To anyone who will listen and can help!

I met a bar girl in December who I feel for very much and was also fooled into thinking I was the 'special one' in her life. Got the customary letter about how much she liked me and the emails. I did know at the time that she was mailing other boys but thought I could stand out from the rest.

I went back to see her in March and we got on very well despite the odd argument which was my insecurites about the work she did. One of these arguments was about the other boys she emailed and I asked her where I came on the list if she had a choice. I was told I would be third choice and I believe I was suitabily upset by this.

We had a good holiday and I was taken back to her home town to meet her family and she was scared of this because of the commitment issues involved and that I may possibly one day finish with her. This would mean that her family would lose face if this occured. I met her family and everything was good and I came back with strong feelings for her.

Now she doesn't work anymore and lives back home with her family and waits for me to come back in July and hopefully we can get her a visa to come back to England for 6 months. I believe she cares about me very much and gets upset sometimes because she can not see me. She has also told me she feels guilty because she thinks I do everything for her and she does nothing for me. She also can't understand why I care for her the way I do because no one has treated her so good before and I think she finds it hard to accept. She knows how much I care and I know she cares for me too.

If now she likes me so much why am I so paranoid that I was number 3 on her list? Are Thai girls upset that they don't get the first choice? In English culture a girl doesn't settle for 2nd best! Will her mind now of changed and she realises that it is me she would like to be with? Will she always have regrets that she didn't wait to see what happened with the other boys?

Can anyone help with this??

Steven

Can anyone help with this??

i believe you are beyond help.

I can tell you now that even if this isn't a troll post, it will soon turn into a circus. You can either believe her, or not. Nothing anybody says here will change the truth which only you and her know. If you are so unsure, you aren't ready to commit yet. Take more time, and don't pin too many hopes on it.

Now before the circus starts, I'm closing this one down.

cv