You're not married to a Thai!

[TuskegeeBen]

[SoiBiker]

You don't need to be married to a Thai or even live here to know all about Thailand...just spent half of your day with Thaivisa....

I can think of worse places to spend your time.

[billd766]

Never, never marry a Thai. Love them, sleep , anything but marriage is a legal contract which in farang land means 50% of your property, wealth, house and pension. Most thai farang unions end . love them, love them them move on. Do not as you will regtet it.

Honestly some posters post such rubbish ,I have been married for 24 years ,all my friends here have been married for donkeys years,they have ordinary marriages,some have kids ,mine is now 22, ok if you marry the first bar girl you meet when you come for a holiday,a big gamble ,the same as marrying a prostitute that you sleep with in your home country,but the people I know mostly met their wives after living or working here for years,so got past the bar girl stage, and believe me I am not against bar girls ,when I first came here I met lots of nice ones ,I just didn't marry them,but good for anyone who did and is happy

You took the word from my mouth. I am married and have been for 16 years and I knew her for 7 years before that. We have a 12 year old son and live quite happily in rural Thailand. Of the 20 or so friends I have made both before and during my time in Thailand who married Thai ladies only 2 have been divorced which is a far lower rate than in the west.

I was married for 21 years in the UK with an 18 year old son when I divorced my first wife and it was 95% my fault and not hers. All I walked away with was my personal stuff and my pensions and she got the house, car etc. I was quite happy that she did. I suppose that I could have fought to sell the assets and got 50/50 but I wouldn't have been happy doing that and neither would my ex-wife.

[rogeroc]

If you wish to fully integrate with Thais great, but i would pose the question as to whether or not it is important to really understand or know about Thai people / Thai culture even if you are living here most of the time. I sense a number of Posters on TV are quite pretentious about this. I live here more often than not and i live my life primarily amongst Western friends in Westernised areas. Even when i go to very Thai style eateries or bars full almost entirely of Thais i go with Western friends. Personally i would always choose to live a more multi cultural city life than a rural life wherever i stayed in the world.

I think it is also easier in some circumstances to make friends / like minded people (from your own background) in a foreign country than in your home country. As an example of this when i was living in London i saw what an amazing network of friends and organisations the immigrant Filipino's had.

[Rhys]

Hmmmm. interesting posts... live in the village, live as close as a Thai, experience the same challenges.... that is a start in understanding the culture.. as for understanding women...well there are universals understandings.... Cheers mates

[i claudius]

I always thought living with a Thai was little bit like being on different roads that cross each others paths ,when you get to the crossroads you both think the same way,otherwise its usually in different directions ,mind you once you have been together a long time ,well one does start to think like the other

[Rhys]

Linguistic and cultural immersion works best...

[i claudius]

Linguistic and cultural immersion works best...

Yes ,the fact my wife lived in the UK for many years ,made her see our way of thinking ,like my living here so long made me see her way as well. Every little helps

[Rhys]

I think I'm better at understanding Thai culture, my Thai depends when I concentrate.. however, when it is all said and done, I am still me....with a better sense of where I live and the people I interact and live..

[eldragon]

People could say the same thing if you never got married back home. "You haven't experienced everything life has to offer if you never married and had a family." And they'll never know what it's like to be single as an adult, able to do what whatever they want, whenever they want.

[SoiBiker]

People could say the same thing if you never got married back home. "You haven't experienced everything life has to offer if you never married and had a family." And they'll never know what it's like to be single as an adult, able to do what whatever they want, whenever they want.

Not necessarily. My brother got married and had a family young. When she caught him cheating, he found out pretty quickly what it's like to be single as an adult.

[huawei]

Linguistic and cultural immersion works best...

Depends where and how old you are.

[rogeroc]

Not necessarily. My brother got married and had a family young. When she caught him cheating, he found out pretty quickly what it's like to be single as an adult.

Did he find out what it was like to lose a home and a lot of hard earned money as well ?

[MaeJoMTB]

........ And they'll never know what it's like to be single as an adult, able to do what whatever they want, whenever they want.

Bit lonely I would imagine, only tried it for 6 months and didn't really like it.

[mcfish]

I'm about 200 girls in, I think I know more now after banging that cross section than I would have if I'd married one.

How long you lived here?

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[steve187]

But you can talk to them without sleeping with them, you know.

Yes and you can be married to them, without sleeping with them you know.

i used the term 'them' to blend in.

[SoiBiker]

But you can talk to them without sleeping with them, you know.

Yes and you can be married to them, without sleeping with them you know.

i used the term 'them' to blend in.

Yeah. I hear that can happen if you marry the wrong one and/or become a bloated, boorish parody of the man your were on your wedding day. You can even end up blaming the entirety of western womanhood for your poor life choices, then escape to Thailand and pay someone to sleep with you instead.

[jspill]

I'm about 200 girls in, I think I know more now after banging that cross section than I would have if I'd married one.

How long you lived here?

6 years

[swissie]

You don't need to be married to a Thai or even live here to know all about Thailand...just spent half of your day with Thaivisa....

Ideal combination: Live in Thailand and spend half of the day with Thai-Visa. The other half of the day go out and mix and mingle with Thai's and Farangs alike, with the sole purpose of "Merrymaking".

This way, after only a few short months, he will know more about Thailand than the average Thai-Villager and the Farang, that decides to live in isolation somewhere near Nakhon Nowhere.

Cheers.