How to find a family oriented thai wife? Suggestions?

[Gregory Morozov]

I enrolled the uni at the age of 16 (just a few month before my 17th birthday) and finished it at the age of 22. I am 29 y o now. Reasons why I moved to Pattaya, why I am builiding my career here -  my diploma is connected to travel industry.

 

If you or your pals did't get a Master Degree on that age does not mean nobody can. Don't consider anything breaking your stereotype is fake

 

I can meet you in person in Pattaya and show you my original diploma with my passport together, if you agree to pay a 100 euro for this entertainment. lol

So you enrolled in uni at 16, highly doubtful. 18 is normally the minimum age unless you have a genius pedigree and then you find a uni that has a junior enrollment program for gifted people. That is also not likely, and a tourism connected course is not normally what a uni would expect a super gifted junior to enroll into. When you finish your bachelors, you trying to tell us that you did your masters which is normally reserved for people wishing to teach that particular subject at college level.

 

Then you say you achieved all this by the time you are 21?

 

lol.... you must think we just stepped off the banana boat. Why not show your so called diploma for free? Why do you need to put a 100 Euro obstacle in place before agreeing to confirm your story? I am happy to show my qualifications for free to anyone who cares to see them.

 

Then after all this genius status that you have under your belt, you are still non the wiser for how to look for a girl in a country you have supposidly lived for 7 years?

 

Pull the other one, its got bells on it.

Absolutely no problem about enrolling at the age of 16 in Russia either...

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[boosta]

can't accept something in her personality, such as: drinking, smoking, gambling or manipulative style of communication (very often)

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Agree with all, but that last one could really narrow things down, not a Thai thing, but I think Venus vs Mars, I think women rely on a more subtle and emotional style of communication rather than a direct verbal one.

This is one area where age and experience helps, know when to distinguish between true emotional blackmail and dishonest manipulation as opposed to - well she is a woman and vive la différence!

[Gsxrnz]

can't accept something in her personality, such as: drinking, smoking, gambling or manipulative style of communication (very often)

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Agree with all, but that last one could really narrow things down, not a Thai thing, but I think Venus vs Mars, I think women rely on a more subtle and emotional style of communication rather than a direct verbal one.

This is one area where age and experience helps, know when to distinguish between true emotional blackmail and dishonest manipulation as opposed to - well she is a woman and vive la différence!

Great post....and that line is a very thin one sometimes. But as you say, vive la difference!

[NoshowJones]

how hard is it ?

like shooting fish in a barrel

Even the ugly/nerdy/unfashionable/fat/unpopular/weird/poor get married here.

Not that Im' saying you are any of the above!

Lets be honest here, if you are ugly, fat, tattooed, facial haired etc, you have no chance with an attractive Thai girl unless you are very rich.

I could be wrong ... but who you refer to as a 'he' ... apparently cuts a fine figure in a dress.

So the gender question might be at issue here ...

Not every person is a white male here ... though, I presume most are.

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Have you ever seen a fat facial haired ladyboy? A 'he' who apparently cuts a fine figure in a dress???? You mean maybe a Scotsman?

[NoshowJones]

OP - Jeez man you're probably falling over 100 suitable girls every time you go to work, walk down the street, or eat in a restaurant. And I don't necessarily mean bar girls or similar (and I have nothing at all against them), but genuine hard working girls/women that may be local or may be here visiting family, or may be here for work. Just smile and say hello - don't ASSUME they do not meet your criteria because they are in Pattaya and not wearing a business suit or driving a Mercedes.

Check out the older women (25 plus) who are in school uniform on Sundays - they're going to adult college or university but may be working in an office or hotel, who knows? They may also already have a degree or higher education.

I could introduce you to about 50 hardworking golf caddies who are begging me to find them a suitable husband. Apparently many of the Falang customers they have are just not suitable because they have either already got wives, or don't have "jai-dee". At least that shows they're selective. Many are educated but can earn more as a caddy.

Friends of my wife have children in their 20's, all studying or working. I meet friends of their friends of all ages, many desperately trying to find a good hearted Falang. They have the opposite problem to you - they aren't bar workers and don't know how to find a Falang that isn't an atypical Pattaya Falang.

If I was a young guy foot loose and fancy free in Thailand looking for a wife, I would look around the markets, shops, offices etc. It would be important to me that she had her own money to start with, just make sure you are not a walking ATM for her family, but, if you can afford it, it would be nice to treat her parents now and again, but no sin sot, unless it is returned to you after the wedding.

[smooth expat]

Head to the nearest 7-11 or Panasonic factory. Too many girls to handle! But you will still need to give her a little money. Women aren't free anywhere.

[Tchooptip]

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Hummm ... seems to be a lot of members trying to help you JJttttt1.

Maybe you need to give a little more information to help us help you.

