Closing ranks or objective ?

I am in a spot of bother.

In order IMO to get assistence in achieving a good result, on a decent way for all concerned, i could do with the help of the FIL.

Sometimes it seems there is none at all, other times it seems there is some.

Of the direct FIL, 6 adults, all live in the area/province of birth, village. Of the extended FIL quite a number of women live in Europe. Those women are in the agerange between 40 and 55 and living with older men. With 1 i have regular contact. How they met their husbands.......i really do not know.

I recently opened a topic about "irrational and emotional behaviour". On that topic many people wrote good comments.

Based on that i talked with a thai woman living close to me. In Europe. She said to me that no matter what the thai familymembers, closeby or further away, will always close ranks. To avoid confrontation, problems and maybe loosing face. Even if some things seem obvious, they will never admit it but will deny it or try to divert attention from the matter. She said that no matter what, somebody who comes into a family will always remain an outsider in case of serious problems related to 1 of the familymembers..

What is ur take on it and have u experienced similar problems or where members of the FIL able to judge and act/talk obejectively when u had problems with ur thai gf/wife or a familymember.

Thanks.