fish fingers Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Tying the knot in a few months- been with my fiance for over two very happy years but noticed she is wanting me to really prioritize her over my friends, to quite extreme levels. Shes trying to set some rules pre marriage and So its put a downer on the last month and no way im sacrificing a social life in BK. Everything else about the relationship i am happy with but I consider my good friends as family too. I need to reassure her but also be firm set some rules of my own without her going mental -tips pls! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATF Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Try marrying a man instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neverdie Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Try marrying a man instead. Or a manlady. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pigeonjake Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 before i got married in the uk my old man said to me, youve always played darts on a thursday,gone out with the lads on a friday, dont stop, she met you when all this was happening so dont stop you must have time apart, why do some women try and change you, not just here, but all over the world, they meet you fall in love with you, THEN want you not to be you,, tell her how you feel, comunication is a big part of a relationship, talk to her, tell her that you like going out with your mates, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hedghog Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Time for the big decision. Who will wear the trousers? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazy chef 1 Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 why the hell is it important who got the trousers on??? a marriage is giving and taking though take her with you and your mates out,either she will likenit or let you go the next time alone...think she just wanna know what you boys are doing...if sha$$ing other girls is included certainly you should rethink about your decision... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgemandm Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 You want my tip don't get married why do you have to say the way you are and you will be a lot happier Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wooloomooloo Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Has your future wife got a wide range of friends? Serious question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 You want my tip don't get married why do you have to say the way you are and you will be a lot happier No.......dont marry "her" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 Try marrying a man instead. Or a manlady. And dont forget the animal kingdom too!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipi Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 I'd pick a good wife over friends any day. Friends come and go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beetlejuice Posted November 21, 2014 Share Posted November 21, 2014 why the hell is it important who got the trousers on??? a marriage is giving and taking though take her with you and your mates out,either she will likenit or let you go the next time alone...think she just wanna know what you boys are doing...if sha$$ing other girls is included certainly you should rethink about your decision... My marriage has always been on a give and take basis, she takes and I give. Anyway, the main principles of marriage should be on trust. To the OP: Start your marriage as you mean to proceed and finish. Make your preconditions clear to her now and vice versa and if unacceptable to both of you or there can be no compromises, than best not to make the ultimate commitments to each other, otherwise this will be a divorce waiting to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mesquite Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Yes, it happens all over the world, women want to change their men. Why? Who knows? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asdecas Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Yes, it happens all over the world, women want to change their men. Why? Who knows? Brain Chemistry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgemandm Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 I'd pick a good wife over friends any day. Friends come and go.So do good wife's come and go give me a brake a good wife in thailand you are joking Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brimacthai Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 This may help you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rotary Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Skip the marriage part, she will make you a prisoner of your own home Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misterphil Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Your relationship has already failed. You consult a bunch of strangers on here before talking to your future wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATF Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Try marrying a man instead. Or a manlady. And dont forget the animal kingdom too!! The later you get home the more happy a dog is to see you. No need to be gay to marry a man. Marry your best friend then you can go out socializing together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdanielmcev Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Oh, we got trouble! If she doesn't like you like you are, you should move on. Biggest mistake I've seen most men make is being with a woman that wants to change him, when he doesn't want, or isn't going to, settle down. And, if you don't want her to go with you out on the town, there is a serious disconnect going on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doznotdiz Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 When you are gettinf married, the first thing the bride sees is the aisle. The second thing is the altar. The third thing is you. I'll alter you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanuk711 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 My wife keeps complaining I never listen to her... or something like that................ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csabo Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Let's make it a simpler scenario. Imagine someone repeatedly punching you in the face. What would you do in that situation?? Unless your answer was "Allow it to continue" apply your answer to your current situation. Problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bra Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Marriage like politics is the art of compromise - for men and women. If either party finds that they have to compromise too much and cant accept this then stay single as you will not make a successful marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tatsujin Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Grow a pair and set some ground-rules that you both stick with, but also be man enough to compromise too. Any relationship is give and take, but if it gets to the point it's too one-sided or unreasonable or makes you unhappy, it's failed and you either fix it or move on. To be honest tho, if you've been together for 2 years, she should already know what you like and don't like and trying to change that now is a bit too late. Personally, if gf/wife tried to stop me from doing some of the things I wanted to do, I'd present her with a big long list of things that I don't particularly like that she does (but have accepted) and work it out from there. I'll stop this if you stop that etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc46 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Time for the big decision. Who will wear the trousers? It doesn't matter who wears the trousers its about growing a PAIR Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tengu Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 It is a business treat it like that. Write a prenup and don't forget DNA tests on babies and a dissolution clause. Pay for her to have a separate lawyer to avoid future claims of duress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jpinx Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 If a woman want her man to change - she's got the wrong man Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henksteeghsth Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 My marriage is just like a fairy tale !! Every time i come home the witch is sitting on the sofa. ( i hoop she don`t read this ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
strapper1 Posted November 22, 2014 Share Posted November 22, 2014 Why on earth, would you even consider such an arrangement? You will be much happier without this control freak trying to run your life! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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