Where To Meet Good Girls?

[swissie]

Hi Josh. Relax, disregard all the comments below, originating from true Thailand-Experts living in Bangkok or Pattaya.

The "girl-friend" situation in rural Thailand is as follows:

- A girl/woman in rural Thailand can not enter any sort of relationship with a man (Farang or Thai) unless there is at least a minimal Buddhist Ceremony involved, that gives the whole thing at least a half official meaning. Without this minimal procedure, a girl/woman will have a hard time to maintain face and respect toward the rest of the village.

So, if this minimal comittement is not fulfilled, hardly would there be a rural thai lady willing to "just shack up" with some male.

It may well be that some offspring may result of such a "half-official" marriage, but even if the father disappears into the blue, the mother will not be subject to discrimination of the fellow-villagers.

*the marriage was performed in front of Buddha".

So called short time adventures are not to be had in rural Thailand with "Respectable Ladies".

The alternative: The Rural-Karaoke-Bars. Fine. This could be considered as a short time thing. Only problem is that ladies that work in such karaoke-bars have no social standing at all (this is probably the reason why hardly any of those ladies are living inside of a 50 KM Radius of their place of work.)

If the word spreads, that the local Farang is visiting Karaoke Bars, the Farang can forget of ever getting close to a "Respectable Thai Lady" in rural Thailand.

The point: Rural Thailand is like Europe bevor the Sex-Revoluton in the 60ties. The overly liberal sex-scenery in Thailand takes only place in tourist-hot-spots, but certainly not in rural-Thailand.

So, if the OP has discovered certain facts, concerning live in rural Thailand as a single man, I know exactly what he is talking about.

Pattaya and Bangkok is not Thailand. ( I heard this somewhere before, )

Cheers.

[Beetlejuice]

I smell a troll here........24......self confessed "good looking", also a good "catch".

+1

stinks like a troll

"I don't think I should have trouble finding girls. I hear "ฝรั่ง หล่อ" whenever I'm out, there's always girls giggling and staring at me"

I get girls staring and giggling at me, but that`s not because they find me attractive.

When girls are good, they`re good, but when girls are bad, they`re even better.

[StreetCowboy]

The problem may, in fact, be your Boondocks location. There is a growing scarcity of girls in your age bracket (20 something) in rural thailand. In most villages the bulk of the population now consists of the very old who are caring for the very young. The nubile young girls are off in the big smoke chasing the dream.

Do you actually see elligible young ladies each day as you move around your home town. If you do, why don't you just try to interact with them. If you don't, then I suspect the aforemention problem is a live one for you and perhaps you may need to decamp to a more urban posting.

This is the problem, I really don't on a daily basis. I've seen a handful I'd be interested in since I've been here, they're all pregnant/have children/married. I don't like the city and I'm generally quite happy with the village life, but maybe the scarcity of young and attractive girls is a downside I didn't consider.

I smell a troll here........24......self confessed "good looking", also a good "catch".

Helllloooooo............if you are fairdinkum, you are only 24 <deleted>, enjoy life before you start looking for a serious relationship and totally screw your life up.

Obviously you haven't seen the T-shirt..........Good girls go to Heaven........Bad girls go to Pattaya.

Honestly not trolling, I'm just not into the idea of paying girls to fuc_k. Also as far as I know there isn't much of a bar girl scene in Sukhothai anyway, probably not an option even if I wanted to.

I know I'm young but I do not want to end up 60 years old without a wife, sleeping with girls young enough to be my granddaughters in Pattaya every night. To each his own, but that's not my idea of a good life and although I'm not necessarily looking to settle down yet I'd like to at least date some Thai girls and see how it goes.

Soon as I'm old enough; or more precisely, my daughter is old enough, I'll be off to Pattaya to sleep with girls young enough to be my grand-daughter. Wall need something to look forward to, and at that age, I don't know what else I can hope for; when arthritis has crippled your League commentary skills, and short-term memory loss prevents you remembering any names after Offiah and Hanley... But as you say, senility and decreptitude don't need to mean the end of a fun life

SC

[overherebc]

7-11's, family marts, roadside stalls. Loads of young girls working and usually single. Keep in mind you still have to pay some money no matter hansum you think you are. 20k per month is the going rate if you rent like me.

You could also try dating sites but I found the girls on there to be too educated and picky for my tastes. Stick to meeting them in person is my advice.

