I'm Still Just The Falang

[EBlair48]

Agree, the term has nothing to do with being a foreigner, and everything to do with being a different race. It is racist as other Asians are not referred to as " Farang"

More educated ans slightly more internationalized Thais are not going to use this in your presense, which mean 98 % of Thais will.

No I don't think they mean it to be rude, it is just perfectly acceptable to be racist, much like it was acceptable for decades in S Africa and for centuries in the the US.

I think those who accept and condone its usage are desperate to feel included. Sorry to say, you never will be. IMO Thais hate foreigners, sure they will marry you, but for financial security is all.

How many Thais are married to poor farangs ? ZERO.

. In my experience it has been closer to Nigar

Edited May 18, 2013 by EBlair48

[Hedghog]

I had to return to the US for a couple of years to clear up some family/business affairs and I told my wife that now SHE'S the farang. She thought that was hysterical.

She would find it very funny,you deemed to call your (presumably Thai wife) a white foreigner, A Thai person can never be a Farang.

But for some ignorance is bliss.

[PalMan]

How many Thais are married to poor farangs ? ZERO.

Absolutely wrong - certainly a small proportion overall, but many thousands are and some even quite happily, many Thai wives support their destitute farang husbands.

And just referring to someone by their race is not "racist", although I agree racism is rampant here that doesn't bother me, and the use of a term like "white" or "Asian" is not in itself 'racist'.

[Bikkii]

How many Thais are married to poor farangs ? ZERO.

Absolutely wrong - certainly a small proportion overall, but many thousands are and some even quite happily, many Thai wives support their destitute farang husbands.

And just referring to someone by their race is not "racist", although I agree racism is rampant here that doesn't bother me, and the use of a term like "white" or "Asian" is not in itself 'racist'.

Look lets face it, in Australia we have many names for Asian people, England, the US the same. go to France same same and search further afield, same.

Many of these names are incredibly racist, leading back to WW1 + 2, yet I guess we wouldn't say these to a face unless trying to be a real w@@ker !

In the end, we ain't gonna change them, they resent us here (yes some if you will challenge this), money we bring in/spend is irrelevant. Only 2% of population understands this. Its funny, I met a girlfriend a few years ago (Thai) in Sydney, 2 yrs living together and not once did she call me a farang. Yes I called her and her friends that, but hey they agreed, and yes they had an education. Big difference in this country, marry a peasant, be treated like a peasant !

[retell]

How many Thais are married to poor farangs ? ZERO.

Absolutely wrong - certainly a small proportion overall, but many thousands are and some even quite happily, many Thai wives support their destitute farang husbands.

And just referring to someone by their race is not "racist", although I agree racism is rampant here that doesn't bother me, and the use of a term like "white" or "Asian" is not in itself 'racist'.

Look lets face it, in Australia we have many names for Asian people, England, the US the same. go to France same same and search further afield, same.

Many of these names are incredibly racist, leading back to WW1 + 2, yet I guess we wouldn't say these to a face unless trying to be a real w@@ker !

In the end, we ain't gonna change them, they resent us here (yes some if you will challenge this), money we bring in/spend is irrelevant. Only 2% of population understands this. Its funny, I met a girlfriend a few years ago (Thai) in Sydney, 2 yrs living together and not once did she call me a farang. Yes I called her and her friends that, but hey they agreed, and yes they had an education. Big difference in this country, marry a peasant, be treated like a peasant !

count me in as a poor fareang

Edited May 18, 2013 by retell

[Bikkii]

How many Thais are married to poor farangs ? ZERO.

Absolutely wrong - certainly a small proportion overall, but many thousands are and some even quite happily, many Thai wives support their destitute farang husbands.

And just referring to someone by their race is not "racist", although I agree racism is rampant here that doesn't bother me, and the use of a term like "white" or "Asian" is not in itself 'racist'.

Look lets face it, in Australia we have many names for Asian people, England, the US the same. go to France same same and search further afield, same.

Many of these names are incredibly racist, leading back to WW1 + 2, yet I guess we wouldn't say these to a face unless trying to be a real w@@ker !

In the end, we ain't gonna change them, they resent us here (yes some if you will challenge this), money we bring in/spend is irrelevant. Only 2% of population understands this. Its funny, I met a girlfriend a few years ago (Thai) in Sydney, 2 yrs living together and not once did she call me a farang. Yes I called her and her friends that, but hey they agreed, and yes they had an education. Big difference in this country, marry a peasant, be treated like a peasant !

count me in as a poor fareang

Each to their own no dramas here, but except the consequences! Be it as it may

[Briandajew]

I had the same when I first came here.

