How important is quality sex to you when choosing a partner?

[Kitsune]

she just doesn't have the required libido for holding off the bar girls in a long term relationship.

Her libido is in balance for blackmail betrayal, and you wonder why she won't put up?

Poor woman.

[alanrchase]

Kitsune. Are you serious? I understand people who have had a bad experience with a gorgeous Thai lady but why take the piss?

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[recycler]

Always try the bird!

[ebean001]

Just wondering how many of you have a hot sex relationship after 5 years. then after 10. then whatever. sooner or later we all get to this stage. is that time for divore or is it time from a quality relationship based on others things.

[Naam]

I do help them define and refine their criteria, and that factor seems to very rarely be important. Or if it is, they don't talk about it.

Obviously the final choice is up to them.

define and refine with the help of lobster, caviar and champagne for 30 Baht a day?

[belg]

wife went to hairdresser, had to wait...

hardresser is single & cute... she talked to other client :

she wants a man, for everything , except the sex ...

go figure out ...

she does not speak english, so her target was not farang

[alanrchase]

Dear Wym. You are obviously a sex god . I wish I had your enormous tool to show to the school girls.

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[LaraC]

When i get older maybe sex wont be important to me, but it is at this point in my life.
Yes, my partner is more than just sex, but imo quality sex and an interesting sex life is part of what makes up a relationship.
If it was terrible or non-existent, i cant see that working for me, as i imagine it would breed resentment and that would surely affect other areas of the relationship.
Of course, if it were for health reasons or my partner was having problems etc, that would be different. Compassion would kick in.

[Showbags]

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One's definition of quality sex probably differs. To me its important that I'm able to give my partner the big "O" and if I give her several even better but this depends on the chemistry we have between each other more then either ones prowess. It doesn't have to be porn star gymnastic stuff but more importantly being able to please each other. I would feel very bummed out if she had to fake it but I bet a lot of women do because their partners are not paying enough attention to what she likes rather focusing on himself.
A lot of men have lost their libido's or have erectile dysfunction (ED's) because they've lost or never found that chemistry with their GF/wife.

Whats the big O ??

[bkkjames]

Funny after I got married 6 or 7 years ago, dont remember, I thought having this ring on my finger would help me land all those unsatisfied office gal types that ain't getting no satisfaction.

Boy was I wrong. Whoever told me that beware --- I will find you.

[malt25]

My wife in the UK was rubbish at sex. I was with her 30 years.

Even easier in Thailand, wife no good in bed, hookers everywhere.

A wife is for making babies and bringing them up, not good sex.

Are you sure it was the wife that was rubbish at sex......

Ah the good old British house wife.....frumpy, boring, tired all the time......not willing to experiment.....lays on her back reading a book whilst the hubbie huffs and puffs.....what Thai woman would not find this desirable in a Farang 50 years later! Oooppss missed the part about the hookers..

WOW, what an attitude ! I just don't know what else to say.... & I'm rarely lost for words.

[belg]

imagine this...

before you are married, you are overweight & ur girl is not...

but in the years, you went to gym, you now weigh less than your wife, actually , she became a fat bastard

she still have sexdrive and ... who wants to f a big pig ?

i feel like less, specially she has a nasty personality

one of those that has everything in her name and reminds you of it ... (gladly i did not have to pay for car , house, whatever)

but we have 2 kids ...

the option of hookers or a gik for some personal pleasure seems more and more attractive with the passing days

[Malthus101]

100% essential. Sex is what distinguishes a relationship from a friendship. It's why women and men were designed differently.

I'm at a stage now where if the female has not performed oral within 2 weeks, she gets the boot. I've waited in vain for a year before when I was wet behind the ears. No more.

I even dated a Thai girl... who didn't like sex! Trust me to meet the only woman in Thailand who doesn't like sex!

Needless to say... she has been shown the door, why waste time when there are so many others who love it and do it well?

And let me add, if a girl begins good but becomes lazy... don't be surprised if your man is finding satisfaction elsewhere.

Holding hands and hugging doesn't cut it.

Edited March 18, 2014 by Malthus101

[bkkjames]

imagine this...

before you are married, you are overweight & ur girl is not...

but in the years, you went to gym, you now weigh less than your wife, actually , she became a fat bastard

she still have sexdrive and ... who wants to f a big pig ?

i feel like less, specially she has a nasty personality

one of those that has everything in her name and reminds you of it ... (gladly i did not have to pay for car , house, whatever)

but we have 2 kids ...

the option of hookers or a gik for some personal pleasure seems more and more attractive with the passing days

I got to hand it to you - actually you need to hand it to yourself

[alanrchase]

What is your sexual partners opinion of your performance?

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[bkkjames]

What is your sexual partners opinion of your performance?

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Who me?

Answer: Multiple.

But who's counting?

Anyway, another old saying - how can you tell when your gal has an orgasm?

Who cares.

[alanrchase]

Bkk, I will accept the reply but you did not regale me of your sexual prowess.

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[bkkjames]

Bkk, I will accept the reply but you did not regale me of your sexual prowess.

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You asked how would my wife rate my performance.

I replied...multiple

Figure it out mate.

Either she climaxes really easy or I last really long.

(Bet on #1 unless I am drunk)

[alanrchase]

Bkk. Love it 5555.

