Marrying Thailand

[aTomsLife]

As in the country itself.

Isn’t that part of the deal, after all, when one marries a Thai?

For those married to a Thai and living in Thailand—happily or otherwise—what advice would you give those considering “going all in” in the Land of Smiles?

What Thailand-specific quirks could one or should one expect? Especially when raising children is included in the scenario.

This thread is not meant to be about one-offs like sinsot. I’m talking about the day-to-day, year-to-year particulars a western man would not necessarily encounter had he married in his home country/culture.

Finally, for those members who don't mind answering: would you even advise getting married here, or instead taking your bride to be and running for the hills, i.e., one's native land?

[steven100]

not that different to married life in any other country ....

[aTomsLife]

not that different to married life in any other country ....

Find that hard to believe, especially raising kids here.

[ghuost]

explain this marry requirement of yours, why you thinks its necessary or desirable?

Edited December 7, 2014 by ghuost

[aTomsLife]

explain this marry requirement of yours, why you thinks its necessary or desirable?

Where do I state that it's a requirement, necessary or desirable?

I'm interested in how, for example, an expat would deal with schooling if they aren't near enough, or can't afford, an international education? Do you just send your kid off for a rote lesson and allow him/her to be ingrained with Thainess, i.e., a robot-like subserviency for so-called authority figures?

There are any number of cultural nuances that are Thai specific. They are not perplexing questions, I've asked, really.

Edited December 7, 2014 by aTomsLife

[Morakot]

Sounds like you're having some doubts. Not that usual.

Forget about the country for a moment and try to figure out whether it will work out for you two. How similar, how much do you have in common, what are your expectations and aspirations?

Will you be able to live in Thailand? Where did you live before? What city or rural place? How different will it be from where were you before?

[aTomsLife]

Sounds like you're having some doubts. Not that usual.

Forget about the country for a moment and try to figure out whether it will work out for you two. How similar, how much do you have in common, what are your expectations and aspirations?

Will you be able to live in Thailand? Where did you live before? What city or rural place? How different will it be from where were you before?

Thanks for your reply. But I didn't write the thread to be about me specifically.

[benalibina]

1) Knowing yourself and see if standing up for what you believe in is compatible with your wife's

2) Dealing with the inner circle of your wife....due dilligence is needed to see if you can deal with them. Marrying an orphan is better.

3) When you have kids it is important to give them insight in their mixed heritage. You need to work on that and it costs time and effort. Willingness thus.

Alot depends on the family background of the thai partner and her openminded and willingness to see that there are other ways, apart from the thai way, to deal with various matters. This is not so much educationspecific but more how much she has not been influenced by conditioning.

Personally i struggled to deal with the mother of my children regarding how to raise our children. Me being more active, playing, reading books, learning the kids the shades of grey, how young they were, and disciplining them, meaning consistent and consequent. Whilst they knew their mother was far too soft and inconsistent with them. She was more the carer. For peacekeeping i kept my mouth shut too much. Hindsight, seeing how it all has gone.....my bad.

Edited December 7, 2014 by benalibina

[Morakot]

Thanks for your reply. But I didn't write the thread to be about me specifically.

You're welcome.

You are posting in a law forum; you may want this topic moved to general topics or the pub, if you'd like a more general discussion.

Edited December 8, 2014 by Morakot

[aTomsLife]

Thanks for your reply. But I didn't write the thread to be about me specifically.

You're welcome.

You are posting in a law forum; you may want this topic moved to general topics or the pub, if you'd like a more general discussion.

Ahh, thanks for pointing that out. If a mod would move it that would be great. Cheers.

[jacksam]

Hey OP, I didn't read replies so this is just personal opinion. Just one opinion... You need to be happy here. Many Thai women just don't take kindly to farang world. I can understand why. I came here thinking a chick would just love me to take her to AU to live. Not necessarily the case. Many members here marry. And many very happy.

But marry for what??.... Just live with your chick. Take good care of her and yes that sometimes means previous kids or other stuff..... But that's not the point. Why marry. They don't get it....they think its security financially. That's a little true in AU but not here. Just love her without the crap.

[AZBill]

Where is not as important as who! Make sure you got the right girl! Everything else can be worked out.