Are you frightened of getting older?

[pgrahmm]

Not so much bothered about aging - the only alternative to that is not to age.- bucket kicking time....

I'm Costas age and still doing OK - healthy...playing sports....traveling.....doing what I want pretty much without limitations.....the kids are surprised when at the beach and I'm chasing down diving for the frisby and generally having fun the way they do......they don't have to feel the blown knee afterwards but I really don't feel it while horsing around....but the fact that I can still do it (even though it hurts longer now) bouy's me too.....

Fortunately my family history is full of people that have lived to vibrant old age into the late 80's and mostly 90's....

What I worry about is leaving the people that I love.....my family in the states are all settled in/down and living well 1/2 way across the nation from me so the across town visits were more like semi-annual visits & not always pleasant (took after their mother in many ways).....

The family that I have here has accepted/respected/blended well and I don't want to leave them too soon.....we have in many ways become a closer family than the one stateside (sometimes it's better when words don't get in the way or be remembered badly) - for that I'm greatful and I don't want to say goodbye to them soon....

Time is more precious than anything else - we can never reclaim it...all we can do is claim/own/enjoy/savor every minute that we can the best that we can and be satistied....

[i claudius]

A FEW years ago it worried me ,now well the thing that worries me is leaving the wife behind,she is a lot younger but will be devastated when I go ,as will my daughter, now what worries me is more the manner of my death,let's hope it's like my man,in her 80s sitting in the chair ,book on her lap and a cup of tea on the floor beside the chair.

I have the same feeling. She is very young and a jewel. I am always afraid that her next man would mistreat her.

That is one thing that does not worry me ,my wife can look after herself ,earns good money ,has land and her familly although not rich are quite comfortable , she has two sisters who own buisnesses and large homes ,who are a little older than her but no longer have husbands ,if she does not want to have her own house ,she can live with them , my only worry is we are so close ,it will hurt her badly when i go.

[mikebell]

When people refer to me as a 'dirty' old man, I take it as a complement. I am 72 and having the time of my life here in Thailand.

[WhamBam]

When people refer to me as a 'dirty' old man, I take it as a complement. I am 72 and having the time of my life here in Thailand.

Keep on rocking!!!

Enjoy it all.

[krisb]

Start living Costas, not dying

Lifes not permanent, don't take it too seriously.

[Costas2008]

Start living Costas, not dying

Lifes not permanent, don't take it too seriously.

Never did, kris.........but these young chicks......getting harder to catch them.

Advice needed in February.

[David48]

K C (Khun Costas) ... what age, for you, is considered 'getting older' ?

[David48]

KC ... man you need some Sunshine ... I'll even throw in the Band.

Yeh ... that's the way I like it ...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=83I9El6C47A

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[MiclB]

"Frightened", absolutely not. Introspective, certainly. And what is the key to being 65 and happy might be the explanation-answer last.

Survived 3+ tours of mil duty here and roundabout, raised a strong family with well educated next generation and many grandchildren, retired at 43, again from corporate work at 56, again, again.... now just still healthy and with peace with my maker if the old heart attack bit comes today.

Answer: married my first and only wife in Lop Buri about 40+ yrs ago and the rest was automatic.

[Costas2008]

K C (Khun Costas) ... what age, for you, is considered 'getting older' ?

Don't know David.......never thought of that.........still too young...............

But if you read my OP, I stated that my brain hasn't changed much from when I was a teen................

[villagefarang]

I lost both my parents this year so mortality and life expectancy has been on my mind of late. Their last few years were not pretty so I am not sure I want to live into my 90s as they did.

Was not too happy to turn 60 this year but I am fighting it a hard as I can and just got back from an 80 km mountain bike ride. My fear is living too long and not being able to do the things I enjoy.

[ExPratt]

Not really , I'm 47 now and had a reasonably full life. When I was younger it was full in all the bad ways. I've worked in Asia since i was 35 and the first 2 years went mad on the Tax free salary. Since then I calmed down saved well and am in a position of being able to work if I want to, if I like the look of the job I'll have a go for a year,if not I'll leave it. When I snuff it the youngest 2 kids 12 and 13 will be financially taken care of and my eldest two 24 and 27 are old enough to take care of themselves. One thing that does scare me is I've turned into my Dad and hear myself repeating his words to my kids

[slipperylobster]

Not really frightened, as it appears to be the normal course of life.

