Do U Fear?

[BambinA]

well

i dont want that .. i fear

even i know my family love me

but ..i dont wanna be single till i die

so..what do u manage your life..rare to find someone who love u the way u are

[FlyingDutchman]

... ... don't know ... I'm not gay ...

[Ijustwannateach]

Jeez, Bambina... how old are you now? Your photo in the avatar seems pretty young... you've got plenty of time to find someone... and there is someone for everyone somewhere... I don't think you need to have this fear.

But I agree it can be hard at times. Hang in there and try to keep most of your needs met- it's not easy to get someone if you send out "lonely" vibes.

"Steven"

[thaibebop]

... ... don't know ... I'm not gay ...

You don't have to be gay to fear dying alone Dutchman.

It is a very real fear for everybody.

[PeaceBlondie]

I'm having that kind of fear this morning. I woke up with sunburn, the houseboy's gone, my shoulder hurts a lot and the doctors don't know why, and my spinal chord's been acting up for the first time. Paul Simon wrote, "Everything put together, sooner or later, falls apart."

But some people, Bambina, just can't be alone. I suspect some cultures, including Thailand, are more extreme about that.

You don't have to be lonely when you're alone. I've still got me, myself, and I to have a discussion with.

There are worse things than living alone. Being an abused partner in a terrible relationship is much worse than living alone.

But when you get very old (over 70), you need a support network more than ever.

Last year, I left my old boyfriend behind because I thought I didn't need a support person. Then I wrecked my shoulder, moved away, and have missed him. I'm tempted to call him up and ....who knows?

[Uma~~]

There's somebody for everybody Bambina, don't fret just yet.

[markuk]

There's somebody for everybody Bambina, don't fret just yet.

i agree you will find someone ..

[Steve2UK]

... ... don't know ... I'm not gay ...

[PeaceBlondie]

Moved to General Topics.

Edited February 24, 2006 by PeaceBlondie

[britmaveric]

Lonely - Akon

Lonely I'm Mr Lonely,

I have nobody,

For my owwnnn

I'm so lonely, I'm Mr. Lonely

I have nobody,

For my owwnnn

I'm so lonely,

Yo this one here goes out to all my playas out there ya kno got that one good girl whose always been there like ya Know took all the bullshit then one day she cant take it no more and decides to leave

I woke up in the middle of the night and I noticed my girl wasn't by my side, coulda sworn I was dreamin, for her I was Feenin, so I hadda take a little ride, back tracking ova these few years, tryna figure out wat I do to make it go bad, cuz Ever since my girl left me, my whole life came crashin

I'm so lonely (so lonely),

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girl

Cant belive I hadda girl like you and I just let you walk right outta my life, after all I put u thru u still stuck Around and stayed by my side, what really hurt me is I broke ur heart, baby you were a good girl and I had no right, I Really wanna make things right, cuz without u in my life girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girl

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girl

Been all about the world ain't neva met a girl that can take the things that you been through

Never thought the day would come where you would get up and run and I would be out chasing u

Cuz aint nowhere in the globe id rather be, aint noone in the globe id rather see then the girl of my dreams that made me Be so happy but now so lonely

So lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own)

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girrll

Never thought that id be alone, I didnt hope you'd be gone this long, I jus want u to call my phone, so stop playing girl and Come on home (come on home), baby girl I didn't mean to shout, I want me and you to work it out, I never wished Id ever Hurt my baby, and its drivin me crazy cuz...

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own)

I'm so lonely (so lonely)

I'm Mr. Lonely (Mr. Lonely)

I have nobody (I have nobody)

To call my own (to call my own) girll

Lonely, so lonely

So lonely, (so lonely),

Mr. Lonely, so lonely

So lonely, so lonely, (so lonely), Mr. Lonely

Edited February 24, 2006 by britmaveric

[khall64au]

well

i dont want that .. i fear

even i know my family love me

but ..i dont wanna be single till i die

so..what do u manage your life..rare to find someone who love u the way u are

Bambi... worse in the west than it is here in LOS tho..... at least you have your family:

http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/parall...0670269203.html

Personally, I'm rather starting to enjoy being on my own. I have my personal space, I have my friends, my family are coming to visit me next month - as well as a bunch of friends hitting town. I know it's sometimes better to have "that someone special" in your life but... much better to enjoy your company and selected "special people" than to worry about a relationship that is not quite right in your heart. One day.... our knights will come!

[suegha]

There's somebody for everybody Bambina, don't fret just yet.

i agree you will find someone ..

Bambi, I agree as well! You are still young, you a really nice person, and there is someone out there for you. Don't worry, it will happen...

[Jockstar]

Bambi. You shouldnt worry. Maybe you are looking to hard. You have many great qualities. Keep smiling and you will meet someone when you least expect. Dont look desperate.

[dog412]

once you find yourself, you will never be alone. as you know the search is not easy. jai yen to you.

[seville]

I use to have that fear, but now that I've hit 40 it doesn't bother me as much. I would love to find that special someone, but really enjoy not having to consider someone else when I want to take my life in a certain direction.

[leftcross]

you're a young woman, you never need to be alone

[zaz]

I don't fear it as such but I wouldn't want to be alone.

I was married for 10 years including 4 years separation and now divorced but we both never quite had that magic with each other and to tell you the truth I felt lonely throughout those years as I didn't feel as if I had that special someone to share my life with - maybe this is exceptional but it just shows you can feel lonely even when there is someone there with you...

