though fellows since yesterday is it quiet certain( according to the doc) i will become a daddy! not realy planned but happy.do you guys have any good advice what to do,tips,tricks and whatever is needed to take good care of my offspring.many questions are still open: how to raise a child tri- lingual,how to find the best middle way of both cultures,how to educate,what do i need....and so on.

any usefull reply appreciated and before any stupid coments are comming- we are together 5 years,married for 3 years and my wife is not Noy from the pink pussy bar in Pat's but issan and not Hi'so chinese but has a really nice family( without buffalos- they changed to cars)

thanks in advance and cheers fellows

congratulations, just enjoy the pleasure it will bring you to have a beautiful baby to raise

Congratulations.

Read the other topic on this forum....would be my advice.

Raising our kids etc....

Congratulations.

Read the other topic on this forum....would be my advice.

Raising our kids etc....

any usefull links? just don't have the time for research- still have to work,but many thanks for the congrats.

congratulations, just enjoy the pleasure it will bring you to have a beautiful baby to raise

thanks buddy

Congrats,your life will never be the same but very different in a very positive kind of way.

Make sure you and your wife are a team in raising your child together,you have lots of time to talk about it.

No amount of planning will be sufficient,every child is unique and i wish you happy times.

Congratulations!

My only word of advice would be that the sooner you understand you have little or nothing to say about it the happier you'll be.

Pick your fights VERY carefully!

Congratulations!

Only two things I can say

Don't worry too much about anything, women have been having babies a long time.

Thai government hospitals do a fine job at very little expense.

Well done Crazy chef 1.

really happy guys- but still need to digest it- even MIL is already here.i think we will ame our best as a big family.

just hope mum will not stay too long 555 just joking she is always welcome

really happy guys- but still need to digest it- even MIL is already here.i think we will do our best as a big family.

just hope mum will not stay too long 555 just joking she is always welcome

Congratulations.

Thailand is great for most child rearing expenses. Food, accomodation, clothes and transport are all cheap.

Where I find problems and concern is in education and medical.

I'm taking my boy to Australia for his primary school education. Also the health welfare in Aus is a bonus even though it is wise even there to take out health insurance.

I don't care about him growing up bilingual. He can learn while he is a teenager when we return here.

Congratulations!

My only word of advice would be that the sooner you understand you have little or nothing to say about it the happier you'll be.

Pick your fights VERY carefully!

you mean the same as at my wedding?

Congratulations. It's the best thing ever.

Congratulations.

For you the difficult part is over. Now you can relax and let Mrs Crazy Chef 1 take over.

Best Wishes ! Don't get too excited, for the next 20 years, at least, you will be busy !

Re: not really planned. Yes -- those storks are unpredictable birds. Best-of-luck to all concerned.

Am also a father (4 boys) and when I was about to become one in Thailand for the first time, I consulted an Expat I knew who had single handedly put all of his nine kids thru Uni. He said don't bother telling them how to be, it doesn't work. However you want them to be, then you be like that and they will surely follow.

I also think we shouldn't hide the realities of life from kids. After all, we are trying to help them become independent in society and telling untruths or hiding reality isn't doing them any favours.

Embrace the experience of fatherhood and remember to "let go" a little when the time comes.

Thanks buddies.life will change for sure.anybody got some advises how to raise a child here? bec i have no clue can tell you how to raise and train dogs but not kids...

much appreciated

Congrats CC1, just enjoy the great experience and the many years ahead watching the child grow up.

"How to rise a child?"

Personally I'd let the wife take care of it. They are after all women and have rised kids for a very very long time, and they are good at it.

"How to rise a child?"

Personally I'd let the wife take care of it. They are after all women and have rised kids for a very very long time, and they are good at it.

but like in the other thread i don't want to raise my baby completely Thai way there MUST be a balance.

any suggestions?

Congrats OP.

"how to raise a child tri- lingual"

What we do.

I only speak English to her. My family too when they are here or on skype a few times a week. DVD's etc. are also in English.

My wife only speaks Thai to her. Neighbours and Thai friends too. Her school will mainly be in Thai until about the age of 8 or 9.

Wife's family only speak Japanese to her when they are here, on Skype most days, or when we go to Japan.

"How to rise a child?"

Personally I'd let the wife take care of it. They are after all women and have rised kids for a very very long time, and they are good at it.

but like in the other thread i don't want to raise my baby completely Thai way there MUST be a balance.

any suggestions?

Be involved as much as you can in everything that is going on.

Find a good gik as for the next 3 years you ain't getting any from the wife.

Congratulations.

The most important part which is reserved for you, you have already done!

Now relax after that "hard" part.

All will come in his place without much thoughts. I have 5 boys, (2 in my home country, 3 in Thailand), one more child now arriving.

Congratulation man.

Don't worry at all about 3 languages just love your kid so much, and show him/her : he/she can rackon on you anytime.

The kid is the largest happyness and no-one will love you like your child.

You are worrying about your child's linguistics right now... wait until you find out that your wife is no longer interested in any sexual contact. That is when the misery really starts.

You are worrying about your child's linguistics right now... wait until you find out that your wife is no longer interested in any sexual contact. That is when the misery really starts.

And why is that happening? You know more about the reason of that factor?