Songhua Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Sounds like the ideal lifestyle, OP. You state you do FIFO work. Is your wife still working on the cruise ships - it must be difficult to be apart for much of the time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mad mary Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Quite the opposite my friend. 11 kids in the family put together and she was educated, then borrowed for work on cruise ships, mediterranian and Caribbean, then Dubai , then aus. Then Abu then back to aus. All under her own steam. Very smart, high morals, and knows what to do with$$$. Never wasted a cent. Put others in the family through uni. Then I met her here in aus. Now the family has good business in the local villages, hence no need to send $$$. No bar girls in our family ever. This is why I am so happy. From zero to hero. Luck, not really. But hard work got them where they are today. How old is ye bird? The family had no business or $$$ before you galloped into happyville on your white steed? She borrowed but did it all under her own steam? No bargirls in the family ever?! Why do you feel the need to say that? From zero to hero. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnotherOneAmerican Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 (edited) No bar girls in our family ever. How would you know? I know several western men who don't even know their wife was (is) a sex worker. Edited June 16, 2013 by AnotherOneAmerican Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 No bar girls in our family ever. How would you know? That is a good question. I know a farang that doesn't know his lady has been married 5 times before. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benalibina Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 No bar girls in our family ever.How would you know? That is a good question. I know a farang that doesn't know his lady has been married 5 times before. And you are not telling him ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GuestHouse Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I think as a general rule its not a good idea to judge one own's integration into Thai society on the basis of relationships with the BiB. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 Sounds like the ideal lifestyle, OP. You state you do FIFO work. Is your wife still working on the cruise ships - it must be difficult to be apart for much of the time?No she hasn't worked away since we married and the fifo thing is fine. She has the kid and a great group of friends here. Trust is easy with her. 2 weeks away and 2 weeks home, no problems with technology these days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 Quite the opposite my friend. 11 kids in the family put together and she was educated, then borrowed for work on cruise ships, mediterranian and Caribbean, then Dubai , then aus. Then Abu then back to aus. All under her own steam. Very smart, high morals, and knows what to do with$$$. Never wasted a cent. Put others in the family through uni. Then I met her here in aus. Now the family has good business in the local villages, hence no need to send $$$. No bar girls in our family ever. This is why I am so happy. From zero to hero. Luck, not really. But hard work got them where they are today. How old is ye bird? The family had no business or $$$ before you galloped into happyville on your white steed? She borrowed but did it all under her own steam? No bargirls in the family ever?! Why do you feel the need to say that? From zero to hero. She's 35 now and she borrowed the $ and paid it back herself , under her own steam. Just like a mortgage. I purchased my house and paid it off under my own steam.Their honest and the family values I see I know that they would not shag for $ living of the land to survive was the norm for them along with hardworking ethics and morals. Some people are honest hardworking people up north. I have met very few farangs that don't feel the need to give their wife a wage, still don't understand that as we all have to work to survive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 I think as a general rule its not a good idea to judge one own's integration into Thai society on the basis of relationships with the BiB.I was my thought that they come to say hi due to us being nice to his son in the beginning and also put the shots up the local lads to keep them away due to regular bib visits. Works for me no matter how fe collects his bonuses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 16, 2013 Author Share Posted June 16, 2013 Oh you take all the fun out of it. Stupid farang is all there is go say here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boosta Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Don't worry Ozybear, many here aren't happy unless they can feel superior, happy stories don't fly as well here, we'll all keep picking away until we find the fly in the ointment, sounds too good to be true, misery loves company etc etc. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post David48 Posted June 16, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted June 16, 2013 (edited) Or an alternative view might be that many of us are extremely happy with our life in and around Thailand and one of the main reasons is that we have a good Early Warning Radar and have had to deal with many of the problems that are often espoused here. Patterns do often emerge. Pattern recognition is part of that defensive Radar. So, I would say that, to dismiss out of hand, the life stories of the 'old timers' who have spent a considerable amount of their life in Thailand, is to be ill advised. Stories abound in this and other Forums of the perils of having a relationship in Thailand. While some or maybe none of those may befall the OP, to be aware of the pitfalls is just good common sense. Mine is not a particularly Rose-Coloured view of Thailand ... but I have a deep regard and fondness for it and it's people. Everyone has a story to tell ... some stories are well worth the read. OH ... please understand boosta, the above comments are not directed at you, I was simply picking up on the salient points of your post above. Edited June 16, 2013 by David48 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boosta Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Yes, difficult issue, I agree it is valid to confirm that a newbie poster is aware of pitfalls, but it's difficult to do that without appearing to assume he's a sucker. The other factor is that the initial "honeymoon period" is just so wonderful, as long as a guy's not plowing his life savings into his Nakhon Nowhere adventure I hate to see it spoiled by us planting seeds of suspicion where perhaps none are warranted. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benalibina Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 (edited) To add to post of David: recognition needs to be followed by actions. There it many times can go wrong. Disbelief and different morals, perception of life, is main reason to see it clear too late. This for either party. Edited June 16, 2013 by benalibina 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simple1 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) Or an alternative view might be that many of us are extremely happy with our life in and around Thailand and one of the main reasons is that we have a good Early Warning Radar and have had to deal with many of the problems that are often espoused here. Patterns do often emerge. Pattern recognition is part of that defensive Radar. So, I would say that, to dismiss out of hand, the life stories of the 'old timers' who have spent a considerable amount of their life in Thailand, is to be ill advised. Stories abound in this and other Forums of the perils of having a relationship in Thailand. While some or maybe none of those may befall the OP, to be aware of the pitfalls is just good common sense. Mine is not a particularly Rose-Coloured view of Thailand ... but I have a deep regard and fondness for it and it's people. Everyone has a story to tell ... some stories are well worth the read. OH ... please understand boosta, the above comments are not directed at you, I was simply picking up on the salient points of your post above. Some valid points, but why is it necessary for TV members to constantly repeat the same refrain throughout the topic - endless attacks and negativity - just a dull and monotonous practise in many topics by the same individuals Edited June 17, 2013 by simple1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
martynsnowmans Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 I think the difference with me is I met my wife in au after she had done a lot of world travelling before she introduced me to issaan and the family. I had never been o/a before and I know that I struck gold immediately. No bar girl , just an ethical hard working women that realises the importance of the dollar more than I did. I do now. Gold gold gold. Many years together and it only gets better. Thank you mummzy inlaw, you did a great job. ozybear what the eff is your IQ , Thank you mummzy inlaw, you did a great job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krisb Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Do they like Muaythai out your way Ozybear?Yes they do, but we only see it after their full as a boot.That's not what I mean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Or an alternative view might be that many of us are extremely happy with our life in and around Thailand and one of the main reasons is that we have a good Early Warning Radar and have had to deal with many of the problems that are often espoused here. Patterns do often emerge. Pattern recognition is part of that defensive Radar. So, I would say that, to dismiss out of hand, the life stories of the 'old timers' who have spent a considerable amount of their life in Thailand, is to be ill advised. Stories abound in this and other Forums of the perils of having a relationship in Thailand. While some or maybe none of those may befall the OP, to be aware of the pitfalls is just good common sense. Mine is not a particularly Rose-Coloured view of Thailand ... but I have a deep regard and fondness for it and it's people. Everyone has a story to tell ... some stories are well worth the read. OH ... please understand boosta, the above comments are not directed at you, I was simply picking up on the salient points of your post above. Some valid points, but why is it necessary for TV members to constantly repeat the same refrain throughout the topic - endless attacks and negativity - just a dull and monotonous practise in many topics by the same individuals Perhaps cos some of us have been around the block a few times and passing stuff on in a friendly way to not take everything as it seems might be of help to keep his eyes wide open. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cpofc Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Off course there is the off chance the OP may actually be a genuine, generous, happy, naturally likeable bloke, who has a Buddha given gift for getting along with people. A trait not lost on Thais.. and one that would possibly make him more of a target of an unscrupulous fellow farang in the LOS, than a thai. As for Immigration and Integration? This is an Australian (link below), now a cultural, classic movie from the 60s when Post War immigration from Europe was still in full swing and the White Australia Policy still current. A great snapshot of Australia in the 60's. And a statement on immigration. They should make 23 million copies of it and mail it to every household in Australia. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTuL3XnZpoQ 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post kikoman Posted June 17, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted June 17, 2013 I have a great life here for the last 12 years, I do not understand the naysayers point that you buy your way by supplying money to your wife and family to live off of. It is done all over the world and western women demand it and everything else you had in that relationship when it ends in the western divorce court. I built a house and home for my Thai wife with the knowledge that I as a Farang could never own land here in Thailand. It was not an investment for my future or assets to leave to my children. It is a gift of love for my wife, as any relationship can fall apart if that day ever comes, I will leave it to her, I do not even think I would take much of my community property when and if I ever go Please do not lump me in with the Farangs, that see an evil person everywhere trying to steal his beloved money. That his presence in a rural Thai village and with a Thai family that see him as an ATM. I am respected here in my village and I do not pay anyone in the village a cent for protection or acceptance. Open your eyes there is a great life and great people in Thailand. Enjoy it!! Cheers: 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post boosta Posted June 17, 2013 Popular Post Share Posted June 17, 2013 Open your eyes there is a great life and great people in Thailand.- Great post, but should add "for those that can afford it". If indeed you've spent such a paltry sum that you can write it off without resentment, then you've done it right and more power to you. The doomsday guys are those who talk about putting most or even all their assets into what you so wisely recognize is a gift, putting their future well-being at the mercy of the health of their relationship, relying on the continued goodwill of the missus and her family to keep a roof over their head. Obviously a fundamental mistake in many cases, I personally can't see giving over that degree of control. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kikoman Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 I forgot to include in my post, that I do not care to hear anyone's personal problems here in Thailand, be he a Newbie or an Old timer I am perfectly capable of making up my own mind about issues affecting and my perception of Thai's and my life in Thailand. As too many variables in an individual that affects how he interacts with the locals and their perception of him. Cheers: : 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinglePot Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Good Day Ozybear. I've read every post on this thread. My situation isn't a million miles from yours. All the best. (Still trying to think of a funny comment about the electrician's wife and the 7 inch android.) Regards SP 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boosta Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Still trying to think of a funny comment about the electrician's wife and the 7 inch android. - There's an app for that! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Off course there is the off chance the OP may actually be a genuine, generous, happy, naturally likeable bloke, who has a Buddha given gift for getting along with people. A trait not lost on Thais.. and one that would possibly make him more of a target of an unscrupulous fellow farang in the LOS, than a thai. As for Immigration and Integration? This is an Australian (link below), now a cultural, classic movie from the 60s when Post War immigration from Europe was still in full swing and the White Australia Policy still current. A great snapshot of Australia in the 60's. And a statement on immigration. They should make 23 million copies of it and mail it to every household in Australia. Magnificent link, never seen it before. Cheers bloke. Shared it on FB. PMSL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Yes, difficult issue, I agree it is valid to confirm that a newbie poster is aware of pitfalls, but it's difficult to do that without appearing to assume he's a sucker.The other factor is that the initial "honeymoon period" is just so wonderful, as long as a guy's not plowing his life savings into his Nakhon Nowhere adventure I hate to see it spoiled by us planting seeds of suspicion where perhaps none are warranted. Working as a fifo for many years now. I put it down to the $ I would have spent on alcohol as I don't drink. Loose change to appreciate the efforts of my hard working mother inlaw who brought up 11 kids. All have strong moral and all appreciate where they came from. No biggy for me but some huge for her.The land of smiles gets better. 5 years of in and out and looking forward to many more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Yes, difficult issue, I agree it is valid to confirm that a newbie poster is aware of pitfalls, but it's difficult to do that without appearing to assume he's a sucker. The other factor is that the initial "honeymoon period" is just so wonderful, as long as a guy's not plowing his life savings into his Nakhon Nowhere adventure I hate to see it spoiled by us planting seeds of suspicion where perhaps none are warranted. Past the honeymoon my friend, 5 years and many more to come. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ozybear Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 I think the difference with me is I met my wife in au after she had done a lot of world travelling before she introduced me to issaan and the family. I had never been o/a before and I know that I struck gold immediately. No bar girl , just an ethical hard working women that realises the importance of the dollar more than I did. I do now.Gold gold gold. Many years together and it only gets better.Thank you mummzy inlaw, you did a great job. ozybear what the eff is your IQ , Thank you mummzy inlaw, you did a great job. It seems to be at least triple yours. Lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
transam Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 I must add that I am lucky that my mrs passes on ladies talk. Seems ladies cannot keep their doings to them selves and must brag. For me it is a nightmare to listen too and so l have little contact with folk cos l know whats going on in their life. Sad but true. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boosta Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) There's an app for that: http://mashable.com/2013/06/14/lulu-app/ http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/08/lulu-app-review-rate-men-yelp_n_2647315.html Edited June 17, 2013 by boosta Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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