What Would You Do?

[Robby nz]

Seem to remember there was a similar thread to this not long back but......................

Hasnt come to that yet with me, but after a visit to a Dr yesterday there is a possibility.

A lot of us on this forum are well into our second middle age and I know from reading many posts that some are not experiencing the best of health.

So have any of you seriously thought about what you would do if you were given a limited life?

There is also the aspect of what quality of life you could have and what you could do through treatment for whatever ails you.

I know some treatments can take months or even years to complete and then in the end not give any promise of extra time.

Untill you are put in a position of having to accept or reject harsh and sometimes expensive treatments its hard to say what decision you would make.

To go through something that will leave you broke or no better off health wise would not be an easy decision.

[britmaveric]

^start the bucket list?

[Thules]

Tough question, OP. I think I would:.....

Double check having all my affairs well in order (Living will, will, finances etc)

Investigate steps to mitigate against any long term pain.

Take more care of what I eat & drink

Investigate care management facilities if the condition is (progressively) disabling

Possibly compile and fullfill a 'bucket list', but more likely, carry on as normal with a more focussed 'seize the day' attitude

Afterall, any of us could have a fatal accident tomorrow....

[Beetlejuice]

If I was told by the Doctor that my days are numbered, the first thing I would do is steal your ATM card, empty your bank account, have an affair with your girlfriend, joyride in your car and just to add more pain to the agony, have you suspended from Thai visa for the next 5 years for making such depressing threads.

Oh hel_l, I have in pain just stated in the left side of my chest. Now I`m worried.

Edited October 2, 2010 by Beetlejuice

[Thules]

Even all TV members days are numbered, but the prospect needn't be depressing. Depending what you believe, you could be going upstairs, downstairs, or just another try on the merry-go-round.

[mca]

While I was still healthy enough I'd become a vigilante and start offing all the bent bastards who are the bane of this country.

[Patsycat]

I would go to wherever and cuddle an ourangutan.

[Ulysses G.]

I keep hearing that 2012 is the end of the world anyway. The way things are going around the world, that might be wishful thinking.

[onnut]

I'm still still young at 35 but know only to well I could be snuffed out tomorrow!

My old man went with the big C a few years ago. He went from a strong man to nothing in a week because of the treatment so I would probably just get on with life with the help of pain killers. Strong ones!

Get my affairs in order and make sure my wife and son are ok.

Jeez. After reading the thread about a dogs life and now this! I don't feel to good.

[Thules]

Reckon I've already survived 100 + End of World predictions so far, and don't intend celebrating the 'festive season' in 14 months early either

Then again, I might, just to get into the early swing of things

http://www.bible.ca/pre-date-setters.htm

Edited October 2, 2010 by Thules

[slapout]

I could not change what I have done, thus do not look back. Those who consider me a bastard and me them, would not change. as you can not take back what has transpired between you and them. Doubt that I would change my personal habits, as I enjoy them and they are habits. My affairs are up to date and in order, so scratch that chore. If loose of mental and or physical capacity were forecast, I would have to make a personal decision concerning treatment. Might be a hel_l of a lot of fun trying everything available or it might be a nightmare. I would try to assure that I did not become a burden on family or friends. I have had a good run at life, so I would in all likelihood, continue on my merry way without much change.

[gburns57au]

As a recently diagnosed lung cancer sufferer (March this year), My cancer is inoperable and incurable, the 5 year survival rate is about 10% with treatment being successful.

Put my affairs together, make sure that the missus is taken care of to the best of my resources.

Try and set up things to make it easier for the missus when I finally depart.

Try and live each day as normal as possible, chemo side effects can be a pain.

People imagine all sorts of things in this situation, but at the end of the day you do what you can. Travel is out as the risk of infection is too great, however if my treatment fails and nothing further can done then I would probably do a trip back to LOS to see the in laws.

The biggest problem is that you cant plan anything long term, so you have to live day by day.

[neverdie]

My father had cancer for over 10 years, I mean in and out of remission, chemo & all of that. He was originally told he didnt have 12 months, but he had well in excess of that and lived it to the fullest, the last bit wasnt so flash.

Anyway Gburns, keep taking each day as it comes & you could kick on for ages, my fathers greatest asset was his positive attitude.

Edited October 2, 2010 by neverdie

[Thules]

Oi, gburns, thats news that would drill anyone to the core.

I so wish you the best that is possible for you both.

Please live the fullest for each day you have together

[Thules]

So heed well ND, for you will relate to this eventually, and hopefully with a lot better attidute than you so now glibly cannot relate to now !

Your glibness sucks big time !

[neverdie]

So heed well ND, for you will relate to this eventually, and hopefully with a lot better attidute than you so now glibly cannot relate to now !

Your glibness sucks big time !

Actually, I must have originally been posting at the same times a gburns because his post wasnt there when I first started typing. My first comment related to my TV nickname. I was doing two things at once & when I added my reply, my post actually came out behind gburns and I read what he had to say & thought I should change my post for that reason.

I also wish him all the best as he is one of the gentleman of TV & I hope he manages to beat this bastard.

The final thing is I'm not sure whats worse, the person that is suddenly taken away from their loved ones so unexpectantly OR the other ones that fight illness over a prolonged period. Its not something that we can really choose.

Edited October 2, 2010 by neverdie

[gburns57au]

So heed well ND, for you will relate to this eventually, and hopefully with a lot better attidute than you so now glibly cannot relate to now !

Your glibness sucks big time !

Actually, I must have originally been posting at the same times a gburns because his post wasnt there when I first started typing. My first comment related to my TV nickname. I was doing two things at once & when I added my reply, my post actually came out behind gburns and I read what he had to say & thought I should change my post for that reason.