When you say 'family oriented' do you mean ...

Someone who has close family bonds, which, BTW, is quite the norm in Thailand or ...

Do you mean someone who wishes marriage

And/or wishes marriage and children.

If you found the right Lady and she had children already, would that be OK for you?

If it was the last option ... your choices are magnified immensely ... really does increase your chances.

Also, what age bracket are you looking in? I know that the easy answer is any age ... but there's a huge difference between 16 and 60 ...

In those 7 years you have been in Thailand ... have you had a relationship with a Thai Lady?

Why did it end?

What didn't you like in that relationship?

So many questions ... but you have so many members here trying to help.

Of course, honest answers really help ... just don't say what you think we want to hear because then our replies will be of little assistance to you.

Cheers

David48

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I will try to answer as honest as I can, becasue there is now reason to make false statemets to get incorrect answers.

Family-oriented means that her main goal must be to dedicate herself to children (ours) and family. Not the career or money-wasting. I respect the right of a women to build the career but I just don't need such a type of the woman.

Would be also good if she have a good skills in cooking and housekkeping, but this is optional, just my wish

If you found the right Lady and she had children already, would that be OK for you? No this is unacceptable. She must not have any children from another man.

Also, what age bracket are you looking in? 22-31, but I am not so strict about the age

In those 7 years you have been in Thailand ... have you had a relationship with a Thai Lady? yeah many times, I tried different ways to find a girl but got similar results

1) she just need my money. I am a type of person who can't get blind when falling in love, so Its quite easy to find out for a person with open eyes and common sense.. (in 90% of cases, but a lady can be a good actress and enough patient to cheat me, I realize that) - the most frequent case

2) she wants kids, to marry me, but I can't accept something in her personality, such as: drinking, smoking, gambling or manipulative style of communication (very often)

3) she does not take our relationship serious - not so bad case, can just enjoy each other, but no way to make a family (rare)

4) she take our relationship serious, but does not want to have kids now (means never) because she cares of her body shape too much, I am not a good candidate for a father or she does not want to take care of kids or any other reason (happens quite rare)

5) she has a kid or kids she is hiding from me (happened a few times)

6) just stupid, nothing to talk about (or may be I am stupid, anyway, no contact) - happend just twice in my life

(in 90% of cases)

... +(the most frequent case)

...+(rare)

...+(very often)

...+(Happens quite rare)

...+(happened a few times)

...+(happend just twice in my life)

We now understand the girlies were at least a few dozens, understandable with such small experience you asked for advice

[PoorSucker]

lol...... he's playing you lot for suckers.

Hmmm, family oriented girl.

Can I suggest the nearest Family mart.

[Eesat]

Move to a Thai only area.

Chat to neighbours, never be seen bringing a woman home, be seen as a polite hard working single man.

Within a few months eligible ladies will be introduced to you.

But be aware, they will expect you to provide a house and enhanced lifestyle in return for the wife and future children.

(Doesn't apply in Bangkok!)

[Eesat]

how hard is it ?

like shooting fish in a barrel

Even the ugly/nerdy/unfashionable/fat/unpopular/weird/poor get married here.

Not that Im' saying you are any of the above!

I would say to find a good Thai girl,a lot harder than you might believe!

[Eesat]

Head to the nearest 7-11 or Panasonic factory. Too many girls to handle! But you will still need to give her a little money. Women aren't free anywhere.

Is the Panasonic Factory the new "Robinson's" then?

[ABCer]

If i want a good coffee i want imported if i want a nice car i buy imported if i want some Honey i look for imported.

RJT, didn't mean to spoil your fun, but cannot resist the temptation. I am also a man of simple tastes - just give me the best of everything! But:

-coffee... origin - Africa... best growers - Latin America... now also growing in Thailand... the taste is in processing beans, not their Nationality;

-vodka... produced in over 100 countries.... with only 3 - 4 exceptions all other imports taste like shi*t;

-cars... when you say 'imported' you surely do not mean Made in Malaysia or Made in Thailand or Made in Russia... ? VW is VW made anywhere?

-Honey... do you mean stuff produced by humans or bees? Because here the differences between imports are huge...

Cheers!... sorry, couldn't resist the temptation... mea culpa!

Edited June 16, 2013 by ABCer

[ABCer]

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Hummm ... seems to be a lot of members trying to help you JJttttt1.

Maybe you need to give a little more information to help us help you.

When you say 'family oriented' do you mean ...

Someone who has close family bonds, which, BTW, is quite the norm in Thailand or ...

Do you mean someone who wishes marriage

And/or wishes marriage and children.

If you found the right Lady and she had children already, would that be OK for you?

If it was the last option ... your choices are magnified immensely ... really does increase your chances.