Too educated and picky.!

I really want you to explain that one, honestly

[Josh88]

Thanks for the constructive replies, at least some people understand the situation. I've traveled basically all over Thailand, and as swissie as well as a few Thai friends have told me repeatedly, Pattaya and Bangkok are nothing like real Thailand. That being said the type of girls I like can be found here, it's just evidently a lot more work. I don't expect beautiful Thai girls to leave their partners for me, it's just that finding a single beautiful Thai girl out here without a partner is proving quite difficult.

Hi Josh. Relax, disregard all the comments below, originating from true Thailand-Experts living in Bangkok or Pattaya.

The "girl-friend" situation in rural Thailand is as follows:

- A girl/woman in rural Thailand can not enter any sort of relationship with a man (Farang or Thai) unless there is at least a minimal Buddhist Ceremony involved, that gives the whole thing at least a half official meaning. Without this minimal procedure, a girl/woman will have a hard time to maintain face and respect toward the rest of the village.

So, if this minimal comittement is not fulfilled, hardly would there be a rural thai lady willing to "just shack up" with some male.

It may well be that some offspring may result of such a "half-official" marriage, but even if the father disappears into the blue, the mother will not be subject to discrimination of the fellow-villagers.

*the marriage was performed in front of Buddha".

So called short time adventures are not to be had in rural Thailand with "Respectable Ladies".

The alternative: The Rural-Karaoke-Bars. Fine. This could be considered as a short time thing. Only problem is that ladies that work in such karaoke-bars have no social standing at all (this is probably the reason why hardly any of those ladies are living inside of a 50 KM Radius of their place of work.)

If the word spreads, that the local Farang is visiting Karaoke Bars, the Farang can forget of ever getting close to a "Respectable Thai Lady" in rural Thailand.

The point: Rural Thailand is like Europe bevor the Sex-Revoluton in the 60ties. The overly liberal sex-scenery in Thailand takes only place in tourist-hot-spots, but certainly not in rural-Thailand.

So, if the OP has discovered certain facts, concerning live in rural Thailand as a single man, I know exactly what he is talking about.

Pattaya and Bangkok is not Thailand. ( I heard this somewhere before, )

Cheers.

I appreciate your perspective on it. So as far as this ceremony is concerned, what type of commitment is involved? The girls I know of around here who are in commited relationships are referred to as married by the English speaking Thai people I talk with, although they've never officially signed papers. Are they referring to them going through with this ceremony, or is it less formal and commited than actual marriage? I'm not about to marry a girl I haven't dated yet but if it's an essentially meaningless ceremony necessary to begin a relationship I have no problem with that.

I've been to the rural karaoke bars a few times and been introduced to girls there, definitely not what I'm looking for. The real Thai girls who have no affiliation with the bar girl/karaoke/tourist trade are what I'm interested in, so I'm curious to find out just what a potential relationship entails.

[StreetCowboy]

Thanks for the constructive replies, at least some people understand the situation. I've traveled basically all over Thailand, and as swissie as well as a few Thai friends have told me repeatedly, Pattaya and Bangkok are nothing like real Thailand. That being said the type of girls I like can be found here, it's just evidently a lot more work. I don't expect beautiful Thai girls to leave their partners for me, it's just that finding a single beautiful Thai girl out here without a partner is proving quite difficult.

Hi Josh. Relax, disregard all the comments below, originating from true Thailand-Experts living in Bangkok or Pattaya.

The "girl-friend" situation in rural Thailand is as follows:

- A girl/woman in rural Thailand can not enter any sort of relationship with a man (Farang or Thai) unless there is at least a minimal Buddhist Ceremony involved, that gives the whole thing at least a half official meaning. Without this minimal procedure, a girl/woman will have a hard time to maintain face and respect toward the rest of the village.

So, if this minimal comittement is not fulfilled, hardly would there be a rural thai lady willing to "just shack up" with some male.

It may well be that some offspring may result of such a "half-official" marriage, but even if the father disappears into the blue, the mother will not be subject to discrimination of the fellow-villagers.

*the marriage was performed in front of Buddha".

So called short time adventures are not to be had in rural Thailand with "Respectable Ladies".

