davidst01 Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I raised the topic below regarding a thai girl that I met (who works at Family Mart). I cannot deny that it was enjoyable to read all of the comments... The update is we eventually became romantic and I subsequently learnt more about her background. Her mother had a relationship with a European guy and that is where she learnt her good English conversational skills. I recently departed the LOS for a few months holiday in Indonesia. Prior to leaving Miss Family Mart expressed her desire for me to impregnate her (i.e. she wants a bun in the oven). I'm sitting here at the beach bar thinking about all this. I do not love her. I'm in my early 40's and still not ready to settle down. If I did give her a baby on the basis of her being a single mum, my question is how much would I have to pay per month to support her (excluding the monthly apartment expense which obviously I would pay as well). Im assuming it will be more expensive as the child grows older- i.e after 5 yrs old I will have to pay for its education. If anyone can advise how much per month its going to cost me (average guestimates is fine) it would be much appreciated. I'm in a strong financial position atm (not that she knows this) and would 100% do the right thing by supporting her month by month if we decided to 'do it'. I simply do not want to give up my freedom and get married to her as Im not ready etc- but thats a separate issue.... Hit me with some advice please... __________________________________________________________________ The less a man makes declarative statements the less apt he is at looking foolish in retrospect Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BookMan Posted September 17, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted September 17, 2012 You are 40 years old and you are asking about this? Seriously? 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
overherebc Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Go for it. One of the best things you can do when you're forty as well as buying a flash sports car. Post back in 3 years and let us know which one costs more in upkeep Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swiss1960 Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 You must be joking, man.... but on the other hand, if you can affort 20'000 Baht / month jokes for the next 20 years or so to come... up to you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WebBangkok Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 wow lol If you don't love her, why make a baby with her? You should wait and find a chick you love IMO. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoslim Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 if you can spend 30,000 baht a month in the next 20 years for her and the kid you should be fine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bangkockney Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 If you're considering making her a single parent then you already know the answer. Don't do it. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacktrip Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 You are 40 years old and you are asking about this? Seriously? sounds like a developmental delayed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 What's the due date then? I think the OP has already got her knocked up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Songhua Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I'd be pondering and questioning whether her ultimate desire is 'the 'bun in the oven' or the financial security she thinks is to be gained from it. As to the cost of supporting kids? .... the older they get the more they want. My son's 18, has a job and still puts his hand out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpinx Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Too funny - every Thai girl wants a farang baby................ for the money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Payboy Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 What kind of oven is it? Microwave or pizza? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpinx Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Really --- you have to wonder at these topics..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RealisticRon Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Some of these titles are just hilarious! 'family Mart Girl' Update- She Wants A Bun In The Oven' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mauGR1 Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Really --- you have to wonder at these topics..... Indeed.. My advice, get a life ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jbrain Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Why isn't this thread in farang,pub and jokes? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Troll, hmmmm perhaps, BUT l have met a couple of guys in the same vein. One was near 70. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I'm in my early 40's and still not ready to settle down Yes, you're right. You should follow suit and settle down when you're 60+ with a 30 years younger gf/wife. That's the norm in Thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post eek Posted September 17, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) Putting aside the troll alarm bells going off, ill base my reply on it being real. Frankly, what the hell is wrong with you?? Putting aside the fact you say you do not love her (which is still a HUGE issue), HAVING A BABY IS A MAJOR DECISION IN LIFE! Even if you turn out to be an ass who walks out, do you really have so little regard in being responsible for creating the life of another human..?? Then, on top of that, the fact you barely know her, thus how could you know how capable a mother she would be? I sincerely hope this is a troll, for, your attitude towards creating a child and what responsibilities should go with it, is appalling. Edited September 17, 2012 by eek 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 wow lol If you don't love her, why make a baby with her? You should wait and find a chick you love IMO. Does it cost less? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meatballs Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Although I'm sure the idea sounds kind of kinky, I would advise against it. You'll have some "fun" at the beginning but eventually you'll realize that you'll be paying for the girl and the child for the next 20+ years. Don't do it. You'll regret it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpinx Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 I reckon - on the basis that the OP hasn't come back to benefit from our pearls of wisdom - that this is a wind-up. It was good for a laugh though and stopped me thinking about floods and amateur movies for the afternoon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post eek Posted September 17, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted September 17, 2012 Hit me with some advice please... Stop being a complete and utter moron, grow up, and think with your brain rather than your dick. How does that advice hit you? 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swiss1960 Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 wow lol If you don't love her, why make a baby with her? You should wait and find a chick you love IMO. Does it cost less? Maybe not cost less... but maybe hurt less... and maybe even give some "return on investment" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoslim Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Op think too mut, thais don't seem to have a ploblem baking buns and walking away when they had enough of it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Payboy Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Troll, hmmmm perhaps, BUT l have met a couple of guys in the same vein. One was near 70. Yes, we met. But I was only putting puffie pies in the 7-11 oven. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post smokie36 Posted September 17, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted September 17, 2012 Putting aside the troll alarm bells going off, ill base my reply on it being real.Frankly, what the hell is wrong with you?? Putting aside the fact you say you do not love her (which is still a HUGE issue), HAVING A BABY IS A MAJOR DECISION IN LIFE! Even if you turn out to be an ass who walks out, do you really have so little regard in being responsible for creating the life of another human..?? Then, on top of that, the fact you barely know her, thus how could you know how capable a mother she would be? I sincerely hope this is a troll, for, your attitude towards creating a child and what responsibilities should go with it, is appalling. Its the ultimate "man-child" post. Please don't have kids OP....you are not in any way ready. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shot Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 If I recall correctly, this girl is about 20-21 and wears a Family Mart uniform. That in itself gets me pretty worked up, and my Mrs. is still sore form the original post. Bun in oven: I would tell her you want to practice several time a day, using any kitchen appliances necessary. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BookMan Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 Putting aside the troll alarm bells going off, ill base my reply on it being real. Frankly, what the hell is wrong with you?? Putting aside the fact you say you do not love her (which is still a HUGE issue), HAVING A BABY IS A MAJOR DECISION IN LIFE! Even if you turn out to be an ass who walks out, do you really have so little regard in being responsible for creating the life of another human..?? Then, on top of that, the fact you barely know her, thus how could you know how capable a mother she would be? I sincerely hope this is a troll, for, your attitude towards creating a child and what responsibilities should go with it, is appalling. +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 if you can spend 30,000 baht a month in the next 20 years for her and the kid you should be fine This is what many members of this forum are doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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