I also wish him all the best as he is one of the gentleman of TV & I hope he manages to beat this bastard.

The final thing is I'm not sure whats worse, the person that is suddenly taken away from their loved ones so unexpectantly OR the other ones that fight illness over a prolonged period. Its not something that we can really choose.

Now thats you sucking up not your glibness......

Unfortunately the tumour is progressive so it wont be beaten, looking to prolong life as much as possible. If the chemo fails then I would be looking at 3-6 months tops.

Taken suddenly or over a time....??

Hard to answer this one.....Suddenly means I wouldnt have to see the missus worry when I have adverse reactions to the chemo, but if taken suddenly then the missus would struggle to put things in order and keep her head above water, at least for the first couple of months.

[neverdie]

Now thats you sucking up not your glibness......

Unfortunately the tumour is progressive so it wont be beaten, looking to prolong life as much as possible. If the chemo fails then I would be looking at 3-6 months tops.

Taken suddenly or over a time....??

Hard to answer this one.....Suddenly means I wouldnt have to see the missus worry when I have adverse reactions to the chemo, but if taken suddenly then the missus would struggle to put things in order and keep her head above water, at least for the first couple of months.

Well mate, that is nothing but aweful news and it seems you are living exactly what the OP of the thread had questioned at the start of this thread.

I hope you have as much success as possible with the chemo, my thoughts and best wishes are with you and your family.

[Thules]

OK, Nd, accept unfortunate timing, and irony of your posting name.. Peace

Back to Op, his question is valid, and not many of us would wish to contenplate our demise, but never the less we should.... I just hope we don't all trust in our perceived invincibility, and when the cards are laid out, we play them with wisdom, and a bit of guts to the best of our play.

To all of us critically affected, may we go in peace. Our loved one's will remember us with fondness.

[Beetlejuice]

As a recently diagnosed lung cancer sufferer (March this year), My cancer is inoperable and incurable, the 5 year survival rate is about 10% with treatment being successful.

Put my affairs together, make sure that the missus is taken care of to the best of my resources.

Try and set up things to make it easier for the missus when I finally depart.

Try and live each day as normal as possible, chemo side effects can be a pain.

People imagine all sorts of things in this situation, but at the end of the day you do what you can. Travel is out as the risk of infection is too great, however if my treatment fails and nothing further can done then I would probably do a trip back to LOS to see the in laws.

The biggest problem is that you cant plan anything long term, so you have to live day by day.

Oh,gburns57au, How do I find the words.

I do want that somehow, someway, you will be cured. You sound like a brave man and hope this will get you through.

I am sure that everyone on Thai visa wishes you well and that the strength is found to defeat this.

[Thules]

BEETLEJUICE, You're full of sh*t. Contrast your last post, number 20 here with number 4 on the same thread.

You don't have the merest idea of the pain and suffering some of us are going through as we painfully die.

but you say "How do I find the words......"

You're full of sh*t, BEETLEJUICE !!

[JohnLeech]

What would I do?

Get a second opinion, then carry on as before.

I have done everything on the bucket list, I made my first will 30 years ago (and update it annually) and have made a living will, and I could get knocked down by a baht bus tomorrow - as could anyone else.

[Thules]

Bloody good for you Mr John Leech. !! Wish I was so strong. but as i said, Bloody good for you Mr John Leach !

[GM1955]

Bloody good for you Mr John Leech. !! Wish I was so strong. but as i said, Bloody good for you Mr John Leach !

Huh ?

[Thules]

It's all down to you do what you can GM1955, and best wishes to all who can do better. Surely not to difficult to understand, GM ? Good for Mr John Leech in having got himself sorted.

[MAJIC]

After being given three years to live by a Thai Doctor (my big mistake for asking him)the shock of the news sent me into some kind of emotional free fall!

I then suffered for five or six months with Depression,Sleepless nights (every night),Anger,an overwhelming feeling of hopelessness,no interest in anything,wrapped up in my own misery,drinking way too much,sleeping pills,tranquilisers.

Somehow or other (dont ask me how),I came through this phase and started thinking positive,I knew I had to pull myself together,and with the help of family and friends,thats what happened.

The main thing I kept drilling into myself,was that the Doctor had made a mistake (as they often do)call it denial on my part?..well maybe or maybe not.

So two years later Im not dwelling on it,..just determined to prove him wrong!and thats what I am doing,in order to cope.

My very best thoughts and wishes to gburns,and as Neverdie has said maintain a "Positive Attitude"

Forgot to mention a good friend of mine was diagnosed with Leukemia,and he was put on daily lifelong medication,and didnt give himself too much of a future either,and now 12 years later, thankfully he's still with us!

Edited October 2, 2010 by MAJIC

[Mossfinn]

Good Luck Burnsie, there will be a missing anchor in the immigration sub-forum for the Aussies, let alone the people who are close to you.

[Mossfinn]

Crickey Thules, post 4 was made before the thread took on a more melancholy air and was aimed at mirth, inappropriate I accept, but did it deserve your retaliation, I doubt it.

[Beetlejuice]

BEETLEJUICE, You're full of sh*t. Contrast your last post, number 20 here with number 4 on the same thread.

You don't have the merest idea of the pain and suffering some of us are going through as we painfully die.

but you say "How do I find the words......"

You're full of sh*t, BEETLEJUICE !!

There, there, didoms.

Go and have a drink and calm yourself down.

[Beetlejuice]

BEETLEJUICE, You're full of sh*t. Contrast your last post, number 20 here with number 4 on the same thread.

You don't have the merest idea of the pain and suffering some of us are going through as we painfully die.

but you say "How do I find the words......"

You're full of sh*t, BEETLEJUICE !!

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Edited October 3, 2010 by Beetlejuice