The alternative: The Rural-Karaoke-Bars. Fine. This could be considered as a short time thing. Only problem is that ladies that work in such karaoke-bars have no social standing at all (this is probably the reason why hardly any of those ladies are living inside of a 50 KM Radius of their place of work.)

If the word spreads, that the local Farang is visiting Karaoke Bars, the Farang can forget of ever getting close to a "Respectable Thai Lady" in rural Thailand.

The point: Rural Thailand is like Europe bevor the Sex-Revoluton in the 60ties. The overly liberal sex-scenery in Thailand takes only place in tourist-hot-spots, but certainly not in rural-Thailand.

So, if the OP has discovered certain facts, concerning live in rural Thailand as a single man, I know exactly what he is talking about.

Pattaya and Bangkok is not Thailand. ( I heard this somewhere before, )

Cheers.

I appreciate your perspective on it. So as far as this ceremony is concerned, what type of commitment is involved? The girls I know of around here who are in commited relationships are referred to as married by the English speaking Thai people I talk with, although they've never officially signed papers. Are they referring to them going through with this ceremony, or is it less formal and commited than actual marriage? I'm not about to marry a girl I haven't dated yet but if it's an essentially meaningless ceremony necessary to begin a relationship I have no problem with that.

I've been to the rural karaoke bars a few times and been introduced to girls there, definitely not what I'm looking for. The real Thai girls who have no affiliation with the bar girl/karaoke/tourist trade are what I'm interested in, so I'm curious to find out just what a potential relationship entails.

So you're not cocky or arrogant, but the karaoke girls are beneath you (not literally).

If you want a good girl, how much are you willing to pay? I'm told that good girls cost more than money.

By the way, I'd reccomend a Christian church for good girls who are open to foreign influence

SC

[overherebc]

Thanks for the constructive replies, at least some people understand the situation. I've traveled basically all over Thailand, and as swissie as well as a few Thai friends have told me repeatedly, Pattaya and Bangkok are nothing like real Thailand. That being said the type of girls I like can be found here, it's just evidently a lot more work. I don't expect beautiful Thai girls to leave their partners for me, it's just that finding a single beautiful Thai girl out here without a partner is proving quite difficult.

Hi Josh. Relax, disregard all the comments below, originating from true Thailand-Experts living in Bangkok or Pattaya.

The "girl-friend" situation in rural Thailand is as follows:

- A girl/woman in rural Thailand can not enter any sort of relationship with a man (Farang or Thai) unless there is at least a minimal Buddhist Ceremony involved, that gives the whole thing at least a half official meaning. Without this minimal procedure, a girl/woman will have a hard time to maintain face and respect toward the rest of the village.

So, if this minimal comittement is not fulfilled, hardly would there be a rural thai lady willing to "just shack up" with some male.

It may well be that some offspring may result of such a "half-official" marriage, but even if the father disappears into the blue, the mother will not be subject to discrimination of the fellow-villagers.

*the marriage was performed in front of Buddha".

So called short time adventures are not to be had in rural Thailand with "Respectable Ladies".

The alternative: The Rural-Karaoke-Bars. Fine. This could be considered as a short time thing. Only problem is that ladies that work in such karaoke-bars have no social standing at all (this is probably the reason why hardly any of those ladies are living inside of a 50 KM Radius of their place of work.)

If the word spreads, that the local Farang is visiting Karaoke Bars, the Farang can forget of ever getting close to a "Respectable Thai Lady" in rural Thailand.

The point: Rural Thailand is like Europe bevor the Sex-Revoluton in the 60ties. The overly liberal sex-scenery in Thailand takes only place in tourist-hot-spots, but certainly not in rural-Thailand.

So, if the OP has discovered certain facts, concerning live in rural Thailand as a single man, I know exactly what he is talking about.

Pattaya and Bangkok is not Thailand. ( I heard this somewhere before, )

Cheers.

I appreciate your perspective on it. So as far as this ceremony is concerned, what type of commitment is involved? The girls I know of around here who are in commited relationships are referred to as married by the English speaking Thai people I talk with, although they've never officially signed papers. Are they referring to them going through with this ceremony, or is it less formal and commited than actual marriage? I'm not about to marry a girl I haven't dated yet but if it's an essentially meaningless ceremony necessary to begin a relationship I have no problem with that.

I've been to the rural karaoke bars a few times and been introduced to girls there, definitely not what I'm looking for. The real Thai girls who have no affiliation with the bar girl/karaoke/tourist trade are what I'm interested in, so I'm curious to find out just what a potential relationship entails.

