well, obviously in Thai society...many couples have "benefit friend" .. i think it's weired... why people like to cheat...

well im curious that , do you guys have? if you have why?

1 your partner is not good enough?

2 do u like something that's exciting?

well i have no idea.. but it's the one reason that Thai ladies want to have farang BF..coz we believe that farang won't cheat (well...maybe rural or not)

for me..i believe in monogamy

and yes..some guys ask me to be benefit friend ....i just reject

how about you?

bambi

Edited June 21, 200521 yr by BambinA

There is the fashion these days for what is called 'open relationships' i.e. where both parties go and have sex with others......"free love" OK if that is how you want to lead your lives, I respect that.

For my part, I believe in monogamy too.Call me old fashioned, but how can you truly love with more than the one person? ( that is if you believe in true love, if not then you are just 'playing around' with your partners emotions) if you cannot be faithfull to that one person then end the relationship altogether . Better that than have them find out that you have been cheating on them and hurting both parties in the long term. Infidelity is the biggest cause of love turning into bitter hatred.

Most decent farangs believe in manogomy.

Most decent Thai's believe in manogomy.

Most decent furniture makers believe in mahogany, but they too are sometimes prone to getting wood and acting on it.

Most decent furniture makers believe in mahogany, but they too are sometimes prone to getting wood and acting on it.

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I think with some guys and gals, it's that their partner is not as outgoing or as social with other people. I like people and like to meet new people all the time. I can't be stuck in the house all the time and need to communicate with others. I get into town once in awhile and I just want to meet up with friends, shoot pool and have a few beers (and yes, I do look at the women). To say that I want to meet other women for just sex is not in my book. Would be interesting to find someone that could understand that without the hangups but then it's probably just me wtih the hangup anyway. What woud be nice is to have the misses more outgoing but I highly doubt that she will ever change. Don't need to change her, she's great in all other ways, maybe it's just me that needs to change.

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or gig?

Is "gig" already passe'?? Sheesh, it's tough to keep up with the vernacular...

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yes..Friend for F-ck or "Gig" (thai word)

correct!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bambi

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I dont know on this .. Benifit Friend inplies some sort of financial support where as &lt;deleted&gt; buddy I thought was just a friend that you occasionaly sleep with.

In UK of course a benift friend would just be a friend without a job

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In UK of course a benift friend would just be a friend without a job

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&lt;deleted&gt; Buddy is a friend you sleep with for mutual satisfaction..

I thought the Benefit Friend thing was maybe "mutual benefit"..?

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yes..Friend for F-ck or "Gig" (thai word)

correct!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bambi

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ahhhh, ok. Good. I never want to be out-of-date on the current lingo...

That's not cool...

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yes..Friend for F-ck or "Gig" (thai word)

correct!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bambi

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ahhhh, ok. Good. I never want to be out-of-date on the current lingo...

That's not cool...

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lots to learn on the forum

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I dont know on this .. Benifit Friend inplies some sort of financial support where as &lt;deleted&gt; buddy I thought was just a friend that you occasionaly sleep with.

In UK of course a benift friend would just be a friend without a job

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Very good sir.

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Very good sir.

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"Fck buddy" is exactly what a Thai friend who is fluent in English called a "gig".

Took my g/f a few months to get familiar with the term "gig" also meaning "session" in English. She used to get a bit miffed when I said something similar to "I'm going to do a gig in **** tonight"...

Most decent farangs believe in manogomy.

Most decent Thai's believe in manogomy.

Most decent furniture makers believe in mahogany, but they too are sometimes prone to getting wood and acting on it.

Well put Scampy. Life is a Beech but there's no point in Pine-ing about it

Mr BoJ

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Edited June 22, 200521 yr by Kringle

Personally, i have a lot of time for 'open' relationships, and think that they can be a good idea as long as both people know where they stand. For me, it is not an issue of somebody not being good enough nor has it anything to do with love. I enjoy female company and the bedroom activities that often entails, but at this stage in my life i am not looking to settle down, get married and have children and i am not looking for love.

I therefore do not wish to be involved in anything too serious and do not want to waste the time of those that do. I just look upon my sexual relationships as an enjoyable addition to my life, nothing deeper than that.

One day i expect my attitudes will change and maybe then i will look for love. In my experience there are enough people who share a similar perspective to me for this to not be a problem, although i admit there can be obvious complications. As long as you are honest with your friends and your actions are not designed to hurt them then there should not be serious problems.

I believe that you will only find true love in monogamy..

I am happely engaged myself and getting married next year..

I believe that you will only find true love in monogamy..

I am happely engaged myself and getting married next year..

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Agreed, but don't settle for monogamy until you find true love.

I believe that you will only find true love in monogamy..

I am happely engaged myself and getting married next year..

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Agreed, but don't settle for monogamy until you find true love.

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totally agree with you guys

Bambi

Monogamy........

isn't that a one wheeled bike?

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take it easy please...

kiss you

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take it easy please...

kiss you

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I think that's what he needs... a big KISS and HUG...

totster

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take it easy please...

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I think that's what he needs... a big KISS and HUG...

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do you want some?

hahahaha

bambi

Is a Benefit Friend the same as a &lt;deleted&gt; buddy..?

totster 

I dont know on this .. Benifit Friend inplies some sort of financial support where as &lt;deleted&gt; buddy I thought was just a friend that you occasionaly sleep with.

In UK of course a benift friend would just be a friend without a job

Very good sir.

"Fck buddy" is exactly what a Thai friend who is fluent in English called a "gig".

Took my g/f a few months to get familiar with the term "gig" also meaning "session" in English. She used to get a bit miffed when I said something similar to "I'm going to do a gig in **** tonight"...

Good call, now let's introduce the word "session" to replace "gig" in the Thai sense of the word - that way nobody will have a clue what you're talking about.

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take it easy please...

kiss you

So when is this going to happen?

Personally, i have a lot of time for 'open' relationships, and think that they can be a good idea as long as both people know where they stand.

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With a name like Fast Eddie i would have thought as much! but really i agree with what you have said.... Honesty is the issue in all relationships.....

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take it easy please...

kiss you

So when is this going to happen?

Kringle, I suggest you find out a bit more about your new friend BambinA before you pursue his.. oops I mean her... oops I'm not really sure how to phrase it... offer.

Seems like a nice person though...

Edited June 23, 200521 yr by Jai Dee

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So when is this going to happen?

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Kringle, I suggest you find out a bit more about your new friend BambinA before you pursue his.. oops I mean her... oops I'm not really sure how to phrase it... offer.

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I wasn't gonna tell him... Is that bad of me...?

totster

I think the scamp .............. I'm going to try and stop my comments on the scamp as anything I say or anyone else might say seems to have no effect on his thoughts or his posts. I've edited this one and it's about it for me.

take it easy please...

kiss you

So when is this going to happen?

Kringle, I suggest you find out a bit more about your new friend BambinA before you pursue his.. oops I mean her... oops I'm not really sure how to phrase it... offer.

I wasn't gonna tell him... Is that bad of me...?

totster

I couldn't possibly be so mean...