My thai girlfriend - is she cheating on me?

[Emster23]

She sounds like my psychopath ex wife. Is her name some variation of "Su........"? Listen to your guts, they are telling you things aren't right. We can go down the rabbit hole with "does this mean?" and so on. Confusion, uncertainty make you weak. Listen to your guts..... they don't rationalize, excuse make, overlook and all that. Get out now. Spare yourself.

[catman20]

[catman20]

I didnt even need to read the whole thing, just the first bit, any girl that sleeps with you on the first night = DO NOT MARRY THIS PERSON

yes he did ramble on a bit I never read it all either

[Phatbeets]

srsly lol at this post

[misterphil]

Sounds like the Ex wife.

Shes probably spending the money on you what she stole from me.

Tell her to sling her hook and buy another one.

... or you could just go to the doctor and get him to prescribe you Viagra and Prosac

... so if you don't get a <deleted>, you won't give a <deleted>!

Glue sniffing again are we?

[fitnesspm]

The reason why you have posted this here is cause you don't trust her and blinded by your emotions towards her. A good Thai girl will not sleep with you so quickly. Ask yourself the question, what time of girl does? If she is like this with you, she will be this way with others and give it up so easy (first night). Girls, no matter what country she is from that party and go clubbing will cheat all the time. A good girl that you can have a relationship with would rarely go clubbing and party. It's a place of people sleeping around and cheating. Girls that drink weekly are trouble as well as smoke. If you want to test her, create another profile on the dating site and send her a message. See what kind of replies she sends you and this way you can find out if she is loyal or not. "no i don't have a boyfriend." etc... cheaper then hiring a PI. Don't ever give a Thai girl money, it's fine to go out and spend money on her but I tell all my Thai girls this. Many Thai girls online will milk many farangs for money so watch out. Bottom line, trust your gut feelings and if you see 2 many red flags, start running. There is so many Thai women out there looking for a good farang. Best place to find Thai girls is the shopping centre and just do the tourist approach and ask for her number. They will be friendly compare to women in the west that are bitchy and rude.

Edited September 12, 2015 by fitnesspm

[seancbk]

I didnt even need to read the whole thing, just the first bit, any girl that sleeps with you on the first night = DO NOT MARRY THIS PERSON

That might be your criteria.

Mine has always been - Don't date anyone unless they sleep with you the same night you meet them.

Why waste time and money 'dating' someone only to later find out they have an ugly tattoo, stretch marks, saggy tits, ugly nipples or any other thing that once you discover it turns you off completely?

Edited to add this....

All this crap some people are spouting about "a good Thai girl won't sleep with you right away" is bull, why the hell shouldn't a young woman want to have sex just as much as a man?

What makes her a 'good girl' just because she doesn't want to have sex right away?

I'd be more worried if she didn't because why would you want a girl who doesn't want to shag all the time?

The OP probably hasn't had too many super hot girls, I've met several young guys from Europe who have very strange traditional moral values and find the free and easy attitude to sex here in Bangkok makes them feel uncomfortable.

Edited September 12, 2015 by seancbk

[Gillyflower]

I'll teach you an English word you are a 'windbag' and a pain in the a... I gave up about a third of the way through the novel. It was so boring especially as you answer your own questions and doubts. There's a good French word to describe you mon ami and it starts with C.

Edited September 12, 2015 by Gillyflower

[rct99q]

Took you longer to write this then for her to drop her panties! Give her a penis and you have everything covered.

[Thunderbirds20]

Sex is a commodity in Thailand. They all want money but have different ways of going about getting it. Some just work as hookers and get paid by the night, others will be with you all the time but will eventually have some problem for which they need money and guess who they will ask!!?? Others, like my ex-wife will go the ultimate route and marry a guy, then go about draining everything from him. One thing is for sure, they ll want a guy to TAKE CARE of them. The more you spend on them the more you love them is their reasoning.

She probably still has her Thai boyfriend, and is milking as many dumb and gullible Farang as she can, ...you included. They love money, and will do anything to get it, .. but they seldom ever fall in love themselves. You are her latest mark.

Enjoy your time with Thai women, but keep your valubles safe and watch what you drink!, .... and DO NOT fall in love!! It is a one way street

[bhatmasterson]

Enjoy it while it's free.

[nottocus]

Yes she is.

[smotherb]

You are suspicious, but the sex is good and you share expenses. Sounds quite simple to me. Don't fall in love, enjoy the ride while it is still fun. When the question of money comes up, excuse yourself. In the mean-time; look for another.

[Stradavarius37]

Ok guys just to make it clear - i'm NOT a troll. Actually, English is almost my 1st language, cause i'm working in a big international company,

and i've been to many countries so far. I had some relationships over here with some French ladies, a few worked out for a while, but the most not.

She's really working for a big company, no doubt i believe her. I've seen her working clothing, her colleagues, her boss, pictures of her working place...