It is so remarkably similar to meeting someone at work or a social night out in UK or anywhere else. I understand from your location that might be difficult,sounds like you don't have a work place that gives you the chance to meet the, dare I use the expression, normal Thai females.

Difficult to advise without ending up saying that you may have to consider moving to a location where you can socialise as you want, or take a look around for somewhere to learn Thai, say 2 or 3 nights a week. If you can already speak Thai then just use it as an excuse to improve . There must be somrthing like that in your area.

Edited August 14, 2012 by overherebc

[StreetCowboy]

Take up a hobby. I tried that, when I moved to England.

More specific advice... take up a hobby other than rugby league...

[overherebc]

Take up a hobby. I tried that, when I moved to England.

More specific advice... take up a hobby other than rugby league...

One of my mates met his wife out here at the local rugby club. She was the opposition's hooker.

[GreenSnapper]

1. Go back to your home country

2. Learn to pickup girls

3. Come back to Thailand

4. Do the same

Edited August 14, 2012 by GreenSnapper

[StreetCowboy]

1. Go back to your home country

2. Learn to pickup girls

3. Come back to Thailand

4. Do the same

Why over-complicate things? Stick to 1 & 2. Or just 1.

[Jimi007]

Thanks for the constructive replies, at least some people understand the situation. I've traveled basically all over Thailand, and as swissie as well as a few Thai friends have told me repeatedly, Pattaya and Bangkok are nothing like real Thailand. That being said the type of girls I like can be found here, it's just evidently a lot more work. I don't expect beautiful Thai girls to leave their partners for me, it's just that finding a single beautiful Thai girl out here without a partner is proving quite difficult.

Hi Josh. Relax, disregard all the comments below, originating from true Thailand-Experts living in Bangkok or Pattaya.

The "girl-friend" situation in rural Thailand is as follows:

- A girl/woman in rural Thailand can not enter any sort of relationship with a man (Farang or Thai) unless there is at least a minimal Buddhist Ceremony involved, that gives the whole thing at least a half official meaning. Without this minimal procedure, a girl/woman will have a hard time to maintain face and respect toward the rest of the village.

So, if this minimal comittement is not fulfilled, hardly would there be a rural thai lady willing to "just shack up" with some male.

It may well be that some offspring may result of such a "half-official" marriage, but even if the father disappears into the blue, the mother will not be subject to discrimination of the fellow-villagers.

*the marriage was performed in front of Buddha".

So called short time adventures are not to be had in rural Thailand with "Respectable Ladies".

The alternative: The Rural-Karaoke-Bars. Fine. This could be considered as a short time thing. Only problem is that ladies that work in such karaoke-bars have no social standing at all (this is probably the reason why hardly any of those ladies are living inside of a 50 KM Radius of their place of work.)

If the word spreads, that the local Farang is visiting Karaoke Bars, the Farang can forget of ever getting close to a "Respectable Thai Lady" in rural Thailand.

The point: Rural Thailand is like Europe bevor the Sex-Revoluton in the 60ties. The overly liberal sex-scenery in Thailand takes only place in tourist-hot-spots, but certainly not in rural-Thailand.

So, if the OP has discovered certain facts, concerning live in rural Thailand as a single man, I know exactly what he is talking about.

Pattaya and Bangkok is not Thailand. ( I heard this somewhere before, )

Cheers.

I appreciate your perspective on it. So as far as this ceremony is concerned, what type of commitment is involved? The girls I know of around here who are in commited relationships are referred to as married by the English speaking Thai people I talk with, although they've never officially signed papers. Are they referring to them going through with this ceremony, or is it less formal and commited than actual marriage? I'm not about to marry a girl I haven't dated yet but if it's an essentially meaningless ceremony necessary to begin a relationship I have no problem with that.

I've been to the rural karaoke bars a few times and been introduced to girls there, definitely not what I'm looking for. The real Thai girls who have no affiliation with the bar girl/karaoke/tourist trade are what I'm interested in, so I'm curious to find out just what a potential relationship entails.

Can you speak any Thai? It's a good idea if you want to meet women who aren't in the entertainment business. And swissie is correct somewhat, especially if you want to stay with her long term. Don't rush into anything! Shopping is enjoyable at times and almost deadly at other times~

[sotsira]

Josh88, In your OP you stated that:

I know of many girls/women who have been interested in me, they're just not the type of girls I'm looking for.

