F1fanatic Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 I can sympathise with the question the OP was asking. Shortly after I first came here my hairdresser (who had been previously married to a Westerner) told me that she had met some guy whilst he was on a 2 week holiday and he wanted her to join him in the UK. Apparently she had spoken to him often on the 'phone since he returned home, and his mother too! They were both v keen for her to move to the UK, get married and she would have work helping out in their hotel . Like the OP, I tried to subtly point out this might not be all it seemed to be and warned her to be v careful. She left anyway, selling the 'salon' to a friend, and as I stopped using the place after she left, I've no idea what happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StreetCowboy Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 I'm always surprised at the girls who accept lucrative jobs in foreign countries, only to find things are not as they seem. At least in this case she has known the man for some time and can form her own opinion of him. She's a big girl grown-up and can make her own decisions. If you're still worried, ask her to send an SMS once she's been there a week. Actually, that's a very bad idea, because she'll forget, and then you'll worry more. And of course, she'll have a different, local, phone number, and probably won't check her emails, so the fact that you can't contact her, even if you try, won't indicate anything untoward. You might encourage her to get the quality of the jewellery verified. But basically, consider yourselves as ships that pass in the night, and the face that she is heading into uncharted waters is not your concern. Concentrate on steering your own course SC 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 I love it when someone comes with 1 post and the first thing they write about is there Thai girl/bar girl experience. I mean, when I first joined Thaivisa all I did was tell personal details of my love history and all. Anyways to cut to the chase: (1) You need to crawl back to her and tell her you are a fool and it is all your fault (2) Propose Marriage (3) Move to Thailand (4) Burn all your bridges in your homeland. Like tell your boss and business associates to F off. When Cortez reached the new world he burned the ships so his men would not think about returning. You should do the same. (5) Transfer all of your assets to Thailand. (6) In Thailand, transfer all of your assets to the name of your BG new wife. (7) You will need a source of income to remain in Thailand. You should open up a bar. (8) Continue to remain on Thaivisa. Post regularly. All the gripes and unpleasantries that you feel about Thailand and the Thai people, you should share with us on Thaivisa by posting about them regularly because we love hearing about it and are very good at giving a sympathetic ear. And build her and her parents and "Brother" a house. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
travelmann Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 (edited) Heres some advice, my Wife ( Thai) rents rooms for a living so meets many couples, quite often its a Thai woman and Foreign boyfriend/husband, the women on occasion are bargirls and the stories they openly tell my wife would have the OP running like hell away from this woman. Often she is asked to tell the husband/boyfriend the rent is higher than it is so they can milk off some of the rent money and how they want "extra keys" in case a friend wants to stay with them when hubby is away abroad. ( I must add before the TVers start she doesnt do this) On odd occasions I am there, the husband will tell me how wonderful his wife is, totally oblivious. I get some great stories sometimes, on the flip side I see young kids come teaching and using girls like sh*t and not bar girls just regular girls with jobs , the last one wrote on the wall when she left him "xxxxxx <snip> off" It was repainted and it was taken form the deposit I know that at the back of his mind he'll be thinking it will work................. we were all stupid like this at one time over a particular girl and I'm no exception. IT WONT. That said no amount of "talking to" will change what he does. Edited September 21, 2012 by metisdead : Profanity 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtdee Posted September 21, 2012 Author Share Posted September 21, 2012 Well, thanks for the kind (and not so kind, I guess) words. I know I have to remove this from my head.if it was just her going, I wouldn't have even asked the question.it was just Eating away at me that he asked he asked her friend along, apparently to keep his mate from feeling 'lonely' back home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catrike Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Fully agree with the above. I think I'll call this HSFV...Human Stupid Farang Virus. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Isn't the above a comment on moderation? Why not report the thread instead of telling them what to do on the forum? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StreetCowboy Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Isn't the above a comment on moderation? Why not report the thread instead of telling them what to do on the forum? If I was that bothered about it, I'd be tempted not to read the thread, nor reply to it. Maybe he just enjoys shouting. Perhaps he suffers from Tourettes' Syndrome; luckily there is a thread for that SC 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiangmaikelly Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Isn't the above a comment on moderation? Why not report the thread instead of telling them what to do on the forum? If I was that bothered about it, I'd be tempted not to read the thread, nor reply to it. Maybe he just enjoys shouting. Perhaps he suffers from Tourettes' Syndrome; luckily there is a thread for that SC Me too cowboy but there are people in the world who don't want anyone else to read it if it offends them. Notice all the recent attacks on embassies. Pattaya is a good example. Anytime it is mentioned about coffee to cupcakes it winds up a shouting match about ..... well you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacktrip Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 people like to thai bash, but the foreigner dudes here are usually just as bad as the girls. it's common for dues to take thai bar girls out of the country to use as prostitutes in their home countries, or it just evolves into this. generally, the dudes are losers no matter what country they are in and when the money dries up the girl does what she always did, he ends up as a support just like a rental gf would be to a visiting guy in thailand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeonjake Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Well, thanks for the kind (and not so kind, I guess) words. I know I have to remove this from my head.if it was just her going, I wouldn't have even asked the question.it was just Eating away at me that he asked he asked her friend along, apparently to keep his mate from feeling 'lonely' back home. have you ever thought this bloke just might of asked her freind along to keep his girlfriend company, i think you are making assumptions when you dont know this man, thats how i read it, all hes done is bought her some gold,(better then yours) asked her to go to his country with her friend,(something you didnt do), i think a lot of this on your part is jelousy, get on with your life mate, forget about her, jake 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JurgenG Posted September 21, 2012 Popular Post Share Posted September 21, 2012 people like to thai bash, but the foreigner dudes here are usually just as bad as the girls. it's common for dues to take thai bar girls out of the country to use as prostitutes in their home countries, or it just evolves into this. generally, the dudes are losers no matter what country they are in and when the money dries up the girl does what she always did, he ends up as a support just like a rental gf would be to a visiting guy in thailand. 