Why Did You Come To Thailand?

[mittheimp]

This question has intrigued me for a long time. I have often wondered what the attraction is for so many ex-pats to come to this country. I have searched the forum for similar topics for many seconds but have seemingly failed to find the 3,412 other threads specifically on this topic.

After i have read some interesting responses from my knowledgeable forum friends on this topic i think i will research some other questions that i can't find but i think need some immediate input!

What made you come here?

Why are you in Thailand?

Reasons you came to Thailand?

Can bar-girls make good wives?

Do bar-girls have a good heart?

Can marrying a bar-girl work?

How much sin sot should i pay?

Do i pay a dowry?

can a western / thai marriage be successful?

Edited September 29, 2006 by mittheimp

[rcm]

What made you come here?

Initially a stop over en route to Brisbane....i liked it a lot here and decided to do the IDC in Phuket

Why are you in Thailand?

Married and have Business

Reasons you came to Thailand?

My Wife....of course the friendliness of the People too.

Can bar-girls make good wives?

Why not....can't tell you much about this...

Do bar-girls have a good heart?

Some do some don't i'd assume.

Can marrying a bar-girl work?

some marriages do some don't

How much sin sot should i pay?

Depends on the background and Fam.

Do i pay a dowry?

Dowry and sin sot is the same to my understanding and many do expect a dowry some will return it some don't ....talk with the Fam. about this on the Forum anbd with the info provided it is difficult to tell you.

can a western / thai marriage be successful?

Yes.

rcm

Edited September 29, 2006 by rcm

[GuestHouse]

What made you come here?

I was assigned to work in our Thailand office.

Why are you in Thailand?

I'm not.

Reasons you came to Thailand?

The same as the reasons I left. Money and Career

Can bar-girls make good wives?

Maybe, but not a risk I'd take.

Do bar-girls have a good heart?

Maybe, but not a risk I'd take.

Can marrying a bar-girl work?

Maybe, but not a risk I'd take.

How much sin sot should i pay?

Upt to you.

Do i pay a dowry?

Upto you

can a western / thai marriage be successful?

Yes, can testify to that.

[Maizefarmer]

Worked for a USA agricultural company (hardware e.g. ploughs, harvesters, tractors ect ect......), who offered me a positon overseas.

I could choose from China, Australia, Indonesia, Thailand - I chose Thailand (because the other half was Thai)..................... that was in 1988 am still here.

Its home now.

To answer the other questions:

What made you come here - answered above

Why are you in Thailand? - answered above

Reasons you came to Thailand? - answered above

Can bar-girls make good wives?

Nothings impossible - but highly unlikely

Do bar-girls have a good heart?

Intentions can be good - why not

Can marrying a bar-girl work? - question should be: do you know anyone whos has been married to the same bargirl fro more than 10-15 years? I'd reackon its possible but for every 1 successful bar girl/farang marrige there's a string of faliures. There are statisics on this subject, compiled by one of the Bkk Uni's. They don't make encouraging reading - the divorce/disaster rate is way way over the national average - it really is seriously disproportionly high - its something like 95% fail within the first 5 years, with something like only 2 or 3% lasting more than 10 - and then the faliure rate drops down quite significantly to something quite low like only 10 - 15% of those that have survived more than 10 years.

Moral is: hack it for 10 plus years and the chances are you'll keep it together.

How much sin sot should i pay? - whatever you're comfortable with.

Do i pay a dowry? -

Can a western / thai marriage be successful? - yes, but like all marriages it won't just happen. takes a lot of work - even more so in Thai/farang relationships because the cultural/religous and socio-economic ideas each have are so much more different and pronounced than they are between 2 Westerners.

But it can work - it worked with me (although it has not been easy at times) - nearly 2 decades now.

Tim

Edited September 29, 2006 by Maizefarmer