What's the reason that they're not the type of girls your looking for?

As that would probably be the answer to your problem.

[MiG16]

Alright guys enough with the trolling

And you know it's not the op I'm talking to

I would attempt to delete all the off topic troll posts - but would prolly be easier to copy n paste the non trolls into a new thread.

And I could give the trolls a bit of time away from the forum seeing that they can't seem to resist posting on threads they have nothing to contribute to

Instead I'm going to give you guys the respect I accord to grown adults - that you can decide for yourselves what's appropriate.

But DONT test my patience.

The next troll post gets two weeks to chill

[brit1984]

Get out and about, do the things you enjoy (shopping, walking, jogging, swimming, cycling, charity work, cafes, restaurants, etc). This way you will meet girls will similar interests and can become friendly with them. One or me of these may develop into a relationship, or at least they can introduce you to their friends (of the "good girl" variety).

Moving to Bangkok or another big city (or spending more time there) would of course make this process faster and more efficient as most good Thai girls go to work there after university.

[Rsquared]

I stick with my first post........enjoy your life first before worrying about finding potential partner for life.

Choke the rooster as many times as required...........still a lot cheaper than making an early mistake with the wrong girl.

I speak from experience, after losing a house and a car. Listen to those of us who have been there ....done that.....trust me it will do you some good.

[WinnieTheKhwai]

The issue is Sukhothai, which is tiny. Most girls with (or who want to get) somewhat of an education and a career would move to bigger places, could be as close as Phitsanulok.

You need a little bit of a bigger town with a proper middle class, some big city anonymity and so on. After that, the Internet is your friend; just through friends of friends on social networks (Facebook basically) you will soon get to know a ton of people.

Any reason you need to stay in Sukhothai? Fishing in a bigger pond makes it easier.

[ripstanley]

Use a dating site or one of those slow moving vehicle advertising your qualities in Thai with photo and telephone number. .

[Beetlejuice]

To the OP:

This is my honest opinion and advice.

In these times I think is it best not to become romantically involved with Thai women. Only need to read some of the horror stories here on Thai visa.

You are a young naive guy, fairly new to Thailand and many Thai women including their families will consider you ripe for exploitation.

This is from the beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge:

A few facts that may save a guy a fortune and a lot of emotional trauma.

Cute girl sends out signals to a guy that she likes him.

After spending a passionate evening with her and a night of lovey-doveyness with and perhaps the best sex the guy has had for years or maybe his first time, he becomes smitten and can hardly believe his luck.

He holds her hand and listens intently to her pitiful hard luck stories and then wants to be her knight in shining armour, to the rescue, at any price, dreaming that at last he has discovered a true soul mate and love of his life, believing in a dream the guy decides to invest in her for a good future.

This is how it begins and of course in most cases the result will turn out completely different to the guy’s expectations.

Three major clues that will determine if the girl is not sincere and giving a guy a load of BS:

1. Most of her problems can only be solved with money.

2. The girl is not willing to give up any of her usual social schedules to be with the guy.

3. Appears to have many relatives, friends, acquaintances or colleges that she prefers to keep to herself and separate from her so-called relationship with the guy.

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally want to follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because you`re backing a loser, it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

Be cautious if the girl shows any of the traits mentioned in the above 1, 2 and 3.

This is the same advice I gave to my sons when they were still wet behind the ears.

Edited August 14, 2012 by Beetlejuice

[StreetCowboy]

Alright guys enough with the trolling

And you know it's not the op I'm talking to

I would attempt to delete all the off topic troll posts - but would prolly be easier to copy n paste the non trolls into a new thread.

And I could give the trolls a bit of time away from the forum seeing that they can't seem to resist posting on threads they have nothing to contribute to

Instead I'm going to give you guys the respect I accord to grown adults - that you can decide for yourselves what's appropriate.

But DONT test my patience.

The next troll post gets two weeks to chill

You'll need to be more specific. (Can we comment on speculativemoderation?)

I very much appreciate your edelivate feminine touch but sometimes, lads want a lad's input (NO! JT - that;s not what I meant!)

and he'll be all the better for it. It;s all part of growing up and being British

SC

'edilivate'? I think that should have read 'delicate' but let's hope it becomes dictionarised...

