Getting married in Thailand

[thongsuknork]

Get your wife to buy a house with a home loan in her name.

You give her minimum deposit (5-15%) and make minimum repayments (over 25-30 years).

I Salute You Sir for your Advice My Sincere Salute To you

[JLCrab]

1SEP2012 - BangkokScoop.com

The divorce rate in Thailand over the past 3 years has increased to 30%

The latest survey has shown that around 1 one every 3 married couples in Thailand ended their marriage with divorce in recent years.

The Office of Women’s Affairs and Family Development Director Chansiri Sukhonthachaya said that the latest study shows that more than 285,000 couples got married in 2010, 30% of which, or about 108,000, divorced in the same year.

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Meanwhile, the report has shown that more Thai women have opted to stay single as they believe that they can be financially independent, while more Thai men have enjoyed the single life or chosen to marry when they were older.

http://bangkokscoop.com/2012/09/01/1-in-3-thai-married-couples-ended-up-with-divorce-in-recent-years/

When I am asked why I don't marry my girlfriend of long-standing, I just give the answer: If Prime Minister YingLuck hasn't bothered to get married why should I?

[chuenyongman]

You can have wife buy the land and then give you a Usufruct allowing you to build a house on the land.

Info here: http://www.isaanlawyers.com/en/property/usufruct-agreement-in-thailand.html

Or form a partnership (51/49%) and buy a house as well.

If you are of or near pensionable age or your wife is employed do not disclose your marriage or her employment to Centrelink. It cost me 50% of my pension.

[Toscano]

jrtmedic

You are obviously one of the lucky men . I too have been married a number of years and have a sweet wife , head teacher of a school and we get along very well .

I'll bet your sweet wife has her moments . You must be very blind if you haven't seen the disasters that many foreign men fall into .

I even warned one man at his wedding reception , that he was about to be taken to the cleaners . He has been and all his capital is gone , two houses and three cars .

I have met many kind well meaning men who have been robbed of their all .

I was very particular to marry a good woman of middling age and grown up children , like mine . Having her own home and respectable profession were other particulars .

However many men are very naive coming to Thailand and meet the love of their life in a bar in Pattaya and marriage to them works out as more a change of assets from one to the other .

Good for you Toscano but I´d love to know more about your beliefs.

Do you love unconditionally? Do you forgive both yourself and your wife for the mistakes you both may make from time to time?

Do you support each other?

Do you bend or stand ridged?

Surely, neither of you want to control the other. If the love is true, let it go, if it never returns, it was never yours etc.

The number of couples whose relationships endure seem (to me at least) to be founded on unconditional love.

Sure they "have their moments", that´s life and those "moments" could be something to welcome, what does not break you makes you stronger and all that.

Plus, you may better appreciate each other - the making up is so important.

No problems so no make ups. Rather boring eh?

Private Dancer by Stephen Leather has been mentioned.

If I was asked to recommend a guide to Thai Ladies, I would recommend Thailand Fever.

My story is different to that of many on TV, but there are a few who know it.

I came here by accident, met the love of my life (at a Thai wedding actually) and we are living happily ever after.

Live and let live.

Love and be loved.

Litebeer said almost all that needed to be said in relation to the OP´s actual question in post #2

Why are there so many negative posts regarding marriage to a Thai Lady.

All the best to the OP. Live long and prosper.

Yes , we love unconditionally and we both forgive mistakes .

I guess we do support each other .

I am much more bendable than my wife , at least in discussion .

I have never believed in dictating to a wife . I can be strongly persuasive if I think foolish decisions are being made , that are not ultimately in the interests of either of us .

My wife is very argumentative , her first marriage ended for argument .

I am not argumentative , but watch out when I'm silent .

My wife sometimes used to say get out , go back to your own country . I used to walk purposefully to the front door , she'd ask where i'm going , I'd reply to get my boxes and pack all my stuff , she say come back here and sorry .

We have another house , where her son and ex live , she is registered as living there . Now I say , go and live at your other house and official residence , that soon ends any argument .

I agree , Live and Let Live , Love and be Loved .

There are so many negatives posts regarding marriage to a Thai lady , for a variety of reasons . Men are very ignorant and naive , they frequent bars and marry bar girls , or a prostitute they think they are saving . They will be taken for a ride and all their savings taken off them . Almost the only reason a Thai girl or woman wants to marry a foreign man is for money and security . In some cases , such as ours we are lucky and true love plays a part .

I have met so many foreign men whose marriage hasn't lasted , who have been robbed of all they own and kicked out ; that is why I and others try to advise newcomers of the dangers that lie ahead .

[zeichen]

FYI the OP left the conversation after the first page. You are just arguing with yourselves and giving advice to someone who isn't listening. I keep reading posts by the same 4-5 people over and over. I really just don't see the point on the oneupsmanship.

[JLCrab]

I really just don't see the point on the oneupsmanship.

The point of oneupsmanship is oneupsmanship.

Personally, I call my Thai CL wife the Thai equivalent of an avaricious b-tch and she says "And don't you forget it!"

[AnotherOneAmerican]

FYI the OP left the conversation after the first page. You are just arguing with yourselves and giving advice to someone who isn't listening. I keep reading posts by the same 4-5 people over and over. I really just don't see the point on the oneupsmanship.

Think of us as 4-5 pals sitting around a table in a bar.

By your thinking after the first 5 minutes we should all be sitting silently.

But of course, that isn't the way friendship works, you argue and discuss constantly until time to go home.