She is something like a sales manager. She's working in an office, but also has some field service (and yes, when she's out for selling products of her

company she always says "i have to visit customer") But i believe her in this case guys

I've checked the history of our Skype calls, i wasn't right. We also talked on weekends...But still, something is wrong. She's definitely lying here. Maybe she has

a sponsor

I've looked at some pictures on her Facebook page again last night and found some of a 5-star Hotelroom on Sukhumvit Road back in 2013. So, she definitely has seen

Hotels from the inside in Bangkok even though she's living in Bangkok. That's another red flag to me.

Yeah, i think i won't get happy in Thailand with my jealously. Some guys here saying it's not a big deal that she slept with me first night, cause it's 2015 and i

agree with that, but i think it's still not common in Thailand. I don't have a problem with her past, at least she's telling the truth. Everybody has his past, even me.

But i don't want a girlfriend who's playing with feelings or a woman who formerly was a hooker

Learn to express yourself with more brevity. You type too much.

[Sutty]

OK hands up your right I gave her one down here in pattaya I remember you ringing but I was busy munching at the time I think see said something about being with her girlfriend. She works on soi 6 and smokes ham like nobody else.

[dennis123]

if you don't come live here in Thailand you shouldn't even consider hooking up with someone from here, really the most silly thing you can do.

Durex research said 85% of Thai women cheat, well 100% of Thai women in a part time relationship cheat, ok make that 99.9% just in case and honestly I can't blame them.

My ex told me that he once waited 2 years for a foreigner to return, that he was truly in love with, foreigner never came back, two years wasted for nothing.

So is it fair to let them wait for a foreigner that might not come back again?

The older they get the more of such experiences they will have so it's pretty difficult for a Thai to trust a foreigner and vice versa.

[gemguy]

Using the word "Cheating" is reserved for women to describe men who have sex with other women when the man in question is considered "her meat" ..by the woman applying the word cheating.

When women do the same or similar thing...well..... it is not cheating...... it is..... well different..... to their way of thinking......while cheating is not the word to be used to describe what she is doing because what she is doing is not the same as what you are doing when you cheat or cheated on her because she is a women while she has her own set of self serving excuses and or reason as to why she had sex with another man...while it is not her fault....you understand....and could be your fault because you did not occupy all her time or any other number of female thinking reasons.....lol

So no, she is not cheating on you because you do not have a claim on her as of yet ( in her mind )...but she has a claim on you so you would be cheating if you go with another women...understand??

Cheers

[spidermike007]

She may, or may not be the gal for you, as long as you acknowledge the following, and come to terms with the fact that these are not issues for you.

1. She has been with many other foreign men before. She may have slept with all of them on the first "date".

2. She is no innocent. She is 33! She has been around the block. More than likely she lost her virginity by the age of 15.

3. She may be a semi-pro. The love of clubs could be a sign of that. The clubs here are a top freelancing spot. That means at least 50, and as many as 750 men, that she has slept with. Or more. That would not bother some of us. It would horrify some others. Bear in mind. Alot of these gals get started at 16, or so. That is 17 years. And she will never admit to this, so no point in asking.

4. She may still be playing the field.

5. Most of what she has told you about herself is false.

6. Take your time, next time. Do not allow a woman to move herself in. Who's life is it, anyway? Wait a minute. Back up. What are you doing with those suitcases? You are definitely not bringing them to my place. I don't even know who you are. Chatting online is NOT the same as getting to know someone, and does NOT count towards the amount of time you have spent together. Who is in control? Time is your ally, not hers.

7. Consider the possibility that alot of her background story was fabricated. It is very common. Do you have proof of this job of hers? Ever seen a paystub? Be skeptical.

8. If you are really into her, hire a PI to look into her. You will be amazed at what they can turn up.

Listen to, and honor your doubts. They are your friend and ally. They are there for a reason. You simply have too many of them, for this to work out, in my opinion.

Always consider what Bond would do, in this situation. Can you, in the furthest reaches of your imagination imagine him allowing a gal to move herself into your apartment? It would and should never happen, until you have spent months with her, and made that healthy decision.

Edited September 12, 2015 by spidermike007

[Mudcrab]

The reason why you have posted this here is cause you don't trust her and blinded by your emotions towards her. A good Thai girl will not sleep with you so quickly. Ask yourself the question, what time of girl does? If she is like this with you, she will be this way with others and give it up so easy (first night). Girls, no matter what country she is from that party and go clubbing will cheat all the time. A good girl that you can have a relationship with would rarely go clubbing and party. It's a place of people sleeping around and cheating. Girls that drink weekly are trouble as well as smoke. If you want to test her, create another profile on the dating site and send her a message. See what kind of replies she sends you and this way you can find out if she is loyal or not. "no i don't have a boyfriend." etc... cheaper then hiring a PI. Don't ever give a Thai girl money, it's fine to go out and spend money on her but I tell all my Thai girls this. Many Thai girls online will milk many farangs for money so watch out. Bottom line, trust your gut feelings and if you see 2 many red flags, start running. There is so many Thai women out there looking for a good farang. Best place to find Thai girls is the shopping centre and just do the tourist approach and ask for her number. They will be friendly compare to women in the west that are bitchy and rude.

