Thai woman opinion about foreigners looking for love...

[KiChakayan]

On 01/05/2015 at 1:13 PM, green job said:

I get frightened by the amount of young Thai hookers that want the security and money off a 55 year old falang

I am 29 years older than my lovely wife. After 9 years we boomboom 2 or 3 times a week, I didn't do better in my first "same age"  marriage... We have two lovely daughters, the second one will soon go to school, so we'll have our afternoons... 

 

 

[bwpage3]

On 5/1/2015 at 3:32 AM, thaipopsy said:

Please...... read the title well......

I said..."looking for love"... NOT "looking for easy and cheap sex, and a free housekeeper"

If you do believe that 25 years old uneducated Thai women are dating and marrying 40 years old plus non Thai speakers foreigners for love...do not even comment my posting....Please.....

You have a lot to learn about life and everything in between

[mgthom63]

14 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

 

Intellectual stimulation is way, way overrated, in a trait for a wife. Granted, even though my Thai wife is very smart, I do not get much intellectual stimulation from the relationship.

 

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Also, since I did not want to have children, marrying her was an honor I brought to her and her family, by showing my earnestness and my long term commitment to her. 

 

 

 

Seriously?

If you're not getting intellectual stimulation from a very smart Thai wife, maybe you're not matching her intellect and/or taking the time to converse with her? 

I can't understand arguments that married life is not enhanced by mutual intellectual stimulation...unless one takes the view that a wife (Thai or otherwise) is only there to fulfill basic and submissive sexual and physical needs (such as cooking, cleaning, child-care, etc).

And you also brought an honor to her and her family?  Based upon your diatribe about women, I think you should feel honored she agreed to marry you!

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[bkk6060]

5 minutes ago, mgthom63 said:

Seriously?

If you're not getting intellectual stimulation from a very smart Thai wife, maybe you're not matching her intellect? 

I can't understand arguments that married life is not enhanced by mutual intellectual stimulation...unless one takes the view that a wife (Thai or otherwise) is only there to fulfill basic sexual and physical needs (such as cooking, cleaning, etc).

And you also brought an honor to her and her family?  Based upon your diatribe about women, I think you should feel honored she agreed to marry you!

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Your argument sounds like that of a western female.

[mgthom63]

21 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

Your argument sounds like that of a western female.

I'm actually a western male who just happens to think intellectual stimulation IS important for a successful, healthy marriage and that the poster may be a little arrogant in claiming he brought an 'honor' to his wife and family by marrying her.  

 

That's my opinion.  If you or the OP don't agree with that, that's perfectly ok.

 

We can agree to disagree. No worries...

[The manic]

On 01/05/2015 at 12:56 PM, Bernard Flint said:

I get frightened the amount of guys who come to Thailand age 55 and want a 20 yo, its disgusting

I find it brilliant and joyous

[spidermike007]

4 hours ago, mgthom63 said:

Seriously?

If you're not getting intellectual stimulation from a very smart Thai wife, maybe you're not matching her intellect and/or taking the time to converse with her? 

I can't understand arguments that married life is not enhanced by mutual intellectual stimulation...unless one takes the view that a wife (Thai or otherwise) is only there to fulfill basic and submissive sexual and physical needs (such as cooking, cleaning, child-care, etc).

And you also brought an honor to her and her family?  Based upon your diatribe about women, I think you should feel honored she agreed to marry you!

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Funny reply. I could say alot of things about it, but I will say it is a fairly typical view of a western man, who has suffered a lifetime of indoctrination. No, it is not about cooking and cleaning. We have a very good maid. So my wife does not have to clean much. We have no children, and we are very fortunate in that regard, so no child rearing required. She is a gourmet cook, so whenever I want, she is thrilled to whip up an incredible meal. But, mostly it is about outstanding companionship, being with a kind, loving woman who always has my back, as I always have hers. It is the most satisfying relationship I have ever been in. We have fun, we talk, but we don't try to break down the origins of the universe, and the conversations are lovely, but not particularly deep. She speaks very good english, but is not fluent, so that is one aspect of it. But, the primary aspect is just a lack of interest on her part, in the deeper subjects, (such as astronomy, physics, science, botany, theatre, independent film, etc.), which I find to be the case with alot of Thai women, and I am fine with that. 

 

I am not sure about who you are with, but I have met very few Thai women that I would describe as philosophical, or intellectual. Most Thais simply do not have inquiring minds. Most are not taught to be curious souls, as youngsters. This does not mean they are not smart. But, most of the intellectual kind of stuff I like to discuss with my friends, my wife considers bizarre, and uninteresting. And that is not even one iota of an issue for us. I learned long ago that an intellectual woman, who can match me intellectually, also tends to be a combative woman, and the chance of harmony is low. I for one, love a harmonious house, where my woman is joyful and light hearted, with a great sense of humor, and an amazing attitude toward life, and us. Just my point of view. Whatever works for you, stick with it.