Edited August 14, 2012 by StreetCowboy

[brit1984]

To the OP:

This is my honest opinion and advice.

In these times I think is it best not to become romantically involved with Thai women. Only need to read some of the horror stories here on Thai visa.

You are a young naive guy, fairly new to Thailand and many Thai women including their families will consider you ripe for exploitation.

This is from the beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge:

A few facts that may save a guy a fortune and a lot of emotional trauma.

Cute girl sends out signals to a guy that she likes him.

After spending a passionate evening with her and a night of lovey-doveyness with and perhaps the best sex the guy has had for years or maybe his first time, he becomes smitten and can hardly believe his luck.

He holds her hand and listens intently to her pitiful hard luck stories and then wants to be her knight in shining armour, to the rescue, at any price, dreaming that at last he has discovered a true soul mate and love of his life, believing in a dream the guy decides to invest in her for a good future.

This is how it begins and of course in most cases the result will turn out completely different to the guy’s expectations.

Three major clues that will determine if the girl is not sincere and giving a guy a load of BS:

1. Most of her problems can only be solved with money.

2. The girl is not willing to give up any of her usual social schedules to be with the guy.

3. Appears to have many relatives, friends, acquaintances or colleges that she prefers to keep to herself and separate from her so-called relationship with the guy.

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally want to follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because you`re backing a loser, it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

Be cautious if the girl shows any of the traits mentioned in the above 1, 2 and 3.

This is the same advice I gave to my sons when they were still wet behind the ears.

Thai girls are just like any other girls, just use common sense.

Sent from iPhone; please forgive any typos or violations of forum rules

[StreetCowboy]

To the OP:

This is my honest opinion and advice.

In these times I think is it best not to become romantically involved with Thai women. Only need to read some of the horror stories here on Thai visa.

You are a young naive guy, fairly new to Thailand and many Thai women including their families will consider you ripe for exploitation.

This is from the beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge:

A few facts that may save a guy a fortune and a lot of emotional trauma.

Cute girl sends out signals to a guy that she likes him.

After spending a passionate evening with her and a night of lovey-doveyness with and perhaps the best sex the guy has had for years or maybe his first time, he becomes smitten and can hardly believe his luck.

He holds her hand and listens intently to her pitiful hard luck stories and then wants to be her knight in shining armour, to the rescue, at any price, dreaming that at last he has discovered a true soul mate and love of his life, believing in a dream the guy decides to invest in her for a good future.

This is how it begins and of course in most cases the result will turn out completely different to the guy's expectations.

Three major clues that will determine if the girl is not sincere and giving a guy a load of BS:

1. Most of her problems can only be solved with money.

2. The girl is not willing to give up any of her usual social schedules to be with the guy.

3. Appears to have many relatives, friends, acquaintances or colleges that she prefers to keep to herself and separate from her so-called relationship with the guy.

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally want to follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because you`re backing a loser, it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

Be cautious if the girl shows any of the traits mentioned in the above 1, 2 and 3.

This is the same advice I gave to my sons when they were still wet behind the ears.

Thai girls are just like any other girls, just use common sense.

Sent from iPhone; please forgive any typos or violations of forum rules

Now who's being sarcastic?

We're not all sexy little terriers like yourself

[HeavyDrinker]

Can't you tell it's a bit slack.....

'Kin 'Elll...

[WinnieTheKhwai]

This is from the beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge:

Oh God not this again.. I've seen you post this three times now.

Anyway, the "Beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge".. that's not going to be a very spacious place is it..

[mca]

And stay off the LowCow.

I'd recommend staying with the LowCow. They tend to just stand there placidly chewing the cud. Now pigs, that's a different matter, always struggling and squealing,.........

[Josh88]

Can you speak any Thai? It's a good idea if you want to meet women who aren't in the entertainment business. And swissie is correct somewhat, especially if you want to stay with her long term. Don't rush into anything! Shopping is enjoyable at times and almost deadly at other times~

I can speak a little, but barely enough for even the most basic conversation and my pronounciation is still really bad, so I'm definitely not comfortable enough with it to strike up conversations with Thai girls yet. I'm always working on it though, I realize it's vital to living here long term so I am trying to improve.

Josh88, In your OP you stated that:

I know of many girls/women who have been interested in me, they're just not the type of girls I'm looking for.

