A Less Common Sexual Dysfunction

[tutsiwarrior]

just a thought...I am dysfunctional, can't get it up and when finally erect cannot come...however, I met a lady recently that was able to remedy all that. Went from terminally flaccid to being able to come 3 times per day over a 2 month period. It was a business arrangement and I paid dearly.

just to say that with the right person things can change...these ailments ain't organic...

best of luck to you...

[Trevor]

1) Get your SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) checked -- this ties up free testosterone if too high, and most doctors don't even know about it. T/SHBG x 100 should be at least 70%.

2) Eat a diet high in raw fat : durian, avocado, coconut, raw eggs, raw fish and raw meat such as biltong for optimal testosterone production.

3) Culture a relaxed relationship with one partner who has a healthy libido (some Thai girls don't much care for sex) and a tight puss.

4) Less masturbation, more vaginal sex.

5) Yohimb(in)e capsules.

6) A little alcohol will help you relax and lessen inhibitions.

7) Andriol capsules (Thai OTC) / Testogel (UK pres) if testosterone still low.

8) Pick up a few 'sexy DVDs' from Pantip Plaza if that's your thing.

Edited October 21, 2006 by Trevor

[Cool Water Palace]

1) Get your SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) checked -- this ties up free testosterone if too high, and most doctors don't even know about it. T/SHBG x 100 should be at least 70%.

2) Eat a diet high in raw fat : durian, avocado, coconut, raw eggs, raw fish and raw meat such as biltong for optimal testosterone production.

3) Culture a relaxed relationship with one partner who has a healthy libido (some Thai girls don't much care for sex) and a tight puss.

4) Less masturbation, more vaginal sex.

5) Yohimb(in)e capsules.

6) A little alcohol will help you relax and lessen inhibitions.

7) Andriol capsules (Thai OTC) / Testogel (UK pres) if testosterone still low.

8) Pick up a few 'sexy DVDs' from Pantip Plaza if that's your thing.

Thanks for your input. i need to send PM to discuss one suggestion, I think.

My knowledge of yohimb(in)e is by reports only. Can the pharmaceutical version, presumably better, be obtained in Bangkok (here for another 10 days and hope to return in Jan/Feb) or London?

Testosterone bought this morning, but Bumgrunrad does not do GBP. Any suggestions where this check can be obtained in Bangkok?

Never tried Durian in my recollection. I see it's often banned for its nasty niff! So what's the best way to buy, although I'm sure I've seen it in markets?

Edited October 23, 2006 by Cool Water Palace

[John K]

Hormones are over the counter here. Just take care on the testosterone, it will change your personality to be a bit more aggressive and a shorter fuse. Before you start get your levels checked, you may be fine. I tend to agree that your problem is more above the shoulders and not below. Your brain is your primary sex organ and not what you keep between your legs.

[gingin]

agree with John K, seems like your problems is more in your head. anyway, fyi, my husband went to Dr. O Clinic on Sukhumvit 51. He had a testosterone and PSA (prostate specific antigen) test. I think from memory it took 2 days for the results.

anyway, best of luck!

[Ijustwannateach]

Be careful starting on that testosterone, as once you do (like with other hormones) your body will produce less of its own- leading to a cycle of dependency on the external injection. If you are not experiencing other effects (such as loss of secondary sexual characteristics, etc.) I would not suspect a testosterone level problem BY ITSELF- in any case, you should consult a doctor and make sure this medication is appropriate for you first.

[Sheryl]

Another caution with testerosterone is that it is essential you have a prostate check-up first (PSA and manual exam) as testerosterone can speed up the growth of cancerous cells.

To me personally it does not sound like lack of libido is the problem and I doubt hormones will help. Your problem sounds psychological and also as if it is being made much worse by perfromance anxiety. If tyhat is the case the more you focus on trying to achieve perfromance the worse it will get. Just my opinion, but as I said before I think it would be more productive for you to view your problem as just a symptom and focus on uncovering and resolving the cause, ratrher than focusing on trying to alter the symptom itself. There are several Western therapists available in Thailand.

[Cool Water Palace]

Another caution with testerosterone is that it is essential you have a prostate check-up first (PSA and manual exam) as testerosterone can speed up the growth of cancerous cells.

To me personally it does not sound like lack of libido is the problem and I doubt hormones will help. Your problem sounds psychological and also as if it is being made much worse by perfromance anxiety. If tyhat is the case the more you focus on trying to achieve perfromance the worse it will get. Just my opinion, but as I said before I think it would be more productive for you to view your problem as just a symptom and focus on uncovering and resolving the cause, ratrher than focusing on trying to alter the symptom itself. There are several Western therapists available in Thailand.

