Finding Thai Friends In Uk For Thai Wife

[madmin]

anyone know of any other thai wives or girlfriends in the (cheltenham gloucestershire uk) area as my wife would like to meet and chat etc, or know of any places they meet up any sensible info would be appreciated :jap:

[transam]

Tell her join facebook.

[saraburioz]

http://www.thaifamily.co.uk/

Try going here and other Thai restaurants and asking staff.

http://www.dhammakaya.org.uk/ - there is a temple in Chelt.

[Chivas]

Not what you want to hear but don't let her become involved with others in the Uk.

Virtually every single relatioship goes down the pan when they start gambling,drinking eating and mixing with each other.

First hand experience but numerous others in same boat where I come from.

I remarried but I will never bring her to the UK-period.

[JAS21]

Not what you want to hear but don't let her become involved with others in the Uk.

Virtually every single relatioship goes down the pan when they start gambling,drinking eating and mixing with each other.

First hand experience but numerous others in same boat where I come from.

I remarried but I will never bring her to the UK-period.

Too true, unless she is a very good judge of character and not easily led astray. We lived in the UK for about four years, my wife would only socialise with a couple of other Thais from in and around the area.The rest gambled, drank and met other men whilst their husbands were at work.

Take great care. Take it from me it is common place for that to happen, my wife was really disgusted with their behaviour. Luckily I suppose she spent a lot of time moving stuff around in the garden or playing golf with our friends so never ever got bored. We have now lived back in Thailand for a number of years and she does just the same, just different friends.

[roamer]

After more than 10 years in the UK my wife has got very adept at hiding behind supermarket displays when spotting another Thai. Experience has taught her that. She has no Thai friends whatsoever in the UK. On the other hand she has a lot of British & European friends, works with mainly British folk and has a very active life.

It's sad that it should be that way but the few that she did meet back in the early days seemed to bring trouble and problems to the door after just the briefest acquaintance.

[transam]

Must add, a few friends who took their ladies to UK ended up with real problems, the '' l have this, and you have not'' culture followed, Beware.

[inthepink]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

[rgs2001uk]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

Gambling and drinking are the least of their worries, wait until the loan sharking starts.

Anyway to answer your question, many of these girls have been known to revert to their former profession.

[Semper]

Not what you want to hear but don't let her become involved with others in the Uk.

Virtually every single relatioship goes down the pan when they start gambling,drinking eating and mixing with each other.

First hand experience but numerous others in same boat where I come from.

I remarried but I will never bring her to the UK-period.

[inthepink]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

Gambling and drinking are the least of their worries, wait until the loan sharking starts.

Anyway to answer your question, many of these girls have been known to revert to their former profession.

Seems a shame to marry someone you can never trust.

[roamer]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

I see your point but it can be a little more complex than that. Buying the odd lottery ticket is as far as my wife gambles. As for her drinking, well quite a few wine tasting courses in I have learned she appreciates her alcohol rather than needs it. The drinking & gambling had never been part of her upbringing/life/culture so was not likely to be a threat. But in the first year or so she had developed a couple of casual friendships with some Thai's who had lived here a bit longer, not much more than coffee mornings. Then she finds herself being woken up at 1'am by someone demanding to know where his wife was (sleeping with his boss it turned out)as they were supposed to have been going out for dinner together...my wife hadn't even talked to her for a couple of weeks!!

Hence the reluctance to form new relationships with other Thai's.

Poor judge of character ? Well you can sling that allegation at any of us who have spent time working/living abroad and have ended up with "friendships" with fellow countrymen we later regret. It can be a small pond sometimes.

"You can take the girl out of the bar but can't take the bar out of the girl."

That always divides opinion here on TV. Sadly our experience has always been that the above statement is true. In fact never found an exception to it over a period of time. Then again, once bitten, twice shy means we are unlikely to find the exception.

Edited May 1, 2011 by roamer

[sarahsbloke]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

You know exactly what type of girls.

And as a previous poster said, don't do it.

PS inthepink

Everyone marries someone they can't trust, it's just some people believe they did.

I married someone I can't trust and so did my wife (two times)

Edited May 1, 2011 by sarahsbloke

[Beetlejuice]

I lived in the United States for a while with my Thai now ex wife and later lived in England for several years with my present Thai girlfriend. As a matter of fact, 2 of our children where born in England, one at the ST Pauls hospital in Cheltenham. There is quite a substantial Thai community in Cheltenham.

Right then where do I begin?

First, when Thais happen to accidentally be sharing a same space in the US and the UK, they react in similar ways as farangs do in Thailand. Either like 2 dogs that growl at each other when they first meet, or one gives the other one that, you look like a piece of <deleted> look, don't come near me and please go away, or one gives the other the, you're not there invisible treatment.

The best way for Thais to meet abroad and become acquainted is to seek employment where other Thais work, such as a Thai restaurant for example. That's what my girlfriend did and soon she met some very nice Thai friends who introduced us to other Thais and so on, many with English husbands or boyfriends and later on we became a group of friends. I really miss all that, the good old days.