[Bangkok expat]

On 1-5-2015 at 11:47 AM, lovelomsak said:

In IMHO most men who marry in Thailand like the submissiveness of a younger thai woman. Beauty is only skin deep and gets boring real quick. I have it found it hard to find a woman in Thailand who can carry an intelligent conversation. Many times it starts good but falls apart because of their lack of worldliness, and brain washing. My wife who is 20 years younger than me answers all my questions with a question. Example 'Are young hungry?" reply "Are you hungry?". " Do you want pizza?" reply "Do you want Pizza?" We cannot discuss home planning doesnot have a clue about planning absolutely anything.Gets angry when I try to do. Things like preparing for university for the children is dismissed as will deal with it when the times come and I will just pay.But she is 45 kilos and has the body of a young woman. And smiles a lot and we laugh a lot life is care free and fun. We live life without a care and enjoy company for companies sake. She has simple tastes easy to please. Small village girl with little expectations. Very, very affordable not an expensive woman to have around. Men compromise for happiness.

I found most women here who feel they have something going for them in Thailand be it looks, job, or even just the top mobile phone and a car, are difficult to be around. they all want to be princesses.Not the type you go out and have a bowl of noodles with at the local shop. If you take them out must be to a place that is new and expensive, even if they do eat noodles when they are there.

You want to know what men are looking for well here goes. Submissive,kind,fun,easy going and easy on the eyes. Like I tell my wife the less you demand the more you get. The happier our life the more you get. The easier our life the more you get. I tell her I wouldnot have married someone who expects a lot and gives a little. She asks nothing and appreciates all I give her.Many princesses offer nothing and demand to be treated special.

Forgot to add the wife speaks 3 languages also. Thai,Loa and English

Right out of my heart well spoken and true

[mgthom63]

17 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Funny reply. I could say a lot of things about it, but I will say it is a fairly typical view of a western man, who has suffered a lifetime of indoctrination.

 

 

I respect your opinion but still stand by what I said.

 

I certainly haven't suffered a lifetime of indoctrination in my 50+ years...married once only and that ended many years ago...several significant long-term relationships before and after, the majority being Asian women.  And I've lived in both the East and West.

 

I just disagreed with your suggestion that intellectual stimulation is overrated in a marriage and the comment that you brought an 'honor' to her and her family by marrying her...the latter suggests that she was somehow 'privileged' to have you agree to marry her, which came across to me as a rather egocentric and misogynistic claim. 

 

The first/former comment just seems indicative of a marriage that just doesn't seem to be firing on all 12-cylinders...but maybe I was just lucky to have a wife where there was a lot of intellectual stimulation.

 

But we can agree to disagree!

 

 

[mogandave]

Committing to love and keep a woman for life is not honoring her?

That she agrees to love and keep you for life is not honoring you?

I guess I am not clear on how honor is defined.


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[Kimber]

On ‎1‎/‎05‎/‎2015 at 2:11 PM, samsensam said:

On ‎1‎/‎05‎/‎2015 at 2:54 PM, Berkshire said:

Many men would prefer to be with someone that they can communicate with perfectly (same language proficiency), shared culture, shared interest, shared values and beliefs, etc. But some men would be willing to sacrifice this for a younger, more attractive female, even if they couldn't communicate well. Hence the attitude of many foreign men in Thailand. If a 50 year old man wanted to date a 50 year old woman, he'd be much better off in the west where he can find someone more compatible. With that rationale, it wouldn't make sense for an older foreigner to be seeking an older Thai woman. There are exceptions, of course.

Anyways, this is just one perspective.

 

 

 

You've got it,  I've been squiring a Thai lady (now 38) for 3 years and it got serious about a year ago.  

 

We met on Thai Friendly and chatted for months on Line before I flew over and met up with her. 

I have to say the my girl didn't lie about her 38 kg  "way ploblum"  and her pictures weren't photo shop; can we say that about the picture of Alya at 43 years old ?

 

In my experience the lies begin in many cases with their modified or 10 year old pictures.

On ‎1‎/‎05‎/‎2015 at 1:57 PM, thaipopsy said:

 

  

[Kimber]

On ‎1‎/‎05‎/‎2015 at 4:26 PM, Bernard Flint said:

NO, someone who has an opinion on the op, why are you angry with someone,s different viewpoint???? are you 60 with a 20 yo, if not thats ok. Many have daughters older, and for me, thats a little bit sicky

 

Western morality fails in LoS. 

 

If the Thai girl is over 18 no-one gives a damn if she's out and about with an old guy. 

 

A few years ago I lived with a Thai girl 21 from UT,  she was a Tech school student who I supported for a couple of years.

None of the Thai people we knew or encountered, were bothered by our relationship.

 

Less than 200 years ago European marriages between old guys and teenage girls were as common as chicken shit,  in fact the nobility and royal families specialised in it.  

[Kimber]

On ‎1‎/‎05‎/‎2015 at 5:32 PM, thaipopsy said:

Please...... read the title well......

I said..."looking for love"... NOT "looking for easy and cheap sex, and a free housekeeper"

If you do believe that 25 years old uneducated Thai women are dating and marrying 40 years old plus non Thai speakers foreigners for love...do not even comment my posting....Please.....

 

"looking for love"..   just happens to be the most commonly used lead -in with Thai women on dating sites.

"Love"  as a term has been so devalued (particularly in LoS) very few males continue to believe in it.  

[metisdead]

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