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[thailiketoo]

Some people get excited by strangers. Some people can't get excited by strangers. Some people like fat partners some like skinny partners. Some need chemical assistance some can replace that with emotional or visual assistance.

Some try to moralize about the above to make themselves feel superior to others.

Some religions make conditions impossible for the normal person to maintain and receive funding by forgiving people for being human.

Some people have said the heck with Western sexual morals and moved to Thailand.

Some guys have figured out the mysteries of life some haven't.

[jackspade]

This isn't an issue where you can make umbrella statements. I've had legitimately mind blowing sex both in love and out of love, but I can say it was always better afterward when I was in love. If you have a sexless marriage/LTR, there are numerous things you can do to address the problem, unfortunately, a lot of these relationships are basically devoid of quality communication out of bed, which renders the sex life impotent. Having hookers just around the corner doesn't help, either.

Obviously, young people &lt;deleted&gt; like rabbits because sex is new to them and they have raging hormones. As libidos die down, the value of a partner who is more than just a blow up doll and can provide companionship rises.

I personally value quality of sex fairly highly in my relationships. If a chicks not good in bed, I'll lose interest.

Edited March 18, 2014 by jackspade

[Claude Balls]

"In this case, she's beautiful and intelligent but she even admits she has a problem with no sex drive and always had the same problem in past relationships" .

I think what you said here encapsulates the situation. She is beautiful and intelligent has no sex drive and admits this is a problem and has been in past relationships. I don't really see what more you need to know to make your decision as you are going to certainly have the same problem

[wym]

Some religions make conditions impossible for the normal person to maintain and receive funding by forgiving people for being human.

Sorry this statement sounds interesting, but the meaning isn't clear to me.

Could you try rephrasing or expanding?

[wym]

"In this case, she's beautiful and intelligent but she even admits she has a problem with no sex drive and always had the same problem in past relationships" .

I think what you said here encapsulates the situation. She is beautiful and intelligent has no sex drive and admits this is a problem and has been in past relationships. I don't really see what more you need to know to make your decision as you are going to certainly have the same problem

Personally I'd take it on as a challenge, at least for a while.

Few women are actually "frigid", those with this problem usually have some sort of psychological block, or just haven't met a guy whose bits fit theirs the right way AND willing to put the time and energy into finding her hot buttons. Some just need the exact right fit both physically and emotionally/psychologically, get into the right frame of mind then WHAMMO once you get them off they're very grateful, worth every bit of effort you put into it.

Plus there isn't anything quite so gratifying as making another human being very very happy, even if it's just for a short time.

[bkkjames]

"In this case, she's beautiful and intelligent but she even admits she has a problem with no sex drive and always had the same problem in past relationships" .

I think what you said here encapsulates the situation. She is beautiful and intelligent has no sex drive and admits this is a problem and has been in past relationships. I don't really see what more you need to know to make your decision as you are going to certainly have the same problem

Personally I'd take it on as a challenge, at least for a while.

Few women are actually "frigid", those with this problem usually have some sort of psychological block, or just haven't met a guy whose bits fit theirs the right way AND willing to put the time and energy into finding her hot buttons. Some just need the exact right fit both physically and emotionally/psychologically, get into the right frame of mind then WHAMMO once you get them off they're very grateful, worth every bit of effort you put into it.

Plus there isn't anything quite so gratifying as making another human being very very happy, even if it's just for a short time.

....and any moment now the OP for that Avatar Name Photo topic will appear to add her thoughts. I am just surprised JT hasn't chimed in yet.

[jackh]

A perfect wife should be a whore in bed and a princess in the home. No matter where she is from.

[robertthebruce]

Is it me, or is this ''Posting'' just a tad ''Sad'' ???

Choose your partner for ''Love'' ...

[wym]

Dear Wym. You are obviously a sex god . I wish I had your enormous tool to show to the school girls.

No idea of where that's coming from, I've certainly made no such claims, and my partners generally have left school years before meeting me.

I do help them define and refine their criteria, and that factor seems to very rarely be important. Or if it is, they don't talk about it.

Obviously the final choice is up to them.

define and refine with the help of lobster, caviar and champagne for 30 Baht a day?

Perhaps you misunderstood. JL was asking about the fact that I help my girls to move on to greener pastures when they decide they're ready, and I was talking about assisting them define their life goals, nothing to do with fancy food.

But they are getting fed much better with me than they were at home, and I also give them a bit of cash allowance that they can spend as they like. Of course short-term money isn't why they're with me, but I suppose if I had more cash to give them directly, they'd stick around longer.

But the smart ones do stay until at least their English gets up to a decent level and the right new sponsor/fiance has made a firm commitment. Most have moved overseas within a year of leaving me.

In any case I've got no great desire to keep them around for too long, two years is about my limit nowadays.

[thailiketoo]

Some religions make conditions impossible for the normal person to maintain and receive funding by forgiving people for being human.

Sorry this statement sounds interesting, but the meaning isn't clear to me.

Could you try rephrasing or expanding?

The church needs new chairs. Who gonna give us chairs? Make something a sin and then charge people one chair to forgive the sin? Cool but we need a sure thing? OK make infidelity a sin.

[soalbundy]

I haven't met a Thai woman who wasn't boring in bed.I f you want quality sex go back to farang land