Thanks for your further helpful post.

I think a lot is involved. There's a crisis now about the two women I've been involved with.

The one I really want is saying she is unhappy about my leaving my 'real girlfriend', and others are trying to 'order' me to stay with her saying how much she loves me. No way! Right now I see it difficult even to stay friends with her, as we're having rows all the time. Also because of the language barrier, we cannot talk about anything.

The woman I think I love and miss all the time was unhappy about my not coming when we were last together. I have been able to talk to her when she wanted to (although her emails and sms became incoherent at 3am while I was in UK), but she now avoids me. Although there was no need for her doubting her own sexuality, it seemed to me a healthy response (and apparently the usual one), and showed more desire for me than that of the woman I no longer want (probably rather only lusted for) as she seems not bothered about the problem.

So I'm stuck as I'll have other problems after I return to London on 3 Nov, but want to be back in January/February for a longer time. I may have to completely avoid my current social scene here and find others.

So I'm investigating what drug therapy could help for the time being. I've seen Dr O this morning, and he agrees there is a testosterone problem, and a need for cialis. He did not like the idea of my having a psychological issue, so do I still seek hypnosis? I'll just have to see how it goes on my own, despite the recommendations not to get into that! But even then, relaxation seems not to be on my agenda right now.

Edited October 25, 2006 by Cool Water Palace

[John K]

I am a bit confused here or perhaps I missed something. If you can get an erection on your own then you don’t need any medication to get an erection like Cialis or Viagra or whatever.

If you have sexual desire then you don’t need testosterone to increase your sex drive and or assist with your erection.

If you just can not orgasm and produce ejaculate then to put it simply check if the well is dry. If the well is not dry then the only thing remaining is the problem is in your head.

If the problem is in your head you make it sound like the therapy will take forever. At least for hypnotherapy most people see results the first day and the therapy runs for most six weeks once a week. Hypnotherapy can do the following increase or decrease your sensitivity as needed. Remove anxieties from the bedroom, help you manage stress that causes sexual problems, restore you confidence that you can perform in bed.

Sheryl please correct me but does not the test for testosterone takes 24 to 48 hours to get the results?

Edited October 25, 2006 by John K

[Cool Water Palace]

Confused? You should be after all this thread!

Cialis seems to have helped. I had thought there was a developing problem. I do have desire but for other reasons do not want to express that with the woman I'm with for the moment, not to the extent of intercourse. Reasons are complex, part of my complex.

I have to forget about sex for a few weeks soon. I have another appointment with Dr O on Saturday and will raise several matters, including those you've mentioned to clarify where I am at the moment. I agree about the potential of hypnosis.

Thanks for contributions.

[John K]

On thing on hypnosis in Thailand, it is virtually unheard of. I had to bite my lip once when a doctor asked me if it was magic when he saw the results. So what I am saying is expect a lot of scepticism from Thai doctors. If you have the opportunity to consult with a doctor when you are in the UK please do so.

[John K]

I have never heard of a pump being used in that way. Not to say that it wont work but I have never heard of it being prescribed for what you described in post 1, and I have seen plenty of men. Before you go using a pump, check with a urologist in the UK and get a second opinion. I think you may find the diagnoses will be different. Over use of a pump can actually cause damage, and if you claim to have had one prior you may want to look at it as a possible cause of your problem. Proper operation of a pump should not be painful. All a pump does is artificially inflate the penis and may cause some temporary increase in size over time. However after you stop using the pump the penis will return to it’s original size. Keep in mind your penis is a complex organ. Pulling and manipulating it with devices is not natural.

If you don’t mind can you tell me what tests Dr. O performed. As you described things at least in my mind some things don’t seem to add up.

[Sheryl]

I am equally puzzled as your original post reported difficulty with orgasm/ejaculation, not ED so can't see what good either a pump or Cialis would do other than maybe reduce perfromance anxiety....???

[John K]

There is a certain suggestiveness in this too. Expecting results from just going to a doctor and having treatment suggested that does not match the symptoms is known as a placebo effect. Even if the treatment does not match the problem, it could cause performance improvement. That reinforces the thought that the problem is above the shoulders and not below. Again based on the post 1.

[aussiecollin]

This problem is often encountered with men taking certain prescription mediciations and with those taking any form of speed ("uppers").

Any drug use or regular medications?

If no medications/drug use of any sort, and physical exams are normal, then presumably pschyological. For which, psychotherapy.

Do you have the same problem when on your own (masturbation) or is it only when with a partner?

Maybe try testicular massge......There is, I think, a cliic in Chang Mai.

http://www.tao-garden.com/genital/index.html

Hypnotism (Not being funny here)...that could bring out some interesting things methinks