Longbow212 Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 I was quite disappointed to find that my partner had not bought a present or card of any kind for my birthday. She has been a doting gf and done so much for me in many other ways so I am a bit surprised here. This is my first birthday when we have been together. I would like to hear from other peoples experiences regarding birthday celebrations etc. Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tafia Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Its not a big deal here, much the same as Christmas and New Year more of an excuse to have a party and some fun rather than a celebration. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
edwinchester Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 +1. Some of my Thai friends go out for a meal on their birthday and pick up the tab themselves but that is it really. My own Thai mother in law does not even know her own birthday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnniey Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Birthdays are as big a thing here as in the West. My wife made me a card for my birthday today, and we've been married over a decade. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harryfrompattaya Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
McGarty Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 +1. Some of my Thai friends go out for a meal on their birthday and pick up the tab themselves but that is it really. My own Thai mother in law does not even know her own birthday! Same here. My birthdays, I paid for the parties if i wanted one. No presents given to me. On the other hand, if it is my g/f's birthday I am expected to buy a present The last (now ex) wanted 1 Baht gold necklace Not exactly equal rights No, she did not get it either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimbeam1 Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 They like to receive? Not give. Treat them the same they soon learn. But keep in mind even when they have a job. They mostly earn very little and their money has to stretch a long way. I usually get gifts of little value from my G/F. But much thought. jb1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ludditeman Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Age related, gf didn't give me present, her teen daughter did. I didn't give gf birthday gift either. Thais don't seem all that bothered. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
evanson Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie I'm guessing you met your 'girlfriend' in a bar? Phrase 'cheap Charlie' bit of a giveaway, together withe fact she 'expect' 'big big big gifts' on Christmas/New Year and quite possibly, their many, many 'birthdays'. It's what they have learned in their ADULTHOOD from working as hos. Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Except for the King, and Queen. So grow the fck up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mallyrd Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Many years ago my wife, my stepdaughter and our maid were off for a holiday break in Phuket. We left Songkhla pretty early in the morning and planned on having a bite to eat in Trang before moving on to Phuket. We stopped for this breakfast break in Trang and I ordered a Beer Sing Capoa (in the can) and my wife said "isn't it a bit early to be drinking", I said not when it's my birthday. Loss of face was pretty evident and the in ensuing years my birthday has not been missed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaimate Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 I suppose it just depends on the sort of Thai people you know ,marry and mix with ,my wife always gives me a card with something loving written in it ,and a gift ,our landlady and the neighbours always bring a cake ,decent people ,also my wifes sisters always get me a christmas present. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWalkingMan Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Just give her double the price of what she gave you. Easy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabySun Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 It works this way: your birthday - you make party their birthday - you give gifts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MRTELLYOUSTRAIGHT Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 If one has been with a partner here for some time and she/he does not buy a birthday card and or a small gift no matter how inexpensive or small it is then that person does not give a toss about you and is selfish and only out for themselves. Ive had a card and present every Christmas and Birthday for the last 3 years. Another give away a little off topic is when the partner goes to the shop and doesn't ask you if you would like anything that's the sort of person I don't live with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harryfrompattaya Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie I'm guessing you met your 'girlfriend' in a bar? Phrase 'cheap Charlie' bit of a giveaway, together withe fact she 'expect' 'big big big gifts' on Christmas/New Year and quite possibly, their many, many 'birthdays'. It's what they have learned in their ADULTHOOD from working as hos. Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Except for the King, and Queen. So grow the fck up. Just like you known the phase cheap Carlie so do I Does cussing make you right in my mind you are a fool. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeThePoster Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Is that the excuse your girl gave you dakling? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harryfrompattaya Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie I'm guessing you met your 'girlfriend' in a bar? Phrase 'cheap Charlie' bit of a giveaway, together withe fact she 'expect' 'big big big gifts' on Christmas/New Year and quite possibly, their many, many 'birthdays'. It's what they have learned in their ADULTHOOD from working as hos. Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Except for the King, and Queen. So grow the fck up. I guess you like to use the word hos. Are you afraid to use the word? According to most nut Doctors they will say you have not grown up, and have problems living as adult. What is this Thais do not have 'birthdays, please read what you wrote Good Day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phaethon Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Sometimes for fun I go out looking for birthday cards in Thaiscript to send to English friends and family. They're quite thin on the ground, last time I asked at Paragon and they found some after a few minutes' rummaging in the stock drawers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim207 Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 In my experience it has been party for the kids with cake and the adults sitting around drinking and ignoring the kids. Never been to an adults birthday party and only occasionally have I even been told it was someones birthday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longbow212 Posted November 6, 2011 Author Share Posted November 6, 2011 Quite a mix of experiences here. My current gf has a decent job in a bank and has done well for herself but is not at all hi-so, I therefore do not think it is an accurate reflection of her socioeconomic group. She has bought me many little things and often brings sandwiches home and other thoughtful things - perhaps this is why I was so shocked and to be honest hurt at the fact I didn't recieve a card or gift. Perhaps it is an awareness of western culture etc - she has not had any exposure whereas my ex gf was highly educated, fluent in English and had a stronger awareness of western culture - she did buy me bday gifts. My gf did ask me what I wanted to do today - I ended up just telling her I wanted to be alone - then left for my apartment alone, disappointed and somewhat confused. I should have just discussed it over with her. I guess that means I do not need to stress about buying her an expensive bday present! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Payboy Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 birthday cards Thais have SMS and MMS functions on their hand phones nowadays - have you heard? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheWalkingMan Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 If one has been with a partner here for some time and she/he does not buy a birthday card and or a small gift no matter how inexpensive or small it is then that person does not give a toss about you and is selfish and only out for themselves. Ive had a card and present every Christmas and Birthday for the last 3 years. Another give away a little off topic is when the partner goes to the shop and doesn't ask you if you would like anything that's the sort of person I don't live with. Correct comment. If your babe basically ignores your birthday, and you are the breadwinner taking care of her... Dump her and find another. The part about going to the shop is also correct. You are not in her mind at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janverbeem Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie I'm guessing you met your 'girlfriend' in a bar? Phrase 'cheap Charlie' bit of a giveaway, together withe fact she 'expect' 'big big big gifts' on Christmas/New Year and quite possibly, their many, many 'birthdays'. It's what they have learned in their ADULTHOOD from working as hos. Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Except for the King, and Queen. So grow the fck up. Just like you known the phase cheap Carlie so do I Does cussing make you right in my mind you are a fool. Touched a nerve?I think Evanson knows what he's talking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkjames Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 At my age you pray that your mrs will foget your birthday. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samran Posted November 6, 2011 Share Posted November 6, 2011 Do not worry where I live it is all the same Farang gets no gifts. But when it the GF then they expect a big big big big gift, also they like gifts for Xmas and New years Anything that give for less than 10,000 you wii be called a Cheap Carlie I'm guessing you met your 'girlfriend' in a bar? Phrase 'cheap Charlie' bit of a giveaway, together withe fact she 'expect' 'big big big gifts' on Christmas/New Year and quite possibly, their many, many 'birthdays'. It's what they have learned in their ADULTHOOD from working as hos. Thais do not have 'birthdays'. Except for the King, and Queen. So grow the fck up. I guess you like to use the word hos. Are you afraid to use the word? According to most nut Doctors they will say you have not grown up, and have problems living as adult. What is this Thais do not have 'birthdays, please read what you wrote Good Day I'm just struggling to read what you wrote. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovelaos Posted November 7, 2011 Share Posted November 7, 2011 Short answer is YES they do. If they care about you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mataus101 Posted November 7, 2011 Share Posted November 7, 2011 my wife took me shopping, bought me clothes, thent took me to my favourite restaurant and made me order all my favourite food. then we went dancing, normal if they care i feel to. perhaps some dont want to remind themselves of the massive age gaps 555. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norrona Posted November 7, 2011 Share Posted November 7, 2011 even when I was skint and living with a bargirl in pattaya with just enough money to survive on she found the money to buy me a card and present...this was 10 years ago. i'd do 2 things, 1 kick her into touch or 2, if her birthday is close by hold on and give her sweet fanny adams....possibly just pack her bag for her to clear off, on her birthday personally I wouldn't have the patience to hold out for the latter... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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