Yes, I do think it is ignorant to call you "FARANG" especially after 5 years. They are either rude or ignorant. I made the point after about 6 months - Just do not respond to Farang, tell your wife to tell them your name and if they are too ignorant to use it, then don't respond.

They will talk about you as if you are not in the room using the term Farang, this used to drive me nuts!

It sort of came to a head one day after listening to fat old mother in law talking about me using the word Farang all the time, she eventually got the message when I lost my temper and told that she could go and get fuc.ed!, I then proceeded to teach them that it was actually good manners to say "thank you" after getting a free ride in my car and that it wasn't a merit making exercise for me by taking them - Eventually they do learn, it takes a bit of time, but if you let them walk over you they will - The easiest way is to charge them financially everytime they disrespect you - either with petrol money or if you feed them, it is like training a pet, eventually it knows its place.

[PalMan]

I had the same when I first came here.

Yes, I do think it is ignorant to call you "FARANG" especially after 5 years. They are either rude or ignorant. I made the point after about 6 months - Just do not respond to Farang, tell your wife to tell them your name and if they are too ignorant to use it, then don't respond.

They will talk about you as if you are not in the room using the term Farang, this used to drive me nuts!

It sort of came to a head one day after listening to fat old mother in law talking about me using the word Farang all the time, she eventually got the message when I lost my temper and told that she could go and get fuc.ed!, I then proceeded to teach them that it was actually good manners to say "thank you" after getting a free ride in my car and that it wasn't a merit making exercise for me by taking them - Eventually they do learn, it takes a bit of time, but if you let them walk over you they will - The easiest way is to charge them financially everytime they disrespect you - either with petrol money or if you feed them, it is like training a pet, eventually it knows its place.

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I really hope for your own sake you're taking the piss, trolling or something.

The things you claim to be saying here are to me much much more rude than the "offenses" you are trying to "correct" IMO.

[Bikkii]

I love this post title. Without doubt the funniest most stupid thread I have ever read on this forum. Please OP, bring it back with a twist!

[Mangosteen1]

Hey Henry in case you still got the same problem! Thats so wrong by her family calling you Farang. I never liked that word and I will never get used to it. I never had to tell my gf that I don't like to be called that or even be compared with that, and she never did, I havnt met her family yet so perhaps I will be in the same situation time will tell. I am who I am and I want to be seen as who I am and be judged ONLY for what I do and don't do. not all that stereotyping... If you're a good and genuine man to her and family then its not fair to be called that. TRY Member"Jingjings" advice Posted (2013-04-22 09:21:27)

Try a test.

Adopt a Thai name like so many immigrants in America do by adopting an Americanized name.

Then announce that is your name in Thailand.

THEN see if they still call you f-rang.

[Mangosteen1]

I had the same when I first came here.

Yes, I do think it is ignorant to call you "FARANG" especially after 5 years. They are either rude or ignorant. I made the point after about 6 months - Just do not respond to Farang, tell your wife to tell them your name and if they are too ignorant to use it, then don't respond.

They will talk about you as if you are not in the room using the term Farang, this used to drive me nuts!

It sort of came to a head one day after listening to fat old mother in law talking about me using the word Farang all the time, she eventually got the message when I lost my temper and told that she could go and get fuc.ed!, I then proceeded to teach them that it was actually good manners to say "thank you" after getting a free ride in my car and that it wasn't a merit making exercise for me by taking them - Eventually they do learn, it takes a bit of time, but if you let them walk over you they will - The easiest way is to charge them financially everytime they disrespect you - either with petrol money or if you feed them, it is like training a pet, eventually it knows its place.

Woow Harsh but I like your experience. I guess it depends how close gfs family live. I don't think I could live to close to her parents. In the end It would drive me nuts, not sure but thats what I think. haha I havnt even met her parents yet I could be so wrong. is it really the easiest way to charge them financially. Did you figure it out by yourself or did you get a tip?

[MAJIC]

Henly can be a ploblem.

They could say that then. Better than f-rang after 5 years!

Much better than the 10 years I have been waiting to hear my first name mentioned ,but I have only heard the usual Falang, Falang,I got used to it over the years,and cultivated a thick skin,and carried on smiling through all the crap. But oddly enough last year my FIL gave me a big hug,seriously it quite spooked me,and I still don't know what I did wrong!