100% agree with you. As a student back home I used to work in a night bar, it was convenient for my studies. I was watching them, the losers, the girls, the pimps, the dealers, the customers, even the plain cloth police ... It is not specific to Thailand, in this underground world, people are all rotten. After a couple of month I found a job in a data centre, I left without regret. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zzdocxx Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 Yeah maybe the best thing is to keep moving forward and don't have further contact with her. Ignore the put-downs from people here. Probably they mean well, thinking that by shaming you it will prevent further mistakes. I'm not convinced of how constructive that is, however. Good luck. PS I know there are many people here who have been in the same boat. I don't blame you for discussing it here, in whom else would you confide that you fell in love with a prostitute, your mom/clergyman/sister? I suspect some, but not all, of the harshest critics are exactly the same ones who have been in your situation. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 another thai girl bashing post, another fall in love story,, we have heard them all, I`d say this is more like a fool in love story. Have more interesting things to do, such as going outside and watching the paint dry on a plank that I have just painted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Isn't the above a comment on moderation? Why not report the thread instead of telling them what to do on the forum? Sounds to me like a call for the automated censoring of posts he doesn't like, and from his comment suspect he hasn't read the OP.. I see no complaint from the OP, and certainly cant determine where it says his life went to shit. I personally would rather see the removal of members like trainman than the introduction of a "firewall" (i suspect he has no understanding of that term either) to dictate what type of post is appropriate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StreetCowboy Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. Isn't the above a comment on moderation? Why not report the thread instead of telling them what to do on the forum? Sounds to me like a call for the automated censoring of posts he doesn't like, and from his comment suspect he hasn't read the OP.. I see no complaint from the OP, and certainly cant determine where it says his life went to shit. I personally would rather see the removal of members like trainman than the introduction of a "firewall" (i suspect he has no understanding of that term either) to dictate what type of post is appropriate. I think a firewall is a good idea. Or the Wall of Death. I love motorcycle stunts. Seems a bit of-topic, though. I could see that giving rise to some quite rational fears, though, a motorcycle belting round a vertical track awash with flame. I could see the Occupational Health and Safety expressing a view on that SC Edited September 22, 2012 by StreetCowboy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shot Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokie36 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I could swear I recognise that bloke.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) 1. Enjoy the time you had with her. 2. Learn to share, you got what you paid for. 3. Move on. Edited September 22, 2012 by TommoPhysicist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I Like Thai Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I was just trying to say that they're not relationship material. Their priorities shift too dramatically once they're worked the bar for too long. When you first met her she made you aware that you needed to pay her money for her company and sex When you first met her you were happy to pay her money for company and sex. A few months later she was still telling you that you needed to pay her money for her company and sex A few months later YOU had changed YOUR priorities in order for you to believe something else. You are the only person in the story whose priorities have shifted dramatically Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BookMan Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. I find them quite entertaining. I'm surprised it took me so long to see this one 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BookMan Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Went to Thailand in March and did the stupidiest thing possible. I fell in love with a bar girl. Something tells me that now you're all set to outdo that one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TommoPhysicist Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) Young man comes to Thailand, falls in love with the first bar girl he meets, life turns to shit, tells his story on TV. I don't know how many times we've seen it this year alone, but enough to set up some sort of firewall to prevent further repeats ! Mods...shut this crap down the minute it appears. I find them quite entertaining. I'm surprised it took me so long to see this one He titled it badly ........ should have been 'I fell in love with a bar girl' Still, it could have been worse, no house, farm or car loss. Edited September 22, 2012 by TommoPhysicist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BookMan Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I can sympathise with the question the OP was asking. Shortly after I first came here my hairdresser (who had been previously married to a Westerner) told me that she had met some guy whilst he was on a 2 week holiday and he wanted her to join him in the UK. Apparently she had spoken to him often on the 'phone since he returned home, and his mother too! They were both v keen for her to move to the UK, get married and she would have work helping out in their hotel . Like the OP, I tried to subtly point out this might not be all it seemed to be and warned her to be v careful. She left anyway, selling the 'salon' to a friend, and as I stopped using the place after she left, I've no idea what happened. Hopefully there were no future hair raising adventures involved Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 ^^^^^^ point well missed. ^^^^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 ^^^^^^ point well missed. ^^^^^ it would seem that this post makes no sense. it is not a response to the post directly above it and should be ignored, much like everything else i have written 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smokie36 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 In the general forum can I add for you. Some of your posts elsewhere are useful I've noticed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Its nice to be noticed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dtdee Posted September 23, 2012 Author Share Posted September 23, 2012 The saga has been concluded. She responded and has told me that he is from Aus. My fears have disappeared. Just as a final point: I broke all contact with her after she told me about this man, and only removed it to send the warnings. Only reason I got the message is because I forgot to turn my email firewall back on. As it stands now, she has zero method of contacting me, or me of contacting her, as I have force-blocked her phone, email and had previously blocked her from skype and Facebook. Irrespective of what happens now, the issue has been put to bed. Any feelings, romantic or otherwise, evaporated when she asked for the relationship to be non-manogamous (excepting her working the bar). I honestly wish her luck trying to get a visa for her and her friend in Aus, as I was going through the process of getting one for her. It's gruelling enough when you've known them for 6-8 months and just one person. This is why I was not willing to send any money over, which she understood. The relationship ended so violently because she knew exactly what I had to do in terms of saving money for it to work, and still persisted in asking for a wage. I'm done. Life goes on. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KRS1 Posted September 23, 2012 Share Posted September 23, 2012 delete her phone number before you memorize it....a couple months from now you'll be ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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