[BambinA]

thanks everybody for encourage me

it just happend, coz i was sick , i stayed alone in apartment ..and i could not even move out of bed

anyway .. thanks god to have you guys TV members here .. i feel happy to have friends like you guys .. even net friends (and yes , some are my real friend in real life)

thank you

Edited February 24, 2006 by BambinA

[Tippaporn]

There's always a mate out there for you, BambinA. Always. I'll repeat that - Always. Feelings of loneliness will keep them away. Love yourself as you are, enjoy what you have and where you are, be happy with it all right now, and imagine what more you would like.

Finding a mate is all about attraction. Magnetic attraction, not physical, I might add. When you're happy and don't feel needy you'll attract the same. You won't be able to figure out when, where or how but it will surprise you when it unfolds quite spontaneously in that 'out of the blue' fashion.

Keep expectation in your heart, BambinA, and enjoy imagining what it would feel like to have that special person in your life. There's always a mate out there just for you.

No 'choke dee mak mak' because this is not about luck!

Tippaporn

[GuestHouse]

I'm going back quite a while now, but perhaps ten or so years ago there was an article in the BKK Post on the way death is dealt with in Thai hospitals - old people being left in a room to die alone. Awful to read, awful to contemplate.

The BBC also did a program on expat retirees in Spain dieing overseas alone.

Sadly a prospect more than a few expats will face in Thailand.

[Glauka]

My grandmother always tell me to find a boyfriend and get married (as boyfriends grows on trees) because she thinks i need a man to protect me...however the other day she went even further she told me " you should get married and have children otherwise nobody will look after you when you get old"...well that really scared me...

So now i am thinking in writting a advert in the newspaper.

30 year old spanish female seek a man to have a half dozen of children to secure her old age.

I am joking...but i hope is true that our knights will come...sigh

Edited February 24, 2006 by Glauka

[Guest endure]

I don't understand why Bambi hasn't got herself a decent bloke already.

[BKK90210]

Of course I don't want be alone in the end. But I know if I have money there will always be friends and relatives around

But the only thing I fear most is......"My brain will last longer than my saving!"

Edited February 24, 2006 by BKK90210

[CMCool]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

[BambinA]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

er..... maybe

[Glauka]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

define "too smart"...just for the cause...

when you say "in general" what sort of men did you imply

So let me think...I am single because i maybe too smart...(?)

That´s a reason...i prefer that one than " i am too ugly"

Edited February 24, 2006 by Glauka

[CMCool]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

define "too smart"...just for the cause...

Honestly I didn't want to offend anybody, especially our friend Bambina. But I used to know many female friends scientists or holding PhDs, who told me that it was very difficult for them to date men. They think the reason is because men fear their intelligence and therefore can't control them if they get married. These women are now in their mid-40s and still singles.

[Glauka]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

define "too smart"...just for the cause...

Honestly I didn't want to offend anybody, especially our friend Bambina. But I used to know many female friends scientists or holding PhDs, who told me that it was very difficult for them to date men. They think the reason is because men fear their intelligence and therefore can't control them if they get married. These women are now in their mid-40s and still singles.

I didn´t take as an offend but as a point of view...however I hope that there will be men out there who will not be threaten by any woman because they are self secure and can understand that some woman prefer to have a career than be housewifes...

I am not implying that one thing is better than other but that people have different preferences and this preferences in oneself life should not be in the way when finding your love partner...

[sbk]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

define "too smart"...just for the cause...

Honestly I didn't want to offend anybody, especially our friend Bambina. But I used to know many female friends scientists or holding PhDs, who told me that it was very difficult for them to date men. They think the reason is because men fear their intelligence and therefore can't control them if they get married. These women are now in their mid-40s and still singles.

I didn´t take as an offend but as a point of view...however I hope that there will be men out there who will not be threaten by any woman because they are self secure and can understand that some woman prefer to have a career than be housewifes...

I am not implying that one thing is better than other but that people have different preferences and this preferences in oneself life should not be in the way when finding your love partner...

There are, don't worry. My sister holds a PHd in Physics and is a research scientist--married for 25 years now, I think. My other sister is an entrepreneur that started her own business and through sheer grit, determination and hard work has grown from a one woman business to a growing business with 10 employees. She is currently in a successful relationship with a man who isn't scared off by either her energy or her intelligence. My husband has told me that he wouldn't be interested in a woman who is not intelligent and capable of holding her own opinions.

There are gems out there, you just must sift amongst the rubble.

[Chopper]

Sorry to say this, but men in general don't like to marry a "too smart" woman.

define "too smart"...just for the cause...

Honestly I didn't want to offend anybody, especially our friend Bambina. But I used to know many female friends scientists or holding PhDs, who told me that it was very difficult for them to date men. They think the reason is because men fear their intelligence and therefore can't control them if they get married. These women are now in their mid-40s and still singles.

CMCool, surely that is down to a blokes insecurities rather than saying that it is the ladies intelligence that is preventing them from finding a partner. ‘sbk’ has demonstarted that not be the case with her examples.

There are ‘mates’ for everyone as many in this thread have implied already. ‘Smartness’ is just one aspect of someone's makeup. Across the whole spectrum of society there are ‘mixed marriages’ in the sense that one partner maybe smarter, richer, from a different class, perceived to be better looking etc. but that does not stop them becoming partners.

Perhaps your friends have yet to find ‘Mr Right’.

Anyway since this thread is about BambinA; Mr Right will come along when you least expect it. My take is don't go searching for a partner you will probably find the one when you least expect it.

To sbk: are you suggesting I am living amongst a load of rubble?