1 Year Away From The Wife

[longstebe]

Having just spent 1 year away from the missus I've finally arrived back in LOS.

The reason for starting this topic was to hear from other guys who do leave their spouse for long periods of time also the day to day challenges you face whilst back in LOS.

Firstly the relationship and I can only speak for myself here (obviously) that after being back just on a week now it seems like I was only gone a week.

Secondly, the day to day challenges of the ' the thai way of doing things'. Super slow internet living in the sticks, trying to book things online with a Thai account and people on the roads .

I'm trying my best not to complain too much but after being away for that long you forget what it's really like. It will take a little time to get back to the way I was before. On the flip side, I have enjoyed the real Thai food, taking a drive through the countryside and laughing at the announcements on the loud speakers of a morning and of course the lovely looking women.

[dumball]

Hello , you forgot to tell us how happy the wife was to have you home again , all rested up ready for re-training etc .

Rolled out the red carpet , hearts and kisses stuck on the door , roast beef and Yorkshire warming in the oven , satin sheets rolled back with a carif of wine cooling in the bedside table . Oh to be so loved and appreciated .

[longstebe]

Hello , you forgot to tell us how happy the wife was to have you home again , all rested up ready for re-training etc .

Rolled out the red carpet , hearts and kisses stuck on the door , roast beef and Yorkshire warming in the oven , satin sheets rolled back with a carif of wine cooling in the bedside table . Oh to be so loved and appreciated .

Only if.

[geriatrickid]

Hello , you forgot to tell us how happy the wife was to have you home again , all rested up ready for re-training etc .

Rolled out the red carpet , hearts and kisses stuck on the door , roast beef and Yorkshire warming in the oven , satin sheets rolled back with a carif of wine cooling in the bedside table . Oh to be so loved and appreciated .

not if she catches him admiring the "the lovely looking women".

Welcome home.

[sbk]

Inflammatory troll post removed. Mind your manners. and if you can't then don't post.

[soundman]

More inflamatory replies have been removed from view. There is nothing in the OP suggesting any sort of infidelity, so need for the speculation.

[nidge]

How do you manage a whole year away? I have been away for just over 2 weeks and i'm going insane! 2 months is the longest i have been away and that is far too long for my liking.

[473geo]

infidelity..........did they really know how to spell infidelity?.......

[seekingfriends]

are you saying you havent had it for a year . and neither has she . how old are you both . james hat yai

[longstebe]

are you saying you havent had it for a year . and neither has she . how old are you both . james hat yai

The wife is 25 and myself 36.

Without sounding a dick, I thought I'd stated the reason for starting this topic.

[Semper]

How do you manage a whole year away? I have been away for just over 2 weeks and i'm going insane! 2 months is the longest i have been away and that is far too long for my liking.

I envy the OP.

[seekingfriends]

Hello , you forgot to tell us how happy the wife was to have you home again , all rested up ready for re-training etc .

Rolled out the red carpet , hearts and kisses stuck on the door , roast beef and Yorkshire warming in the oven , satin sheets rolled back with a carif of wine cooling in the bedside table . Oh to be so loved and appreciated .

no. you never stated why you were away . not thats its my business, but you started this topic. if you dont want comments. dont tell the whole world. james hat yai

[IanForbes]

Welcome back to Thailand. I DO know how you manage to remain celibate. It's the same way men do who have been married for 30 years and are still iiving with their wives. If people are busy it is no problem. However, there is the old story that still rings true... Idle hands are the devil's workshop.

I'm just about to begin my annual 7 months away in Canada. Fortunately, I have a lot to look forward to or I wouldn't leave. All my friends here are in a bit of a panic knowing this is my last week, and they are booking time to see me.

[travelmann]

Youre not the only one doing this Ive done this for over 6 years, oh sure everyone here will tell you my wife is banging like crazy when Im not there but then they live in a kind of fantasy world and their own relationships obviously have no trust.

I come to Thailand twice a year for 2-3 months and am then in the UK for the rest of the year.

Ive done this since 2005 and the internet keeps us in touch easily + she is very busy running her business she has little time for anything else.

So that 5 years married and no kids because unlike many here they were planned for around about now, we got married and chose not to have any until I was there and we had a house built, she controls all the money and has about 3 million in our accounts and about 80% of this she has earnt herself.

Guess that blows many of the "All Thai girls are" myths out of the water.