Also, what age bracket are you looking in? I know that the easy answer is any age ... but there's a huge difference between 16 and 60 ...

In those 7 years you have been in Thailand ... have you had a relationship with a Thai Lady?

Why did it end?

What didn't you like in that relationship?

So many questions ... but you have so many members here trying to help.

Of course, honest answers really help ... just don't say what you think we want to hear because then our replies will be of little assistance to you.

Cheers

David48

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David, be fair. The boy is young and inexperienced... give him a break! Better explain to him and to me the true meaning of an advice some poster made: " Date them" How do you do this?

Edited June 16, 2013 by ABCer

[boosta]

There is a category of young Thai woman that can be wooed with the same dating rituals used in the West.

The younger, less urban poorer ones may require chaperons, but that's par for the course, not a problem AFAIC.

[SinglePot]

I thought I had read the OP's name wrongly, until I read his content.

[uptheos]

Residing and working in Thailand for 7 years and you don't know the ropes.

[krisb]

Look no further.

Walen school of dance.

 

Yes krisb, it is a definite possibility. Lots of wonderful Thai women are looking for husbands and dance classes are a fun way to meet new people. There are also usually more women than men at dance schools. I also believe women are more attracted to guys who can dance as it shows their "soft side". Macho tough guys scare most of them away. 

Mr Walen, I'm not sure you think I was being cynical or not. I'm actually being serious. I know there's majority ladies at dance schools and its a great place for meeting them. Its a well suited option other than bars or clubs, gyms, workplace or the internet. Yours is the only dance school I know about so I mentioned it. Does that mean a free lesson next time I'm in CM?

[transam]

Look no further.

Walen school of dance.

Yes krisb, it is a definite possibility. Lots of wonderful Thai women are looking for husbands and dance classes are a fun way to meet new people. There are also usually more women than men at dance schools. I also believe women are more attracted to guys who can dance as it shows their "soft side". Macho tough guys scare most of them away.

Mr Walen, I'm not sure you think I was being cynical or not. I'm actually being serious. I know there's majority ladies at dance schools and its a great place for meeting them. Its a well suited option other than bars or clubs, gyms, workplace or the internet. Yours is the only dance school I know about so I mentioned it. Does that mean a free lesson next time I'm in CM?

I can give you a free lessen but you must listen to me sing also. .............

[brewsterbudgen]

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Hummm ... seems to be a lot of members trying to help you JJttttt1.

Maybe you need to give a little more information to help us help you.

When you say 'family oriented' do you mean ...

Someone who has close family bonds, which, BTW, is quite the norm in Thailand or ...

Do you mean someone who wishes marriage

And/or wishes marriage and children.

If you found the right Lady and she had children already, would that be OK for you?

If it was the last option ... your choices are magnified immensely ... really does increase your chances.

Also, what age bracket are you looking in? I know that the easy answer is any age ... but there's a huge difference between 16 and 60 ...

In those 7 years you have been in Thailand ... have you had a relationship with a Thai Lady?

Why did it end?

What didn't you like in that relationship?

So many questions ... but you have so many members here trying to help.

Of course, honest answers really help ... just don't say what you think we want to hear because then our replies will be of little assistance to you.

Cheers

David48

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I will try to answer as honest as I can, becasue there is now reason to make false statemets to get incorrect answers.

Family-oriented means that her main goal must be to dedicate herself to children (ours) and family. Not the career or money-wasting. I respect the right of a women to build the career but I just don't need such a type of the woman.

Would be also good if she have a good skills in cooking and housekkeping, but this is optional, just my wish

If you found the right Lady and she had children already, would that be OK for you? No this is unacceptable. She must not have any children from another man.

Also, what age bracket are you looking in? 22-31, but I am not so strict about the age

In those 7 years you have been in Thailand ... have you had a relationship with a Thai Lady? yeah many times, I tried different ways to find a girl but got similar results

1) she just need my money. I am a type of person who can't get blind when falling in love, so Its quite easy to find out for a person with open eyes and common sense.. (in 90% of cases, but a lady can be a good actress and enough patient to cheat me, I realize that) - the most frequent case

2) she wants kids, to marry me, but I can't accept something in her personality, such as: drinking, smoking, gambling or manipulative style of communication (very often)

3) she does not take our relationship serious - not so bad case, can just enjoy each other, but no way to make a family (rare)

4) she take our relationship serious, but does not want to have kids now (means never) because she cares of her body shape too much, I am not a good candidate for a father or she does not want to take care of kids or any other reason (happens quite rare)

5) she has a kid or kids she is hiding from me (happened a few times)

6) just stupid, nothing to talk about (or may be I am stupid, anyway, no contact) - happend just twice in my life

Maybe if you were less demanding and a little more relaxed you'd have more success. I can't see many women being attracted by your list of demands.