It sure would scare me if I was growing younger...all those mistakes to be made again.

[David48]

I lost both my parents this year so mortality and life expectancy has been on my mind of late. Their last few years were not pretty so I am not sure I want to live into my 90s as they did.

Was not too happy to turn 60 this year but I am fighting it a hard as I can and just got back from an 80 km mountain bike ride. My fear is living too long and not being able to do the things I enjoy.

VF ... sorry to hear of your loss ...

I've also lost both my Parents ... it hurts.

My Dad was doing stuff he loved till he was 80.

With your 'love of life' attitude ... I'm sure you will be sweet.

[mrtoad]

Start living Costas, not dying

Lifes not permanent, don't take it too seriously.

Never did, kris.........but these young chicks......getting harder to catch them.

Advice needed in February.

Stick with Badgers Costas

[azaazo9]

A 65 year old with jet black hair and squeezed into blue jeans and a wife-beater is really depressing to see, especially with his arm around a 20-year old who looks like she's 16.

As a guy in his early 30s that is scared of getting older, sights like that always give me hope that getting old won't be so bad after all. A 65 year old with a hot 20 year old always gives me a smile, I just hope I can be doing the same when I am that age.

DP25, it's your man's double standard point of view. So it's normal for an old man of 60 to marry a young woman of 20? And what about an old woman of 60? Getting old for her is not easy because she can't be with a young man of 20?.

I agree with Suradit69, for me it is depressing to see a grandad of 70 with a hot teenage girl.

[krisb]

My dads wife is younger than mine.

See, who cares?

[azaazo9]

I don't know who cares, I just don't like double standards.

[DP25]

A 65 year old with jet black hair and squeezed into blue jeans and a wife-beater is really depressing to see, especially with his arm around a 20-year old who looks like she's 16.

As a guy in his early 30s that is scared of getting older, sights like that always give me hope that getting old won't be so bad after all. A 65 year old with a hot 20 year old always gives me a smile, I just hope I can be doing the same when I am that age.

DP25, it's your man's double standard point of view. So it's normal for an old man of 60 to marry a young woman of 20? And what about an old woman of 60? Getting old for her is not easy because she can't be with a young man of 20?.

I agree with Suradit69, for me it is depressing to see a grandad of 70 with a hot teenage girl.

It's not a double standard.

I don't care if a 60 year old woman marries a 20 year old man. If she has the money and it makes her happy, she should go ahead. I'm not the slightest bit interested in what either of them do with each other.

I will be a 60 year old man some day, so that is what I was commenting on. What 60 year old women get up to is their own business, I don't care.

[azaazo9]

'If she has the money...' So, everything is about money...

It's so sad when someone gets old and then buy happiness by being with much younger partner.

[slipperylobster]

Start living Costas, not dying

Lifes not permanent, don't take it too seriously.

Never did, kris.........but these young chicks......getting harder to catch them.

Advice needed in February.

Stick with Badgers Costas

Manimals have more fun....ask

[YeahSiam]

A 65 year old with jet black hair and squeezed into blue jeans and a wife-beater is really depressing to see, especially with his arm around a 20-year old who looks like she's 16.

As a guy in his early 30s that is scared of getting older, sights like that always give me hope that getting old won't be so bad after all. A 65 year old with a hot 20 year old always gives me a smile, I just hope I can be doing the same when I am that age.

Really? You look forward to the day when you can make a 20 year old girl

grimace in total, gut-wrenching disgust when you try to French kiss her?

What a thing to aspire to.

I can't speak for others but I know that I can't help but feel incredibly

embarrassed when I see a bald, moth-eaten 70 year old guy trying to give

the impression that raw denim Wrangler jeans, a gel-assisted combover

and a 20 year old, heavily-tattooed hooker in 6 inch heels in tow is a

combination that arouses envy in other men.

Sorry but by the time you get to 65, you might have to go to Burundi for

cheap pussy. Thailand will be above your paygrade

[azaazo9]

Burundi? Why not Ivory Coast ?

[DP25]

'If she has the money...' So, everything is about money...

It's so sad when someone gets old and then buy happiness by being with much younger partner.

