Hi,

I've been together with my wife (thai) for over 5 years now and we have lovely children and a good life in Bangkok.

Recently my wife has become convinced that one of the female teachers at our kids school (farang) has a thing for me and talks about it regularly. "Miss X said this today... Miss X really wants to see you ... etc"

Miss X is a great teacher and a very nice person who we both like, but I love my wife and have no intention of starting anything, in fact the whole thing never even entered my head before my wife started talking about it.

A little background, before I continue, is that my wife was fairly inexperienced sexually when we first met, but has gradually become more confident over 5 years and is now quite adventurous in bed.

Now my wife has suggested to me that we should have Miss X in 3-in-a-bed sex and I am surprised/shocked and a bit confused.

- Is she suggesting this because she thinks I like Miss X and is scared I am going to start something? or that I need a farang woman sometimes (she has mentioned this before)

- Does she like Miss X and wants to start something herself? (maybe already? - I'm away on business a lot)

- Is she just testing me to see if I want to have sex with Miss X? (what guy is not going to consider menage-a-trois if it's offered!? but as I said, it never entered my head before)

This whole thing is quite dangerous (for our relationship) and I wish it had never come up, but now that it has, I want to understand her motivation, because it may be down to her feeling insecure with my (completely non-sexual) relationship with a farang woman.

My head hurts!

I don't know your wife and can't know how she thinks, you should know her better than we do, but to be honest, it sounds like a test. Thai women especially are quite fond of these little tests and your reaction is what she is most likely looking for.

I would agree with SBK, and be a little cautious here....

I agree with above and i you do go ahead with the threesome it will be more than your head that hurts!

Cheers, Rick

you may be mistaken about her previous experiences

Sbk is correct,

to confirm this you should act upset and almost angry, give her a grilling also "why you ask like this? etc", at her preposterous suggestion and watch her reaction.

if it is a test or not, you don't want her playing these games .

I definitely thought it was a test to start with, but then I started to think about all the other things she said and it seemed like it might have been her insecurity, thinking that I would prefer a farang woman to her???

I don't know what she would hope to achieve with having a threesome, but perhaps she feels she would rather know about it if it was going to happen

I can't imagine a western woman taking that view, but Thai is a bit different. They have lived with the mia noi culture for a long time...

Mia noi culture is quite different from having a threesome!

I also cannot know what your wife is thinking, but does sound like its a test.

definately sounds like a test. If it's not and you go through with it it'll end in tears.. And you'll be crying all alone. Have a serious chat with your partner about commitment I reckon.

Hi,

I've been together with my wife (thai) for over 5 years now and we have lovely children and a good life in Bangkok.

Recently my wife has become convinced that one of the female teachers at our kids school (farang) has a thing for me and talks about it regularly. "Miss X said this today... Miss X really wants to see you ... etc"

Miss X is a great teacher and a very nice person who we both like, but I love my wife and have no intention of starting anything, in fact the whole thing never even entered my head before my wife started talking about it.

A little background, before I continue, is that my wife was fairly inexperienced sexually when we first met, but has gradually become more confident over 5 years and is now quite adventurous in bed.

Now my wife has suggested to me that we should have Miss X in 3-in-a-bed sex and I am surprised/shocked and a bit confused.

- Is she suggesting this because she thinks I like Miss X and is scared I am going to start something? or that I need a farang woman sometimes (she has mentioned this before)

- Does she like Miss X and wants to start something herself? (maybe already? - I'm away on business a lot)

- Is she just testing me to see if I want to have sex with Miss X? (what guy is not going to consider menage-a-trois if it's offered!? but as I said, it never entered my head before)

This whole thing is quite dangerous (for our relationship) and I wish it had never come up, but now that it has, I want to understand her motivation, because it may be down to her feeling insecure with my (completely non-sexual) relationship with a farang woman.

My head hurts!

My head is clear, hey my friend sound like you might have a BI Lady, trust me there are many in Thailand,Darn I WISH I could so lucky. May I suggest+ call her test, say bring the teacher on for a little strip dance, see how your lady react. WOW!! its like marry one, get one free,Miss X sounds like a clean and Health one, I know many GUYS that would be ok with that. :D

Yes, good idea BigSnake. Tell her to bring it on, that you are more than happy to have a threesome with the teacher and then watch your wife walk out the door.

Don't say what you don't mean.

That said, she needs to feel the same and if she is testing you that means one of two things, she is insecure in her relationship with you or she is a jealous type and she is putting you in the position of being the guilty party regardless of the fact that she is the one that created the situation.

It seems to me you need to have a serious heart to heart honest conversation with your wife about what is really going on here.

This forum must be very popular as everyone with a problem seems to know about this site.Another newbie op,sounds dodgy or what????

Ask your kids whether Miss X comes to the house often and you will know if it is a test or a relationship...

more like a trollish questions. I can't imagine registering on a public boards and rising these kind of subjects. Some people do have a kick from writing on the net

Tell her it's not the teacher you want a threesome with, it's her sister.

My Thai ex made some comments totally out of the blue after we'd been together quite some time. After splitting up and some time after as well, I asked her what she meant when she had said that. She was straight up that it was and was not a test at the same time.

If I had wanted someone else, she said it was ok as long as not in our bed, not one of her friends, she didn't want to know etc. Later she explained that had I taken her up on the offer (I told her that I had everything I wanted with her - which was 100% true) she would have understood, she would not have left, but it would have changed the course of our relationship and how she felt about me. Not partaking of the forbidden fruit and not doing so ever afterwards was she explained what she wanted to hear and then see and it allowed her to commit more deeply and view us as more serious.

She then went and wrecked it all by herself !

This forum must be very popular as everyone with a problem seems to know about this site.Another newbie op,sounds dodgy or what????

I reckon these newbies posting such errr 'private' questions must be existing members that don't want to put their query out under their usual member name. So they create a new account, get their query answered and then the newbie account goes quiet until their next errr 'private' question needs to be posed.

And, NO, that's not what I do. You all know I am a lunatic by now No need for being discreet here

Tell her it's not the teacher you want a threesome with, it's her sister.

very funny scottyd! Now back in ur box.

Definitely a test. Test her back - take her to a kathoey bar and say "You choose..."