[Straight8]

Hmmm My Thai gf is giving birth early Oct and she says she wants to come and live with me in Australia.. Iv`e known her no I should say I first met her late Apr 2012. Oct last year I went back and she applyed for a passport and a tourist Visa. approved and arrived in Sydney Dec15 and she stayed with me until she had to leave March 12. We knew she was pregnant and at 49 Im happy she also, she`s 34... but I worry. Her dad retired cop her sister and her husband are cops. Her other sister is a nurse and her husband also has a government job. It worries me the number of farangs being murdered swindled etc.. Things I have noticed to date.. Shes moody can be stubborn sulks manipulative argumentative prone to being depressed..and this was all within 3 months..never travelled before in her life. Positives she speaks her mind..when shes not sulking..trust me thats a positive..it means I can see who she really is, good cook loving clean loves her family. I know it`s going to be a wild roller coaster ride I`m thinking she will change when bubba arrives..we both want kids...this may help settle both of us..Man who knows ! Question she is constantly asking me for a copy of my passport and my birth certificate..for the childs birth certificate im guessing..I intend to be nominated as the father she is my daughter and i intend to pay for both my child and my gf..It worries me to marry her..we`re basically not ready yet..but I didn`t want my daughter to suffer because were not married...Any thoughts greatly appreciated. Thanks guys!

Just reading your post here, you are in for a hell of a ride. Do not marry her. Seems the kid will be used as leverage, you better man up and get this one under your control fast or its curtains for you.

[Straight8]

Hmmm My Thai gf is giving birth early Oct and she says she wants to come and live with me in Australia.. Iv`e known her no I should say I first met her late Apr 2012. Oct last year I went back and she applyed for a passport and a tourist Visa. approved and arrived in Sydney Dec15 and she stayed with me until she had to leave March 12. We knew she was pregnant and at 49 Im happy she also, she`s 34... but I worry. Her dad retired cop her sister and her husband are cops. Her other sister is a nurse and her husband also has a government job. It worries me the number of farangs being murdered swindled etc.. Things I have noticed to date.. Shes moody can be stubborn sulks manipulative argumentative prone to being depressed..and this was all within 3 months..never travelled before in her life. Positives she speaks her mind..when shes not sulking..trust me thats a positive..it means I can see who she really is, good cook loving clean loves her family. I know it`s going to be a wild roller coaster ride I`m thinking she will change when bubba arrives..we both want kids...this may help settle both of us..Man who knows ! Question she is constantly asking me for a copy of my passport and my birth certificate..for the childs birth certificate im guessing..I intend to be nominated as the father she is my daughter and i intend to pay for both my child and my gf..It worries me to marry her..we`re basically not ready yet..but I didn`t want my daughter to suffer because were not married...Any thoughts greatly appreciated. Thanks guys!

Just reading your post here, you are in for a hell of a ride. Do not marry her. Seems the kid will be used as leverage, you better man up and get this one under your control fast or its curtains for you.

[Straight8]

If you have been with the lady for ten years and have two kids with her then obviously that's a different thing.

Really, it isn't.

Actually it is.

no, it definitely isn't

[smotherb]

Bottom line, foreigners cannot own property in Thailand (i.e., Thai land and any structure thereupon). Any work-around, even when created by Thai lawyers, is illegal. I do not understand why so many foreigners want to buy what they cannot own--and that does not even consider the Thai penchant for ousting the foreign buyer. If you want a house in Thailand, rent it and pay for it with the rental monies from property purchased in your own name in a country where you can own it, e.g., your own country. Two years ago, I purchased a 2/bdr-2/bth condo in Florida. My mortgage payments are 60% of the monthly rental--so I was making money day 1, and that 40% covers my Thai rental.

If only life's that easy, I have a friend that's been trying to get a non paying tenant out for months in the UK. Not sure what the rules are in the US but everything has its pitfalls.

Eviction procedures in the State of Florida courtesy Escambia County (Pensacola) Clerk of the Court::

http://www.escambiaclerk.com/clerk/coc_evictions.aspx

I have had five rental units in Florida since 1976, this one is the sixth, I have been in Asia all but 10 years in that time, and have had to evict only seven tenants--the law is simple: follow the procedure, pay the fees, wait the 30 days; then, if they don't leave, the Sheriff takes them out. Yes, you lose another month's rent and the fees, but they are gone. I find three keys: 1) have a nice place, 2) charge a reasonable rent, and 3) don't rent to anyone with a bad credit report. I do have a cousin who acts as temporary manager when a tenant is late or being evicted, but temporary managers can be hired.

[johnnycthedog]

BudfahRuksa

To be honest , I think you are buying a load of trouble . Having a baby doesn't solve anything , is just a further impediment and source of argument . Moody and manipulative describes most Thai women . You have to learn to say NO and mean NO , they accept it and will sweeten up . Don't take any nonsense from them . I wouldn't send copies of your passport and birth certificate .

I would strongly advise against getting married until you know one another really well . Thais will be looking for a hefty bride price . If she is coming to Australia that is the place to have a simple registry office wedding . She may at a later date try to persuade you to go to live in Thailand , Don't . The Cops aren't going to come after you in Australia . Take Care !!!

BudfahRuksa's problem has sort of high jacked the OP's question. But in answer to BudfahRuksa's problem my advice would be to stay a very long way away from this lady. For example her in Thailand and you in Australia. She's sounds big trouble and high maintenance and will probably give you a miserable life and financial caning.

God if she's like this at the beginning of a relationship what chance has it got. YOU WILL BE MISERABLE. REPEAT - YOU WILL BE MISERABLE.

However you have fathered a child and should seek to remit a monthly amount to Thailand for the child's benefit. How this can be achieved I don't know.

I wouldn't send copies of your passport and birth certificate .

[lopburi3]

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