Custody Of Child In Germany

[tpiety2]

A thai woman married a german and has lived in germany 6 or more years. They had a daughter in germany. They seperated 2 years ago because she caught him cheating on her with a girl in Phitsanulok when he was visiting thailand. He was sending the mistress money every month and she caught him. She is only allowed to see the child one day a week and she is not unfit or a former bar girl but a good caring mother.

The question is what options does she have? She wants to keep the daughter in germany for the better opportunities but she has no money and only part time employment. The husband has the child but only because she could not afford to take care of her when they seperated and she was not well informed being misled by her husband. The divorce is not final as yet.

Most of us know what it is like to be a foreigner in a strange land so if you can offer constuctive advice please do.

Any names of agencies or govt. depts., charities etc. she can turn to for help would be appreciated? She lives near Munich if that matters and I am American so I of no help.

[kanderson]

I'm American but know of a half Thai / half German Child - now living in Hawaii. Germany has something like Social Security ( Daddy died = she gets some $300. a month until age 18 - 20)

I don't know if Germany has strict child support laws like in America.

Where ever - sometimes the Father might be the better parent as long as he doesn't restrict access of the Mother.

I have 2 half Thai children and I'd be very afraid to let them go alone with my Thai Wife of 10 years.

I can take care of my kids as a number one priority. In the case of devorse - I may not have to care for my x spouse.

People cheat on each other - a whole subject in its self.

What is the German mans perspective ?

I'm just saying it may not be one sided. Kids should always have access to Mom though.

Check out the Thai soap oprays on Thai TV. Violence, hitting, etc..

I believe those soaps everyday really affect behavior.

I was just watching a documentary on the sub conscious mind.

It may be clear (or not) that this Germans Wife and him started out on the wrong foot.

Now they have a kid - its up to the father and mother to work together somehow.

People can acually devorse and keep the anger supressed - for the kids.

[sbk]

moving to family forum

[Mario2008]

Germany has child support laws and I guess alimony too. But the question is who ordered that the mother can only visit the child once a week and has to live with the father. It sounds as if there is a (temporary) court decision.

Don't know of any organisations, but sugest she contacts the court and they will be able to direct her to free legal council. Universities also often offer free legal advice.

The munich yellow pages will also give some adresses of organisations she can turn to for help.

Edit:

Legal Aid -- Legal aid in Germany is administered by the Länder, a government agency. By federal law, anyone lawfully present in Germany can ask for legal aid. Forms to apply for legal advice and aid are available from any local courthouse or from a local lawyer. A national should also consult his or her local consulate.

Read more: http://www.frommers.com/destinations/munich/0099020157.html#ixzz1StRqwlhR

[Mario2008]

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[hanuman2543]

I am a German. Does she lives in Germany? Normally parents have shared custody of the child, even when they are not married. If the child stays with her, the father has to pay for the child every month . How much depends on his income and how old the child is (google Duesseldorfer Tabelle there you can find how much). The German State will pay Kindergeld (about 180 Euros a month). When the divorce is not final she should ask for legal advice in the local courthouse or consult a lawyer specialized in Family Law. When she cannot afford a lawyer and court fees she kann apply for "Gerichtskostenhilfe" that means the government will pay for her. The German Divorce Law is not interested in who is guilty that the marriage not worked. It is enough to be seperated for 1 year, than they will be divorced automatic if one files for divorce. If you need more info pm me.

[hanuman2543]

In Berlin there is a German lawyer, who is specialized in Thai/German relations. The name is Bluemlein. Just google the name, you will find adress and phonenumber.

Edited August 17, 2011 by hanuman2543