Im 47 shes 34.

Shell be visitng the Uk soon her second time here in 5 years and Ill be there permanently in August which is great for both of us, Ive never had any issues with her, language was the biggest barrier she had a full time job before we met which she quit when she started her own business 12 months after we met, w e still meet up with her old workmates occasionally for lunch during their lumch hours.

I could not ask for a better wife, Id never been married before and never had any kids.

Good luck

[F1fanatic]

Welcome back to Thailand. I DO know how you manage to remain celibate. It's the same way men do who have been married for 30 years and are still iiving with their wives. If people are busy it is no problem. However, there is the old story that still rings true... Idle hands are the devil's workshop.

I'm just about to begin my annual 7 months away in Canada. Fortunately, I have a lot to look forward to or I wouldn't leave. All my friends here are in a bit of a panic knowing this is my last week, and they are booking time to see me.

"It's the same way men do who have been married for 30 years and are still iiving with their wives". Presumably you're not talking about those that move to Thailand with wives, who are bringing "sand to the beach".....

I've no doubt at all that all your friends are "booking to see you". You're obviously a well-grounded, honest person that everyone loves.

[Semper]

Youre not the only one doing this Ive done this for over 6 years, oh sure everyone here will tell you my wife is banging like crazy when Im not there but then they live in a kind of fantasy world and their own relationships obviously have no trust.

I come to Thailand twice a year for 2-3 months and am then in the UK for the rest of the year.

Ive done this since 2005 and the internet keeps us in touch easily + she is very busy running her business she has little time for anything else.

So that 5 years married and no kids because unlike many here they were planned for around about now, we got married and chose not to have any until I was there and we had a house built, she controls all the money and has about 3 million in our accounts and about 80% of this she has earnt herself.

Guess that blows many of the "All Thai girls are" myths out of the water.

Im 47 shes 34.

Shell be visitng the Uk soon her second time here in 5 years and Ill be there permanently in August which is great for both of us, Ive never had any issues with her, language was the biggest barrier she had a full time job before we met which she quit when she started her own business 12 months after we met, w e still meet up with her old workmates occasionally for lunch during their lumch hours.

I could not ask for a better wife, Id never been married before and never had any kids.

Good luck

I think not.

[mark45y]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

I left my first wife to go to war. She played around on me and we later got a divorce.

I left my second wife because of work for 6 months and she played around on me and we later got a divorce.

First wife was a school teacher and the second wife was a department store executive.

Edited March 27, 2011 by mark45y

[travelmann]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Edited March 27, 2011 by travelmann

[F1fanatic]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Quite right. After 28 years of marriage in the UK it only took a few months here for my ex to realise that he was suddenly the most attractive guy in the world (the local women didn't care one iota that he was married)...

No difference between the West and Thailand at all...

Edited March 27, 2011 by F1fanatic

[mark45y]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Quite right. After 28 years of marriage in the UK it only took a few months here for my ex to realise that he was suddenly the most attractive guy in the world (the local women didn't care one iota that he was married)...

No difference between the West and Thailand at all...

Does it follow then that Thai women would be a better bet because they know of the intense competition for men from the West?

[mark45y]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying you will not be successful. I am only writing about a man who looks at the odds in general and not a particular woman or man as the case may be. You are of course right for every 1 disaster there is one happy outcome. But that is still only 50/50 odds. On a happy note I never had a Thai wife leave me or steal anything from me.

[F1fanatic]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Quite right. After 28 years of marriage in the UK it only took a few months here for my ex to realise that he was suddenly the most attractive guy in the world (the local women didn't care one iota that he was married)...

No difference between the West and Thailand at all...

Does it follow then that Thai women would be a better bet because they know of the intense competition for men from the West?

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

[travelmann]

Who knows more about marriage a guy who has been married a bunch of times with a bunch of kids and got divorced a bunch of times or a guy who has only been married once with no children? One has experience but his experiences have been failures?

Who knows more about married women in Thailand a guy who is married to a Thai woman but does not live in Thailand or a guy who lives in Thailand and watches the goings on of married women who have foreign husbands? I guess it depends if your wife is different.

That many men would bet their life savings on a game with 50/50 odds has always been a source of amazement to me? And subtract from that the difficulties of a cross cultural relationship. Wow.

