kjelljit Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 I'm still just the Falang How do I interpret that my girlfriend and her family mentions me as the falang when they're talking about me? We have been living together for 5 years now and we live just a few blocks away from the rest of the family. It's difficult to get close with them because they do not speak English and I not Thai. At least they should have learned my name by now even though we do not directly talk to each other? Think it's a bit disrespectful, it would be like if I were to mention my girlfriend as the asian when I talk about her with my friends and family. What do you think about this? My girlfriend is saying that they can't learn my name. By the way, my name is Henry. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post uptheos Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Henly can be a ploblem. Edited April 22, 2013 by uptheos 22 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jingthing Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Do you mean they can't pronounce your name? That sounds like BS. But you could try a test. Adopt a Thai name like so many immigrants in America do by adopting an Americanized name. Then announce that is your name in Thailand. THEN see if they still call you f-rang. Dollars to donuts, they still will. Sorry about that! Edited April 22, 2013 by Jingthing 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jingthing Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Henly can be a ploblem. They could say that then. Better than f-rang after 5 years! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Banzai99 Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 It's not so bad Henry, I'm called the <deleted>. 12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HeavyDrinker Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 I just get grunted at.... 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jingthing Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 I would do this. I would tell your GF that it is important to you that at least while you can hear that both she and her family should refer to you by name. If she doesn't do this for you, well, some people in your shoes would kick her to the curb. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HeavyDrinker Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Take them all on holiday to Cambodia/Malaysia/Singapore and then start pointing at them and calling them 'foreigners'.....freaks em out to buggery that one does.... 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Morakot Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Henly, try a few words of Thai to make the effort. You be a star in no time. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jingthing Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Henly, try a few words of Thai to make the effort. You be a star in no time. Not a bad idea. I would say: My name is Henly ... A LOT. Rub it in. BTW, there really is no doubt, they really ARE dissing you big time by calling you f-rang after all these years. Edited April 22, 2013 by Jingthing 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 It's not so bad Henry, I'm called the <deleted>. Who's grassing me up....................................... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 How do I interpret that my girlfriend and her family mentions me as the falang when they're talking about me? You have answered your own question in the OP....they are being rude and disrespectful....very obvious what they think of you.. But waiting in anticpation for the apologists to jump in and saying you have to be at one with your Thainess and embrace the culture 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Tywais Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Just refer to everyone as khon Thai. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post HeavyDrinker Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 You have to be at one with your Thainess and embrace the culture. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morakot Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Just refer to everyone as khon Thai. That might cause some confusion in the long run. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 BTW, there really is no doubt, they really ARE dissing you big time by calling you f-rang after all these years. But jing, the resident TV experts keep telling us the use of the word "farang" is not degrogatory.. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post WinnieTheKhwai Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Change your name to Frank. Then it won't require any change on their part. 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MrHammer Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 And so it goes, round and round again. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post doji Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Henry is not that difficult for most thais to say, …….”hen-lee” (trust me)May be they just don’t like you for some reason….or May be they don’t like their daughter living/sleeping with you, without getting married by now…ects But the fact that they don’t want to call by your first name after 5 yrs…it is a sign of disrespect. In addition to your GF’s excuse of them not being able to pronounce it, I think it’s just nonsense really.The real root issue here between YOU and them…is much deeper than their inability to say “hen-lee”, I’m pretty sure. if you’re being honest to yourself and start thinking back all these past 5 yrs of all the interactions between you and them, I’m pretty sure there must be a clue or two somewhere, as for the probable cause of their disgruntle. Edited April 22, 2013 by doji 18 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Morakot Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 How do I interpret that my girlfriend and her family mentions me as the falang when they're talking about me? I think there might be a slight problem if your g/f refers to you as falang. I think for a matter of common courtesy, you should insist that she refers to you as P'Farang. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeverSure Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Change your name to Frank. Then it won't require any change on their part. I think that would be Flank 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Soutpeel Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Henry is not that difficult for most thais to say, …….”hen-lee” (trust me) May be they just don’t like you for some reason….or May be they don’t like their daughter living/sleeping with you, without getting married by now…ects But the fact that they don’t want to call by your first name after 5 yrs…it is a sign of disrespect. In addition to your GF’s excuse of them not being able to pronounce it, I think it’s just nonsense really. The real root issue here between YOU and them…is much deeper than their inability to say “hen-lee”, I’m pretty sure. if you’re being honest to yourself and start thinking back all these past 5 yrs of all the interactions between you and them, I’m pretty sure there must be a clue or two somewhere, as for the probable cause of their disgruntle. Easy test, OP pull your wallet out and flash some cash as see how quick they can say your name properly... 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mr3cho Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Did you say that you've been living here for 5 years and also do not speak Thai? It might be time to start learning (more) Thai. Imagine living in, say, America for 5 years and not being able to speak english. Imagine all the flack you would get from Americans. Just saying. I like the idea of adopting a Thai nickname though. 20 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post yourauntbob Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 It is disrespectful, and you should say something to your g/f. After 5 years you dont speak any Thai? I have been here about the same amount of time and can at least hold a basic conversation. Try learning the language, if for nothing else but personal growth. If I was back in the USA and had a daughter with a foreign boyfriend who didnt even attempt to speak English I may lose some respect for him as well. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BookMan Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 It's not so bad Henry, I'm called the <deleted>. From your postings , deservedly so some might say 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post PoorSucker Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Bring a guava fruit and give it to them every time they say falang. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Jingthing Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 (edited) Did you say that you've been living here for 5 years and also do not speak Thai? It might be time to start learning (more) Thai. Imagine living in, say, America for 5 years and not being able to speak english. Imagine all the flack you would get from Americans. Just saying. I like the idea of adopting a Thai nickname though. I don't really agree with that. I knew plenty of foreigners in the USA who couldn't really speak English. I had no problem calling a guy called Jose "Jose" and not "the Mexican" ... the moment he would tell me his name is Jose, in Spanish, no problem. Edited April 22, 2013 by Jingthing 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Berkshire Posted April 22, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted April 22, 2013 Maybe the only time they bring up "farang" is when they're saying "Why can't that idiot farang learn to speak even some modicum of Thai after being in Thailand for 5+ freakin years??" 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mr3cho Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 It is disrespectful, and you should say something to your g/f. After 5 years you dont speak any Thai? I have been here about the same amount of time and can at least hold a basic conversation. Try learning the language, if for nothing else but personal growth. If I was back in the USA and had a daughter with a foreign boyfriend who didnt even attempt to speak English I may lose some respect for him as well. Very good example and fully agree. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yourauntbob Posted April 22, 2013 Share Posted April 22, 2013 Did you say that you've been living here for 5 years and also do not speak Thai? It might be time to start learning (more) Thai. Imagine living in, say, America for 5 years and not being able to speak english. Imagine all the flack you would get from Americans. Just saying. I like the idea of adopting a Thai nickname though. Jinx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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