Money buys lots of things that makes you happy. A man never stops being attracted to women in their 20s. That will never change. If I have to pay for it in 30 years, that is fine.

[DP25]

A 65 year old with jet black hair and squeezed into blue jeans and a wife-beater is really depressing to see, especially with his arm around a 20-year old who looks like she's 16.

As a guy in his early 30s that is scared of getting older, sights like that always give me hope that getting old won't be so bad after all. A 65 year old with a hot 20 year old always gives me a smile, I just hope I can be doing the same when I am that age.

Really? You look forward to the day when you can make a 20 year old girl

grimace in total, gut-wrenching disgust when you try to French kiss her?

What a thing to aspire to.

I can't speak for others but I know that I can't help but feel incredibly

embarrassed when I see a bald, moth-eaten 70 year old guy trying to give

the impression that raw denim Wrangler jeans, a gel-assisted combover

and a 20 year old, heavily-tattooed hooker in 6 inch heels in tow is a

combination that arouses envy in other men.

Sorry but by the time you get to 65, you might have to go to Burundi for

cheap pussy. Thailand will be above your paygrade

Well, I'd prefer to remain my current age forever. Young enough I can still date uni girls, but old enough I have money. I don't think that is likely to happen.

Thailand won't be above my 'paygrade', anymore than Europe or America is for older dudes there. I'm already almost fluent in Thai, in 30 years I'm sure I'll have no problem finding a younger mistress. I'm not gonna be making out with some tattoed harlet in 6 inch heels on the skytrain, I would have the same setup older Thai guys have.

[azaazo9]

Good for you. But then don't say that this concept is not based on double standards.

Edited December 20, 2014 by azaazo9

[YeahSiam]

A 65 year old with jet black hair and squeezed into blue jeans and a wife-beater is really depressing to see, especially with his arm around a 20-year old who looks like she's 16.

As a guy in his early 30s that is scared of getting older, sights like that always give me hope that getting old won't be so bad after all. A 65 year old with a hot 20 year old always gives me a smile, I just hope I can be doing the same when I am that age.

Really? You look forward to the day when you can make a 20 year old girl

grimace in total, gut-wrenching disgust when you try to French kiss her?

What a thing to aspire to.

I can't speak for others but I know that I can't help but feel incredibly

embarrassed when I see a bald, moth-eaten 70 year old guy trying to give

the impression that raw denim Wrangler jeans, a gel-assisted combover

and a 20 year old, heavily-tattooed hooker in 6 inch heels in tow is a

combination that arouses envy in other men.

Sorry but by the time you get to 65, you might have to go to Burundi for

cheap pussy. Thailand will be above your paygrade

Well, I'd prefer to remain my current age forever. Young enough I can still date uni girls, but old enough I have money. I don't think that is likely to happen.

Thailand won't be above my 'paygrade', anymore than Europe or America is for older dudes there. I'm already almost fluent in Thai, in 30 years I'm sure I'll have no problem finding a younger mistress. I'm not gonna be making out with some tattoed harlet in 6 inch heels on the skytrain, I would have the same setup older Thai guys have.

So you're committed to spending the rest of your life here

because you think you'll have access to an inexhaustible supply

of younger girls? To each his own but I can't imagine how

shit my life would've turned out if I'd made everything fit around

the pool of available pussy. How dreadfully sad

[DP25]

So you're committed to spending the rest of your life here

because you think you'll have access to an inexhaustible supply

of younger girls? To each his own but I can't imagine how

shit my life would've turned out if I'd made everything fit around

the pool of available pussy. How dreadfully sad

I'm spending the rest of my life here because I love Thailand and have spent years learning the language and culture. Had nothing to do with availability of girls, most of my time here I was in a relationship and busy with work and study, so the 'pool of available pussy' was irrelevant to me. I've never indulged in hookers and the farang bar scene during my time here.

But if I want a younger woman when I am older man, I accept I will have to provide financially, whether I'm in Thailand or anywhere else in the world.

[nottocus]

Frightened of getting older?? Seems pretty illogical.

[jpinx]

The only reason to consider your age is to make sure your insurance, driving licence, etc, are all not past their expiry dates. What's to be afraid of? The Grim Reaper comes to all, some earlier than others. "Ask not for whom the bell tolls .... it tolls for thee!"