[JJttttt1]

Maybe if you were less demanding and a little more relaxed you'd have more success. I can't see many women being attracted by your list of demands.

I am not looking for "many women", I can get them if I spend time and money, I am looking for just one, who does match. That's why I started this topic...

[transam]

Maybe if you were less demanding and a little more relaxed you'd have more success. I can't see many women being attracted by your list of demands.

I am not looking for "many women", I can get them if I spend time and money, I am looking for just one, who does match. That's why I started this topic...

Difficult in farangland chum.

[brewsterbudgen]

Maybe if you were less demanding and a little more relaxed you'd have more success. I can't see many women being attracted by your list of demands.

I am not looking for "many women", I can get them if I spend time and money, I am looking for just one, who does match. That's why I started this topic...

Well I recommend being a little less demanding. You sound like you're looking for a slave rather than a wife. It's not the 19th Century.

Edited June 17, 2013 by brewsterbudgen

[SinglePot]

LOS. Make them laugh.

[boosta]

I am not looking for "many women", I can get them if I spend time and money, I am looking for just one, who does match. That's why I started this topic...

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Well no one can help you with separating the wheat from the chaff just like the princesses kissing frogs out there you've got to play the numbers game.

We can help you with places and methods to prime the top end of the funnel though, but in my case I'm still waiting for you to "choose your own adventure" back on the first page.

Never mind people saying you should just get out and meet whatever girls from 7-11 or the factories, decide on your target profile and then initiate your search.

[JJttttt1]

Well I recommend being a little less demanding. You sound like you're looking for a slave rather than a wife. It's not the 19th Century.

Where in my topics did you read it? Which of my requirements are suitable for a slave?

[jackinbkk]

Trial and error op like everyone else.

I'd steer clear of girls just looking for a rich westerner. i.e. Like all the farang targeting dating web sites and agencies. Full of traps

[brewsterbudgen]

Well I recommend being a little less demanding. You sound like you're looking for a slave rather than a wife. It's not the 19th Century.

Where in my topics did you read it? Which of my requirements are suitable for a slave?

I respect the right of a women to build the career but I just don't need such a type of the woman.

Would be also good if she have a good skills in cooking and housekkeping, but this is optional, just my wish

So it's OK for you to have your career but not the woman you intend to marry - her duty is just to cook and keep your house - although this is optional? Sorry, but sentiments like that are ridiculous and it's no wonder you're not having much success in finding a partner.

[JJttttt1]

So it's OK for you to have your career but not the woman you intend to marry - her duty is just to cook and keep your house - although this is optional? Sorry, but sentiments like that are ridiculous and it's no wonder you're not having much success in finding a partner.

Yes, this is what I am looking for. I don't force any woman for this, and if she voluntarily agrees to play this role - what slavery are you talking about? Or you really think any woman in Thailand MUST want to make a career?

Somebody choose a marriage, where both marrieds are working and building there own career and somobody choose other types of marriage. For my opinion, it's a choice of two.

Believe me I met a bunch of ladies here who would happily agree to this - I didn't choose any of them because they did't met other criteria.

[boosta]

So it's OK for you to have your career but not the woman you intend to marry - her duty is just to cook and keep your house - although this is optional? Sorry, but sentiments like that are ridiculous and it's no wonder you're not having much success in finding a partner.

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I find THOSE sentiments ridiculous, brainwashed by the current fashion feminist BS.

Sure society should give women equal opportunities compared to men, but even back home, and much more so in Thailand there are LOTS of women that would prefer to be homemakers and have the man make all the money.

UP TO THEM and nothing to be ashamed of, certainly makes for a healthier upbringing for the kids.

Plus if your preference is for an uneducated rice-farm girl, any potential income she'd be able to make compared to the amount of time away from home required to earn it, put up against the farang husband's earning power it's really not worth thinking about IMO.

So let him state his preferences, and then we can help him find a girl who has PREFERENCES that match his own and everyone can live happily forever after without judgmental PC BS trying to make him embarrassed about his perfectly valid preferences.

He's going to be HELPING her have a good life, not "repressing" her. . .

[amykat]

Well Boosta, the OP hasn't really said what he would be providing his wife. He hasn't said what he is bringing to the table that is so great, exciting, lovable, enjoyable, interesting, just nothing at all! It does sound like he wants a housekeeper who will also breed ...in one way his list is of requirements is so low, or lacking that it seems like a robot would do ...if only the robots didn't have so many annoying habits, like smoking, gambling, talking a way he dislikes, etc. I mean, I can understand the list of things he wrote, as being things many people wouldn't like, but it doesn't quite sound like he is talking about humans here. What does he LIKE?

And what would make a woman happy in his dream life?? Maybe this part of the equation is missing in his planning, and so, there haven't been many interested parties?