Just Wondering

[gerry123]

just out of interest how do fellow long termers manage their finances ie do you give your wife/partners a free hand with the household money or do you maybe control the purse strings, for whatever reason, there is an

bit of an agenda in my asking but maybe depending on any responses it could be revealed or explained better

[chrisinth]

This should be interesting, a very diverse subject..................

For myself, the other half holds the purse strings for the household necessities. As a housewife should IMHO, I know my mother did all through my growing up.

Do I/should I trust her? Although anything is possible; not stupid enough to consider anything otherwise, after 16 years of marriage, yes I do.

If the trust isn't there, then the relationship is flawed from the start...........................

No doubt others will have different opinions/experiences.

[smokie36]

We both earn money....so no worries.

[mesquite]

Like most male TV members, my gf is a HiSo Thai lady of Chinese descent, 30 years my junior. She earns all the money and gives me a large monthly allowance. In return, I have sex with her and her sister.

[beachproperty]

Am retired living in Thailand for over 12 years ....I manage the money (investments and income) and give my wife a stipend each month to pay for food/utilities etc (couldn't be bothered). Any major expenditures are discussed but final decision is mine....

So what's your hidden agenda?

[chrisinth]

Like most male TV members, my gf is a HiSo Thai lady of Chinese descent, 30 years my junior. She earns all the money and gives me a large monthly allowance. In return, I have sex with her and her sister.

Hope the sister chips in for the household stuff as well.

Be the man that you are and don't let them get away with it..................

[SoiBiker]

We trust each other to make decisions, plus we're married, so everything we have is shared anyway.

[pigeonjake]

our farm pays all our living costs,

i still go to work from time to time, the money i earn goes into my bank here in thailand that just stays there, if we ever needed a major item like the guest rooms we have just had built then the money would come out of there,

when i was away last time i came home to over 150,000bht in my desk draw, money from the pigs, i said why didnt you put it into the farm bank acount, wife said i wanted to wait for you so we can do together like allways,

the farm bank acount is there for both of us,

we dont spend much at all, we still have a good life and do the things we want to do but we both enjoy being together and working the farm, not that i do much you must understand as i dont have a work permit, as some of the jelouse on here will point out,

so if you look on youtube you will just see my wife working on the farm,

my ex wife in the uk i will add, had a free hand on the money and it cost me a fortune as to this day i think i kept her family also, just the same as some on here think all falang must do here,

im the same as others on here, my wife and i are a partnership im not the boss we talk about things if we want to spend a good sum, it was my idea for the guest rooms,i said to her it will let other falang if they want to come and see that you can make a happy life here in thailand, i know having a farm,(pigs also) isnt everyones cup of tea but they could come here and just see what can be done with a little hard work and a lot of effort from both of us,

we only have 2 rai but it works for us,

so to stop me rambling on,

if i want something i talk it over with my wife and the same goes for my wife,

my wife has her own money everyday from her ducks, that is her everyday money, when it comes to bills that just comes out the farm acount,

[weegee]

our farm pays all our living costs,

i still go to work from time to time, the money i earn goes into my bank here in thailand that just stays there, if we ever needed a major item like the guest rooms we have just had built then the money would come out of there,

when i was away last time i came home to over 150,000bht in my desk draw, money from the pigs, i said why didnt you put it into the farm bank acount, wife said i wanted to wait for you so we can do together like allways,

the farm bank acount is there for both of us,

we dont spend much at all, we still have a good life and do the things we want to do but we both enjoy being together and working the farm, not that i do much you must understand as i dont have a work permit, as some of the jelouse on here will point out,

so if you look on youtube you will just see my wife working on the farm,

my ex wife in the uk i will add, had a free hand on the money and it cost me a fortune as to this day i think i kept her family also, just the same as some on here think all falang must do here,

im the same as others on here, my wife and i are a partnership im not the boss we talk about things if we want to spend a good sum, it was my idea for the guest rooms,i said to her it will let other falang if they want to come and see that you can make a happy life here in thailand, i know having a farm,(pigs also) isnt everyones cup of tea but they could come here and just see what can be done with a little hard work and a lot of effort from both of us,

we only have 2 rai but it works for us,

so to stop me rambling on,

if i want something i talk it over with my wife and the same goes for my wife,

my wife has her own money everyday from her ducks, that is her everyday money, when it comes to bills that just comes out the farm acount,

Top Post Jake....but what is Gerry up to?

