Hi - I've just been invited to a Thai wedding with very little notice and have no idea what to wear!! According to my (Thai) husband we might go along in the morning to the traditional ceremony then will go along later to the evening party. I don't have a lot of time to buy anything but could pop out tonight if I desperately need something - or even tomorrow to get something for the evening.

All I have is a black and white sundress that I wore to a friend's wedding in the UK last year - thin straps. Not even sure what is appropriate for a wedding here. I have asked my husband of course but he does not really have much idea - I could ask his mum or aunts but they are all older and fashion tastes are very different for their generation so I'm not sure how much it would help!

I don't know the people getting married - all I know is it's the daughter of hubby's mum's very good friend and they are quite rich (ie are there higher expectations of what I should wear because of this!!)

Cheers in advance for any help

No black at a wedding. Black is for funerals (perhaps at a super hiso wedding but even then I would reconsider).

A very nice dress, with sleeves is best. Does not have to be long sleeves but covering the shoulders. No black.

No black at a wedding. Black is for funerals (perhaps at a super hiso wedding but even then I would reconsider).

A very nice dress, with sleeves is best. Does not have to be long sleeves but covering the shoulders. No black.

Thanks. As I thought, I can get away with it (if I buy a coloured scarf or cardi to wear over it) but it's not ideal!! I wouldn't describe it as 'very nice' though it's fine and was ok for a UK wedding - would still prefer to wear something nicer! It does have a black pattern on white as well - I've been googling a bit to research and although that seems to be acceptable (as it's not all black) all the women I have seen in photos are all wearing coloured dresses and Thais do wear black and white for funerals so it might look a bit strange.

Shame I don't have more time as I could probably find something lovely but I will see what I can do tonight!!

I had this fabulous black and white polka dotted dress that my husband sniffed at, "well its nice but you can't wear that to a wedding".

I've just been to a wedding in Chaiyapum. T-shirt and thongs was the standard attire. some people from out of town dressed up a bit, but none of the locals did, not even the bride's parents

I've just been to a wedding in Chaiyapum. T-shirt and thongs was the standard attire. some people from out of town dressed up a bit, but none of the locals did, not even the bride's parents

perhaps a re-read of the OP is in order

all I know is it's the daughter of hubby's mum's very good friend and they are quite rich (ie are there higher expectations of what I should wear because of this!!)

From my experience what you have would be ok, i recently attended a wedding and the style of dress you have was commonly worn, quite a few of the Thai guys had black suits on including the Brides father, also few male thai guest had open necked black shirts and black trousers on.. It was prity well much the same as a western wedding dress wise even down the tradition of throwing the bouqet. So if it was good enough for wedding in the UK it will be fine here.

Attached is a picture of a few thai ladies as an example, they would not have minded me showing the picture but blacked out faces just so as not to bother anybody.

Edited November 4, 201213 yr by marstons

None of those women are wearing black. Black suit and tie is expected, black dress perhaps not so much. Let me just say that I wouldn't ever wear a black dress to a wedding but its a personal decision based on ten million weddings. (OK maybe not really ten million but it feels like ten million)

Thanks for the replies - in the end (after hubby read the invitation) it turned out we weren;t invited to the daytime ceremonies) so we did have a few hours to go shopping for something and I got a cheapish blue dress (not too casual but not too formal so I can wear again easily). To be honest I didn't notice what people were wearing - apart from a Thai woman in an amazing long red dress who stood out - but on the whole they were smart (hubby said he felt a bit scruffy in jeans) and I was glad I was wearing something that blended in - being the only white woman people do notice more than they would otherwise - I would probably have felt a bit more uncomfortable in the black and white dress.

The wedding was certainly interesting (first I have been to here) - got there at 6pm and had various pretty average Chinese dishes served at the table with some fanta and coke (and a bit of whisky for some of the men) - there were VIP tables who were served wine and regular tables (like us) who weren't!!! After some speeches by family and some local politicians then by 9pm we were all on the way home stone cold sober so we had a quick stop on the way back for a much needed bottle of wine to drink at home! Hubby says it was quite a 'corporate' wedding and very much about show (hence the politicians) and that they are not always like this - many are a bit livlier. Plus we're not at all close to the bride or groom so weren't that involved if you see what I mean.

Interesting to experience though. I am hoping some of my husband's friends or relatives get married while we're here as it would be good to see the wedding of someone we were closer too.

I had this fabulous black and white polka dotted dress that my husband sniffed at, "well its nice but you can't wear that to a wedding".

ha ha at least he told you! Mine would have not registered that the colour was wrong and I would have ended up wearing it (if I hadn't checked on here first)!!!

Interesting to experience though. I am hoping some of my husband's friends or relatives get married while we're here as it would be good to see the wedding of someone we were closer too.

you WILL come to regret this statement some day! No, they aren't that bad, I enjoy a wedding or three but finally put my foot down at all of them, had to make a rule that I actually knew somebody in the family before I would go to a wedding.

Please help! I have been to a few weddings here but I'm not sure where I stand about tomorrow.

This wedding is a friend/co-worker of my boyfriend.

I have a dress that I've worn before to weddings and it's fine but I really don't want to wear the same one again.

So I know it's taboo in American weddings to wear white. I have an ivory dress that I want to wear and it isn't too fancy but nice for an event such as a wedding. It isn't a gown or anything, I wanna know can I wear it?

I need help :/

Please help! I have been to a few weddings here but I'm not sure where I stand about tomorrow.

This wedding is a friend/co-worker of my boyfriend.

I have a dress that I've worn before to weddings and it's fine but I really don't want to wear the same one again.

So I know it's taboo in American weddings to wear white. I have an ivory dress that I want to wear and it isn't too fancy but nice for an event such as a wedding. It isn't a gown or anything, I wanna know can I wear it?

I need help :/

If it is all ivory, I'd skip it. At the reception Thai brides often appear in a white western style wedding dress and you don't want to detract from this.

There is no problem wearing something you wore before, if it is an appropriate dress. Chances are no one will remember )it's only the inappropriate wear that sticks in other people's minds!)

I'm a thai and speaking from my own experiences.

no black, dark gray or any depressing colors

no white, or cream.........(don't want to compete with the bride)

what you should wear....

A dress (one piece, or 2 pieces), w/ shoulders and upper arms covered, not too deep neckline (keep your cleavage well hidden)

For traditional ceremony (you "may" have to sit on the floor at some point), so make sure your skirt / dress is not too short.

Any cheerful, happy, and faminine colors will be best....(after all this is a joyful event)

So basically....anything that looks like you're going to a garden party or Sunday church... not pub and bars or to attract the opposite sex in a sleazy way.

For the reception at night: any nice (toward semi conservative) cocktail dress will do

Edited April 7, 201313 yr by doji