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying you will not be successful. I am only writing about a man who looks at the odds in general and not a particular woman or man as the case may be. You are of course right for every 1 disaster there is one happy outcome. But that is still only 50/50 odds. On a happy note I never had a Thai wife leave me or steal anything from me.

I think you can increase your odds, not that Im saying you should personally but " in general"

[mark45y]

Like most things in life you ONLY usually here the disaster stories and guess where they end up????

Of course i never said how many girlfriends id had over the years before deciding to marry??

Id say it makes no difference if you live in Thailand or not as to whether your wife will cheat, if shes the type to cheat shell do it wherever you are.

I wouldnt say the odds are 50/50 if you know the horse your'e betting on.

Quite right. After 28 years of marriage in the UK it only took a few months here for my ex to realise that he was suddenly the most attractive guy in the world (the local women didn't care one iota that he was married)...

No difference between the West and Thailand at all...

Does it follow then that Thai women would be a better bet because they know of the intense competition for men from the West?

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

And if one was attractive to women in the West the mind boggles at what will happen in Thailand.

[MSingh]

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

And if one was attractive to women in the West the mind boggles at what will happen in Thailand.

Please tell me you two are being sarcastic as you seemed to have left out the on both of your Posts ??

[F1fanatic]

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

And if one was attractive to women in the West the mind boggles at what will happen in Thailand.

Please tell me you two are being sarcastic as you seemed to have left out the on both of your Posts ??

We make the mistake of assuming that people understand irony.

[473geo]

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

And if one was attractive to women in the West the mind boggles at what will happen in Thailand.

Afer a couple of false starts you find an amazingly attractive woman who looks after you like gold dust because the competition is intense..................then if you choose to you marry

If you would appreciate a more detailed explanation just PM me.......... .

[F1fanatic]

Yes. Thai women find any farang man attractive whereas Western women have no time for them at all.

There is no "competition for men from the West" - but those that are unattractive in the West will be amazed at how attractive they are here...

And if one was attractive to women in the West the mind boggles at what will happen in Thailand.

Afer a couple of false starts you find an amazingly attractive woman who looks after you like gold dust because the competition is intense..................then if you choose to you marry

If you would appreciate a more detailed explanation just PM me.......... .

So Thai women only go after 'farangs' married to Western women?

I accept that they may be less likely to go after those married to Thai women, but doubt that they really give up the hope of a wealthy marriage - whether the wife is farang or Thai.

Edit - Having said that I admit that the bar women 'know' better than to go after the farang men with Thai wives....

Edited March 27, 2011 by F1fanatic

[IanForbes]

Welcome back to Thailand. I DO know how you manage to remain celibate. It's the same way men do who have been married for 30 years and are still iiving with their wives. If people are busy it is no problem. However, there is the old story that still rings true... Idle hands are the devil's workshop.

I'm just about to begin my annual 7 months away in Canada. Fortunately, I have a lot to look forward to or I wouldn't leave. All my friends here are in a bit of a panic knowing this is my last week, and they are booking time to see me.

"It's the same way men do who have been married for 30 years and are still iiving with their wives". Presumably you're not talking about those that move to Thailand with wives, who are bringing "sand to the beach".....

I've no doubt at all that all your friends are "booking to see you". You're obviously a well-grounded, honest person that everyone loves.

Frankly, I often wonder why men bring their wives to Thailand, and for what reasons other than a nice holiday in a safe country with a warm climate. I guess it's different if you were stationed in Thailand on business and were forced by economics to go there. However, just up-rooting your family to go somewhere else seems a little strange to me... unless there are already hidden problems within a marriage.

I had no intention of EVER up-rooting my family, leaving my friends and moving to a foreign country. But, once I visited Thailand for the first time at the request of a friend, I never looked back. Of course, I was ALREADY single at the time and had no intention of ever getting married again. And, I don't want a permanent relationship for no other reason than I'm too old to marry someone I might find attractive, but who I have nothing in common with other than great sex.

My honesty and non-judgemental personality is a bit strange to some Thai women, but once they get to know I won't lie to them then I get along very well. They know I don't care what they do or who they are with and they don't have to play games with me. They also know I'll help them anyway I can so long as they don't treat me like an ATM. If they screw up then that is their problem and their loss. They don't get many second chances. I'm still friends with many of my former lovers. We just have a mutual understanding of each other.

[473geo]

Actually in my case she went for a man with a sense of humour......