[pigeonjake]

i just wish i was more eloquent with words like the likes of guesthouse,villagefalang ect,

im a good talker, but not the best at putting it into words,

but many on here know there is a happy life to be had,

as for controle of purse strings, this again good be down to the individual both the man and women,

i know in thai culture its mainly the women who looks after the money

[chrisinth]

i just wish i was more eloquent with words like the likes of guesthouse,villagefalang ect,

im a good talker, but not the best at putting it into words,

but many on here know there is a happy life to be had,

as for controle of purse strings, this again good be down to the individual both the man and women,

i know in thai culture its mainly the women who looks after the money

Don't have to be a good writer Jake.

When it comes from the heart, it hits the spot.

Straight as an arrow.....................

[Stan42]

I live alone so all the money I make is mine, MINE, MINE!!!

[vogie]

I live alone so all the money I make is mine, MINE, MINE!!!

Money is worthless without women.

[Tonto21]

We both, the wife and I have access to the money in two accounts and spend as we see fit. My wife is better with the finances than I am, I'm a bit of an impulse buyer, my 'ball & chain' ...... is not. It works well for us.

[smokie36]

our farm pays all our living costs,

i still go to work from time to time, the money i earn goes into my bank here in thailand that just stays there, if we ever needed a major item like the guest rooms we have just had built then the money would come out of there,

when i was away last time i came home to over 150,000bht in my desk draw, money from the pigs, i said why didnt you put it into the farm bank acount, wife said i wanted to wait for you so we can do together like allways,

the farm bank acount is there for both of us,

we dont spend much at all, we still have a good life and do the things we want to do but we both enjoy being together and working the farm, not that i do much you must understand as i dont have a work permit, as some of the jelouse on here will point out,

so if you look on youtube you will just see my wife working on the farm,

my ex wife in the uk i will add, had a free hand on the money and it cost me a fortune as to this day i think i kept her family also, just the same as some on here think all falang must do here,

im the same as others on here, my wife and i are a partnership im not the boss we talk about things if we want to spend a good sum, it was my idea for the guest rooms,i said to her it will let other falang if they want to come and see that you can make a happy life here in thailand, i know having a farm,(pigs also) isnt everyones cup of tea but they could come here and just see what can be done with a little hard work and a lot of effort from both of us,

we only have 2 rai but it works for us,

so to stop me rambling on,

if i want something i talk it over with my wife and the same goes for my wife,

my wife has her own money everyday from her ducks, that is her everyday money, when it comes to bills that just comes out the farm acount,

When I want something I talk it over with my old man pj....and he tells me to <deleted> off....so I buy it anyway and tell him its his round.

Seems to work well.

The gf does whatever....and she always makes the right move.

[rgs2001uk]

My wife is free to do whatever she like with the money she earns, none of my business.

She dont give me money, I dont give her money.

She has her bank acounts, I have mine, we have a joint account for household bills.

If your girl if telling you one of those Thai stories about men giving their money to the wife, it may be time to look elsewhere.

[Blackfox]

I work with my wife in her business. We spend Baht only from the business.

Dollars at home are for o/s travel and a return to Aus sometime in the future.

Trust, honesty, and a sound plan make it work well.

[ttthailand]

Have been in a few different relationships over the 20+ years here. Each relationship was different regarding money.

What I have discovered and works best for me is a relationship where both people have an income and control their own money. My current gf makes good money and it is hers to do with as she likes, give to mom, buy makeup, go out to lunch with friends, etc etc .... Since my income is much more I am responsible for paying our living expenses, electric, water, shopping for food, rent, gas for car, etc.

