jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 After going on a bunch of first dates with Thai girls, I finally decided to pursue one in particular. I won't go into the reasons why, but I'm running into a problem with dealing with Thai womens' prejudices about foreign men (especially good looking ones in their late 20's). I'm not really much of a playboy—or I was, back when I was in my early 20's, but over the past few years my priorities have shifted and I'm more of a one girl at a time type of guy. I just turned 27. The problem is, all of the girls I've been talking to just automatically assume I'm a huge playboy, since I'm young and relatively good looking, and don't have a girlfriend. They all pester me with questions about how many girls I'm dating. One girl (with whom I dated for 2 weeks) even likes to casually ask me how my day is going and whether I had had sex on so-and-so morning. In my homeland, part of attracting women is that they want you more if they think you're dating multiple women. Is this true in Thailand? In other words, if a girl I'm into asks me if I'm dating multiple girls, what is the best response? Pure honesty? Because that sure don't work where I come from. I haven't really gotten into anything resembling a relationship yet, but in the USA, being totally honest with a girl and telling her you like her and want to see only her is a surefire way to make her disappear with a flash of lightning. So, I'm loathe to tell this girl that I'm into her. If she were from the countryside and was a true traditional Thai girl, of course I'd handle the situation with much more straightforward approach, but this young woman is educated with a professional job and speaks English. Some of the guys I've talked to have told me that they tell the ladies they're dating that yes, they see multiple girls, and the ladies tend to be fine with that—but I'm not really one to date multiple girls at once. Any musings on the nature of early relationships in Thailand, or is this a total judgement call? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Also, would a moderator mind changing this topic title to "Dating differences between Western women and Middle-Class urban Thai women?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post i claudius Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 I take it that you only date well to do chinese/Thai ladies as your so good looking and not a playboy any more ,now that you have reached the grand old age of 27 ,what profession are you in by the way ? to be able to live here in Thailand . oh and a newbie i see. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post oogster8 Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) Also, would a moderator mind changing this topic title to "Dating differences between Western women and Middle-Class urban Thai women?" You want us to believe youare dating only Middle class urban thai women.......................lol. Those are the toughest for most guys. But since you are good looking and i assume dont smell................. You know-girls are not all the same. what works with one wont another. And they might both be ubarn middle class women............lol. Edited January 13, 2014 by oogster8 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ihunnieibee Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Just be yourself. Do what you usually do. If they don't like you or the way you do things then you probably shouldn't be trying to get into a relationship w/ them anyways. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post oogster8 Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 no offenses but its true girls who have no problem dating foreigners are either hookers or have the thought process of hookers. It game really isnt the same as with your home country girls. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JLCrab Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Just be yourself. Do what you usually do. If they don't like you or the way you do things then you probably shouldn't be trying to get into a relationship w/ them anyways. ... and if you have any trouble just being yourself, no problem! Be someone else. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) Nice, JLCrab... If I thought all Thai women were the same, I wouldn't have bothered started this thread. Of course, maybe I just need to be broken and convinced that they are... The women I've been meeting and/or talking to are between 20 and 30 years old, usually middle class, speak fairly good english, and have gone to university. A couple of them have even split the bill with me, surprisingly. The ones I've maintained contact with haven't indicated any interest in my money, so I'm giving them a chance. They know I'm a schoolteacher here, so obviously, I'm not sugar daddy material at this time in my life. One or two girls I'd been seeing started asking me to buy them shit, but I quickly cut things off with them. i claudius, I'm a math and English teacher here. Might stay and progress to University level, might not. Edited January 13, 2014 by jackspade Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post jkinbkk Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Oops...like some kind of mystic guru I can almost predict the series of posts by this OP over the coming couple of years. Sad thing is he can't hear the siren of the inevitable screeching towards him over the whoops, cheers & adulation of his own ego! Oh well 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bernard Flint Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Also, would a moderator mind changing this topic title to "Dating differences between Western women and Middle-Class urban Thai women?" with 50% chinese in them, and use bucket loads of whitener Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 I'd like to hear your story, jkinbkk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Costas2008 Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Is this a troll? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) I guess I should just leave Thailand now, huh. Edited January 13, 2014 by jackspade 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sam sen Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 turn it around, would you want to know if the girl you are dating is dating multiple guys? and if she is how would you feel? what would you do? treat her as you would wish to be treated yourself. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post i claudius Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 I guess I should just leave Thailand now, huh. NO just dont post things like this ,many of us are older and more cynical so we love to take the piss , you will learn to love it on here one day 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) Ok... I'll see you guys back at this thread around 2038 and let you know how things went. Edited January 13, 2014 by jackspade 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeThePoster Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 The problem is, all of the girls I've been talking to just automatically assume I'm a huge playboy, since I'm young and relatively good looking, and don't have a girlfriend. Not to mention the Lamborghini. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jackspade Posted January 13, 2014 Author Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yeah, I think I'm going to replace the Lambo avatar with ... something related to Greece. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post khunpa Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) No decent woman likes a Playboy or is interested in being with one. Therefore, I would recommend you not to share that with any woman, you want a serious relationship with. Also be careful, because things you say in the beginning of the relationship, can come back and haunt you later on. When I started dating Thai-women here, I had no intention at all in starting a relationship. I just wanted fun and I for sure had a lot of fun during those days. Despite my plans, I then came across this one woman, that I just could not get out of my mind. I think, I was attracted to the fact, that she was hard to get. Anyway, after multiple dates, I finally got her and ended up in a relationship, although this was not the plan. My point is: Try not to want the relationship-thing too much. Wait for it to find you and then just enjoy life instead. At least for me that worked. One day you just stumble upon the right woman and when you do, you will also know what to do, what to say and how to tackle the situation. Thai-women are basically not different from any other women around the world. So no need to over-analyse them. Just do like you do with other women. Edited January 13, 2014 by khunpa 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kudel Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Nice, JLCrab... If I thought all Thai women were the same, I wouldn't have bothered started this thread. Of course, maybe I just need to be broken and convinced that they are... The women I've been meeting and/or talking to are between 20 and 30 years old, usually middle class, speak fairly good english, and have gone to university. A couple of them have even split the bill with me, surprisingly. The ones I've maintained contact with haven't indicated any interest in my money, so I'm giving them a chance. They know I'm a schoolteacher here, so obviously, I'm not sugar daddy material at this time in my life. One or two girls I'd been seeing started asking me to buy them shit, but I quickly cut things off with them. i claudius, I'm a math and English teacher here. Might stay and progress to University level, might not. Youre and Englisch teacher wich means you have no money and will never drive a lambo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cashpower Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 i faced a similar situation myself. my advice is to never marry below your station. middle and lower class girls can appear cute at first but you will soon tire of their ignorance and lack of social standing. in my case i had an investigator vet all the candidates as to medical history, education, etc etc and also investigated the relatives. i then had a short list from which i selected my wife based on her looks, personality and suitability for child rearing. we have had a long and happy relationship due mainly to me doing my homework and i am very happy with the children she has produced. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Kudel Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) i faced a similar situation myself. my advice is to never marry below your station. middle and lower class girls can appear cute at first but you will soon tire of their ignorance and lack of social standing. in my case i had an investigator vet all the candidates as to medical history, education, etc etc and also investigated the relatives. i then had a short list from which i selected my wife based on her looks, personality and suitability for child rearing. we have had a long and happy relationship due mainly to me doing my homework and i am very happy with the children she has produced.You clearly have some serious childhood issues and need to see a head doctor ,what a catch you must be to youre partner.Who did al these checks for you the NSA? Edited January 13, 2014 by Kudel 15 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JLCrab Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Which sperm bank did he use? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Costas2008 Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 jackspade, on 13 Jan 2014 - 18:23, said:Yeah, I think I'm going to replace the Lambo avatar with ... something related to Greece. Oh.....Please tell us.......I'm dying to know! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post JoeThePoster Posted January 13, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yeah, I think I'm going to replace the Lambo avatar with ... something related to Greece. A salad? 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mary Poppins Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Yeah, I think I'm going to replace the Lambo avatar with ... something related to Greece. How about this? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Costas2008 Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Mary Poppins, on 13 Jan 2014 - 19:09, said: jackspade, on 13 Jan 2014 - 18:23, said:Yeah, I think I'm going to replace the Lambo avatar with ... something related to Greece. How about this? So the guy behind STUD is Greek?.....Don't know him anyway....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waterloo Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Honesty! if you want to form a long term relationship why start it with a lie she is bound to catch you out on latter down the road? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stedyedy Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 Living in truth is the greatest thing ever youll always feel light as a feather. Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oogster8 Posted January 13, 2014 Share Posted January 13, 2014 in his 20s and already an english teacher. noone can be this un-Smart.................lol. what a waste of a handsome guy......lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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