Another way to meet Thai people is to visit the big Thai Temple at Wimbledon in London. Especially on event days, like Songkran and other Thai festive holidays, because Thais travel from all parts of the country to visit that Temple. And of course there is the Battersea, London Thai festival every year.

But the most effective way for her to meet other Thai ladies is for her to work in a Thai restaurant and there are many located in and around Cheltenham.

As for those who say that your wife may stray away if she mixes with other Thais, of the entire crowd we got to know, none of this ever happened. If it does happen then this means that the wife was no good from the beginning and would likely misbehave where ever she goes.

Edited May 1, 2011 by Beetlejuice

[inthepink]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

You know exactly what type of girls.

And as a previous poster said, don't do it.

PS inthepink

Everyone marries someone they can't trust, it's just some people believe they did.

I married someone I can't trust and so did my wife (two times)

Everyone? That's a depressing point of view and certainly not true with regard to drinking and gambling, which is what we were talking about weren't we?

Edited May 1, 2011 by inthepink

[Beetlejuice]

Our madmin asked about finding Thai friends in UK for his Thai Wife?

I think if he were seeking some marital advice or lectures on the virtues of women and the evils of drink and gambling, he would have asked his questions on some agony aunt's forum.

I really cannot see the point of some of these posts that have no relevance to the title of this thread and is completely useless information for the OP from you so called experts out there.

Edited May 1, 2011 by Beetlejuice

[cardholder]

Our madmin asked about finding Thai friends in UK for his Thai Wife?

I think if he were seeking some marital advice or lectures on the virtues of women and the evils of drink and gambling, he would have asked his questions on some agony aunt's forum.

I really cannot see the point of some of these posts that have no relevance to the title of this thread and is completely useless information for the OP from you so called experts out there.

Are those posters not doing the OP a service by highlighting some of the pitfalls we all know exist.

Words of caution are sensible in my book.

[inthepink]

Our madmin asked about finding Thai friends in UK for his Thai Wife?

I think if he were seeking some marital advice or lectures on the virtues of women and the evils of drink and gambling, he would have asked his questions on some agony aunt's forum.

I really cannot see the point of some of these posts that have no relevance to the title of this thread and is completely useless information for the OP from you so called experts out there.

I'm no expert. I'm just surprised at all the comments about keeping your wife away from other Thai people in case she starts gambling and drinking. Not everybody marries an idiot and maybe the OP hasn't either. I don't think he should mind me suggesting that his wife might be a nice person. If he does he can just skip over my posts and any others that are irrelevant.

Edited May 1, 2011 by inthepink

[Richard W]

ESOL courses worked for my wife. Large local oriental grocery stores may also be good meeting places.

[roamer]

Our madmin asked about finding Thai friends in UK for his Thai Wife?

I think if he were seeking some marital advice or lectures on the virtues of women and the evils of drink and gambling, he would have asked his questions on some agony aunt's forum.

I really cannot see the point of some of these posts that have no relevance to the title of this thread and is completely useless information for the OP from you so called experts out there.

Well I read your first post, you had a point to make, everything was fine from your point of view. Beyond pointing out that Thai restaurants and the Thai temple in Wimbledon are good places to meet other Thai's I saw no obviously illuminating shafts of light. Its a discussion forum, you know that well, don't know why you have chosen to get so precious over some digressions on a topic that would always attract some widening of the original post.

Edited May 1, 2011 by roamer

[cardholder]

Our madmin asked about finding Thai friends in UK for his Thai Wife?

I think if he were seeking some marital advice or lectures on the virtues of women and the evils of drink and gambling, he would have asked his questions on some agony aunt's forum.

I really cannot see the point of some of these posts that have no relevance to the title of this thread and is completely useless information for the OP from you so called experts out there.

I'm no expert. I'm just surprised at all the comments about keeping your wife away from other Thai people in case she starts gambling and drinking. Not everybody marries an idiot and maybe the OP hasn't either. I don't think he should mind me suggesting that his wife might be a nice person. If he does he can just skip over my posts and any others that are irrelevant.

Your sycophancy has caused you to miss the point.

The nicer she is, the better canon fodder she is for the more 'experienced' Thai expats.

[Skypist]

Your sycophancy has caused you to miss the point.

The nicer she is, the better canon fodder she is for the more 'experienced' Thai expats.

No, that would only happen if she's naive, dense and impressionable. Guys who marry above the bottom rungs usually have partners who can spot a "troublemaking" or "devious" Thai quickly, and most of these wives actually act carefully when coming into contact with other mia farangs. The typical Thai wife in the UK have shared attributes: suddenly they see themselves as higher class (they've been waiting for this). Dress up, get glam, go shopping, forget the North Eastern heritage and be proud to do nothing and have a second home financed by the husband. They know the system. They know how to gossip and condescend those who've married into a smaller house. They may be above gambling, borrowing or getting plastered but they still know how to flirt, go clubbing well into their 30s and become mutton dressed as lamb. Anyone who can see Thailand and the Thais from a vaguely knowledgeable distance can see they've come from nothing and need now to be everything.

