dp4868 Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 I have been legally married in Thailand for 12 years. I met my wife in Hong Kong when we both lived there and we moved here, got married and settled down. Over the time here she has become increasing Thai, wanting more and more money for her family etc and doing less and less. I have got fed up with all this and eventually managed to persuade her into a divorce. My problem now is that she will not leave. The divorce was a simple paper signing so there is no financial commitment to her at all. The house we live, in I have rented for the last 12 years and the agreement is in my name. Everything in the house is mine, I have the receipts to prove purchase. She has her own car, scooter etc, but nothing in the bank. As soon as I give her any money she spends it or gives it to her family.She now she says that she will never leave this house and that the owner will let her live her rent free. I know this to be complete rubbish as the owner is short of money now and because her husband just died. How can she stay here in an empty house, because I will take all my furniture and she cant afford to pay the utility bills ?? I can move, but why should I, I can see me moving and then in a couple of months this house being up for rent again. So my question is how do I get her to move ?? I have been on this forum for many years so I know a lot of the answers I will get, but if anyone has any constructive ideas I would appreciate the input Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post leo202 Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 Salt seems to be working well at the moment. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post beachproperty Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 "I can move, but why should I" Because then you are truly free of her. Personally I'd move just to be rid of the aggravation (her) but then again if you need to ask the question ...guessing you going to stay. won't end well ...though MOVE 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post samsensam Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 apart from pride or principle it's not clear why you are staying. surely it's time to get on with your life. move. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 96tehtarp Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 "I can move, but why should I" Because then you are truly free of her. Personally I'd move just to be rid of the aggravation (her) but then again if you need to ask the question ...guessing you going to stay. won't end well ...though MOVE Just move, and the sooner the better. Good luck. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post kaorop Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 Why do they continue to use those 30-60 post "members" to post clickbait? Always with some silly relationship drama.......sillyly obvious. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Bangkokhatter Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 Was in a similar situation a few years back, stayed on for about 6 months after our divorce. i offered to pay for her to move into a condo, paid the usual rent in advance and 2 months deposit, she took the money and went. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inzman Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Some people can't help but create problems for themselves. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post NickJ Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 Marry her again. Seems you like drama. Nothing wrong with that it can be better than Television.......... 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brit_Doggie Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Seems only option open is to move, or try this my friend waited until the gf went away then changed the lock and wen't on a short vacation himself,on his return hey presto missing thai lady took the hint. So problem solved for him but your ex maybe smarter so first option seems to be the guaranteed way, so gl my friend. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laislica Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 I had an English gf, we lived together same time as you. I spent more than 250kEuro on property, I walked away. Less pain for both, like I suspect your life was hell, same as mine for a while. Why would you want to prolong that pain? Almost every poster has suggested that you should move on - what more do you need to hear? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bung Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Move somewhere she can't find you and get on with your life or kick her out and stay and then have her coming around banging on your door all the time or worse. The answer is simple 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chivas Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Move yourself 100%...........Just do it because a world of issues will come your way if you dont.....(they will anyway when you move but limited) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuckyLew Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 If I were you I would give the landlord notice that you are leaving Find a new place and move there Your ex-wife seems to have no plans to move or earn her own money You are not married or tied to her so why are you still giving her money Cut of the cash flow and get out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Suradit69 Posted March 23, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 23, 2015 Some people can't help but create problems for themselves. I'm not sure which is worse, the problem the poster created for himself or the idea that he would broadcast his predicament on TV expecting anything other than the most obvious solution (and the usual commentary from the Brotherhood of the Clueless whose ranks he's now joined). Or else it's just one more fictional episode in the undending farang soap opera. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragonfly94 Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 If you want to stay just change the locks and put her stuff outside. I have no problems with my mrs doing less and less, she never did owt to begin with, including cooking! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post catman20 Posted March 24, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 24, 2015 be smart DONT GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE but I expect you will be like so many other farang here and go out and find another wife soon. WHAT PART DO U FARANGS NOT GET ? IT DONT WORK !!!! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dragonfly94 Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 (edited) That's right stay in, don't have anything to do with women, never risk a penny, never commit to anything, don't love and don't live, life does not work out in the end you know Be a smug know it all and just pay bar girls to be your 'wife'. Edited March 24, 2015 by dragonfly94 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estrada Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Find her a boyfriend with enough money to keep her in the style she would like to be accustomed to. I did this with two of my wives and did not have to pay any maintenance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post realenglish1 Posted March 24, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 24, 2015 Just change the locks You have the right to do so Just expect a visit from the Police. But once you show them the divorce papers and Rental agreement you will not have a problem Good luck 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OmarZaidMD Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 "I can move, but why should I" Because then you are truly free of her. Personally I'd move just to be rid of the aggravation (her) but then again if you need to ask the question ...guessing you going to stay. won't end well ...though MOVE MOVE! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacko45k Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Give notice and move. But check in the wardrobes before taking them over to the new place! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ggt Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Water always follows the path of least resistance... Move...do not leave a forwarding address...change your phone number... To be truly free you need to take control...turn the page...and start a new chapter... Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post dotpoom Posted March 24, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 24, 2015 Just curious ....do you feel she is entitled to nothing more from you after 12 years married to each other? 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stgrhe Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 OP. First you need to know what the law states. Everything you bought before marrige is you persomal property. Everything you bought during mariage, exept personal things like clothing etc, are common property that shall be shared fifty-fifty after a divorce. Now the house you rent. You claim that you have rented this house for twelve years. My question is whether this rental agreement was duly registered at the land office and if so, for how many years? The law says that a rental agreement for a longer period of three years must be registered or else it is void after three years. In the worst case you might not have a legal claim to the rented house. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
does Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 That's exactly what I thought. If you didn't agree to a divorce settlement of any kind, you do not have my sympathy. The posters responding with "MOVE" sound like - how shall I say that delicately - macho types who consider women as disposable. Just curious ....do you feel she is entitled to nothing more from you after 12 years married to each other? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pitchag Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 Just move out put you stuff in storage and tell the land lord what you are doing and when the wife realises that she cannot live with no furniture or gas and electric she will move out and you can move back after changing the locks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post samuibeachcomber Posted March 24, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 24, 2015 Just curious ....do you feel she is entitled to nothing more from you after 12 years married to each other? was thinking the same.did she ever work in all those 12 years,or was she a housewife taking care of everything in the home,cooking,cleaning,washing,sex 24/7? And it seems you have given her nothing(except a monthly stipend maybe) and now she has no security once you up and leave 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post uptheos Posted March 24, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 24, 2015 Just curious ....do you feel she is entitled to nothing more from you after 12 years married to each other? In this age of equality, perhaps he could be saying the same thing. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToddinChonburi Posted March 24, 2015 Share Posted March 24, 2015 You really need to move and start a new life, Move while she is at work let here deal with the landlord on her own. Still amazing the power she has over you, Material things can be replaced , stay in the house and you may not wake up one morning. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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