would want to start a family, at which point the parent would probably want to let go of her.

I know this is all really weird sounding, but I'm not being trollish, I'm seriously trying to think of a solution for people in financially-disparate relationships, or maybe even for myself if anything turns sour in the future. Anyone have any thoughts or experiences? thanks.

so you want your cake and eat it too,but feel the need to massage your guilt,what a tosser.

[Kerryd]

Adopting your Adult Ex-Girlfriend ?

And what happens when you get all hot and horny for her again ?

Or when your "daughter" introduces you to her new boyfriend, and he's even older than you are !

It may come as a bit of a shock to you, but I'm pretty sure she survived before meeting you, and I'm pretty sure she'll survive afterwards as well. Maybe better than you expect.

[F1fanatic]

Adopting your Adult Ex-Girlfriend ?

And what happens when you get all hot and horny for her again ?

Or when your "daughter" introduces you to her new boyfriend, and he's even older than you are !

It may come as a bit of a shock to you, but I'm pretty sure she survived before meeting you, and I'm pretty sure she'll survive afterwards as well. Maybe better than you expect.

Be fair, she'll survive a lot better with his help!

[1000baht]

I guess if you want to be able to say "I f**ked my daughter" then go ahead and get the adoption papers.

Then again you could just move to Alabama or somewhere?

Thats a good post right there. Its clear the OP has feelings for this person and wants to take care of them. But it just seems to Jerry Springer for me to understand man.

[McLovin]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people- it allows the two to still have a conceptually close relationship (though obviously it'd be a kind of weird parent-child-romance thing) but they wouldn't actually live together (or necessarily in the same country) and it allows the parent to have the freedom to explore other people... without the girl having to worry about her future. I'm thinking of this adoption being a 10 years max type interim-transition deal, not permanent- obviously some women seriously would want to start a family, at which point the parent would probably want to let go of her.

I know this is all really weird sounding, but I'm not being trollish, I'm seriously trying to think of a solution for people in financially-disparate relationships, or maybe even for myself if anything turns sour in the future. Anyone have any thoughts or experiences? thanks.

This would have to be one of the most stupidest proposals I have ever heard off. People adopt children, not ex girlfriends. You should really seek serious mental help treatment. Thailand is definately not the place for you.

[McLovin]

Whose your Daddy ....

"My stupid ex farang, he adopted me"

[sassienie]

TROLL!

[Moonrakers]

I wonder what my chances of being adopted by Madonna are?

Maybe I should send her a link to this thread.

[Neeranam]

I'd rather adopt an elephant, which I did once.

[JetsetBkk]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people...

No need to "adopt" or sign anything unless you want some kind of control over her. Just keep transferring money into her bank account every month - 10,000 baht would be more than enough for a country girl. I understand how you feel and hope you can move on from this failed relationship.

[McLovin]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people...

No need to "adopt" or sign anything unless you want some kind of control over her. Just keep transferring money into her bank account every month - 10,000 baht would be more than enough for a country girl. I understand how you feel and hope you can move on from this failed relationship.

JetsetBKK you are as equally pathetic as the OP. What misguided world are you all living in. If the relationship is over, its over. Chances are it is over because she got a better offer from some other equally naieve farang. I am sure the TG will be laughing all the way to the bank with her new boyfriend, or even better the shady thai BF who has been lurking in the background all along.

Adoption, sending money each month ........ for <deleted>#ks sake, no wonder so many Thais think we are stupid buffalos. I am starting to know why...

[lazygourmet]

Would it work the opposite way: my girlfriend adopting me, and then I become Thai national?

Actually, no good idea, I would miss my every three months escapades...

[HorseDoctor]

Hi all, this is a serious thread. I've heard from several farangs, with thai girlfriends from poorer backgrounds, who face the moral dilemma of wanting to move on to other relationships but they still have enough concern for their former partner to not want them thrown back into the ruthless life of being poor and thai and alone. If the girl isn't particularly interested in finding new love or a new bf, I've been wondering if adult adoption isn't the solution for the two people...

No need to "adopt" or sign anything unless you want some kind of control over her. Just keep transferring money into her bank account every month - 10,000 baht would be more than enough for a country girl. I understand how you feel and hope you can move on from this failed relationship.

JetsetBKK you are as equally pathetic as the OP. What misguided world are you all living in. If the relationship is over, its over. Chances are it is over because she got a better offer from some other equally naieve farang. I am sure the TG will be laughing all the way to the bank with her new boyfriend, or even better the shady thai BF who has been lurking in the background all along.

Adoption, sending money each month ........ for <deleted>#ks sake, no wonder so many Thais think we are stupid buffalos. I am starting to know why...

Buffaloes? I thought we were fat white potatos??

HOw is it Thai women get away with this goldigging BS? Western women get called CENSORED for behaving like CENSORED.

Give her a kickin the pants and tell her to support herself and stop depending on men .