discipline within the home

[HooHaa]

Having kids with a Thai-women is kind of like owning a house in Thailand. You get the right to pay for it, but that's also all you get ;-)

odd, that is not how it worked for me.

perhaps it comes down to choice of partner.

or maybe its you.

[nikmar]

I feel blessed. Truly.

Our eight year old boy is disciplined when he screws up. The missis and I have a conflab and decide together how to handle each situation.

We both agreed manners and politeness were important values to teach amongst other things.

Also, our niece, Jip, stays a lot with us. She's 17 and is a joy to have around. i give her a little pocket money and she is the best big sister our lad could hope for.

She s welcome at ours whenever she wants.

Here's the thing though. The little fella goes out to play with all the other kids in the soi and gets teased for his politeness, eg. waiing elders, saying "khrap" etc.

It seems most of the other boys in the soi can do as they please with no repercussions.

[pgrahmm]

I feel blessed. Truly.

Our eight year old boy is disciplined when he screws up. The missis and I have a conflab and decide together how to handle each situation.

We both agreed manners and politeness were important values to teach amongst other things.

Also, our niece, Jip, stays a lot with us. She's 17 and is a joy to have around. i give her a little pocket money and she is the best big sister our lad could hope for.

She s welcome at ours whenever she wants.

Here's the thing though. The little fella goes out to play with all the other kids in the soi and gets teased for his politeness, eg. waiing elders, saying "khrap" etc.

It seems most of the other boys in the soi can do as they please with no repercussions.

The repercussions will come through life and they will be ill equipped/stunted to handle it....

Keep up the good work - and keep the house rules if they happen to visit....

[khunpa]

Having kids with a Thai-women is kind of like owning a house in Thailand. You get the right to pay for it, but that's also all you get ;-)

odd, that is not how it worked for me.

perhaps it comes down to choice of partner.

or maybe its you.

Well, I see "humor and irony" didn't work out for you :-)

However, I actually know a few guys with kids, who are now no longer with their Thai partner and have quite some trouble even getting permission to see their kids. Happens in all parts of the world, but in Thailand the man actually has fewer rights, if things go bad (especially if they are not married)

Not all people have the perfect life and partner ;-)

Edited March 12, 2016 by khunpa

[jonnyscot]

Our two kids are in the main quite well behaved, the wife was interested from the beginning in adopting most (not all) of the methods I was brought up with, daughter and son ( 9 and 7 year old) lay the table for food, help with the dishes, hang out clothes, water the plants, they also offer to help wash the car or my bike which I decline, at the end of the week the wife gives them some cash which the daughter then saves up and every 2 or 3 months she puts into her bank account which the wife recently opened,, the son usually spends most of his, but he's learning more about banking from his big sister.

If they do wrong which most kids do from time to time, such as brother/sister fighting, it's off to bed early or wife sometimes gives them the 10 minutes in the corner which is usually followed by a genuine apology. Certainly our kids are better behaved than my (now grown up)children were that I had from my earlier marriage in uk

[Bantex]

We have two kids, older girl and baby boy. The daughter helps her brother by cleaning up after him but also teaches him not to make a mess by example.

Wife's mother comes over to babysit and sometimes is accompanied by her youngest son who is 12. At his home he does nothing, drops litter in the house, leaves plate, cup etc where he was sitting for his mother to attend to. But whilst in my house he gets told to clean up himself, his mother used to clean up for him and I would replace the items and make him do it himself or he stayed outside. Now his mother makes him clean up whilst in my house and lately does the same in her own home (at least when I'm there).

My house, my rules - Wife's mother now learning that she is not her son's skivvy and is quick to make him to do some chores.

My wife's 12 year old brother now knows that if he acts like a baby, he gets treated like a baby especially in front of his friends. His rehabilitation was slow but effective. Last time he acted up, his friends were given a glass of cola whilst his was put in the baby's bottle.

Might sound harsh to some but my kids are not going to learn his bad habits.