My advice to the OP is ask himself where he thinks his wife will fit in to British society. How is her communication and conversation and could she make local friends? ESOL is a starter...meet other nationalities, but best of all......WORK! Get her to work. A Thai wife that works in UK?!?! Is that NORMAL you ask?! Amazing how one may develop with a bit of proper work, socially, mentally and responsibly.

[sirineou]

I lived in the United States for a while with my Thai now ex wife and later lived in England for several years with my present Thai girlfriend. As a matter of fact, 2 of our children where born in England, one at the ST Pauls hospital in Cheltenham. There is quite a substantial Thai community in Cheltenham.

Right then where do I begin?

First, when Thais happen to accidentally be sharing a same space in the US and the UK, they react in similar ways as farangs do in Thailand. Either like 2 dogs that growl at each other when they first meet, or one gives the other one that, you look like a piece of <deleted> look, don't come near me and please go away, or one gives the other the, you're not there invisible treatment.

The best way for Thais to meet abroad and become acquainted is to seek employment where other Thais work, such as a Thai restaurant for example. That's what my girlfriend did and soon she met some very nice Thai friends who introduced us to other Thais and so on, many with English husbands or boyfriends and later on we became a group of friends. I really miss all that, the good old days.

Another way to meet Thai people is to visit the big Thai Temple at Wimbledon in London. Especially on event days, like Songkran and other Thai festive holidays, because Thais travel from all parts of the country to visit that Temple. And of course there is the Battersea, London Thai festival every year.

But the most effective way for her to meet other Thai ladies is for her to work in a Thai restaurant and there are many located in and around Cheltenham.

As for those who say that your wife may stray away if she mixes with other Thais, of the entire crowd we got to know, none of this ever happened. If it does happen then this means that the wife was no good from the beginning and would likely misbehave where ever she goes.

Beetlejuice has it exactly right

My wife came to the US, got a job ( even though she didn't have to) at the local Thai restaurant, it gave her a chance to gradually acclimate, and made a little money for her own to do as she pleased.She meet a few very good Thai people, through them she meet more, The ones that we consider " good people" we kept as friends" the others we dissociated with. We never had a problem, with any of our Thai friends.

Beetlejuice is giving you good advise as to how to meet Thai friends, How to choose your friends?? I am sure you don't need our advise.

[regine]

If your wife is educated, tell her to join aThai Student Association (there are tons in the UK), they often let young educated non-students in on their activities and meet and greets.

[meatboy]

Not what you want to hear but don't let her become involved with others in the Uk.

Virtually every single relatioship goes down the pan when they start gambling,drinking eating and mixing with each other.

First hand experience but numerous others in same boat where I come from.

I remarried but I will never bring her to the UK-period.

totally agree my wife spent 20years in the uk.but only had one or two freinds,most of them do nothing but brag and talk about what they got and you havent,and if you got more than them they will cause problems for you,let her have her freedom try and make freinds with non thais and get a small job.

[meatboy]

my wife has just read most of the postsand i feel i must respond further,she got a job in catering and within 2years was given the supervisors role,she became one of the most respected staff member of a big establishment,when she left to move to los there were many tears and her freinds bought her a comp.so she could keep in touch with them and some has allready visited us,only one thai came to say goodbye and that was20min.before we went to bed.there is allways opputunites to earn good money in the uk.only if you are prepared to work and not sit on your backside backstabing others,my wife retired at 44 and owns 1house uk,and one in thailand and has a healthy bank balance,but sorry to say there are many thais will only want to be freinds if they have more than you,you have been warned.

[JurgenG]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

People talk about what they know

If your wife didn't associate with low life in Thailand, she won't do it in the UK, but if she did ... birds of feather flock together.

Thai temples are a good place to start, trust your wife to sort out who she wants to associate with.

But, as her husband, you should also be careful not to associate with someone just because he has a Thai gf or wife. You should first learn who they are before inviting them home, by doing so you may avoid big embarrassment and loss of face.

[geriatrickid]

What kind of girls are people marrying that they need to worry about them gambling and drinking?

Gambling and drinking are the least of their worries, wait until the loan sharking starts.

Anyway to answer your question, many of these girls have been known to revert to their former profession.

Really? Most of those wives are 30+ years old. I don' t think there is a market for that in the UK, although I'm not much experienced with the ways of the fallen woman.

[robbo1]

Not what you want to hear but don't let her become involved with others in the Uk.

Virtually every single relatioship goes down the pan when they start gambling,drinking eating and mixing with each other.

First hand experience but numerous others in same boat where I come from.

I remarried but I will never bring her to the UK-period.

You hit the nail on the head mate,I was going to say the same thing be very wary of some of the older thai women that have been around for a long time.

They tend to lead the younger ones into stuff that can cause chaos for you.

I am speaking from experience here,My missus got mixed up with the wrong croud and after many warnings I sent her home until she was ready to be more reasonable.

Dont trust the older ones they are no good.

[longstebe]

Finding other Thais who are somewhat normal after relocating overseas can be tricky. Don't just look at the women try and get to know the male partner too.