What's the reason that they're not the type of girls your looking for?

As that would probably be the answer to your problem.

Honestly, I'm just not attracted to them. As I said in my initial post, the only girls I've met and been attracted to are already taken, it seems like the good looking ones get scooped up quickly out here or leave for other parts of the country. I really don't feel as though I'm setting my standards too high at all, there just doesn't seem to be much out here.

The issue is Sukhothai, which is tiny. Most girls with (or who want to get) somewhat of an education and a career would move to bigger places, could be as close as Phitsanulok.

You need a little bit of a bigger town with a proper middle class, some big city anonymity and so on. After that, the Internet is your friend; just through friends of friends on social networks (Facebook basically) you will soon get to know a ton of people.

Any reason you need to stay in Sukhothai? Fishing in a bigger pond makes it easier.

I agree that Sukhothai seems to be the root of the problem. Unfortunately due to my work I have to live here and relocating is not an option. I do really like most aspects of life out here though, there's just not much for social life.

To the OP:

This is my honest opinion and advice.

In these times I think is it best not to become romantically involved with Thai women. Only need to read some of the horror stories here on Thai visa.

You are a young naive guy, fairly new to Thailand and many Thai women including their families will consider you ripe for exploitation.

This is from the beetlejuice vault of wisdom and knowledge:

A few facts that may save a guy a fortune and a lot of emotional trauma.

Cute girl sends out signals to a guy that she likes him.

After spending a passionate evening with her and a night of lovey-doveyness with and perhaps the best sex the guy has had for years or maybe his first time, he becomes smitten and can hardly believe his luck.

He holds her hand and listens intently to her pitiful hard luck stories and then wants to be her knight in shining armour, to the rescue, at any price, dreaming that at last he has discovered a true soul mate and love of his life, believing in a dream the guy decides to invest in her for a good future.

This is how it begins and of course in most cases the result will turn out completely different to the guy’s expectations.

Three major clues that will determine if the girl is not sincere and giving a guy a load of BS:

1. Most of her problems can only be solved with money.

2. The girl is not willing to give up any of her usual social schedules to be with the guy.

3. Appears to have many relatives, friends, acquaintances or colleges that she prefers to keep to herself and separate from her so-called relationship with the guy.

It`s very simple. If a girl really likes or loves a guy, she will unconditionally want to follow him anywhere with no strings or provisos attached.

Her main ambition in life will become solely to be with her man without any financial stipulations and social limitations. She should in fact be proud and keen to show off her new boyfriend and let everyone know that he and she is now an item.

If this is not the case, then dream on baby, because you`re backing a loser, it`s going to cost you dear and you are wasting your time.

Be cautious if the girl shows any of the traits mentioned in the above 1, 2 and 3.

This is the same advice I gave to my sons when they were still wet behind the ears.

I am very aware of the exploitation of farangs by Thai women/families that goes on here, it's something I would always be concerned about with a potential relationship. Thankfully through my work I'm very close with quite a well connected and influential family in the area, which is very helpful. I can find out about any girls around here I'm interested in and their families by making some inquiries, and who I should stay away from. I'm like a son to the matriarch of the family who is also experienced with western culture, so she's always willing to advise me on what is and isn't acceptable in these relationship proceedings. I absolutely will not fall into the trap many men do here, I'm too young to get sucked into that and I know the red flags to look out for.

As far as dating sites go, is this really a viable option? I feel like any girl here who's using them would just be looking for a white man to milk for all he's worth, but maybe I just have the wrong impression.

[Morakot]

Sorry. Farangs usually get the worst scum of the low society thais. Thats a fact.

Fact of your life?

[Morakot]

So I've been living in Thailand out in the boondocks (Sukhothai) for about six months now.

Why? If you want "datable girls" you should head for Pattaya, Patpong or Patong.

Not entirely sure you and the OP have an identical understanding of the concept of "dating".

[poanoi]

I suggest going to school, there you will meet them smallbutts and get to socialize

with'em. At the same time you'll improve your thai and probably get proposal to 'teach english' on a one to one tutoring, or with luck one on two tutoring

[Morakot]

I suggest going to school, there you will meet them smallbutts and get to socialize

with'em.

"People" attending school in Thailand are mostly under age.

Edited August 15, 2012 by Morakot