I save as much as I can for a rainy day and she basically spends or gives to mom everything she makes. I help out a little here and there but don't hand over large amounts of cash. If we were to have a baby and she could not work for a few years I guess I would be supporting all of us until she started back to work again.

I have never found A Thai woman who can truly spend and save but I am sure there are some around.

[Crazy chef 1]

Both earn...both spent...

Just our latest family member don't contribute...but payback back time comes in about 20 years555

[Soutpeel]

I earn the money

she gets house keeping money to pay the bills etc. which she manages

and the rest (the bulk) goes into a bank account I manage

[JLCrab]

I cover her expenses to attend Law School (really)

Then I give her extra money to leave me alone.

[RasiMike]

Both of us earn income, so ....Joint account, credit cards for both and cash is either in her purse, my wallet or both. Neither of us have an issue with who is holding it - when one of us needs something the other can/will pay. I have never had a problem with worrying about my wife and cash..... I recognised early on that she knows the real value/importance of money in the great scheme of things.

In the early days of our relationship, if I'd found a reason not to trust her (as in former relationships) I would have been gone in short order.

[sipi]

I do the lot but I would rather hand it over to the bride. She is far better with money than me but hates the paperwork and keeping track of everything. Autopay for the regular bills is a good thing.

[ezzra]

Guys how were gullible enough to let the missus mange the financials usually ends up on Thai Visa

pages telling their hard luck, sob stories, most, but not all.....

[jerojero]

Ha ha ha....give the wife total control of my money? Are you nuts? And yet many farang husbands do exactly this. Dumb move, unless you like being given an allowance each month, and like begging the wife for money. Find and watch Canadian-produced video documentary "Thai Bride". Watch and learn, and then don't be like the idiot in the film. You can have a great life and wife in Thailand, but keep hands on your money. Or at least equally with your wife.

[jacko45k]

I take control of the purse strings.

Since it is all my money anyhow (savings, I am retired) I prefer it that way.

She gets an allowance and it was the early days of that situation that taught me she was a risk!

I must admit she has improved over the years, but I am reticent to change the situation.

[Soutpeel]

Ha ha ha....give the wife total control of my money? Are you nuts? And yet many farang husbands do exactly this. Dumb move, unless you like being given an allowance each month, and like begging the wife for money. Find and watch Canadian-produced video documentary "Thai Bride". Watch and learn, and then don't be like the idiot in the film. You can have a great life and wife in Thailand, but keep hands on your money. Or at least equally with your wife.

I have seen similar documentaries entitled "Canadian bride", "American bride" "English Bride", "German Bride", "French bride"

My point is don't single out "Thai brides"....My Ex wife was most definitely not a "Thai bride" and I trusted her with money and that didn't end too well either

the lesson is, don't put all your eggs in one basket or in Jakes case, all your piggies in one Sty, always have a plan B and ask yourself the question, if she does the off or dirty on me can I start over easy enough ?

If the answer to this question suggested you will be deep in the poo, then would strongly suggest you come up with a plan B quickly

[mmh8]

I'm more progressive than most of you'se, the wife works on her career and I help her spend the money. yeah I let her spend her own money too, as long as its on food

[freebyrd]

I'm the breadwinner, however my Mrs does all the other stuff I don't want to, which I really appreciate as it can be a slog. I'm in an office with aircon most of the day, she isn't.

Salary received, rent, electric, water, weekly food allowance put aside. My wife gets a weekly stipend, so do I, enough for incidentals for each of us. The rest goes into savings.

Works well for us but as ever, one man's meat.....

[Mr Wonderful]

We have separate accounts for our salaries but she has full access to all our business funds and manages them just fine. She has her own and supplemental credit cards both here and overseas. All our overseas travel is paid for by our company. Good thing too because it's easily another 150-250k a month in airfare and hotels.

As long as her requirements don't exceed 200k or so she is fully within her right to spend or use those funds.

We just try to control each others unnecessary spend. It's a two way street.