hi ladies,

i've enjoyed reading this forum - i can't believe it's taken me so long to find!! i've been in thailand for 3 years now, and have only just found this!

so i thought i'd ask for advice...

i've been given a present that i have no desire to keep, but don't know what to do with it. it was given to me by a man who's been hassling me for 2 months...frightening levels of hassling, too. i refused it, so he posted it to my house. it's a white gold diamond ring. it's actually really beautiful, but i don't want to keep it, because it will always remind me of what an ###### this guy has been, who i'd considered a friend (and whose children i teach!!).

i'm leaving my little town next week, and my first thought was to toss it into the sea on the boat trip to ko pha ngan, where i'll be partying my socks off fo new year. a kind of cathartic disposal of bad memories.

but then i thought it's probably quite expensive. so maybe i should sell it. but i don't want to profit from it, either. and it's engraved on the inside, too.

so then i thought i should give it to someone....but i don't want to give it to anyone i know, as i'll have to see it again. i had visions of me finding some young loved up couple and giving it to them!! but don't particularly want to get assigned to the loony bin....

i would give it back to him if it didn't mean i'd have to see him. i'm in hiding! and i can't post it, in case his poor wife sees it.

i'm still tempted to toss it into the sea.

what would you do?

Hey munchkin

Was going to suggest posting it back to him, but didn't realise there was a wife involved until I got to the end of the story - he sounds like some piece of work. Won't ask any uncomfortable questions, just glad you're moving on and planning on enjoying yourself.

Agree that it would be wrong for you to profit from the ring, however maybe those less fortunate should profit from it . Perhaps give it to a local charity (or something along those lines), or to the school where his children are being educated (at least it would be going back to his family).

Wish you all the best and guessing they'll be quite a bit of sang som in the bad memory disposal process Have a great time.

Hi Munchkin, I agree completely with Nat, you don't want to keep that kind of memento! Donation is a good idea, donate it to the local school, or sell it and donate the money, they could probably use a new computer or something. And try and avoid this guy, sounds like one of those crazed stalker types!

maybe donate it to the american (?) priest (I forget his name) who has been working with the Klong Toey residents for the past 30 something years.

Otherwise, mail it to the wife of the fellow who gave you a ring, explaining the whole situation. Afterall, revenge is a dish best served cold....

Otherwise, mail it to the wife of the fellow who gave you a ring, explaining the whole situation. Afterall, revenge is a dish best served cold....

That is bound to heat it up Samran. But it's what the prick deserves. I'll dig up the name of that priest...he is American, and still operates out of Klong Toey

thanks for the responses

i'd love to give it to one of the local schools i know...but i can't read all the thai inscription, and don't know if he's thick enough to have put his name on it!! i very much doubt it, but don't want to risk it. he's a very well known person, being very rich and influential in the area. this has made the whole situation more daunting for me....but not too daunting, i'm doing fine. i'm a tough little cookie.

i think he's oblivious to the word no.

the revenge idea....i don't want revenge. he hasn't hurt me feelings in any real way. and i'm not a revenge kind of gal. i feel only pity for his wife and lovely kids. if i were to give it to a charity, it'd have to be one in BK, where i'd feel safe handing it over in secrecy. noone here knows about it.

i feel a bit like frodo!!

The priest is Father Joe Maier at Klong Toey...www.fatherjoe.org

sell it get the money and donate the money to charity....then some good will come of it....

give it to father joe like suggested ealier

story on father joe http://www.bangkokpost.net/outlookwecare/0..._Outlook01.html

i feel a bit like frodo!!

munchkin your name is fitting remember frodo manages to save middle-earth (oops did I just give away the ending )

Revenge is not what it's cracked up to be - probably just end up feeling guilty for causing his wife and children heartache. I really feel sorry for them.

When you're in bangkok working on your skin regime drop in and visit Father Joe - you'll be doing a good deed.

Besides, she probably already knows what kind of man she married. I doubt it would surprise her, just make her life more of a misery than it already is!

That is bound to heat it up Samran.

Very true. As always Dr P, you are wise and correct. Must have been the Evil Australian in me wanting to bring a tall poppy down to size!

Donating it will ensure that only good comes out of all of this.

Munchkin, good luck with it all!

Bless you Digger .

donate it to the "bronco foundation" My Wife just spent the afternoon pointing out every piece of jewellery in some junk mail, am I missing something girls?

Bless you Digger .

And to all who sail in you.. that didn't sound right/????

And to all who sail in you.. that didn't sound right/????

Maybe I should change my name to "HMAS Samran" then? :-)

It is one way to be assured of getting a personal visit from Little Johnny Howard.

dont have to think at all...sell it off and donate that money to Sai Jai Thai charity or others....as simple as that.. don't you think?

ok. so if i sell it, where in bangkok should i go to sell it?? i have no idea about this sort of thing, or of how much money i should get for it....any advice?

Munchkin, you could try one of those ubiquitous gold shops in MBK or you could just hand it over to the charity of your choice, let them dispose of it as they will. Or, frodo wise, toss it into the chao praya river (almost like a flame filled volcano!)

sell it,, take the $ to ko Phang gang,hassle an inocent thai man and force the$ on him,,,,,,, kind of a reverse karma.........ha

This ring is proving harder to get rid of than AIDS

Hi Munch Kin

So ... is the Ring still with you?

We all would like to hear the Story of its disposal !!!

If you haven't got rid of it yet

And you would like not to be cheated when you sell it ...

Try going to several Gold Shops in The Malls

and getting more than one offer

it will be interesting to know just how much it is worth...

If it really IS gold then the Gold Shops will probably

quote you a Price based on its weight.

But please do let us hear the end of the Saga ...

Roger

Hi there,

Is it too late to suggest you could give it to me instead! heheheh

Hope you find a way to dispose of it. Personally I think donation is a good idea.