The hypocrisy is unbelievable. One minute commenting on what nice/bad girls do...then bragging about the harem.

[Mudcrab]

Note to self:

Always..ALWAYS check for has/had belly button.

In addition to the Greys and Reptilian aliens....there could be another breed...the Short Brown.

[Mudcrab]

Took you longer to write this then for her to drop her panties! Give her a penis and you have everything covered.

Unless Dennis123 gets there first!!:-

About once a month i screw someone while his 50+ year old boyfriend is taking a nap at the hotel after a day beach, each month a different one, this could actually be a weekly thing but I tamed down a bit after 3 years here.

Last week I did someone a day before his farang came, he told me had to pick up a friend from the airport, I didn't think that would be his boyfriend, but the next day I saw photos on Facebook appear, nothing wrong with that, the day his boyfriend left to go home I did him again. Once I even ruined someone's relationship cause the farang was supicious and checked his Skype where he was happily chatting with me the day before his farang arrived, other.

This stuff is oh so common, and definitely not exceptional in any way. I can't even have a relationship anymore as I simply know to much and've seen too much, way too suspicious for a very good reason.

I do like to add that there are rare exceptions but only when the farang is actually a good looking young guy that supports them pretty well. However now I just found out that the boy in question lives in Pattaya Naklua instead of in Kamphaeng Phet as he makes me believe on Facebook, his friend told me, doesn't work in a bar though but I bet he has a Thai boyfriend in Naklua so even that exception likely cheats lol.

You know which long term relationships seem to work out here in the Pattaya/Jomtien area? A random farang with an ugly Thai boyfriend, and both having their own group of friends and from what I can see they only share a bed and that's it. If that's even the case, numerous of those farang are cheating on their ugly Thai boyfriend, kind of the opposite is true here Well, likely cheating with permission.

Can't count the times that I got involved with someone for more than a week and then they told me that if I wanted to have sex with other boys it would be ok, I just wasn't allowed to fall in love with them, very efficient way for them to get rid of me.

[khundon]

Jesus H Christ what a story.

It is obvious, she is cheating on you, next time you shag her, I bet she is on the phone at the same time.

Think with your head (the one on your shoulders) met on dating site, shagged on first date, happy for you to see her on the loo, can't contact her on certain days, still meeting her ex ETC, ETC. Are you really that dumb to think you are her one true love? She has you hooked and it is going to cost you BIG TIME.

The real test of her past is, shout up her p**sy, if you hear an echo, walk away, no, ****g RUN away from this one. She is a pro and you are just one of her marks.

Edited September 12, 2015 by khundon

[tomyumchai]

is she still breathing?

A. yes. then shes cheating on you.

B. no. then youre safe, unless it was you who got her dead.

next topic please.......

[BngkkB]

Put a GPS tracker on her phone next time you see her. Then she will just leave the GPS tracked phone at home and use the SIM for the number you have in a different phone. You see her at home on GPS, you call her and she answers. You believe she is home so your happy. She is out with other guys, she is happy. Win win. Welcome to Thailand. Or better yet, start posting questionable pictures on your FB. Avoid her calls. Tell her your home with bar noise in the background. Turn the tables. Then she will want only you when she thinks you have others. Better yet both of you stop acting 14 and grow up.

[Soutpeel]

Put a GPS tracker on her phone next time you see her. Then she will just leave the GPS tracked phone at home and use the SIM for the number you have in a different phone. You see her at home on GPS, you call her and she answers. You believe she is home so your happy. She is out with other guys, she is happy. Win win. Welcome to Thailand. Or better yet, start posting questionable pictures on your FB. Avoid her calls. Tell her your home with bar noise in the background. Turn the tables. Then she will want only you when she thinks you have others. Better yet both of you stop acting 14 and grow up.

Wow dont know whats worse the girl cheating or some insecure half wit doing something like this to a person he had only known for 5 minutes ? If someone is that paranoid they should just walk away

[tajtom]

Hey mate have you got her number handy she seemd like a reak goer I can give you a full speed report on the situation

[tajtom]

Rip that Isan ass son

[dsurin66]

another guy writing a book. your not from france...

[ozyjon]

I can't believe it...

You lost me after the second line, you are shagging

or lets say, my ex g/f is screwing you in every way

possible and you decide to write a novel, just re -

title your post ''My Private Dancer'' you are like a

taxi - atm meter, it starts clicking the minute she

lays eyes on you, lock your phone now.

[wow64]

Imagine you were in a room full of cheese and Croissants would you just eat one.

No French man I know would.